How would you react if your (potential) girlfriend/boyfriend saw your posts and comments on this sub ?

LadyofTheGreyPath · 2023-02-10T22:35:23+00:00

They'd tell me to limit my online junk food intake lol

Mrs_Drgree · 2023-02-10T22:40:29+00:00

At this point it is what it is.

2023-02-10T22:33:40+00:00

I would hope they appreciate my sense of humour.

Nothing should be surprising to them honestly.

kalashhhhhhhh · 2023-02-11T00:08:50+00:00

I hold the same opinions irl and we sometimes talk about them/debate

I also only ever said good things about him lol

I still want PPD to remain my little secret, I'd cringe my soul out if someone I know read all of this.

M3taBuster · 2023-02-10T22:50:25+00:00

I don't think there's anything I've posted here that I don't at least stand by the spirit of. Obviously when you've posted as much as I have, there is bound to be a few comments that could have been phrased better, but that's the extent of it for me.

Everything I've posted here, I truly believe. So if I come to find that my partner seeing it makes me feel anxious or ashamed, then that would be a good sign that I'm with the wrong partner.

therealcosmicnebula · 2023-02-11T00:41:16+00:00

My opinions online and IRL are exactly the same.

So, I wouldn't care.

So many people get on Reddit and invent new personalities or finally muster up the courage to say what they think becuase they're anonymous.

While being a cowtowing pansy IRL.

And then they think everyone else is the same.

saraimarsena · 2023-02-10T23:15:42+00:00

he’d be surprised i waste so much time here of all places lol

he knows i like reddit but he doesn’t care so much about what subs im on

MouthSandTeethTongue · 2023-02-11T00:34:13+00:00

"I was just pretending to be retarded, lol"

CruelAngelGradThesis · 2023-02-10T23:00:26+00:00

A little embarrassed because then he would know just how badly I want to [dolphin noises] him

DatPeachFaygo · 2023-02-10T22:28:07+00:00

I'm Chad, so, I can do and say whatever I want with no consequences.

Ok_Bear976 · 2023-02-10T23:02:51+00:00

"My little retarded cousin got onto my phone"

Aromatic_Shop9033 · 2023-02-11T00:44:04+00:00

I'd laugh.

She reads all my posts, daily.

Hey, baby! 😘

bluestjuice · 2023-02-11T01:59:54+00:00

My partners know I hang out here when I fail my willpower checks. I tell them about threads from time to time and usually the response is a lot of eye-rolling.

MDFornia · 2023-02-11T00:57:44+00:00

It would be a major red flag to me if they didn't want to split.

holy-hymen · 2023-02-11T01:50:24+00:00

I don't say anything I don't believe to be true or wouldn't back up with evidence. Anybody who knows me well irl knows that am wierd, good and stand for what I believe in.

forever5y · 2023-02-10T22:30:05+00:00

She follows me. I'm cool with it she knows my opinions. Nothing to hide.

Opening_Pattern_301 · 2023-02-10T22:52:33+00:00

have you ever told a kid that santa and the tooth fairy dont exist and thats why poor kids dont get gifts on xmas or when they lose a tooth? well, i would have that kind of conversation with her, that even though we enjoy good times together, thats not the reality for huge chunk of people, a lot of individuals have been severly mentally damaged by the modern dating market and im lucky (or unlucky) to not be oblivious to it.

noafrochamplusamurai · 2023-02-10T22:38:04+00:00

It would be fine, they'd probably appreciate it

LeaveNCountAlone · 2023-02-11T01:27:19+00:00

I dumped a guy because of it. He was giving off hints of being an incel/ misogynistic red piller, but his posts on here were down right abusive. 100% sure he got a site wide ban because of it.

just_a_place · 2023-02-11T08:45:15+00:00

Lift_and_Lurk · 2023-02-10T23:00:42+00:00

I show my wife sometimes. She laughs

ChadChasingB · 2023-02-10T22:30:40+00:00

My boyfriend reads it with me and laughs at some of the comments.

Emotional_Arm_8094 · 2023-02-10T22:42:17+00:00

No reaction, she'd know what the deal was.

jay10033 · 2023-02-10T23:26:35+00:00

Take notes.

