What are common ways to shame men and women for their preferences?

Far-End2208 · 2023-04-25T02:55:49+00:00

"its not your business whats in their past" actually it is. Not just sexually (but obviously sexual as well), financial is HUGE, hard drugs, SA, cheating, tons of stuff really. I do look down on people who dont care/never ask about their partners past. I dont understand how you can choose to literally base your life around a monogamous relationship if you want a LTR/marriage with someone without thoroughly knowing who they are. I expect my SO to want to know about my past, my mistakes and my growth from those and judge accordingly, if they dont I wouldn't trust them fully.

Miserable_Yam4778 · 2023-04-25T03:10:38+00:00

"Give him a chance, he's a nice guy!" If she's not attracted to you all that's going to do is cause damage to BOTH OF YOU.

Ass___Master___69 · 2023-04-25T06:50:33+00:00

"If you wouldn't fuck a trans woman because they have a penis/were originally a man, then you're transphobic!!!!"

literally the most obvious one

Katatonicsnake · 2023-04-25T09:28:34+00:00

“You’re delusional” when I said I didn’t want a man with high body count. Apparently I’m full of shit because “most women aren’t bothered by it”.

So for some reason, my preferences should be dependent on what other people prefer. I don’t really understand it. “Well you’re wrong, most women like it”. What does that have to do with my preferences?

Ohms2North · 2023-04-25T12:23:39+00:00

If you aren’t attracted to trans women, you’re a misogynist

TigerRude4 · 2023-04-25T07:21:53+00:00

"Only real men...."

"You're just insecure, she fucked 30 guys and had threesomes, but she made you wait for sex, but ultimately she chose you!"

VehementlyDrawn · 2023-04-25T18:05:00+00:00

Not sure what the point of this is. Basically any preference a man has is shamed.

Want a younger woman? You're a pedo
Want a low bodycount woman? You're insecure
Want a non-fat woman? You're not a real man
Want a submissive woman? You just want a mommy bangmaid

Flightlessbirbz · 2023-04-25T14:13:59+00:00

“Give the ugly guy a chance he’ll treat you better.” (The genders could also be reversed, but usually that’s the way it goes.) First of all, not necessarily. Second of all, there is nothing wrong with wanting a partner you find attractive. And third, would YOU want to be the “ugly” person someone only dated because they were shamed into it? I find certain people attractive who might be below average by other people’s standards, but that’s different than dating someone you find unattractive just because you hope they’ll be nicer.

Last-Post2085 · 2023-04-25T14:48:17+00:00

I do find it interesting how women are large pushers of toxic masculinity. The "you're not a real man unless...." bullshit is mostly women. I hardly hear it from other men.

Sofia_sticated91 · 2023-04-25T04:11:27+00:00

I have had a lot of women who have complained when my date was 22-24. It indicates misogyny, immaturity, sexism and my shortcomings as a man that I "cannot keep" a woman my own age.

Joke is on them. I keep no women. I date whoever I find hot. Most times that is younger women but I have dated many women over thirty who were absolute fire.

Apprehensive_Boat_70 · 2023-04-25T07:43:33+00:00

The most common way to shame men is to make them believe there is something wrong with them for their preferences or desires.

Lets look at the modest woman desire many guys have, wantint a virgin or a woman who never slept around and only dated nice guys, never engaged into hookup culture etc, even if you dont find it that important there is nothing wrong abou not finding someone attractive over that, you re not taking away womens rights or anything and all women can still live a happy life if they dont meet that standard, they wont be punished for it, yet men get gaslighted into oblivion for it "you are a mysoginist, you dont get laid, you re controlling, you dont care about your partners, you re insecure", being called insecure for it is the most hypocritical one, because women are full of insecurities way more than your average man yet look down on men for expressing even a bit of insecurity, but at the same time men are expected to accept women's and even put them at ease, fine then, if they can look for secure men when they arent even secure about themselves then there shouldnt be any issue if a man seeks a virgin woman for a life-lasting spouse.

