Our generation's complete and total dependence on emotion based decision making early in the courtship process is killing good potential relationships from forming.

our generation depends depends SO much on emotional based signals for mate selection, often very early in the courtship process.

Good Examples

• "the VIBE just was not there from the get go"
• "I didn't feel that big SPARK"

This devolves into even worse examples - where men/women IGNORE potential high quality mates and ACCEPT poor quality mates solely based on these emotional triggers

• "well he/she has everything I want in a partner - but I just dont...FEEL it"
• "There were red flags and he/she isn't everything I want, but I just have such a VIBE and CONNECTION with them, and intense CHEMISTRY"

Look, you need a little pizazz to want to start a relationships, but we RELY on it SO MUCH as a must have both in frequency and magnitude, and with our increased access to options, we pick the person that elicits these feelings the GREATEST.

This results in gamification of the sexual marketplace - where especially men realize they must elicit these strong emotions in order to hook a women - and focus on that rather than connecting with the other person. the evidence is in the rising youtube stars and dating advice - casey zander, todd V, even corey wayne, amongst others - where the primary emphasis is on harnessing emotional states and factors that are proven for relationship success are ignored.

the NATURAL process for courtship is slower, building, and more comfortable. Ever meet someone in a friend group - not think much of them at first, but gradually you notice little things, that build and build over time. this combined with getting to know the person creates a sense of comfort as well and vested interest - which naturally turn into a relationships. often times, if you had met this SAME person via social media drugged dating, you would of not had those big emotional signals and would of dismissed them to lack of spark, vibe, etc etc.

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