RocinanteCoffee · 2023-02-10T23:33:49+00:00

He does see some of my posts and comments since we sometimes spend some of the day together at his place or mine working from home. And he agrees with me sometimes and when he doesn't he offers his own perspective or teases me and tells me work hours are over I can get offline entirely and we can go grab dinner. But he isn't that interested in most of it; it's not a platform he uses much.

Fancy-Respect8729 · 2023-02-10T23:37:39+00:00

Don't care. I say what I want, if someone don't like it they can suck my big hairy British balls.

OmarNBradley · 2023-02-10T23:38:10+00:00

I've had like four or five different Reddit accounts and my husband of 22 years has read plenty under each and every one. I'd never put anything here that I wouldn't be comfortable defending if it showed up on the front page of the Washington Post.

Safinated · 2023-02-11T00:05:26+00:00

My current partner is fine with it, so future partners should be fine with it

Radiant_Specific6542 · 2023-02-11T00:14:17+00:00

I wouldn't care.

stepbrostoppls · 2023-02-11T01:26:48+00:00

My comments aren't resentful and are my actual values and observations on relationships, so if they react negatively, we're probably already at a pretty big views mismatch and would be a warning sign for the relationship.

Steakman1 · 2023-02-11T03:02:31+00:00

She would probably be very confused. She’d see me criticizing men, criticizing women, and then obviously troll comments which would probably make her wonder if I’m on men’s side or women’s side. Or she’d wonder if I’m just screwing with people.

ashleyrose56 · 2023-02-11T06:38:15+00:00

My partner follows me on reddit. He already knows my opinions 😂

ohdiddly · 2023-02-12T06:07:14+00:00

I show him my conversations on here lol

Glittering_Ad_1415 · 2023-02-10T22:52:25+00:00

My boyfriend hates this sub and yells at me whenever I tell him I’m on it

kochIndustriesRussia · 2023-02-10T22:57:33+00:00

Who cares if they find it? Like....what am I not understanding? Are you a racist, misogynistic, homophobic, narcissistic twat who posts and comments accordingly? Or are you an emotionally mature and psychologically healthy human who can engage in discourse without being deliberately offensive and who knows how to apologize when they're wrong?

Birb-brained · 2023-02-10T22:50:22+00:00

I frequently show husband what’s being said and what I’m saying lol.

Barneysparky · 2023-02-10T23:21:52+00:00

I've said this many times. A lot of the guys here posts are as much of a negative history as the women they imagine AWALT. My husband knows I post here, it falls under "I married a very kind woman who believes things I don't, but that is why I love her".

He'd get a little pissed seeing me talk about him, but no more than when I tell him I told someone about how he always wears jeans unless he's in bed. (opps)

Annual-Dentist-7529 · 2023-02-10T23:12:09+00:00

no idea how she would react, but if she was logical and rational she would agree with me. otherwise prob not.

NotARussianBot1984 · 2023-02-10T23:56:17+00:00

My sugar gf knows my account.

We don't hide anything. I know hers but she a 100% lurker.

I stand by my words, many times we even talk about trends in dating, like West Elm Caleb or increasing amount of incels. But we're a unique couple.

Bikerbats · 2023-02-11T00:41:09+00:00

My wife reads the sub with me often. Surprisingly enough, she's much more tolerant about a lot of the things that really get under my skin, especially the comments about inexperienced women, single mothers, et al.

When the experience thing comes up, she tells me that I can't judge, because I've never been in the position of the guys who weren't romantically active in their teens. I call bullshit and move on.

When we read the bits about the single mothers, she's quick to explain that "they" don't mean women like her, who were fully self-supporting with childre. Also points out that I didn't marry a single mother until I'd been married and divorced myself. Again, I call bullshit, and move on.

Moral of the story: It's true, women are usually much nicer than men.

Edit: She's obviously not reading with me now.

