Most women have no desire to use their bodies to soothe the egos of insecure men.

RelevantJackWhite · 2026-03-02T15:25:13+00:00

This is part of the reason “Napeleon complex” and “Little Dick Energy” became insults. Because people noticed men who constantly needed validation because of a flaw they had, even when its something people arent caring about. Ironically, making them even less attractive because of their bad attitudes and obsession with themselves. Also, for all the complaints about feminists hating men, this actually proves feminists right about the FRAGILE MALE EGO.

"Here's why making fun of men is actually fine: they are ugly and they feel bad I call them ugly"

This paragraph makes zero sense. Also, most feminists I know understand why those phrases are harmful, and don't use them to describe men.

NeomeniaWizard · 2026-03-02T17:27:46+00:00

Would you stop making the same post every week? All of your reddit history boils down to "men want sex and they're bad for it," don't you ever get tired?

ResponsibilityAny217 · 2026-03-02T15:36:31+00:00

Their issue with self respect/ validation / competition coming from women's pussies is weird especially bc it seems like it's structured like - their ego, other men's validation, then maybe woman's perception.

Self respect comes from yourself so just respect yourself.

Then if you want to compete with men just go compete with men directly no need to use pussy as a roundabout way. Join some martial arts, sports, trivia nights, board games etc.

pie-mart · 2026-03-02T16:03:15+00:00

I agree with your first paragraph. But the second paragraph comes off annoying to me... I think its really annoying using behaviors to decide if they have BDE or LDE. Its body shaming still. And I find that just mutes your real argument.

I fully think the men who are having sex or getting women to just play the game and or to show off to his male peers, are yes, not people who are good at sex or relationships. Because they only care about getting sex vs actually having sex because they enjoy sex.

I always prefer men who have sex because they actually are attracted to me and like sex vs the guys just out doing it for their egos

Ie, a man has sex because he enjoys sex

Versus a guy who has sex because getting women to agree to sex gives him an ego boost. These guys tend to be worse at sex and are by nature focused on themselves too much to even feel considered by them as their sexual partners

Logos1789 · 2026-03-02T15:32:58+00:00

Most women can’t read the inner monologue of men, so they don’t actually know how insecure a man is.

As for short men, lesser endowed men, etc., they usually develop insecurities because of how people treat them and how they talk about height and penis size.

If men’s insecurities bother women so much, they should stop perpetuating attitudes and beliefs which induce insecurity.

SecondEldenLord · 2026-03-02T18:13:04+00:00

Then why most women still sleep with shitty men that treat men like crap? Oh right, cause those women are actually physically attracted to those men and don't give two shits about their personalities until is too late.

Also, did you just found an excuse to use "Napoleon syndrome" and "small dick energy" as insults for men? Cause that's how it feels like it. Aren't women way more obsessed with attention than men though?

MarioWilson122 · 2026-03-02T21:47:59+00:00

No one said they had to. Even still if a man doesn’t want to be with a woman that has a bunch of bodies there is nothing wrong with that. Since he may not want to be compared to a bunch of other guys. Not only that but he may not want to be with a woman that been with that many other men. Some men just don’t prefer it for their own personal reasons, sometimes it has nothing to do with being insecure.

Whiskeymyers75 · 2026-03-02T15:29:18+00:00

Saying “Napoleon Complex” makes you uneducated considering Napoleon wasn’t even short. It was just something being used against him by his political opponents.

“Napoleon complex” is sexist because it links a man’s personality to an unchangeable physical trait and reinforces the idea that men are supposed to be tall to be secure or dominant. That’s body shaming wrapped in a gender stereotype. No different than calling tall girls intimidating.

brassbuffalo · 2026-03-02T20:12:01+00:00

"Napoleon complex" is a myth. Our tall president has been risking WW3 for months over his raging insecurities and no one is calling it a Napoleon complex. It's not about insecurity, it's a bullshit excuse to justify an existing prejudice.

