UPDATE:Girlfriend stopped taking the pill without telling me, and is now pregnant. Says she wants to keep it. I'm extremely scared.

TheSacredParsnip · 2013-03-11T07:29:48+00:00

She lied to you about being on birth control.

Tell this to yourself everytime you have doubts or someone blames you for anything.

"You should take responsibility!" "She lied to me about being on birth control."

"You're a terrible human being!" "She LIED to me about being on birth control."

It's a fucked up situation but always remember that you were deliberately tricked into it.

PurpleRight · 2013-03-11T06:14:33+00:00

Do what you need to get her to abort the child. I strongly suggest you go with her. This "I want to go alone" thing is very fishy.

womblefish · 2013-03-11T10:31:32+00:00

Do whatever you have to do, say whatever you have to say, promise anything you have to promise.. to make sure she goes through with that abortion.

There is no guilt, there's no morality, there's no right or wrong, this is pure survival. She has betrayed your trust in way that words are insufficient to describe. You have to do whatever is necessary to protect yourself.

If you need to talk with her about how many kids you're going to have together in 5 years time 'when you're ready', do it. If you have to tell her about the house with the white picket fence that you're going to buy and share together, and how you'll never be able to afford it unless she has the abortion, do it. If you need to promise that you'll be together and love her for ever if she has the abortion, do it. If you need to tell her that you'll never trust her again and she'll lose your future together if she doesn't go through with it, do it.

What you're going through now will live with you for years, but, no man who's ever been in your situation will ever judge you for your actions.

Do whatever you have to do.

Thievishmetal69 · 2013-03-11T07:47:04+00:00

we are still having sex (I know, I know).

The part of me that HATES stupid people is telling me you deserve what ever you have coming.

It's like someone who drank and drove, almost had a wreck, got really rattled, then fucking did it again.

People like you never learn till its too late.

doladolabillyall · 2013-03-11T07:52:32+00:00

too personal and she'd rather go alone.

But she wants to be absorbed into your life? The lies...

If she cared about her body, would she continue to put this off and get the abortion later?

honoraryorange · 2013-03-11T07:33:37+00:00

Are you sure she was ever even pregnant?

And yeah as the others have said, lawyer up, make sure she follows through. She manipulated you so all bets are off - stick around until you're sure it is gone, then get the fuck out of dodge.

Fogwa · 2013-03-11T07:16:46+00:00

Go to the clinic. You don't have to go with her. You can follow her in your car if you have to. Wait a while after she enters and then go inside. If/when she reenters the waiting room, ask the doctor specifically if the abortion was successful.

This is of course assuming she even goes to the clinic. Treat her as an enemy. Because she is. She's the enemy of your future.

sapunec7854 · 2013-03-11T07:21:55+00:00

Start keeping some sort of a diary. She might decide to sue you for rape or some shit and if you have a super ultra mega detailed diary with your activities by the hour (which should involve you being with other people who are potential witnesses) this will be harder.

Also start some sort of video documentation of your interactions to show that your interactions don't show that you've violated her in the recent past.

I think you're doing the right thing with not ditching her on the day of the abortion. It makes it riskier for you at the very least.

And you really need to go with her to the hospital.

DBi · 2013-03-11T06:59:13+00:00

Eh sounds like she's gonna have it and is assuming you where bluffing by saying you where going to ghost, I'd start getting your passport and savings in order.

ANALGAPE · 2013-03-11T07:39:52+00:00

How many more days until she has the procedure done?

HDATZ · 2013-03-11T11:01:23+00:00

Have you figured out what day and time the appointment is scheduled for? Can you call the clinic to "confirm" the appointment? If so, do this without her knowledge; there's no need to overtly follow her there if she, for whatever reason, continues to deny your presence during the procedure. Simply show up a couple of minutes after the appointed time and look for her car in the parking lot. If it's not there, you have a problem. If it is, make sure she is not in it, and then walk inside the clinic. If the receptionist can't confirm that she is there having the procedure done once you identify yourself as her partner, then wait and see if she leaves the procedure area, and greet her when she comes out.