2023-02-10T23:00:31+00:00

I’d never even consider being friends with a redditor, let alone dating them

AceArguments · 2023-02-10T22:55:36+00:00

I'd personally be very okay if my potential girlfriend/boyfriend dumped me over a post I made recently online. If it was like a year ago, we'll talk and see if I have the same opinion but if it's within a year. Yea...dump dump

Kaminaxgurren · 2023-02-10T23:00:56+00:00

Well I have a lot of female friends, so maybe any of them count as potentials? Unless I am asked directly, I don't ever talk about relationships or any adjacent topic with anyone, and do a very good job ( I think) of hiding the way I really feel. As such, I imagine they would all be quite shocked, and probably even feel hurt, so the hiding will continue

Barely-moral · 2023-02-11T01:48:12+00:00

Miss moral already knows about this. She finds it odd that I spend time talking to weirdos on the internet.

The actual phrase does not translate in tone. The term "weirdo" is what comes closer to the phrasing she uses. It is way less agressive in Spanish.

I doubt she would have cared about it if I was here before we started dating. She was aware I did way worse than posting shit on the internet before dating me. She knew I hired a PI to find out everything about her I couldn't get to know on my own.

SlyStocks · 2023-02-10T23:40:51+00:00

Would be great. Most exes knew my phone passcode. I don‘t keep secrets. I they break contact because I like Andrew Tate, so be it. Happened before, might happen again.

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Green-Quantity1032 · 2023-02-10T23:33:30+00:00

I don't know how they'd react cuz I don't have a girlfriend.

Different girls would react differently.

I'm more callous online, that's for sure, but my overall my opinions are known.

Sometimes I talk about insecurities that maybe I wouldn't want an so to know of, but other than that I'd just be pissed they invaded my privacy.

Mysterious-Cod8194 · 2023-02-11T00:15:21+00:00

Well.. i hope you enjoyed whatever that you read asshole LOL

King-SAMO · 2023-02-11T00:55:17+00:00

That’s not me.

Comfortable-Regret · 2023-02-11T01:09:32+00:00

My partner and I actually met on reddit, so I don't think she'd have much of a reaction

abaxeron · 2023-02-11T01:22:51+00:00

Reads all the time, and we both have a great laugh basically every evening.

Which is cute considering how many people who sound like Tumblr-bred 14 yo political lesbians call me mizogonist and inkel who no woman ever will touch.

DryOutcome3407 · 2023-02-11T01:44:37+00:00

Couldn't care less even if I tried.

LetSuitable5665 · 2023-02-11T01:45:52+00:00

If they’re given enough time to get to know me, they wouldn’t be surprised.

purplish_possum · 2023-02-11T01:46:38+00:00

My GF reads almost all of my posts.

I don't say anything here I wouldn't say IRL.

LMS_THEORY_ · 2023-02-11T02:40:38+00:00

LoL if we weren't incels we wouldn't be here

gate18 · 2023-02-11T02:54:38+00:00

How would they react and how would you react ?

Technically I don't know but I hope they would agree with my views. If the completely disagree, or if they agree with the people I disagreed with here, I doubt we'd make it far in our relationship.

If they asked you beforehand, what would be your answer ?

Ask me what? Whether I participated here?

I would reply that I am fascinated by the way people in this sub think and that I really like writing, so whenever I have a bit of time, I just scroll through the threads and add comments where I feel like it.

The worst this is when I get replies! :) that takes up a lot of time. I, for one, know that if someone replies by disagreeing with me, the conversation will end just the way it starts - by agreeing to disagree, yet it goes on for days, and it's always boring

But yes, any gf that wouldn't agree with the views I express here would be better off finding someone else - or I would be better off with someone else.

PM_ME_ZED_BARA · 2023-02-11T02:58:37+00:00

My boyfriend knows that I post on here and see my comments. He said that I was wasting my time here, and he thought this sub was stupid.

neetykeeno · 2023-02-11T03:15:36+00:00

To quote Iggy Azalea...sloppy drunk but I'd do it sober.

_revelationary · 2023-02-11T03:17:00+00:00

My husband gets annoyed with me for posting here. He dislikes that I’m on my phone so much in the evenings. But we talk about this stuff a lot and are very much on the same bluish purple page.

LoganCaleSalad · 2023-02-11T03:21:59+00:00

They have, but I'm mostly a lurker too & what I say here isn't any different than what I've said to them any number of times. The freedom that comes from being 100% transparent with your SO can't be measured, it's bloody damn refreshing.