IgorXY · 2026-03-02T15:23:53+00:00

I am confused what do you want to debate. "No, women do have desire to use their bodies to soothe the egos of insecure men"?

nightcall379 · 2026-03-02T15:36:48+00:00

mad if a woman fucked a guy hotter than him

Men get mad because women say they're attracted to one thing, but their actions say otherwise

Men get mad because women lie about what they're actually attracted and hide their nature in order to idealize themselves with those lies, and then use those lies to manipulate, exploit, and abuse men

Why shouldn't men get mad for being lied to, humiliated, and exploited by women's dual mating strategy?

Ironically, making them even less attractive

Which is why male model tier guys get tens of thousands of women each on dating apps despite openly admitting to being convicted serial "pea doughs" and "grapists" in their bios, while normal, average guys get nothing, right?

Because those "pea doughs" and "grapists" weren't insecure, right?

The red pill has exposed your nature

Edit: Got a second week-long ban from the entire reddit this month due to this sub

PitersonK · 2026-03-02T15:15:58+00:00

Let me give you an example.

You act like an overweight woman

WebNew9978 · 2026-03-02T16:33:54+00:00

Let me be the first one to tell you that most women are indeed using their bodies to soothe the egos of insecure men. What you don’t think the men who you (women) sleep with aren’t insecure about anything? If so, then I have a beach condo in Montana you can buy.

Those men just do a better job at hiding it and their insecurity may have nothing to do with their romantic or sexual side. Yet still having sex with a woman still soothe that insecurity they have. If your response back is “well at least those men aren’t romantically and sexually insecure” then congrats, your post has lost its plot.

Kingcrow33 · 2026-03-02T16:56:37+00:00

Most women seem to want to do no work in a relationship.

Odd-Yoghurt1869 · 2026-03-02T18:54:56+00:00

This is a debate?

KhadgarIsaDreadlord · 2026-03-02T19:10:00+00:00

He wasn't the one either, hun?

No_Teacher_3313 · 2026-03-03T02:58:58+00:00

My bf has zero jealousy or insecurity about my past and it’s such an attractive quality. My attraction to him is off the charts whereas other guys have left me with an “ew” feeling because it’s not a nonissue.

Axis_Control · 2026-03-02T16:15:53+00:00

That's why it's important not to have sex with men until you are in a commited relationship, can't trust them.

psych0ticmonk · 2026-03-02T15:16:04+00:00

If they need validation isn’t that a sign that people were cruel to them about it?

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ThrowawayHomesch · 2026-03-02T17:58:29+00:00

i agree with you actually. i don't think women should cater to men's insecurities. my anger is directed instead towards my parents for deciding to give birth to me.

one thing i do have a problem with is women who automatically assume that a man who is sexually unattractive to women is a bad person. Having a small penis, being short, being bald, and having a recessed maxilla do not make you a bad person. They should also apply this principle to women for things that make them insecure or lower their quality of life. this means no DEI or lower job requirements for women or certain minorities.

Sophisticated_Cynic · 2026-03-02T18:31:41+00:00

Depends on the man.

RevolutionaryJob7908 · 2026-03-02T23:21:21+00:00

They are probably less experienced and they will grow out of it. I mean society should be nice to them and have someone around the corner try to help them do better, so not feed the ego, (women have egos too, I try to avoid giving attention if they shouldn't have that snack).

matthedev · 2026-03-03T03:17:08+00:00

You post variations on this theme almost daily on r/PurplePillDebate.

