Getting laid as a guy shouldn't be this difficult

kmb218 · 2026-01-13T14:56:18+00:00

I think part of it is a result of men’s behavior. I used to be very open to casual sex or sleeping with men quickly. The problem is, these men only cared about their own pleasure and generally didn’t treat me well. So yeah, when you realize that if you sleep with a man, there’s a 70% chance he will be selfish in bed and porn-brained, you become way more picky and think twice before sleeping with someone.

cb8585b · 2026-01-13T16:44:56+00:00

You haven’t explained why it shouldn’t be difficult.

belongtomee · 2026-01-13T15:04:27+00:00

Right? Women should be obligated to sleep with any man that makes even a sliver of effort for her.

No-Comfort1229 · 2026-01-13T14:58:51+00:00

if you were a woman, how easily would you let yourself be fucked by a random guy knowing you probably wont enjoy it that much, you surely wont finish and you risk stds and pregnancy? not to mention the social stigma everyone keeps pushing on women who sleep around and all the dangers of getting alone with a stranger that can easily overpower you. how much of a good deal does it exactly sound to you?

Axis_Control · 2026-01-13T15:10:42+00:00

Honestly having casual sex with men sucks. They are bad at it, or selfish and cum too fast.

This guy i hooked up with came in like 10 mins I didnt even cum 😪 then hes like 'ill make you cum next time' There will be no next time bro 🤣

I wouldn't do it again.

WebNew9978 · 2026-01-13T16:05:23+00:00

Well it is. It seems pretty clear that more men will live a life being a forever virgin involuntarily. Or maybe we’ll count it as one losing their virginity if they have sex with an AI Robot.

Women are only interested in certain men and if you aren’t one of those certain men, you’re screwed.

No_Personality5381 · 2026-01-13T15:14:09+00:00

So women are promiscuous or inaccessible? Literally, a lot of you claim that women have double-digit n-count. Why is it difficult then? Or is the guy the problem?

NothingOrAllLife · 2026-01-13T15:46:45+00:00

Women would be more open to sleeping with men quickly if men respected, or even liked women that sleep with men quickly. Generally, men seem to want to fuck the hoe, disparage the hoe, marry the virgin and then complain the virgin isn’t good or exciting in bed.

The “mating dance” has become a necessity to at least attempt the see if the man is in this for you and the physical stuff, or just the physical stuff. Women KNOW men want to sleep with them. Women also know that they will carry any stigma associated with sleeping with men: whether it be from society or from the man himself - she knows that she will be judged for the action for more harshly than he will if someone starts spreading rumors.

Physical intimacy comes with a lot more baggage for women. So, naturally. It’s just going to be harder to get a woman to engage in it with a man she doesn’t find special on some level.

Whether it be surface level attractiveness or charm - you gotta have something to make her want to take that risk for you.

Because sex for women is not just a fun activity you can engage in and then go about your day - you have to worry about pregnancy, you have to worry about whether a guy you haven’t met yet will care if you sleep with one too many people, you have to care about whether the man you’re sleeping with will talk about you or insult you when it’s done because you slept with him.

Sleeping with a man is easy, yeah. What’s not easy is what could happen after.

anonymousppd123123 · 2026-01-13T16:11:55+00:00

What do you want, to open some app and order a sex partner who fits your taste and will sleep with you despite not knowing you like a pizza? I think it should be reasonably hard, actually. But then again, I think that sex should be meaningful. Both partners do the dance, creating meaning, not a simple proposition and a yea or no, that's an actual human connection.

Makuta_Servaela · 2026-01-13T14:51:04+00:00

Where as for women, just have to say yes or no.

I just shouted the word "Yes", and didn't suddenly get laid.

But anyway, sex is designed for primarily your pleasure, with little direct risk to you, you are incapable of getting pregnant, you have a much lower chance of STDs as the penetrator, and you are almost guaranteed an orgasm. Seems pretty fair that if you get way more out of it and risk way less, then you should work harder for it.

The thing is, you're seeing this as a gendered issue rather than a position issue. If you want to have a dick shoved in you (straight men have prostates too, you know), have great risk to you, higher STD chance, and barely expected to orgasm, you could just as easily as I could walk into a club full of men who want to do that to you, and just as easily as I could say Yes.

If I want sex where my pleasure is prioritised, my risk is low, my orgasm is basically guaranteed, I'd have just as hard a time as you would finding that. It's not that being a man is hard and woman is easy. It's that being a penetrator is hard and penetrated is easy.

lesliecarbone · 2026-01-13T14:57:58+00:00

INFO: How difficult should it be?

howdoiw0rkthisthing · 2026-01-13T15:07:16+00:00

Having kids as a woman shouldn't be this difficult

I think many men don't understand the plight of the women. How difficult it is to grow, birth, and care for an infant.

