In today’s society, it is often expected — almost 90% of the time — that it’s the man’s “job” to make the woman orgasm, and not the other way around. Men are generally more likely to orgasm easily, since they are the ones performing the penetration and the physical actions, while women are typically seen as the ones who “receive” and are meant to be pleasured. But why is this so normalized? It feels unfair — how can it be the man’s responsibility to achieve something when he often has no clear idea if his partner is even enjoying it? Many women fake orgasms to make the man feel better, only to later tell their friends he “didn’t do it well” and even shame him for it. Why is this dynamic so common, and why have we accepted it as normal?