Onlyfans proves male hypergamy.

SexCrispies · 2025-07-30T18:11:36+00:00

Hypergamy (colloquially referred to as "dating up" or "marrying up"^\1])) is a term used in social science for the act or practice of a person dating or marrying a spouse of higher social status than themselves. - wiki

What you are talking about is not hypergamy.

USPSHoudini · 2025-07-30T18:38:59+00:00

Onlyfans isnt a harem lmao its the exact opposite, the person DM'ing you is a dude in Bangladesh

tres_ecstuffuan · 2025-07-30T18:43:43+00:00

What percentage of American men attend strip clubs or have an only fans subscription?

Neither of these things are appealing to me, as a traditionally masculine man and I’d much prefer a relationship with a woman in my “league”

Istoleyourboobs · 2025-07-30T18:51:22+00:00

I just want to find love 😭

ColbyXXXX · 2025-07-30T22:41:49+00:00

No it does not. There are women in the top 1% that are admittedly fat and unattractive and men still fawn over them.

Alternative-Dream-61 · 2025-07-30T18:05:16+00:00

OF is cheating. A parasocial relationship with an influencer you pay to see naked and form an emotional attachment to? Yea, it's cheating.

I feel like this was intended as a troll to make fun of red pill bros and their hypergamy shit, but yea, you aren't wrong. The majority of men lust after a minority of women.

DumbWordsmith · 2025-07-30T18:16:17+00:00

Aren't there obese women on the site making millions?

wtknight · 2025-07-30T22:43:59+00:00

Average men would do the same thing if some mid woman wanted to have sex with them for free like Bonnie Blue offered. And they would use OnlyFans if it were only full of mid women, too.

Neither of these things prove male hypergamy at all. They prove male optimization of their opportunities - men want to be involved with the best women possible, but they will settle for less, unlike women. Furthermore, when it comes to actual relationships, men often prefer women who are inferior to them (hypogamy) in things like intelligence or employment, especially in more traditional cultures.

Refrigeratormarathon · 2025-07-30T19:21:36+00:00

It’s really satisfying to see the female hypergamy thing flipped 😂

DrankTooMuchMead · 2025-07-30T19:11:42+00:00

Many young men and women don't feel like they will ever obtain a relationship. So they turn to Only fans and strip clubs. My Reddit feed had this post surrounded by posts like this.

addings0 · 2025-07-30T23:02:18+00:00

Women don't want men other women don't want. All women will pursue the exact same 1 guy. Just because men lower their standards, doesn't mean women will respect them for it. She's not going to like him more for wearing a pink shirt. Women want men with social dominance and high value. Women simply don't like being on the receiving end, where one woman gets all the attention from men ( be careful what you wish for ) .

PapaDragonHH · 2025-07-31T09:32:04+00:00

Lol this post is either ragebait or top level ignorance.

Dating app data have shown its the exact opposite.

80% of Women go for the top 10% of men. All the other men are basically invisible to them. This leads to a few men having an abundance of women to choose from and never having the need to commit while the women fail to secure a long term relationship.

And here comes the thing you got wrong: it's not the male standards that are the problem... it's the female ones... instead of lowering their ridiculously high standards they rather accept being one of many and share the high value man with other women.

And the reason for this is a false self perception due to massiv validation showering via social media. Every average girl thinks she is a 10 and therefore only goes for a 10 when searching for a man.

Obviously not everybody but 99%...

DietTyrone · 2025-07-30T18:16:29+00:00

onlyfans, Bonnie Blue petting zoo, strip clubs, etc, proves that men would rather form soft harems around highly attractive women and spend all their money on them than date within their league.

This assumes these men have a line of average women just waiting on the sidelines to date them. It ever occur to you that men are using these outlets mainly because they aren't getting regular dates or getting their needs met? Women on this sub suffer severe solipsism.

Men would rather share this small percentage of women than lower their standards.

I'm sure they would rather all the average women they ask out say yes and never face repeated rejection or go through long sexless dry spells.

The flaw in your premise is that it assumes guys always have options available to them and are choosing OF over these women eager to date them. It doesn't seem to at all account for the possibility that maybe the average women, average Joe asked out turned him down so he fell back on OF or strip clubs to relieve his sexual frustration.

