What Do You Bring To The Table

EulenWatcher · 2022-08-29T05:22:39+00:00

I'll copy my other comment if you don't mind:

Things I think are important:

I'm egalitarian, so I prefer to split responsibilities evenly. I'm easy to get along with. I do my best to help my close ones (although it can be a downside in certain situations). I can be there for people when they need an ear or help, I have no issues with my loved ones being vulnerable in front of me. I do my best to communicate my issues or worries, I don't use silent treatment or expect them to read my mind. I'm able to seek and accept compromises. I'm loyal and I'd never cheat - even putting moral values out of the question, due to being demi it's rather easy to avoid dangerous situations that could lead to cheating.

I used to volunteer in animal shelter and foster kittens (no more since husband has an allergy). I'm well-read, have education and gonna have a higher than average income. I'm financially stable, don't have debt and have decent financial habits. I prefer to split the bill or pay in turns. I know what I want and have long-term plans I'm working on. I speak several languages. I have decent domestic skills and I can take care of myself and my issues.

Things I guess men usually find important:

I'm higher in agreeableness (doesn't mean I will agree always or with everyone though). I have average/above average libido and pretty open to sexual experiments although I have some things I don't want to even try. I have low n-count.

It feels really weird to list all of it tbh and I don't think it really works this way. People usually fall for each other without knowing this kind of list of good/bad things about their partners, they see each other more as a whole person and a big part of it is chemistry - it's either there or not. If somebody asked my husband why he fell for me or why he loves me, he most likely won't list these things, he'll just say that I make his life better and maybe give a few things as examples.

RandomRedditGuy322 · 2022-08-29T01:29:53+00:00

boneless skinless chicken thighs

ruboyuri · 2022-08-29T04:48:28+00:00

A chair. For me

I hope you brought one too

gofigure62 · 2022-08-28T23:22:19+00:00

Everything for the right person, absolutely nothing for the wrong person.

I think this question is so ridiculous. For the man who has similar tastes, life goals, life style and interests as me, I'm a 100% perfect match.

For a man who has opposite tastes, life goals, life style, and interests to me I'm trash.

IDK why this logic has magically left the world of dating in recent history. It used to be common sense.

peppapigoink95 · 2022-08-29T01:07:02+00:00

27F. Workout buddy, hiking buddy, cooking buddy, cleaning buddy, and I've been told I'm good at the sex thing. I also don't own any snakes or spiders. And I don't push people to do things they don't wanna do. And I have never cheated on anyone, and I follow the mike pence rule, of not having any male friends. I also am patient, according to my bf. And I'm "pretty." And I have a dog who is well behaved and is a good girl.

Sure-Vermicelli4369 · 2022-08-29T02:13:25+00:00

l enjoy cleaning. I love doing yard work. I'll fix your car for free. I'm open to new experiences.

TheRedPillRipper · 2022-08-29T01:33:34+00:00

What do you think you bring

My strongest quality is my imagination. Especially in the context of problem solving. Coupled with my capacity for critical thinking; has made me confident in my abilities. To overcome anything.

Granted most of that was instilled in me young. By my parents. Uncles, aunties, and older family members. A term I coin Intergenerational Pride. However I’ve put in a lot of work too.

Ultimately though the biggest asset anyone can bring to the table is an open mind. Coupled with a willingness to compromise.

Godspeed and good luck!

Superannuatedpunk · 2022-08-29T02:24:06+00:00

Massive hog.

SmarmyPapsmears · 2022-08-29T01:53:27+00:00

I am the table, bitch

Marzipan-Happy · 2022-08-29T04:27:31+00:00

I'm intelligent, I have medical knowledge, I'm quiet, I'm low maintenance, a good listener, ummm. That's it. I'm basically a house plant with the mouth of a sailor.

SmilesLikeMardiGras · 2022-08-28T23:24:05+00:00

I dont see why its up to me to say what I bring to the table, its up to the men who have loved me to determine that

WOPR-1983 · 2022-08-29T15:33:27+00:00

Man brings a three-page list of shit. She brings her vagina.