I have some friends who are single and have little apparent libido that would trigger you to make more posts like this one, so choose your destiny:

Bachelor No. 1 is fit, working out and eating healthy every day. He's a software engineer, making a six-figure salary. He's reliable and very hardworking; he goes out of his way to help friends and to go above and beyond at work. Although he has other hobbies too, mostly solitary, he kind of has the "starter pack" of interests you'd expect from a software engineer: anime, sci fi, computer games, board games. He generally prefers staying in to save money or engaging in low-cost or free activities. As an introvert, he needs to "recharge" after a few hours of socializing or being in high-stimulation environments. He's submissive and also very much a "doomer."
Another friend—also an introvert—is a committed vegan, and that is a hard requirement in a partner for him (or at least being a vegetarian). He's kind of a hipster, so he takes pride in obscurantist taste in music and cinema (never something so vulgar as "movies"). However, he is of melancholic temperament has never been able to hold down a job for more than a few months or graduate from college and tends to sleep until noon or later as part of a biphasic sleep routine (again, rejecting the mainstream). He seems to like androgynous appearance in women and would prefer the women do the approaching.
A third friend is more upbeat than the first two, but he has severe ADHD, which means his brain can easily get hijacked by "the algorithm," leading to passive consumption of random stimuli (the more lights and colors, the better, it seems). He's artistically and aesthetically oriented although he's more "rest and digest" than action oriented. Severe ADHD can mean trouble with the executive function needed to do the little tasks needed to leave the house and a hyperactive mind that can lead to compulsive talking or rumination.
A fourth friend is an avid reader, mostly of nonfiction. He's very concerned about social justice and places high value on kindness. He is very risk averse and has a strong preference for routine. He is not style conscious.

All of them are and have been single. None would be pressuring you towards physical intimacy any time soon. I'm not saying it would be practical to date these exact men or whether they'd be interested in you themselves, but there are plenty of men like them out there although they're not exactly putting themselves out there often, so you would have to go out of your way to find them.

DropSlight809 · 2026-03-03T17:20:54+00:00

No one likes a guy who wants to make his insecurities other people‘s problems.

Ok

What is appealing about a guy who is obsessed with making sure he’s the best guy a woman’s ever fucked and gets mad if a woman fucked a guy hotter than him?

Ok, maybe if he uses that as motivation without making it her problem, otherwise sure.

What is appealing about being with a man obsessed with competing with other men rather than focusing on what he wants in a woman?

Fair enough

Why should a continuously risk have subpar sex with men just so he feel validated?

They shouldn't, but I assume that also just means, don't be with him? If a guy is insecure that he's bad at sex or not satisfying you, it sounds like he isn't if you consider it subpar. So, yes he's insecure, but also right to be, and maybe not compatible in general.

This is part of the reason “Napeleon complex” and “Little Dick Energy” became insults. Because people noticed men who constantly needed validation because of a flaw they had, even when its something people arent caring about.

Okay, so are you saying this is why it's good to use these insults?

Ironically, making them even less attractive because of their bad attitudes and obsession with themselves. Also, for all the complaints about feminists hating men, this actually proves feminists right about the FRAGILE MALE EGO.

Okay sure, so what? Are you saying these are just really really effective insults people should adopt in their vocabulary?

Last time I checked, no one liked special snowflakes with main character syndrome.

On the nose here much?

redditcibiladeriniz · 2026-03-02T15:59:46+00:00

Same applies when we exchange it like this: "Most men have no desire to use their bodies to soothe the egos of insecure women". Because noone likes to be other’s graveyard, especially when we consider we have only one life.

ViktorPatterson · 2026-03-02T15:18:08+00:00

It's not just "desire" its also simple biological survival

mnt68 · 2026-03-02T15:34:38+00:00

In a world where nobody gets married and people simply move from one meaningless sex romp to another, it seems plausable to just elevate a small group of gorgeous men and leave the rest to loneliness and insult.

But thats not the world we live in, yet women are proceeding in life as if most men don’t matter. This has created a generation of men with insecurities.

So the gender that is uniquely capable of teasing their friends into an eating disorder can also fuck up men’s self worth. Congrats, now live with the societal mess you all created.

Most women have no desire to use their bodies to soothe the egos of insecure men.

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Then stop insulting them for not doing so.

Most men have no desire to use their bodies to soothe the egos of insecure women.

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