would you be willing to date a woman who did not have sex?

Savierdua · 2022-01-24T06:23:59+00:00

Is she not having sex until commitment or is she not having sex forever? That’s an important distinction. I’d be willing to wait for sex (as I’d expect her to do consistently) and I enjoy romantic relationships, but you can’t achieve a crucial intimate climax of some sort without having sex.

SpacedNuggets · 2022-01-24T09:43:52+00:00

So, a friend? Thats not dating thats friendship

TemperateSloth · 2022-01-24T06:50:19+00:00

The problem with these sorts of questions is it’s always “if she was the perfect girl otherwise forever”. Like sure dude, if she’s gonna be my perfect soulmate forever I’ll fucking disembowel myself for her. She doesn’t have to be a virgin. I’ll still go into the cock cage (maybe that would conflict with being soulmates).

But that’s just not how the real world works. She’s still just an ordinary girl. The only character trait you’ve given us is that she isn’t easy. Sure, I’d be down to wait if I really liked the girl and she had a good reason.

ogsimpology · 2022-01-24T06:58:59+00:00

I am married to one who didn't have sex before me.

If she doesn't wanna have it with me, then no.

Tiny-Pigeonss · 2022-01-24T07:12:41+00:00

The term you may be looking for is asexual. Asexual people can and do have happy romantic relationships.

KirthWGersen · 2022-01-24T06:31:51+00:00

Dating means sex to me. No sex means being a friend, neighbour or family member.

Whisper · 2022-01-24T06:54:31+00:00

This question is far too unclear to be answered.

alialahmad1997 · 2022-01-24T08:02:37+00:00

Will I have sex with her later or never

If later I can wait up to 2 years if never I can't take it

VanVahlen · 2022-01-24T09:17:23+00:00

If I like her sure

Ian_Campbell · 2022-01-24T07:06:19+00:00

Yeah if I could see marrying her I would.

LotBuilder · 2022-01-24T07:26:15+00:00

No. I would not. That’s called being a friend, not dating

theburro22 · 2022-01-24T10:28:13+00:00

That just sounds like a friendship not a relationship.

Mrs_Drgree · 2022-01-24T07:22:18+00:00

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randomperson4179 · 2022-01-24T09:52:49+00:00

That’s like asking me to buy a sports car I’m not allowed to drive. At that point it’s useless if all I can do is look at it. No thanks.

Laytheblameonluck · 2022-01-24T08:46:15+00:00

Yes.

Mrs_Drgree · 2022-01-24T09:21:55+00:00

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SkookumTree · 2022-01-24T10:31:46+00:00

Only if she was a very close friend.

JacobMoogberg69 · 2022-01-24T06:22:30+00:00

Fuck no

Mark_Freed · 2022-01-24T06:22:43+00:00

Sure casual dating seems fine, you mean piv sex right? We could still kiss and make out… does she do oral? I’d be willing to try it out and see if we both enjoy it. Flirting can be fun with an attractive girl.

ThisIsCovidThrowway8 · 2022-01-24T06:42:35+00:00

Why the fuck not? Not everything in a relationship is sexual.

techr0nin · 2022-01-24T07:22:44+00:00

Not willing to have sex ever? Or no sex until committed? Or no sex until marriage?

If it’s no sex ever then it’s kind of like ordering the juiciest and most delicious steak ever but you’re not allowed to eat it. What’s the point?

stereoroid · 2022-01-24T06:24:00+00:00

No, since that would be unhealthy. Sex is part of healthy adult relationships and fear of it would be an indicator of psychological problems. (I know the OP didn’t say “fear”, but why else would you just “not have sex”?)

Mrs_Drgree · 2022-01-24T06:31:59+00:00

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throwinout · 2022-01-24T06:54:33+00:00

I'd be okay with it.

pikecat · 2022-01-24T06:24:12+00:00

Well no, but also:

don’t worry about whether or not she’s having sex with other men

Just because she hasn't doesn't mean she won't

Would you be willing to date her

What does that even mean in this context? So not spending money on her, not fucking anyone else, does she care if I fuck other girls?

DizzyReplacement44 · 2022-01-24T06:57:06+00:00

That's a complete deal-breaker.

I would never date a woman who didn't engage in sex.

It doesn't matter what else she brings to the table. She could be otherwise perfect, but no sex = no dating.

nick1812216 · 2022-01-24T07:53:16+00:00

No

We must do the sex.

Over_North8884 · 2022-01-24T06:31:47+00:00

Nope, there's no other way she demonstrates seriousness.

bubble_gummmmm · 2022-01-24T06:53:39+00:00

what is the point? fuck no

Harambe-2036 · 2022-01-24T07:38:54+00:00

How can you have a romantic relationship without sex?

A sexless romantic relationship is just a friendship.

AreOut · 2022-01-24T08:00:32+00:00

if she is OK with romantic relationship where we don't kiss and hug each other then yeah why not, let's both sacrifice for the sake of sacred romance

Mrs_Drgree · 2022-01-24T08:05:38+00:00

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Sleight_Hotne · 2022-01-24T08:54:21+00:00

So, a roommate with extra steps

-passepar2t- · 2022-01-24T11:30:25+00:00

Of course not. First of all, I don't date virgins and second of all, a woman needs to have and enjoy sex with me for me to want to be in a relationship.