You have a couple options, at that point. You can tell her you just couldn't bear to leave her alone during this, etc., etc. Or, you can walk her ass outside and drop the hammer right then. This might make me sound like a prick, but you can't be worried about this woman's mental state at this point. This person obtained genetic material from you under false pretenses, ON PURPOSE. She clearly didn't give two shits about your mental state when she did it, and until this point, she was going to use this genetic material to bring a life into the world. This person does not deserve respect, they don't deserve sympathy, they don't deserve having the truth sugar coated once you can confirm that you're in the clear, in my opinion. To quote Sonny from "A Bronx Tale":

"You dump her, and you dump her fast."

jimmybrite · 2013-03-11T11:37:48+00:00

This really feels like male rape

Nice try SRSer.

stringerbell · 2013-03-12T00:48:57+00:00

This really feels like male rape and I can't really do anything about it.

Ha! You are leading her on and sleeping with her - for the sole purpose of ensuring that she does what you want (get an abortion). And, then, once she gets the abortion, you're planning on dumping her.

And, you think that's the equivalent of YOU getting raped????????

amazinguser · 2013-03-11T11:43:39+00:00

A few things.

1) What the fuck are you doing? Stop putting your penis in her!!

2) Going with her to the clinic will not confirm the procedure took place. You will not be able to find out if it took place or not, even if you are in the waiting room. They will not allow you in the room, and the doctor will not disclose any details of the procedure to you for privacy reasons.

3) Once it's done, drop her like a hot fucking stick of dynamite. It isn't your job to make sure her mental health is ok, and the longer you're around her afterward, the more likely it is she will do this shit again. Trust me on this, it fucking happened to me. I should have left my first wife before she was even my wife, but I tried to white knight her to better life and she just drug me down in to Hell with her.

4) You have nothing to feel guilty about. Keep up the facade of a relationship until after the abortion, then run like the fucking wind and never ever look back. Don't answer calls, texts, FB messages, emails, nothing. This woman betrayed you in the most horrible way possible, and you think she's worth keeping around? Get out of there!!!!

I'm afraid this is going to fuck her over mentally permanently.

It might, but then again, how is this going to affect you in the future? Are you going to be able to have sex with ANY woman again without thinking about whether she is going to sperm-jack you and try to wrangle you into a relationship you don't want? Stop feeling sorry for her, this is her fault.

Orlando1701 · 2013-03-11T08:35:39+00:00

Best of luck brother, but it also validates my love of condoms and that I never had unprotected sex with anyone but my wife.

Bombadildo1 · 2013-03-11T13:17:10+00:00

She stopped taking the pill and didn't tell you, that's a huge deal, if someone did that to me I'd never be able to trust them again. Pretty much no matter what happens I wouldn't be getting back together with her.

philosoraptor1000 · 2013-03-12T01:30:36+00:00

She stopped taking the pill without telling you. This tells me that she wanted to get pregnant.

She probably told you she'd get an abortion just to end the fighting and arguing. She's not getting an abortion. Prepare yourself for parenthood.

2013-03-27T14:37:19+00:00

"This really feels like male rape and I can't really do anything about it."

This is not rape. Have you seen that poster that says "sex you regret is not rape", made by a men's rights activist?

Your girlfriend fucked you over. I feel for you. I believe you had every right to tell her you wanted no part of having the kid, and I understand completely why you now have to maintain a relationship until she gets the abortion to protect yourself. I was completely with you until I read that line.

But you don't have to have sex with her. Unless she literally looked at you and said "have sex with me or I won't have the abortion", you were not raped. You could have made a million different excuses, including "you broke my trust and I'm not ready to have sex with you yet, I need some time".

Like I said, I truly feel for you. This situation was completely unfair to you. But don't throw rape accusations into this, or you're no better than all those fake rape accusers men's rights hates so much.