/thread

Oh me? I have little interest in "doing all that" to try to make a woman happy. To me it's a hilarious undertaking that only a horny fool of a man would ever attempt in the first place. So, I get nothing because I offer nothing. And no, cohabitation will never be "one of the levels" aka "the next level" women always seems to be after. For the "strong and independent" gender, they sure are in a rush to shack up. Hmmmm...

But hey maybe I'll find some FWB thing one day.

But none of this "here's my expectation list"... sorta thing. Like, um, no. No interested.

Darling_its_sick · 2022-08-29T00:22:12+00:00

Not a thing. 41, divorced with kids and all of us have experienced significant trauma.

And yet I’ve met a man who says he loves me and wants to be with me forever.

I don’t know what to make of it, honestly.

attendquoi · 2022-08-29T03:09:45+00:00

You either want me, or you don't. If I have to sell myself to you like a sex worker, you'd better be paying me like a John.

Barely-moral · 2022-08-29T01:58:25+00:00

Whatever my partner wants.

I am empty and shapeless. I will take the shape I need to take and be filled with the contents I need to be filled with in order to provide enough to fulfill the role I need to fulfill.

I bring adaptability to the table. To be used as it needs to be used.

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GottaPSoBad · 2022-08-29T09:18:53+00:00

Gonna preface this by saying I absolutely hate this question

I don't. I'd even suggest that way more people should be asking it to themselves and their peers more often. Would probably help things in the dating space.

as if you have to have some extra worth in order to be deserving of someone loving you.

Yes and no. I believe everyone should be treated fairly, but I don't think anyone is owed a relationship. Plus it's just a fact that people who have certain positive traits are more likely to get coupled. Similarly, people who lack those traits, and/or have negative traits, are more likely to stay single.

But I’m curious, outside of money or looks, or anything like that. What do you think you bring to the table in a relationship?

Looks are important and definitely one of my advantages, but okay. Intangibles then:

I'm socially intelligent. I can read people, I can socialize, and I can avoid a lot of pitfalls. Everything from my initial approach, to courtship, to relationship will actually flow like it should. Not everyone, male or female, can say that.
I'm honest, mainly because I think it's not necessary to be otherwise. Also lying is unethical, obvs.
I know what I want and I can communicate that clearly (without being extra).
I'm physically strong, mentally tough, and a man of action. Easy to say, I know, but it's worth included since it's true.
I'm surprisingly open-minded, especially when it comes to new ideas, people, and experiences.
I'm not easily intimidated or emasculated. If a woman is strong, makes tons of money, or the like, I'm cool.
I'm surprisingly chill in my actual life, especially in dating. Girls who want a no stress guy to date, I'm it. Or if you just wanna fuck, you're still in luck.

sebwiers · 2022-08-29T14:16:13+00:00

I'm good in bed. Like, multiple women who have had a lot of partners said I'm one of if not the best. But I'm not really demanding - if anything, my sex drive is kinda low.

I'm also a good cook.

Antonija_Blagorodna · 2022-08-30T03:18:22+00:00

A 2012 Honda Civic with only 115,000 miles and a few bumps on the trunk.

AlejandroVillegas · 2022-08-30T04:52:29+00:00

What do you think you bring to the table in a relationship?

I'm a man on a mission, with one goal and purpose in mind. I will not stop for distractions nor will I quit. I will become the greatest boxer that has ever lived. I am delusional, obsessed with becoming great and nothing will come in my way that I will not dispose of.

I'm not special. In fact I'm weak. But I have a devoted soul.

learn2earn89 · 2022-08-28T23:54:23+00:00

A willingness to learn for the needs and wants of my partner, emotional support, acts of service, a bit of intellectual capacity beyond pop culture, a unique interest in him, his ideas, and interests, companionship, kids who would have a loving family (my parents/siblings are awesome people), a different culture/ language if he happens to be of another ethnicity and if he doesn’t mind those differences. Lastly, I won’t say sex because that’s something any woman can give, really.