There's just too much you have to do as a woman. Whereas for men, they just have to skeet. It's as simple for them. Yet they go on rant about how feminism ruined women and they don’t know their place anymore.

Each sex has its cross to bear. The grass is always greener.

mashedturnip · 2026-01-13T14:50:12+00:00

It should. Most women are in relationships, most women will not be attracted to you, and most single women who are attracted to you will not be open for immediate, risky sex

jorts-enthusiast · 2026-01-13T14:51:40+00:00

Men have spent decades demonizing and belittling women who enjoy casual sex. I’m not sure why anyone is surprised that many men aren’t getting laid.

TermAggravating8043 · 2026-01-13T15:02:06+00:00

“The plight of men”

They can’t get random women to fuck them at their requests, boohoo.

Your wrong dude I do understand, I don’t care, there’s bigger things in the world to worry about than your dick getting wet

Happy_Huckleberry246 · 2026-01-13T15:02:44+00:00

I can understand your “plight” and still not care. Why should women put in effort towards something they don’t want?

growframe · 2026-01-13T14:48:24+00:00

All you need to get laid is for someone to agree to have sex with you.

You think that's too high a bar?

Fast_Bag_3329 · 2026-01-13T14:51:23+00:00

and then when we finally give you and your pathetic weiners a chance, y'all barely last 10 minutes and have no earthly idea how to give a woman pleasure. yeah, poor MEN

TheHypocrisy97 · 2026-01-13T14:57:42+00:00

Men when they can’t financially enslave women

fiftypoundpuppy · 2026-01-13T15:08:07+00:00

Interesting how the "Logical, Rational Sex™" thinks there should be no difference in behavior from someone for whom an activity is high-risk, low-reward and low-risk, high reward

Men on this sub in particular have seemed to also have reached a consensus that women shouldn't expect men to care about their pleasure, and that this isn't selfish, it's all the fault of women for various reasons

Why "should" it be easier for men, in light of these enlightening observations. Logically? Should women be expected to be less self-interested than men?

Lemon_gecko · 2026-01-13T14:51:18+00:00

Okay, it shouldn't be that hard. Women don't understand. Let's assume you pushed a button and now i magically do understand (tho one might argue that men are completely blind to their issues and understand even less). How does it change anything? How should i make it easier for a guy? Because if you actually see me as a person, then it's same thing. Nothing can be done.

ConstipatedAvocado · 2026-01-13T15:24:04+00:00

I'm gonna just keep it a buck, sleeping with women isnt that hard. The only issue is a lot of men are aggressively unattractive. I dont deny there are a lot more pitfalls and complexities to modern dating, but finding a woman for sex really isnt anywhere near as difficult as men here make out. Women dont put any effort into sex because sex is hardly rewarding for most women unless they're with a guy who actually prioritises their pleasure. The good news is, as a guy, you can get better at this. There's all kinds of guides and discussions online about effective cunnilingus, clitoral stimulation, and all manner of ways to unlock female pleasure. Many men choose not to listen though. Cant them blame women for not being keen on something which offers very little if any upside for them.

Disastrous_Agent9307 · 2026-01-13T15:52:44+00:00

I don't think someone else having to be physically and emotionally vulnerable with you and putting themselves at risk for STDs, pregnancy, social shame, and without even the promise of a good time should be an easy thing. Frankly, it's sort of amazing it happens at all when you think of it like that.

I personally never did casual sex and I had entire relationships without sex until my husband. I get the siren call of sex, but the risk just doesn't outweigh the reward.

IntrusiveThot6 · 2026-01-13T21:59:37+00:00

We understand it. There's just nothing for us to do with the info.

KhadgarIsaDreadlord · 2026-01-13T14:54:57+00:00

It's only difficult if the only thing you are looking for is getting laid. Women have a keen nose for the smell of desperation.

-Shes-A-Carnival · 2026-01-13T16:15:49+00:00

says who tho? where was anyone promised it would be easy?

toasterchild · 2026-01-13T15:31:49+00:00

If it were equally easy for men we would have over populated the planet millions of years ago.

United_Donkey8368 · 2026-01-14T10:59:18+00:00

Because you're the ones who want sex, not us. So it doesn't do women any good to have it handed to them easily when it's simply not what we're looking for. Besides, sex tends not to benefit women at all, especially in terms of pleasure and orgasms.

Altruistic_Look_7868 · 2026-01-13T23:03:04+00:00

I would argue that it's never been easier as a man to have casual sex. All you need to do is be attractive. And if you aren't, well, you only have yourself to blame.

Mojozilla · 2026-01-13T15:04:41+00:00

You can't get laid. I can't get medical emergency reproductive care to save my life. We are not the same. You have socks, use them.

wtknight · 2026-01-13T15:32:12+00:00

It should be that difficult because women get pregnant, so whom they have sex with is biologically pretty important.

