It's interesting to me how when we're young, men and women seem to have about the same interest in sex and relationships, at least in my experience (19f), but as people get older there's this narrative that men have to work harder and provide more tangible value outside of themselves to "get" women and honestly I believe this is their own fault. Men have basically decided on their own to name women the gatekeepers of sex, a role NO ONE asked for, and are now surprised a big portion of them can't have sex with women? 😭 This whole narrative of like sex being impressive for men but not girls because "it's easy for us" makes zero sense for this reason, you can't spend decades shaming women for being horny then act shocked when they don't want to sleep with you. This also ties into pickup culture where men view every sexual experience with a woman as conquest to flex to other males (homo btw), they don't realize they're degrading themselves in the process and pedastalizing women which just makes everyone more miserable.

(This is most likely the cause of "dead bedrooms" as well, straight men seek out reserved, borderline asexual women then magically expect them to become enthusiastically sexual beings after marriage?, doesn't work that way.)

I honestly do believe a lot of men genuinely hate themselves or view their own bodies as dirty in some way because I don't understand their logic. Do they want us to be easier or not? A lot of men seem to want every woman to magically be a mega slut for them but chaste and difficult for every other guy. The reason why only the most attractive men are able to participate in hookup culture (this is not even really true but I'll entertain it) is because women are taught they have to have the self restraint of a nun and and resist advances or risk being labeled a whore. Its only worth it in that case if the man is a 10/10. If female sexuality wasn't so repressed more mid guys would have a chance that's just the truth. Mid lesbians and gay men aren't having these issues.

My authority on this matter comes from being a conventionally attractive bisexual who has only had relations w other women thus far. It's not difficult, women are very similar to men if you allow them to be, ask any wlw in a major city what the dating scene is like. Men have caused their own problems by painting hetero sex as degrading for women, and that's why women have their guards up around you. That's why personally I haven't been able to date men even though I do find them physically very attractive. Even though girls have a bit higher standards (they expect you to be good at everything), they're generally very fun and relaxed and I don't have to stress about them viewing me as a trophy or lying about whst they want. The predatory hierarchy and mind games straight men play would turn any sane human being off.

At the end of the day no woman can hate men as much as yall already hate yourselves 😹, learn self respect, start viewing women as human beings, stop being so desperate and weird, and all your problems will be solved.

Edit: Almost everyone replying to this post lacks reading comprehension skills, please don't restate exactly what I'm arguing back to me 😭 .

2nd Edit: Please for the love of God actually read the post in it's entirety before you bother commenting anything holy shit. Redundancy.