Unfortunately I’m not physically attractive.

As far as material, I own a condo, and I do well for myself. Some guys care about that stuff.

sarkington · 2022-08-28T23:36:14+00:00

Normal shit. Nothing special

Patrickstarho · 2022-08-28T23:28:38+00:00

I like how women are offended by this question

Blueexpression · 2022-08-29T08:20:53+00:00

Women has no clue what they can bring to the table. Nor do most do enough to deserve marriage.

greedyleopard42 · 2022-08-29T06:40:27+00:00

intelligent, able to convey my thoughts in a clear and concise manner, thoughtful in some ways.

goatismycopilot · 2022-08-29T01:27:19+00:00

Dog hair. A decent set of pots and pans. Messy hair. Beat up feet. And a partridge in a pear tree.

InfamousBake1859 · 2022-08-29T01:12:45+00:00

What i think I bring is different than what i bring or what my husband thinks I bring.

I hate this question because if you need me to tell you, clearly, we wouldn’t be compatible.

Aromatic_Shop9033 · 2022-08-29T22:56:06+00:00

"I am 48, have a PhD in Unicorn Interpretive Dance, have two cats, 128k in student loans, a condo, a Tesla 3, 8 frozen eggs, and blog every weekend a review of each Sex & The City episode. I am the prizeeee! I am the table!!!"

md8716 · 2022-08-29T12:38:45+00:00

I say what I'm going to do, and then I go out and get shit done.

It surprises me how most people are incapable of this.

ManWazo · 2022-08-28T23:41:04+00:00

I dont bring anything special.

corporatesandry · 2022-08-29T00:02:19+00:00

What I bring to the table: love, care, and affection

keepin2002 · 2022-08-29T07:01:04+00:00

I am the table

BlackPorcelainDoll · 2022-08-29T07:59:44+00:00

I've only asked a partner this once, I was all emotional after an orgasm and asked him wtf he thought of me, and he simply said "You're eclectic, I love how creative you are." Very much "what can't you do?" a lot of the time. I get called eclectic often, so I guess that. I don't think any of my exes can put any kind of words to me. I think they were whiplashed a lot of the time.

Of course I've been told things and complimented, but I don't internalize none of it. I've already made up my mind about myself.

CruelAngelGradThesis · 2022-08-29T15:04:51+00:00

Not only tolerating but enabling your stereotypically childish hobbies.

howdoiw0rkthisthing · 2022-08-30T01:41:55+00:00

A pile of junk mail.

daddysgotanew · 2022-08-29T02:04:32+00:00

Absolutely zero drama or tangible baggage. That’s worth it’s weight in gold buddy. You’ll learn that as you get older.

DisasterPeace7 · 2022-08-29T01:14:36+00:00

" I AM the table!" Lol , I'm just playing I'm not a dumbass that's going to answer the question that way, so I am married so the figurative table has already been brought I suppose, but I yes I would say most of the traits that I think most good women appreciate in a husband: leadership, providing, , consistency , understanding , honesty, street smarts, passion, good father, etc., and it's all wrapped up in a physical package that she likes, outside of that we share similar values and views, she's seen both the "bad boy" side of me as well as the husband side of me, I know you said no sex but I'm the only guy she's been with so I feel like I deserve bonus points for that lol, I elevated her Fitness game, security, etc., outside of that she thinks I'm hot and likes my personality so that's really all I can ask for

SwimmingTheme3736 · 2022-08-29T02:53:11+00:00

I am very good at bringing the best out in people and encouraging them to get out there and get things done.