MP8877 · 2022-01-24T07:20:35+00:00

Nope. Not compatible. Not really interested in the justification. Not going to waste her time or mine trying to “game”’her either. Lol

NockerJoe · 2022-01-24T07:04:47+00:00

No. We could be good friends but a romantic relationship without sex is like a car without any gas. Even if all the other parts are there its not gonna go anywhere.

BuddUgly · 2022-01-24T08:24:57+00:00

That's a friendship, bro.

Nah, chief.

ilove2bowcat · 2022-01-24T07:31:11+00:00

no sucky sucky either? will she tug me off ever so often?

if we have chemistry id be willing to wait but if sex isnt possible when things get serious id leave. Also if she has sexual trauma, or shes low libido and frigid then no i wont because im nasty asf and we wont be compatible

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cautionTomorrow555 · 2022-01-24T06:36:29+00:00

Maybe I guess it depends on how our interactions are and how much I have given up at the time I make my decision.

oflbtbs · 2022-01-24T06:48:40+00:00

gmoney92_ · 2022-01-24T07:08:20+00:00

Nope.

drew8311 · 2022-01-24T07:41:53+00:00

Yes but not exclusively

SylvestorTalone · 2022-01-24T07:54:42+00:00

Do I get children out of the deal?

pumpkie-spoon · 2022-01-24T08:15:16+00:00

It sounds like your talking about a Asexual person. Basically this would just come down to if I love them. I mean a relationship type that could work well here is a open relationship, that would probably be the healthiest option for most people.

Square_Inflation_534 · 2022-01-24T08:58:34+00:00

How long is she not planning on having sex for?

MarBitt · 2022-01-24T09:34:53+00:00

If she's asexual, then no. Too much incompatibility. We can be friends, but there's no point in dating.

There is little chance that I would be interested in dating if she made it clear from the beginning that she would not mind if I had sex with other women. But it's better to have a relationship with sex than to have sex outsourced.

MarBitt · 2022-01-24T09:54:34+00:00

The question is asked in an ambiguous and confusing way. It describes a non-stereotypical situation, so it must be clearly defined. It is not clear how individual people understood it and what exactly they respond to.

No sex - before commitment, before marriage or never? Is that woman romantic asexual?

No sex - only PIV sex, or no anal sex, oral sex (give, receive), no handjob, joint masturbation, won't she caress him while he masturbates, will she refuse to satisfy him with erotic toys? It's all sex.

What about erotica and intimacy? Kissing? Cuddling?

fwoketrash · 2022-01-24T10:02:41+00:00

I think you have to clarify if you mean no sex forever or just sex until marriage.

No sex until marriage might be OK, depends on her personality / behavior otherwise, if she's marriage material and worth waiting for.

No sex forever is a hard pass. Not interested.

Lezonidas · 2022-01-24T10:09:18+00:00

No, why would I? If there's no sex involved I already have friends to have fun with. I would only date her if its a temporal thing, I'd wait a few months maybe, but not more

Prismatic_Symphony · 2022-01-24T11:16:54+00:00

You don't say if it's simply no sex until marriage. Assuming it's no sex forever, well, I"d consider it, but it'd have to be an open relationship where I could have sex and children with someone else. People talk about "sexual frustration" and this sounds like exactly that kinda situation, cause being romantic with her would get me going sexually too, without an outlet, and that can really mess someone up eventually.

There are folks like this, where for some physical or mental reason one partner can't/won't have sex, so the other partner is open to do it with others. It works for some. And especially if the lack of sex drive is there, then sexual jealousy may not be there either.

Hurlyburlyy · 2022-01-24T11:35:05+00:00

Sure, I would start dating and see if feelings start to kick in. If feelings are too weak without sex, then its not worth pursuing in the long-term. If feelings don't kick in, just be friends or leave altogether. No time wasted, all fun.

SirTruffleberry · 2022-01-24T11:42:42+00:00

No. This is actually far worse than just being single. Only a truly asexual person would subject themselves to this.

filthyburrows · 2022-01-24T11:52:02+00:00

no i have enough friends

Flowers_For_Algeron · 2022-01-24T11:57:42+00:00

CreamyTHOT · 2022-01-24T12:00:19+00:00

Can I still give blowies

pikecat · 2022-01-24T12:13:58+00:00

Only if marriage was in cards and sex would happen then.

I was faced with that once, a budding relationship that never happened. Mostly because we ended up in separate places. It's conceivable that I didn't drive the distance because the upside was not high enough, though I didn't think it explicitly.

heyitsjeape · 2022-01-24T12:36:04+00:00

No. This person sounds as though they have been problems.

Optionsmfd · 2022-01-24T12:50:17+00:00

What's the use?

Barely-moral · 2022-01-24T12:53:01+00:00

Nope. I couldn't feel loved by her without sex. I can understand low libido, low frequency, lack of variety and or waiting until commitment. I can't accept a non existent sex life.

