Imagine celebrating men for doing the bare minimum!

misandryismadeup · 2021-11-25T15:30:17+00:00

Wow! What’s next? “My boyfriend has never beaten me and I have never felt more in love with him in my life”

MajesticSkyPachyderm · 2021-11-25T18:20:09+00:00

This boils down to "yay, my bf didn't r@pe me", which is really sad and once again confirms that the bar is so low it looks like a minuscule dot from where we stand.

lvoncreek · 2021-11-25T18:29:19+00:00

My boyfriend can last a day without abusing me. Boyfriend of the year!!!

Maingurl · 2021-11-25T16:19:57+00:00

Why do these people need a safe word? Can't they just use the word stop!?

Lost_Kale90 · 2021-11-25T19:34:36+00:00

She’s in love with a man because he didn’t r*pe her… the bar is in hell.

alphinaudsboots · 2021-11-25T15:13:50+00:00

my boyfriend didn’t rape me! I love him!

Also like…the fact that she feels the need to post this as a special event very heavily implies that he hasn’t respected that safe word in the past.

arnezuara · 2021-11-25T15:54:13+00:00

“My boyfriend breathes. I’m so lucky!”

Jandi18 · 2021-11-25T15:22:17+00:00

Thé bar is in hell…the devil rejected it and buried it

kaleidoscope471 · 2021-11-25T16:48:00+00:00

If I need a safe word with someone I am out the door.

Tripdowire · 2021-11-25T15:56:36+00:00

"We were using handcuffs and the cuffs were too tight. Usually I can take the pain but I didn't want bruises as we had an event to go to the next day and in general I don't enjoy the pain of cuffs that are too tight. He knows this but sometimes he ends up tightening them a click or two over my limit. (We don't count the clicks but maybe we should)? Anyway, I was scared to say anything because I didn't want to upset him"

I mean, this is just really sad. Man frequently handcuffs her too tightly. Normally she puts up with it even though she doesn't like it because she's too scared to say anything. Great idea to be doing bandage with a man you don't trust by the way!

researchingeverythin · 2021-11-25T16:25:06+00:00

My boyfriend puts the toilet seat down, I guess you can say, he's the one! 🥴🥴🥴

rlcute · 2021-11-25T15:46:02+00:00

"My boyfriend didn't rape me, what a catch"

PixelNocturne · 2021-11-25T16:30:35+00:00

I can't stand this specific Reddit type of pickmeism. I mean you know how those porn sick gamers who have erectile dysfunction in their 20s rushed to Upvote, Guild buttons

_xyoungbellax_ · 2021-11-25T15:15:35+00:00

Probably because, this is the first time he has ever respected her. I can't quite understand how someone can wait that long for their partner to "respect" them, so that they can love them more. It's idiotic to me.

Edit: A commenter even asked her to marry her partner. I swear I'm this close to losing my shit after seeing all the pickmeness.

Equal-Ear2312 · 2021-11-25T20:05:00+00:00

hurt and rescue...

BDSM is hurt + safe word is rescue = big fat trauma bonding baby

congrats! you just got trauma bonded to your scrote of a boyfriend!

to_learn_to_fly · 2021-11-25T18:19:16+00:00

Abusive NVM make it so easy for regular LVM to look like a godsend... :(

AnniaT · 2021-11-25T18:50:01+00:00

That the bar is in hell as expressed in this post is already worrying, but that women feel the need of performing sexual acts that need safe words is also disturbing on its own.

preppykat3 · 2021-11-25T19:45:36+00:00

The future is looking bleak

RaspberryJuiceBox · 2021-11-25T16:13:39+00:00

That’s really really sad. “He stopped sexually battering me when I said stop.” He shouldn’t have been doing what he was doing in the first place. The existence of “safe words” proves it’s abuse.

riseaboveagain · 2021-11-25T16:18:24+00:00

Having the type of sex that requires “safe words”? Oh hell no!!!

bleda_princezna · 2021-11-25T16:32:23+00:00

And what were they doing that she needed the safe word in the first place? She's soooo lucky...

cutiebranch · 2021-11-25T22:26:57+00:00

“My boyfriend didn’t rape me, he is such a saint!” Barf

CorruptSoulGem · 2021-11-26T06:01:50+00:00

🚩: engaging in the kind of sex have to use a SafeWord for.