CertusAT · 2013-03-11T14:54:26+00:00

Wasn't there a case where a guy pierced the condome with a needle and got sued or something? Couldn't he do the same?

Edgemere · 2013-03-11T15:10:06+00:00

Can we start a movement to make this illegal? 'Cause if someone "steals" my sperm in a way that gets them pregnant without my consent, I would feel robbed. Why isn't this illegal? And vice versa, too- guys shouldn't be able to lie and tell women that they're infertile/got the snip-snip.

ibm2431 · 2013-03-11T11:27:00+00:00

1.) Have you confirmed she's actually pregnant?

2.) Stop having sex with her. Seriously.

3.) By the way she's trying to be secretive about getting the abortion, I venture that she doesn't intend to actually get one. Either because she plans to rope you in for as long as possible, or because there's no reason for her to get one in the first place (see 1 above).

Most of all, remember that she has seriously lied to you before - do not trust her.

And honestly? It shouldn't matter if it "fucks her over mentally permanently". This woman lied to you about being on birth control so she could force you to have a child with her against your wishes. She's already touched in the head. Not only that, her well-being should be none of your concern. She didn't give enough of a damn about you to respect your wishes. The only person you can count on to look out for you is yourself; don't betray yourself out of concern for a despicable person like her.

lordslag · 2013-03-11T11:49:09+00:00

You are trapped. You can't make her do anything and she has all the legal power to make you agree to anything she decides to do. You are now completely irrelevant to anything, anywhere and you'd better pay up whatever the courts tell you to, regardless of your income, and you'd better obey whatever time constraints she wants on you with your kid. If you fail to do any of these things, they will revoke your passport, then your license to drive and then throw you in jail. The only thing you can do is hope to whatever gods there aren't that she's lying about the pregnancy or gets the abortion, because if she keeps it, you belong to her, for the next 18 years.

SOURCE: I'm in your EXACT situation right now with 7 years to go on my incarceration in a prison with no shackles, no guards, and no watchtower....just walls of paper written in the ink of double standards.

coldacid · 2013-03-11T13:04:33+00:00

How is this any different from that guy who poked a hole in the condom?

2013-03-11T13:40:01+00:00

One is, I don't want to be in a relationship with this woman after this. Don't be. Turnabout is fair play. Hold her hand during the abortion, pay the $500 and get lost. Until then just lie to her.

MRMRising · 2013-03-12T01:14:33+00:00

Now take what you have learned from this and go get a Vasectomy!

Bhorzo · 2013-03-11T11:39:05+00:00

Thanks for the update man.

I agree with the others here: You have to control the situation so that she feels that she is more likely to get what she wants by A) having an abortion, rather than by B) having the baby.

After you've 100% confirmed the abortion has happened and that she is no longer pregnant, get the fuck away from her immediately.

OneTrappedMan · 2013-03-11T13:20:47+00:00

Why the fuck are you blowing your load in to someone if you dont want to get them prego? Is she is a cunt? Yes. Are you a dumbass? Double yes.

babno · 2013-03-11T14:23:42+00:00

Try this as an explanation.

It's my kid too, and you're the most important person in my life. It's personal for me too, and I need to be there with you. I'd be a terrible person if I wasn't.

The trick is to not vomit while saying it.

Geno777 · 2013-03-11T15:28:45+00:00

she said she doesn't want me to go with her to the abortion. This sucks for me because I won't be able to verify she got it.

Bro, you'd better find a way to get your motherfucking ass up in that clinic and see what's the dilly!!

No, not trolling, and I don't want to make you feel worse that you're already at, but I must remind you what's at stake:

The average man lives 70 years. 18 years is 25% of that. 25% of your lifetime.

But it gets worse. Assuming you're over 18, that's one third of the years you got left on this planet. For a man like me that's in my forties, 18 years is over half the years I [theoretically] got left. Being a black man makes this even more statistically dire.