Windmill_flowers · 2023-04-25T01:44:53+00:00

I have one. If you're broke, a common shaming tactic for a woman who doesn't want to be in the poor house with you is to call her a gold digger.

This way you can say, "See love isn't unconditional"

https://youtu.be/jsOnXSuMXfU

Comfortable-Dare-307 · 2023-04-25T15:19:07+00:00

Men are not allowed to say no or be upset about unwanted sexual advances.

Telling men they need to be confident reinforces toxic masculinity. Men aren't allowed to show negative emotions.

Telling Men they are pedophiles for wanting younger women.

Telling Men they are not real men unless they are over 6 feet.

Labeling Men as deadbeats if they can't pay for everything.

Overarching_Chaos · 2023-04-25T09:01:08+00:00

If you find certain things about her past sub optimal it’s because you’re insecure. If a woman said “I like X guy but he’s been with so many girls, he’s a fuckboy”, you’d find it perfectly reasonable.

Total_Hospital_6013 · 2023-04-25T10:54:09+00:00

Leo Di Caprio is shamed and imo he is a bit weird for liking them that age (they're legal I know) even though he's getting older and older and obviously never truly loved any of them (which makes me pity him) but those women wouldn't even share an elevator with him if he was broke so imo they deserve what's coming to them at age 25 or 26 whichever it is (still i would hate if my lil sister or younger relative dated him)

Shamed for having casual sex or FWB with woman/man but not wanting LTR or marriage to the same woman/man

and finally shaming for the bodycount double standard like there seems to be this consensus among women that men pat each other on the back for ducking lots of women but ive never ever witnessed this kinda behavior

Seattle_Beach · 2023-04-25T12:32:57+00:00

I live life in fear of being called boy-crazy, because I am. Society tells me I should be ashamed of it.

Demasii · 2023-04-25T02:34:07+00:00

Women having unrealistic standards and that they won't succeed even though they prefer to be single instead of being in an unhappy relationship.

Telling men that they are creepy for wanting to date significantly younger women even though they believe that they are part of the 2% who are magically not.

Katyusha-__- · 2023-04-25T04:05:21+00:00

“You can’t handle a woman your own age” or “women your own age don’t want you”

I’m after looks and personality.

A woman’s career, degree, and possible kids from a previous relationship just isn’t any plus for me.

Especially now in my 30’s that I have my shit together, and far more inner peace + self confidence, that I don’t see the need to deal with someone who’s just not my type.

byzrs · 2023-04-25T11:27:12+00:00

women love calling men pedophilic for some of our preferences.

EricFisherNo1 · 2023-04-25T16:53:31+00:00

I prefer younger women the blue pill mob tells me it is wrong. like all the time.

Outside_Ad8196 · 2023-04-26T06:44:45+00:00

« Slutshaming » when I say I don’t want a woman with a high bodycount/ who’s ever engaged in hook-up culture.

« Fetish for anorexia » because I’m not attracted to overweight women and would only consider a thin and/or fit woman.

Also shit for not wanting masculine women, not liking short hair on girls, etc…

I literally get accused of misogyny everytime for my taste especially when talking about it to female friends. I’m literally bisexual ( albeit only attracted to femininity regardless of sex) and I hold the exact same standards for men I’m into so how am I pushing « outdated things on women » exactly ?

It’s just excuses at this point to push us men to take whatever scraps we can get and accept undesirable people. « Just meet people and learn to know them maybe you’ll like them » yeah if I’m not attracted I’m not bothering tbh.

Being alone is cool by me, a relationship is just a perk.

TonytheNetworker · 2023-04-25T04:34:44+00:00

One of the most common ones I’ve seen recently is shaming women for preferring taller men. “Only 14% of men (in the U.S) are 6 feet and up” or “When you turn 30 you’ll realize that you will have to settle.” I don’t think most of these guys realize you aren’t going to shame a women for wanting what she’s attracted to. Many of the younger guys have became taller so it’s not as rare these days. Women will just stay single and enjoy life until they find someone that’s their match.