Bekiala · 2026-01-13T14:58:40+00:00

For women sex isn't guaranteed pleasurable also it is super risky. On top of that society tends to vilify women who have sex.

OP, I'm with you that it shouldn't be this way but it is and probably has been from a time before human history.

World-Three · 2026-01-13T15:30:38+00:00

Unfortunately it's bigger than sex. It's an investment.

Think about loans. Most people only give you a loan when you have something worth betting against. Do you make enough money they can squeeze out of you for not knowing any better, or do you have assets they can seize if you default?

If you don't have those things, now you've got to try to get it by proving your assets. Show them your house, your car, your portfolio, family assets, employment etc. Make them want something you have access to.

Proving you have assets is the equivalent of dating. And reciprocation is basically getting the loan.

Everyone isn't going to be approved for a loan, you're either really responsible, or really dumb. Most loans are predatory so getting a loan isn't always a good thing.

If you want to do the mating dance and don't want liability, you basically need to apply for a grant. But you have to be a specific type of person to get that. (Fuckboy, Chad, Tyrone etc)

It's half a joke... But it's all relative in my opinion.

OffTheRedSand · 2026-01-13T17:32:17+00:00

I think many women don't understand the plight of the men. How difficult to find a partner who will agree to get laid with you.

they understand, they just don't care 💜

hope this helps

PandaTaco90 · 2026-01-13T17:58:09+00:00

Nah it’s easy as fuck even for average guys

MarioWilson122 · 2026-01-13T18:45:40+00:00

Naw they do, it’s just of no concern to them because it’s not anything they have to worry about. So, unless the man is above the woman in some way it will be hard, since women will make men they don’t like very much to have to dance.

So that is the issue is that men need to go where they are desired if possible. So that would mean lowering their standards in the time being, just so they can have some success. This is until they are done upgrading themselves into someone who can attract better.

BronzeSinger · 2026-01-13T20:19:15+00:00

Word of advice: Remove women from your psyche long-term. Women are fundamentally different creatures than us. They will always be the picky choosers no matter the material conditions.

Focus on yourself, maybe even consider dating other guys. Looking for women is like looking for diamonds. It's rare.

Don't even bother asking stuff on this subreddit. If I were in control, I'd ban blue pillers and purple pillers. They are such a lying bunch and will give you fake advice that never works. A lot of them are women, so no wonder.

Altruistic_Look_7868 · 2026-01-14T05:40:44+00:00

Why do you feel entitled to easy sex?

Hungry-Plantain-3315 · 2026-01-13T14:49:19+00:00

It’s not. Prostitutes exist.

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Expert_Profession951 · 2026-01-14T00:27:36+00:00

In nature, the best of the most adaptable and best traits survive and get opportunities to pass on their genes. If you aren’t in that group, complaining about it definitely isn’t going to help you. Lol It’ll only make it worse tbh bc now more women can see your desperation. Keep throwing yourself under the bus.

xxVelasco · 2026-01-14T09:14:15+00:00

It's funny because it's not hard to get laid as a man at all. The competition is so low because a lot of men aren't willing to make themselves attractive or put in any effort into courting a woman, neither of which are difficult. There's no shortage of women that want to have sexual experiences either.

Back in my hoe phase (before I met my GF), I never struggled to find a girl that was down for casual sex. I mostly used dating apps and occasionally girls would dm me on Instagram. I was always upfront about my intentions (just looking for casual sex) and respectful towards them. At my peak hoeness, I was rotating between 5 different girls. I didn't even have a job or car, they just liked me and I liked them.

This isn't to brag, but to show you that not every man struggles to get sex.

Scramjet1 · 2026-01-13T14:49:31+00:00

Because they're professional gaslighter. How come men have it difficult in life in any way? We're living in pAtriArchy they think.

It's impossible to convince them even if you present stats and what not. They're stubborn because they don't want to lose the victimhood mindset that they've based their life upon.

Lost_Reaction_5489 · 2026-01-13T17:20:23+00:00

Buy a prostitute. Simple and effective.

Just-Path-5838 · 2026-01-13T21:05:17+00:00

How difficult should it be? Just as a rule nobody cares about other people's struggles with their sex life. If you don't have a sex life, you're a loser, and nobody cares about losers.

Really should count yourself lucky it's not harder. If monogamy weren't the preferred relationship mode of women. Every woman you know would basically be fucking the same 5 dudes.

EugeneCezanne · 2026-01-14T00:45:51+00:00

For some men, it isnt hard at all. I'd even wager than most men have it easy at least once in their career—that one time you go to the right party at the right time, or a friend introduces you to their friend, and you dont even have to make it to a first actual date.

There are things most men can do to make those situations more likely and common. Some of them can be learned. Some can be acquired through practice.

Title	Getting laid as a guy shouldn't be this difficult
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Date	January 13, 2026 2:44 PM UTC (6 months ago)
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