My point: This is your future you're talking about. Think she truly cares about the third of life you got left on this planet? Think her mother cares? Think the misandric family courts will care? Think the hospital staff [who's your arch enemy in these matters] will care? Think feminists will care?

Those sympathetic to the MRM do care. Find a way to get into that fuckin clinic

And we wish you the best.

2013-03-11T19:36:48+00:00

How the fuck does it feel like male rape, just don't engage in it if you don't want it. Nowhere do you say she's forcing it upon you, it sounds like you're just being weak and not refusing it. Don't bullshit yourself, man up.

SarionFetecuse1 · 2013-03-11T20:18:57+00:00

I should keep this up until she has the abortion then break it off with her,

Yes, because murdering the innocent is always right if it's the woman's fault!

This subreddit needs a bowel cleansing to get rid of the leftists.

Trenticle · 2013-03-11T21:04:01+00:00

I don't want to sound like an asshole here but, regardless of contraception, if you don't want to have kids, why the fuck are you cumming inside your girlfriend?

2013-03-11T23:42:44+00:00

Have you considered that she may not be pregnant at all? Some women lie about pregnancy to gauge your reaction. Did you see the stick she urinated on?

OneTrappedMan · 2013-03-11T12:20:06+00:00

You are living my worst fear out of everything in the entire world.

I really hope you can pull through with this ok.

TheCameraLady · 2013-03-11T13:56:27+00:00

You play nice right now. You make it seem like there's still a future for the two of you. Have sex with her a bit, if it helps. I know, it feels like rape to do so, but would you rather than or be a dad?

Lead her along enough that she feels comfortable, that she feels she has your support, that she feels like there is still a future between you. Confirm she gets that abortion, then cut her the fuck out of your life.

She tricked you. Don't feel bad about tricking her back. She's proven herself to not be worth an honourable treatment.

Edit: I just saw that she said the procedure is in 3 weeks. She may be stalling for time. How far along is she? Waiting 3 weeks may put her past the date in which it can be easily done, giving her an excuse to back out. Make sure to push the issue on this. Also:

I also don't want to break up with her the day of her abortion, because I'm afraid this is going to fuck her over mentally permanently.

Forget this. This is a you vs her situation now, and she manipulated you. If this ends with you free and her with depression, so be it.

Bohica69 · 2013-03-11T13:57:22+00:00

Throw the hail mary, and here's how it goes:

You tell her how much you love her and want to marry her but now's not the right time to have a child and that you want to have a child after you get married, buy a house, etc. Act very sincere. Then, when she aborts it, DTMFB immediately. Mission accomplished. Bottom line is lie to her and tell her what she wants to hear until such time as she aborts then dump her. In the future, no glove = no love. Use your own protection for birth control and don't rely upon a woman or trust a woman to use birth control.

independence21 · 2013-03-11T15:13:03+00:00

How do you know she's pregnant? She could be trying to avoid an abortion but part of me thinks that she doesn't want you to go is she isn't pregnant and the office would tell her that.

Clauderoughly · 2013-03-11T17:13:01+00:00

Secondly, she said she doesn't want me to go with her to the abortion. This sucks for me because I won't be able to verify she got it.

Danger Will Robinson ! Danger ! Danger !

She might just not get it, and not tell you until after it's too late.

As soon as the deed is done, dump the bitch, change the locks, change your number.

khaosxxkels · 2013-03-11T17:30:48+00:00

Okay, I'm confused. How does it feel like male rape if you are having consensual sex with her..? She's a shitty person for doing all this stuff to you, but she's not forcing you to have sex with her, so I'm confused about your wording on that.

yokiatsu · 2013-03-11T21:21:04+00:00

A little advice: I can guess how much the pregnancy may be influencing her emotional well-being, so don't be too harsh. You may not want to be with her, but Id bet you don't hate her. Try to be nice. Just not her boyfriend, I guess.