Sabrepill · 2023-04-25T02:23:17+00:00

Older men who prefer younger women:

Shamers and Haters will either say he’s paying her, or she’s into his money and not him. Or that he’s a morally bankrupt groomer. Every scenario makes the man the villain and the woman a victim. Just look at what happened when people thought that 50 year old Leo DiCaprio was dating a new 19 year old. The bitterness and hatred from women and low T soy based blue pilled males was enormous. Gynocentric world view at its finest

ChangeMyLifeOnMonday · 2023-04-25T08:35:57+00:00

The age thing, when a 45yo rich guy marries a 25yo girl, older women just love to call him a p3d0 and creepy.

NoobSaw · 2023-04-25T10:04:51+00:00

Most common thing is probably shaming men's preference for weight and women's preference for height. To me these are just physical features like faces that you are completely justified to have a preference on.

GridReXX · 2023-04-25T14:18:02+00:00

The shaming of women in my network usually looks like:

she exists without a romantic partner, with friends, and not depressed

“Plant lady!” “Dog mom!” “You’re going to be alone!” “Man hater!”

she prefers a man used to her own lifestyle she provides for herself

“Gold digger!” “User!” “Emasculator!” “Masculine!!!”

she had a boyfriend in the past now has another boyfriend

“Slut!” “For the streets!” “Imagine the man who has to wife her thinking about the men she fucked and cooked dinner for!!!! 😤”

prefers men taller and wider than herself

“Misandrist!!!” “Hypocrite!!” “Body shamer!!!”

cares about her credit score and his

“Unreasonable bitch!!!”

😂😂

8won6 · 2023-04-25T21:01:04+00:00

"if you're an older man, and you don't date older divorced bitter single mothers...you're a predator for preferring younger women...or you're an i_cel"

Dstar538888 · 2023-04-26T01:37:26+00:00

“But he’s a nice guy, give him a chance”… first of all being “nice” is not an impressive trait to have, that’s quite literally the bare minimum… second of all, if there is no attraction whatsoever, then a relationship simply won’t work, a nice man who is not attractive to me is just a friend 🌝

Kliere · 2023-04-27T08:08:17+00:00

"You're a pedo, sex trafficker and you're forcing yourself on women because of their socio-economic status (basically a rapist)" When men don't want a western women and go to a poorer country.

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beleidigtewurst · 2023-04-25T10:59:16+00:00

Standards to measure up are in ones head/eyes, IMO. So it comes down how much of external semi-randomly picked up things you want to apply to yourself.

Also, people need to stop judging own attractiveness by using those swipe left/right apps, it is terribly skewed and about random hookups, something that most men are eager to do and most women absolutely not and both parties for good biological reasons.

2023-04-25T17:27:54+00:00

For men: loudly, publicly, inflicting as much pain and embarrassment as possible while getting cheered on openly by friends and strangers. For women: usually anonymously on Reddit.

Youngking41 · 2023-04-26T03:06:02+00:00

Why is this even a question?

Cupcakelover1985 · 2023-04-26T14:03:04+00:00

Calling them shallow, man/woman- hating, entitled etc

AlmostKindaGreat · 2023-04-26T21:22:14+00:00

Expressing a preference about physical characteristics of a woman is dicey. I used to say I like fit women but I don't anymore after being called sizeist and misogynist.

I don't think women get too much explicit pushback on height preferences, for example. I think a short guy who happens to hear it could feel some secret resentment against her but I doubt he'd say anything for fear of looking insecure.

Title	What are common ways to shame men and women for their preferences?
Author	Windmill_flowers
Upvotes	42
Comments	250
Date	April 25, 2023 1:39 AM UTC (3 years ago)
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