Melohdy · 2022-01-24T12:54:13+00:00

For the most part, yes. I don't really care for sex much, but for the occasional release. If she's a great companion, I'm in! I assume this relationship continues into marriage, which is the commitment I'd want. Even then, sex is not necessary.

RonSwanson2-0 · 2022-01-24T12:55:43+00:00

I'll be marrying one in a few months. We are both religious and knew this would be the case when we started dating. Fits with my our life choices but we are both looking forward to the wedding.

manfrom-nantucket · 2022-01-24T12:55:56+00:00

Ultimately it comes down to what her pain in the ass factor is? Sex while it's important and all is a miniscule part when considering the time the two of you would be spending together. An intact hymen doesn't mean that she isn't a pain in the ass.

Aubrey_D_Graham · 2022-01-24T12:57:52+00:00

She doesnt have to have sex on the first date, but by the second or third date, id consider lower priority or next.

armordog99 · 2022-01-24T12:58:42+00:00

No. For me a romantic relationship must include sex. Otherwise you are just good friends.

OldSimpsonsisbetter · 2022-01-24T13:00:30+00:00

Yes but she would have to be good in other ways. Like do all the housework, cook for me and kiss regularly.

In reality a woman like this wouldn't exist outside of some weird 1 in a million exceptions. If a woman likes you, she's going to want sex.

old_wise_man_ · 2022-01-24T13:08:15+00:00

The no sex ends when we get married? If so, yes

GwenXi · 2022-01-24T13:16:10+00:00

I feel like yes! Sex is not the only action you and your partner can do in order to display intimacy.

Taipanshimshon · 2022-01-24T13:32:04+00:00

I have female friends. They don't get the romantic side of me.

abaxeron · 2022-01-24T13:32:25+00:00

I'm perfectly fine with blowjobs.

If you mean "would I treat her as a mating partner while she never touches me below the waist line", then if this is her understanding of a relationship, she can go on Twitch or Onlyfans.

wtknight · 2022-01-24T13:38:05+00:00

No. I’d consider that a friendship, not dating. I’d want to be at least working towards having sex with her eventually, even if we don’t have the feelings of love yet to have it right away.

just_a_place · 2022-01-24T15:54:56+00:00

If I like her yes. I am not in any urgent hurry for sex if I am with a girl I have a crush on or who I genuinely like as a friend.

But eventually when we do get more serious I will want to have sex with her but I don't know how long we can put it off.

And also, in the mean time, we can still kiss and have a ton of cuddles and hugs. If I am with a girl I need to have physical intimacy with her which doesn't necessarily mean just raw sex. Also, there is still oral sex and making out. I can still eat her pussy or she can give me oral until she feels like having sex.

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343_peaches_and_tea · 2022-01-24T07:38:34+00:00

No.

Also I would have preferably not dated a virgin when I was last single either.

(Actually slight change of mind. I would but only if I could have sex with other people while in the relationship)

ChibsFilipTelfordd · 2022-01-24T08:02:46+00:00

Sure if I was allowed to hook up with other girls by her. I could never go a lifetime without sex. But if she's an equal partner in all facets without the sex I'd definitely do it

GYN-k4H-Q3z-75B · 2022-01-24T08:25:16+00:00

Absolutely not. That is part of a romantic relationship and I am not willing to forgo it.

ohheyhi99 · 2022-01-24T08:37:30+00:00

No, if you mean that she is effectively asexual, and not just waiting to get to know me better first. We can be friends.

Lots of women wouldn’t date a man like that either.

throwawayblue900ss · 2022-01-24T08:48:17+00:00

I would have zero problems with this. So long as she isn't staying chaste for life, and will have sex and children in marriage (with me, if we get that far).

M3taBuster · 2022-01-24T08:54:27+00:00

No sex until marriage? Hell yeah, in fact that's exactly what I want. But only because she's a virgin. Otherwise I would've said hell no.

Or do you mean no sex ever? Yeah... I don't think I could do it. Maybe if I was still single at 30 and running out of options, I'd agree to it on the condition we still did oral, but it would be a constant source of frustration and I can't guarantee I'd be able to keep it up forever.

But for what it's worth, gun to my head, I'd rather date a virgin and never have sex of any kind than date a woman with even 1 prior partner and have all the sex I want. Thankfully, there's not a gun to my head though.

BruddaMSK · 2022-01-24T09:16:40+00:00

Shredddz · 2022-01-24T09:41:06+00:00

Yes, if she would have sex after she got to know me for a while when I want to, but there will not be any money or time invested beyond getting to know each other and hanging out, there will not be any boyfriend treatment until there is sex. If she needs time to get to know me, fine, but I am not gonna invest upfront more than necessary to build an interpersonal relationship. just like her value needs to be protected, mine needs to be protected aswell. the risk and investment has to be equal on both sides to make it fair. hanging out and doing stuff together to get to know each has to be enough. no rides, no dinners no fixing nothing that goes beyond platonic relationship besides getting physical outside of sex until there is sex regularly.

Fir3jay · 2022-01-24T11:01:36+00:00

VNyall · 2022-01-24T11:03:47+00:00

Nah lol

Title	would you be willing to date a woman who did not have sex?
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