ElSnoob · 2023-02-11T03:36:17+00:00

I would be unashamed if a potential gf saw what I have typed here.

MistyMaisel · 2023-02-11T03:59:46+00:00

Pretty much what Lady of the Grey said. We've bickered before about our different takes on the dating process for men and women. Mostly, the more we do, the more he tends to agree with me about men kind of treating women badly in ways they later regret.

MiddleZealousideal89 · 2023-02-11T04:10:32+00:00

My husband knows I post here, I share some threads with him if I think they're entertaining enough.

bootyhunter69420 · 2023-02-11T04:29:11+00:00

Nothing worth getting upset over.

PonderingPeaches · 2023-02-11T05:06:07+00:00

I hold the same views irl. I often include my husband’s opinion in my replies. I’m sure he’s tired of giving his opinion on the dumb takes in here, but I like to argue

slazengerx · 2023-02-11T05:10:02+00:00

No problem at all. I'm not anonymous. I post as if it will be on the nightly news with my name attached.

Treacle-Flimsy · 2023-02-11T05:40:31+00:00

I'd say to her "I like to pretend I'm retarded"

snsjsthrowj · 2023-02-11T06:16:14+00:00

I honestly think she wouldn't give a damn. We're both adults so if she was offended, we can hash it out and keep going

roger61962 · 2023-02-11T08:04:21+00:00

I only post what every one can read and what i would say personally to every one.

So - let'em read

bostonboomer39 · 2023-02-11T08:39:51+00:00

No way id let my gf or anyone i know see my reddit account at all.

SwimmingTheme3736 · 2023-02-11T10:04:08+00:00

My husband reads my answers

angypanda123 · 2023-02-11T10:25:34+00:00

My bf agrees with almost all my opinions regarding sex & gender. If he saw my comments I'd be embarrassed af but he'd prolly just find it amusing. He's not a redditor or interested in politics.

DeliciousAd1214 · 2023-02-11T10:32:16+00:00

Eee this happened to me, not because of this sub but: had to delete my previous acc. Exgf was also using reddit. Ngl I had comments on... places which I am not proud of, before we got together, after that I obviuosly stopped visiting such subs. She was reading all my comments and posts. It was weird and I had a fear that she would use my history against me. Then we broke up and I came back here with a new profile. But this time I try to not leave anything risky here.

FineDevelopment00 · 2023-02-11T11:59:18+00:00

OP, I wonder the exact same thing every time I read certain opinions in here.

As for me my husband already knows about my Reddit account, I even willingly share stuff from here with him occasionally, and there's nothing I say here I wouldn't say to his face nor is there any controversial opinion I otherwise hold which could ruin anything for him. But I don't think I'm the type of person you're addressing.

Aiizimor · 2023-02-11T12:54:32+00:00

My ex presented this sub to me

No-Rough-7390 · 2023-02-11T13:43:26+00:00

My girl knows my thoughts on this stuff. She doesn’t like most of it, but also knows what works doesn’t always sound good.

PrettyBeautiful7030 · 2023-02-11T17:47:15+00:00

It's happened to me a couple of times, on here and another forum. It helped me express my feelings, not sure how the other party was affected. I definitely was not expecting them to be on reddit. But i guess anyone who's a little introverted in real life is probably on reddit. Funny part is that we never spoke to each other in person and never will.

melody_of_ · 2023-02-11T21:47:01+00:00

Pretty sure I couldn't recover from that lmao. I get salty and vent a lot about the power dynamics between men and women.

All the better no one knows. Im not squandering my social capital just so people can reject me over my internal frustrations

Loveenglishpeople · 2023-02-12T01:59:56+00:00

He doesn’t speak the language. So no risk :p

Willow-girl · 2023-02-12T02:21:02+00:00

My man reads some of my posts from time to time and usually trolls me, lol.

Drive-By-Cuckers · 2023-02-14T21:03:55+00:00

My girlfriend and I are both here but neither of us know each other’s Reddit name

Title	How would you react if your (potential) girlfriend/boyfriend saw your posts and comments on this sub ?
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Date	February 10, 2023 10:20 PM UTC (3 years ago)
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