I’m very loving and loyal.

midwesternMD · 2022-08-29T06:34:12+00:00

Good traits? This gets very vague. As others have expressed, it’s all relative. Loyalty, calmness, flexibility/openness, efficiency in household tasks, curiosity about cuisines, curiosity about travel, general domestic skills, general handiwork skills, etc. I’m sure 95% of other folks could describe a near identical list, yet we’ll all have different degrees of perceived and actual strength in each of these characteristics.

mcove97 · 2022-08-29T09:32:11+00:00

I'm quite intelligent and clever. I consider myself an excellent communicator. I am very understanding as I can see multiple sides of complicated and nuanced topics and discuss them well in an entertaining and enlightening manner. As well as being open minded, I'm also a very easy going and fun person to hang around. I enjoy going to music festivals. I'm willing to try new things. I'm not opposed to drugs or alcohol or video games, as those are things I enjoy. I'm very interested in fine food and constantly improve my cooking skills as I aspire to be the best chef possible because I love a pleasurable experience. On that note, I'm very hedonistic and care a lot about my life being pleasurable, being pleased and pleasing the people I care about. I'm also very hard working when I desire to achieve something. I consider myself down to earth as well as a rational, logical and sensible.

litgas · 2022-08-29T09:33:13+00:00

I bring nothing to the table at all.

SnowHatesWome · 2022-08-29T10:55:33+00:00

Excellent dick

GhostofCamus · 2022-08-29T11:43:06+00:00

outside of money or looks

Well, I wasn't going to comment, but since you leveled the playing field. Actually, no, I'm an okay guy, but I'm not writing a bio here.

Hoopy223 · 2022-08-29T14:13:39+00:00

Free beer

urbangoth · 2022-08-29T16:15:46+00:00

my ability to sling good dildo dongle

Booexgirlfriend · 2022-08-29T16:57:10+00:00

Not much.

This question isn't about me, it's about him. About what can I do for him and if what I do improves his life in a slight way, right?

The typical, I cook and clean (just me), silence (I need it more than ever), I keep my body fit (exercise increase my libido too, I want that), saving is my number one hobby, and I'm good at listening (the truth, I don't like to talk that much).

I'm mediocre, I know.

alby333 · 2022-08-29T17:19:08+00:00

Unflappable calm under pressure

Dagenius1 · 2022-08-29T20:07:19+00:00

My catch all quote for these situation. Forget who I heard it from but props to them.

“The woman who says she doesn’t need a man..has never met one. The man who asks what a woman brings to the table..has never met one.”

trail22 · 2022-08-29T20:37:51+00:00

I used to think it mattered what you brought, but then I met enough women to realize they woudlnt give me a chance to prove I have something.

attendquoi · 2022-08-29T21:20:20+00:00

I don't enjoy selling myself. You either want me, or you don't.

If you don't, please move along quickly so I can be available for someone who does.

Euphemia006 · 2022-08-29T21:44:21+00:00

I would ask her what her favourite food is. Then I will cook and bring it to the table. To the women here, would it be great idea? Do you think that I could improve my chance of getting straight to her heart if I brought that to the table?

VulpixEevee · 2022-08-29T22:21:34+00:00

I love this post, and I love the positive things you listed about yourself!

Wandos7 · 2022-08-29T23:51:41+00:00

Mushroom risotto, pot roast, baked salmon, the best damn shortbread biscuits you've ever had.

AdditionalPrice7336 · 2022-08-30T00:36:35+00:00

How do I sell myself as a jigsaw piece for a woman's life? It depends on who I'm talking to. There ain't no exact way to explain what I bring to the table.

RealAmericanWeasel · 2022-08-30T00:42:13+00:00

The same thing anybody else does. Someone to keep you company.

penguintransformer · 2022-08-31T04:43:46+00:00

I like to play sims and I tell jokes once in a while. Some guys might like it, other guys might despise me for this

Enzo-Unversed · 2022-09-02T04:48:59+00:00

I'm not fat,no debt,intelligent and apparently a 5-7/10 in looks. My lack of a degree is my biggest issue.

Easteuroblondie · 2022-09-04T05:13:45+00:00

Got I hate this generic RP rhetoric

Title	What Do You Bring To The Table
Author	anonymous-platypus1
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Date	August 28, 2022 11:00 PM UTC (3 years ago)
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