Even if a man does settle down with an average woman, it's usually just to lock down a permanent roomate who pays half the bills while he blows their savings on 18 yo onlyfans girls

Oddly specific. If you're in a relationship where you feel you're putting in significantly more than your partner, you're free to leave.

ThatBitchA · 2025-07-30T18:23:06+00:00

I don't think it proves hypergamy.

I think it proves that some men lack standards and some men are so desperate for female attention that they will pay for it.

Often, those circles overlap.

I wouldn't consider sex workers to be the top of the line status wise. And I definitely wouldn't consider sex workers to be top of the line attractive wise either.

brokenglitterhearts · 2025-07-30T18:00:41+00:00

Now that you know the males nature never get married if you’re a woman. Cat lady 4 life. 🐈‍⬛❤️

Artistic_Speech_1965 · 2025-07-30T20:46:52+00:00

Interesting approach but I will give you a male perspective. Wanting to fuck someone is different than wanting to marry them as well as wanting to eat in a restaurant than wanting to befriend the owner

AmphoePai · 2025-07-30T18:16:23+00:00

Yes, beta men are like that.

SeemedGood · 2025-07-30T20:20:42+00:00

Seems like you don’t understand the meaning of the word hypergamy.

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Hypergamy

Rfupon · 2025-07-30T20:51:30+00:00

Male hypergamy being real would make "The Wall" also real. But since you blue pillers insist so much that it's not a thing, how can males be hypergamous? Those are 2 incompatible beliefs

ArchonMacaron · 2025-07-30T21:54:29+00:00

I hope the guys on here will ignore the drivel about needing to lower their standards. OP doesn't even have a working definition of hypergamy for one and if online dating has thought us anything it's that men are too indiscriminate when selecting partners.

Then there's this entire fan fiction about how dudes paying for pixels on a screen is a soft harem lmfao, if that's the case is the dude running the porno store Hugh Hefner? Lol

And the next thing they whine about is "what if he settles for someone average but if given the opportunity leaves his partner for a prettier woman." Okay, And?? No women have dumped their husbands or bfs before to partner with more attractive or richer men right? It also ignores that most of those dudes will never have the game or opportunity to pull an OF model via her DMs and that men in relationships also carry the same risk of being replaced.

Temptation and lust aren't specific to gender, some of y'all really need to let this marinate in your heads.

midnight_blue77 · 2025-07-31T06:22:19+00:00

Look up what hypergamy means.

Simping is not Hypergamy.

No-Kick6671 · 2025-07-31T22:07:02+00:00

Love how the men are literally all proving your point while simultaneously claiming it "doesn't count as hypergamy"

yomel123 · 2025-07-30T22:03:56+00:00

This is soo true!!!

loopyawesome · 2025-07-31T01:06:34+00:00

In a day and age where you have to prove a point so you can make money in a surface level relationship, most of these men only go through the trouble of these women to increase their own image and reputation as being successful, so they can climb the corporate ladder or at minimum not fall down through the floor.

nonquitt · 2025-07-30T23:06:53+00:00

Lol this is a pretty decent argument against the brain dead 80/20 stuff. The #1 argument against all that is just the basic fact that it’s much more like top 30% of women are into the top 20-30% of men and no one deeply cares what the bottom 70% of either gender do

Kreeps_United · 2025-07-30T20:29:15+00:00

Men would rather share this small percentage of women than lower their standards.

Lower their standards for what? They're not marrying OF models.

kvakerok_v2 · 2025-07-30T23:57:29+00:00

Women soft harem because they hope to pussy trap a Chad.

Men simp for strippers and OF hoes because they (these men) are losers who will never experience anything resembling love of a desirable woman ever in any other way.

If you fail to recognize the difference, you need to reflect upon your experiences.

Environmental_Day558 · 2025-07-30T18:03:26+00:00

No it just means men are attracted to attractive women and some men cheat (mistresses, side chicks, etc.) If men were leaving their wives to marry OF models then you'd have a point.

Knight-Bishop · 2025-07-30T19:47:37+00:00

Nah— you drew the wrong conclusion, OP.

The real conclusion is that American women are so fat, so low quality, so unfeminine that they are unworthy of dating.