🚩 🚩: Getting to the point where using your safe word is necessary

🚩 🚩 🚩: Being grateful to your boyfriend of 2 years for not raping you.

Itsknowntohappen · 2021-11-25T15:05:31+00:00

It’s a sad world when you need a "safe word” with your partner 💔

BetaNatalis · 2021-11-25T17:43:58+00:00

I feel so sad that women allow themselves to be degraded to such a degree that they need a damn safe word for sex. …..and then she is not only *thankful* that the sex contract was merely not ignored during sexual activity, but she’s GUSHING about what a decent man she thinks she has because he didn’t keep inflicting pain on her after she said a word indicating she couldn’t take anymore pain any longer beyond what she had already endured from him. ….What a dreamboat. 🙄🙄🙄

thowawaywookie · 2021-11-25T20:58:28+00:00

Any scrote try any of that sick shit will feel my safe word right in the ribs or nads.

xfelugirlx · 2021-11-25T22:53:21+00:00

Wow this is sad. It’s like this girl that said “but he didn’t beat me” well he is an asshole and left you with the kids but yeah let’s celebrate

LetsGetin_Formation · 2021-11-26T00:36:30+00:00

It’s all the awards that makes my skin crawl.

senselessdrone · 2021-11-25T16:57:59+00:00

This is how I got trapped with a literal psychopath (like literally he may have killed someone and did try to kill me) when I was 20-22. I was raped by my 25 year old boyfriend on my 19th birthday and remained celibate until deciding to have sex with said psychopath a year later, stupidly thinking that if I went for a stoner science nerd "beta" or lower that they would treat me with more respect than the French native soon-to-be corporate finance bro I had dated previously. Science nerd psycho tried pushing boundaries with me the first time we hooked up, but didn't protest when I said I wasn't ready. I was immediately smitten enough to ignore all of the MASSIVE red flags he threw at me and try to fix him. 🤡

BookwormJane · 2021-11-26T03:54:30+00:00

Look at the amount of awards that post got.

Junior-Lion7893 · 2021-11-26T05:11:44+00:00

Wait wait wait 🛑🛑🛑✋✋✋ hold up…

I’m reading differently.

What I see is that he would continue even when she said their safe word…that would count as rape, because it non-consensual.

In other words, she celebrating or happy that he isn’t raping/assaulting her…

The bar is not in hell…there is no bar.

Sewud · 2021-11-25T20:16:04+00:00

Imagine being so porn sick you need a safe word because saying "stop" won't do it lol.

Unfit_Needleworker · 2021-11-25T16:49:19+00:00

Omg 😳 this should come with a trigger warning.

Bwolffff · 2021-11-25T21:10:56+00:00

So embarrassing 😬😬 and he also called her names when she wouldn’t give him head. Yet the commenters are basically saying “you need to keep this guy :) he’s a catch”

ShieldMaidenLagertha · 2021-11-25T18:03:48+00:00

Pathetic.

TriniGold · 2021-11-26T03:18:35+00:00

throwaway-fds · 2021-11-26T12:28:45+00:00

Ok and? My boyfriend doesn't even need a safe word, he just reads my fucking body language/face like a normal human being. Where's his cookie for doing that? Un fucking believable.

t3ddi · 2021-11-27T18:25:23+00:00

If you need a safe word, it probably ain't safe.

s_slayer · 2021-11-26T17:32:12+00:00

What did he do to trigger the safe word? Try aggressively to stick it in her butt then was secretly mad she said safe word so stopped all sexual contact? This sounds so wrong on so many levels. This woman is in for a world of hurt.

aquietsword · 2021-11-27T02:27:26+00:00

This kind of just implies that the kink community is shit at respecting safe words? The literal one thing they all claim should be respected? 🤡

Title	Imagine celebrating men for doing the bare minimum!
Author	eleguagirl
Upvotes	1557
Comments	90
Date	November 25, 2021 3:01 PM UTC (4 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/FemaleDatingStrategy
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