2013-03-13T15:59:11+00:00

Its stories like these that make me want to get a vasectomy asap

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ryhntyntyn · 2013-03-11T12:25:20+00:00

Just leave. She's indicated she will get an abortion specifically because she doesn't want to be a mother with you as a 'ghost.'

You're ghosting anyway. Because of the breach of trust. Tell her that.

She's almost certainly not going to put her body through hell and become a single mother just to get back at you. And if she does, while the child support would suck, she's the big loser in all this.

What you're doing is guaranteed to cause psychological damage. Which you do seem to care about preventing. Do you care about that as much as you care about not paying child support?

Also: get a vasectomy

heterosapiensapien · 2013-03-11T12:26:41+00:00

I really hope you're having sex with a condom now

20rakah · 2013-03-11T15:10:38+00:00

I know there are some people saying split up with her but really that's up to you, I'd certainly say be more wary and consider taking birth control into your own hands. Also one recommendation would be that should you wish to get married later, get a prenuptial agreement.

As someone else said if you need confirmation they get her permission to be in the room during the procedure.

yoinkgasp · 2013-03-11T15:33:20+00:00

Absolutely you go with her to the abortion. Don't forget that this is your kid too and you have every right to be there.

typhonblue · 2013-03-11T15:38:10+00:00

Stop having sex with her. Now.

CarlJ99 · 2013-03-11T15:41:02+00:00

She's a liar. Break off any relationship with her.

Tell her that if she has the baby, you will demand DNA confirmation that it is yours.

Then, you will demand full custody and prevent her from ever seeing him/her, by having the court declare her an unfit mother.

Consider then either raising the baby or giving it up for adoption.

CycleAsAVehicle · 2013-03-11T15:51:01+00:00

I agree with the other commenters here. Keep up the facade of the relationship, but do not let her boss you around. Say you'll go with her for emotional support. Don't tell her to get an abortion, list the reasons why having the kid is a bad idea for everyone involved. If you can, capitalise on her guilt.

PerniciousOne · 2013-03-11T16:00:02+00:00

If you cannot see yourself with this woman in; 50 years, 20 years, 10 years, 5 years, 1 year, a month, a day you really need to look at what is best for you.

You need to ensure that what is done is best for you. If she decides to have this child, you will financially be on the hook for 18+ years.

As I posted on the previous article to pull the "hail mary", you need to do everything you can to ensure that she has an abortion.

You need to tell her that you want "in the future" to build a family with her but you cannot afford it at this time. You want to buy a house, and build a good foundation so that your children would be brought up right. Right now it is not the time for children, especially when you are not able to afford them properly.

Bobsutan · 2013-03-11T20:23:58+00:00

It'd serve you well to look up the Tom Leykis "Hail Mary", which is pretty much what you've already got in mind. Give it a look/listen though so you don't have any blind spots in your plan.

leeceia · 2013-03-11T23:22:22+00:00

I don't fully understand your situation, but may I suggest you talk her into getting a close friend to take her instead? One you'd trust as well, so she's not stressed and you can verify.

Can I just get something ironed out - I don't really understand the time frame here. you posted about 3-4 weeks ago + the 3 weeks till the abortion + the week post conception needed for the test to work = about 8-9 weeks along. Why is the wait on the abortion so long?

AnnArchist · 2013-03-12T03:35:40+00:00

do what you gotta do to get that abortion.

ProtonDeathRay · 2013-03-12T13:48:01+00:00

None of this could have happened if you just wore a condom

Zerohr666 · 2013-03-12T23:41:32+00:00

Good thing about the lawyer, you need to file a law suit now for Concepción through deceit. Bc if you wait you will pay Child-support Till you when the lawsuit. But with the judges order before the child is born she knows that she is on her own.

thereverendwho · 2013-03-11T15:21:24+00:00

I wish we had a legal document that we could sign prior to sex. Seriously, it sounds ridiculous but we live in ridiculous times. With false rape allegations, girls skipping birth control to purposefully get pregnant, etc. It'd be nice to have a nice legal document that states that you are given consent to engage in sexual activity, and that by wearing a condom you are taking action to avoid unwanted pregnancy. Since men cannot have any say in decisions of planned parenthood a release of liability should be given. Women shouldn't be the only ones with a choice.