How about we compare American women to women from other parts of the world?

How about dem apples 🍎?

“Even if a man does settle down with an OBJECTIVELY BELOW AVERAGE WOMAN”…..nah you/y’all are objectively below average.

I don’t like White racism. But this viral ad of this hot young white girl isn’t racist.

This is real beauty on display. 95% of you women in here don’t measure up to her.

https://youtu.be/Nn0PY818YRs?si=vXll6yYg6zouPnlg

WeenGhost · 2025-07-30T20:20:36+00:00

8% of women are heterosexual, not overweight, mentally sound and of childbearing prime years?

And this is somehow men’s fault?

You see here the constant gaslighting men go through in our society…..everything is men’s fault, even when their options are SHIT as you just confirmed.

Gold_Sheepherder6569 · 2025-07-30T18:42:56+00:00

Almost 100% of men would prefer to date and marry women in their league than pay for OF, the reason why men pay for OF or just watch porn in general is because they either aren't getting any sex or they have a higher sex drive than their partners and have less sex than they would want. There is no man in the world choosing porn over IRL sex and women, it is women's standards that force some men to watch porn and not be in a relationship(women have every right to these standards btw)

Combatenjoyer23 · 2025-07-30T18:34:29+00:00

Uhhh only 8%? Sounds like women gotta step it up. Periodt 💅💅💅

Ceazer4L · 2025-07-30T21:19:07+00:00

RIP them at their own game I say.

Livid-Log7463 · 2025-07-31T07:16:51+00:00

These things are a symptom of the increasing difficulty and exclusion of men from being able to partner not the other way around, men are the only ones open to dating down or even capable of attraction to anywhere but up.

KhadgarIsaDreadlord · 2025-07-31T09:16:56+00:00

Ngl if OF proves anything, it's that a lot more women are open to prostituting themselves than what's comfortable to admit. The deal just has to sound favorable enough. Even if the reality is that it's a net loss to most sellers.

Another thing it proves is that prostitution is not a product of desparation, it's something women will choose to perform despite the availability of alternatives. If you have the means to keep an OF going, you also have the means to train yourself do other online work.

It also disproves is the stereotype that it's always men poaching "new talent". The loadest voices that urge minors to open up a profile the moment they turn 18 are women who are sellers themselves.

Another thing that's interesting is that despite OF's main pull being that sellers can work independently, they created a demand for E-pimps (or OF managers). Which shed a new light on the dynamic.

There are a lot of hard to swallow pills in the OF rabbit hole, the things I mentioned only scrape the surface. My point is that if we go into what OF proves about who, it's not gonna end favorably for women.

Proper_Frosting_6693 · 2025-07-30T19:53:21+00:00

Bonnie Blue is below average! You prove nothing there.

Only Fans is for SIMPS, losers, low value men!

Men don’t share unless they’re cucks, only women do!

Hoopy223 · 2025-07-30T20:44:52+00:00

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Nabbzi · 2025-07-30T18:44:01+00:00

dont understand how guys paying for this

Training_Ad_8023 · 2025-07-30T20:54:40+00:00

So .... AMALT?

preferablyno · 2025-07-31T00:01:30+00:00

I’m not super familiar with this phenomenon but do the men typically attach themselves to one specific girl

Lift_and_Lurk · 2025-07-30T18:12:47+00:00

Men like too look at naked women. Or scantily clad women.

It’s not really complicated.

Also it doesn’t end at 25. Plenty of 26-36 and even higher are getting attention if they want to

xxTheMagicBulleT · 2025-07-30T19:51:38+00:00

All it means that men are touched and attention starved.

In both platonic and sexual sense.

That they willing to spend a lot of money for it.

The only reason women can get away with expecting men to pay for all the dates and women can get to be millionaires by getting in to spicy content.

Cause the opposite of to much attention that women suffer from in the past. Is no attention at all in both platonic and sexual sense. Also why men are more likely to be creepy cause there more inexperienced. Cause it requires practice to get good at like any skill. And especially now a days any attempt can become a reason to chastise a dude. So those men don't get shoots or can't improve from there mistakes so you have more creepy and weird guys.

But the equalizer is options when men got a lot of options they act just like women. Hold back and over way there opinions and play the field. And hold back on inventing in any big sense. So yea. I geass access to options proves hypergamy on both sides yea. When there needs are meet.

So your half right.

Outside_Memory5703 · 2025-07-30T22:55:10+00:00

It proves male polygamy

WVVVWVWVVVVWVWVVVVVW · 2025-07-31T00:14:23+00:00

Disagree. Those places may offer eye candy but I wouldn't let those women within 50 miles of my family. Imagine dragging those skets to your mother for afternoon tea and saying she's the one lmfaoooooo.

Reasonable_Mouse789 · 2025-07-30T19:53:26+00:00

This is why you need to hold frame. You’ll be called a femcel if you bring up male hypergamy. Just deny, deflect, get that dick, and move on to the next plate.

Vlad_The_Great_2 · 2025-07-30T21:04:10+00:00

You’re using the term hypergamy wrong. Hypergamy is about dating and marriage. You’re also using the terms harem wrong. believe most men would probably have sex with an onlyfans model, but most would not date or marry one. You’re also conflating porn watching habits with dating/marriage habits.

LordCheeseOnToast · 2025-07-30T18:39:06+00:00

Oh dear. More femcel content outbreaking on my feed.

UnpredictableDemise8 · 2025-07-30T19:44:36+00:00

Boring ragebait

Ultramega39 · 2025-07-30T20:31:32+00:00

You're mad that men aren't lowering their standards?

Most people (including me) here think that men generally set their standards too low.

psymeariver · 2025-07-30T23:54:33+00:00

username checks out

No-Breath6663 · 2025-08-01T05:27:05+00:00

95% of the men who sub to an only fans woman would never date or marry them. They see them as sex objects, which they are

Furthermore, they cannot date "up" to an only fans ho, because these women are lower on the social status ladder than most men.

Hubris1998 · 2025-08-02T13:23:27+00:00

OP has no idea what she's talking about. Not only is her argument incoherent, but she doesn't even know what the word hypergamy means

Designer-Pen-7332 · 2025-07-30T18:14:22+00:00

Nope, completely wrong conclusion

Training-Cook3507 · 2025-07-30T18:31:11+00:00

This stuff is a fantasy, it's not real life. You propose it like it's some kind of either/or situation. I am sure most guys who look at Onlyfans would love to date a person in real life.

Zabadoodude · 2025-07-30T19:32:57+00:00

Hypergamy is getting romanticly invilved with someone of a higher social status. It does not mean wanting to bang hot people. Everyone does that.

A woman wanting to hookup with a 6'4 ripped guy with no job is not hypergamy. A man wanting a hot 20 year old with a thin waist, and a fat ass and titties is not hypergamy either.

Also, most men arent on only fans or hiring prostitutes. But, ya, just like women they prefer hotter people.

HOLYREGIME · 2025-07-30T18:24:03+00:00

Define hypergamy so we can all use the same definition.

In your example, none of these men are dating or pairing off with onlyfans women or strippers so it doesn’t fit the definition imo, but provide yours.

For the “are we dating the same men”, Tea app users, they are indeed dating the same as those men are likely “better” than they are.

OMWSpuds · 2025-07-30T21:46:08+00:00

This just in, people consuming sex-based media and pornographic materials prefer the hottest people possible.

YeaNobody · 2025-07-31T00:20:40+00:00

I don't see the appeal of OF...I can see comparable women on the hub without a sub cost. If I need them to speak to me....AI is actually not too shabby for that and is easier to curate my desires then a real life person.

GrouchNslouch777 · 2025-07-30T18:06:11+00:00

Except most male OF subs are married.

And they don't spend much per person.

Its like saying them going to the zoo and tossing crackers at an animal for it to perform for them = them orbiting.

Diligent_Bear_4619 · 2025-07-30T18:25:03+00:00

youre really overthinking it

everyone knows men want sexual variety and have high sex drives

society and religion just usually try to control these things

thats it

goodguy-dave · 2025-07-30T19:24:23+00:00

OP is a whole new kind of delulu.

anonymousppd123123 · 2025-07-30T23:58:07+00:00

Men wanting healthy weight women proves they're not mentally ill

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