fauxjargon · 2013-03-12T00:43:52+00:00

I just have to say how glad I am that I have relative phimosis. (my foreskin will retract when I'm flaccid but only very painfully when I have an erection). Fortunately, condoms solve the problem. I literally cannot have sex without one on. There are stretching techniques, etc that will fix it, but I have decided to leave it untreated so that I always have an excuse to wear one.

mwilke · 2013-03-11T09:16:37+00:00

Follow her to the clinc. There should be paper work involved, get that too. Don't let her know you're following, take a friends car. Get this done ASAP

::edit:: Fuck people, have her show him the paperwork to show proof she got the abortion. Goddamn reddit is stupid sometimes.

The_Cakester · 2013-03-11T12:32:49+00:00

Go along with it (I'd suggest stop fucking her, but hey I don't know anything about that) let her have the "I want to go alone" but afterwards go to her doctor and verify that yes the fetus is gone and she didn't lie through her teeth to fuck you over a little harder.

Now about breaking up, seriously she sounds like a nutcase. She already lied to you about the pill, only after heavy arguing has caved into maybe having an abortion and was trying to force you into paying child support for a child you had no idea of nor intention of having. Look, this isn't about her mental health (she sounds like she's off the deep end anyway) it's about yours. You've been fucked over hard, regardless of how the breakup affects her, you should be your own top priority.

You have an unhealthy relationship to the point of absolute corruption, get out and stay out, cut as many ties as you can and don't look back.

Move on and recover from this horrible event and then live your life and be happy.

aarghj · 2013-03-11T16:49:16+00:00

Definitely go with her, or at least FOLLOW her, or at the very least, HIRE A PROFESSIONAL to follow her on the day of the abortion. make 100% certain.
DEFINITELY dump that bitch the day the abortion is confirmed. She is fucking you mentally, she deserves a little in return. This is your opportunity to teach her how shitty this is, or she'll just move on and do it to the next guy.

phukka · 2013-03-11T20:25:25+00:00

Do whatever it takes to be there with her for the abortion, and then after its all done, make her walk home.

OperatorMike · 2013-03-11T22:51:25+00:00

DO NOT LET HER GO ALONE! SHE WILL BAIL ON IT!

2013-03-11T22:56:20+00:00

Take these other guys' advice, but I have an idea that may work as insurance, OP.

Drop megadoses (I'm talking Linus Pauling level shit) of pure vitamin C into her food and water. This is well known to cause miscarriage. Get the pure shit, though, because many brands add things to combat this. Also, cook with parsley a lot, as that is also known to do this.

Pecanpig · 2013-03-11T07:47:17+00:00

Go in with her, make sure it's done. And make it very clear that if she doesn't get it, your leaving the country.

Afterwards assuming she actually gets the procedure done? Leave her, never speak with her again. Ever.

AndrewnotJackson · 2013-03-11T13:52:21+00:00

Lie to her and say were wanting one too, but now isn't the right time. Coerce her into an abortion with lies saying to wait a year or two for when you're more stable.

Then right after she has it leave her because a girl like that will ruin your life.

DaBombDiggidy · 2013-03-11T14:21:09+00:00

Had this happen with my last relationship. Ended the same way as well. She didn't want me to go with her, she felt more comfortable going with a friend who had one done as well. Let her do what makes her comfortable and if that's not having you there then let it be. Don't break it off right away and don't let this problem ruin the both of you. Give it some time to heal (physically and mentally) then let the situation reassess itself. It's never good to break something off on rash reactions, it could have simply been a mistake. As much as i hate to be the apologist it seems you are being quite cynical and jumping to the worst conclusion possible.

Crimson_D82 · 2013-03-11T14:58:36+00:00

First and foremost, stop fucking her. You're almost in the clear, yet you're still trying to get yourself trapped. Be cool, bring her to the clinic, ensure she gets the abortion, and then vanish.

The more you act like a stupid ass and continue to fuck her and get her attached, the more likely it will be that she'll keep it and you'll be stuck. You're turning a good situation into a potential nightmare just to fuck some lying, two faced piece of gutter trash.

Man up now while you can, or be forced into fatherhood. You can tell her you're gone, but all it takes is one overly aggressive feminist lawyer to take her alimony case and find you.

Crimson_D82 · 2013-03-11T16:14:43+00:00

Ask your lawyer if you can get a court order forcing her to allow you in the room. You have to be there to make sure it's done.

ryhntyntyn · 2013-03-11T14:47:30+00:00

What is your objection to keeping the child and staying with the girl? Or simply paying the support for the child, if she has it?

Armageist · 2013-03-11T12:11:23+00:00

It's stories like these that really piss me off about the medical establishment hemming and hawing on getting male contraception established.

Of course, you could've had a vasectomy (they're reversible), or you should've been wearing a condom. I know, easier said than done, but this is what we have to fucking deal with when we don't take responsibility for ourselves.

She keeps telling me she's in love with me and we are still having sex (I know, I know)

The fact that you're willing to do this knowing she 'can't get further pregnant' and are essentially 'reaping the rewards' of the situation tells me you kinda deserve to get fucked over by this anyways. That's pretty fucking douchey and you should've broke it off.

I mean she's psychologically not good enough to have a relationship with after this but she's good enough to still continue putting your dick in leading her on? WTF?

VolumeZero · 2013-03-11T12:51:57+00:00

Stay strong and show your lawyer this:

http://news.nationalpost.com/2013/01/03/craig-jaret-hutchinson-loses-sexual-assault-appeal/

CJtheWriter · 2013-03-11T13:32:22+00:00

Have you both considered adoption? I know this option can be mentally stressful on you and your girlfriend but you might be better off for it. There's a lot of mental and psychological damage that can happen to a woman coming out of an abortion. Yes, she made a terrible mistake but it would be great if another family could experience the joy of raising a child out of this.

Bhorzo · 2013-03-11T11:42:30+00:00

Also: If you always pulled-out, then there's a reasonable chance the baby isn't yours. Pulling out is just as effective as condoms... so it's possible that the father is someone else. Just keep this in mind in case the abortion doesn't happen and the baby is born.

*For those downvoting, please note the quotes from below.

http://abcnews.go.com/Health/Economy/sex-study-pull-withdrawal-method-rivals-condoms-birth/story?id=7688558

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Coitus_interruptus#Effects

coitus interruptus and condoms have an 18 and 17 percent failure rate

one persistent myth often cited as a drawback to withdrawal -- that there is mobile sperm in pre-ejaculate -- is actually contradicted by two studies cited by the National Institutes of Health

studies[12][13][14][15] have failed to find any viable sperm in the fluid

Knowledge is power.

If the OP has been pulling out correctly, the chances of him getting her pregnant is very very slim. If the child is born, he should have a paternity test. I can't believe people would suggest otherwise. She is a liar - and as such - could potentially be lying about many many more things.

bunker_man · 2013-03-11T17:01:57+00:00

To be honest, you're really a terrible person for trying to push someone into an abortion. You should have just chosen to date better people who would not have tried that instead.

And yes, she probably is going to be fucked up mentally. But realistically you telling her you wouldn't help out even if she had it made it obvious from the beginning that you were only in it for yourself, and don't care who gets hurt in the process.

ryhntyntyn · 2013-03-11T13:02:26+00:00

This really feels like male rape and I can't really do anything about it.

No it doesn't. You are still having consenual sex with her. You aren't being raped.

Your "six figure" salary will be enough. If you live in a state where the support is capped you'll hardly notice it.

And frankly, because you have been an idiot, and are continuing to be an idiot, you kind of deserve what you get.

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