medication to help talk to girls?

ChiefPastaOfficer · 2022-07-30T12:51:15+00:00

A cheap and easy way to deal with this is to chew gum.

Seriously.

I read somewhere it tricks your brain (the amygdala presumably) that if you're masticating, then you're in a safe place.

The way it worked for me once I tried it for myself was that it almost completely eliminated the butterflies in my stomach. Doesn't help with coming up with words to say, it just eliminates one factor preventing you to do so, which I think is what you're after.

A more expensive, but probably more powerful option - CBD drops. You'll have to experiment with the dosage, start small, then adjust as required.

Matt_Bigmonster · 2022-07-30T10:42:06+00:00

You are uncalibrated, throwing meds in to the mix will just make you even more awkward. Better to be shy and nervous than weird and artificial.

Google on yt "todd how to aproach". He have a great guide on getting rid of anxiety.

Turbopre2 · 2022-07-30T10:49:02+00:00

If I'm going on a date and feel nervous I pour myself up a red cup of oj with two shots of vodka to get me right

meclano · 2022-07-30T11:54:59+00:00

Bruh there is no magical pill, improve yourself the best you can and put yourself out there, with time and exposure i guarantee you that you stop being socially awkward.

Far_Psychology_6947 · 2022-07-30T10:54:59+00:00

Phenibut

putcoolusernamehere · 2022-07-30T17:19:05+00:00

Exposure thearpy. Go to the nearest college campus when it's in session and start a convo with 10 girls by simply asking for directions (or something else indirect like asking to borrow a pen or asking her to watch over your stuff while you go to the bathroom). After doing this, do 10 more where you simply lead with a compliment.

Willstdumitmirgehen · 2022-07-30T12:45:00+00:00

Please don't drink alcohol. It's not worth it becoming an alcoholic.

TyroneStitches_ · 2022-07-30T10:38:16+00:00

I wouldn't get dependent on anything like that.. just talk to girls sober, even tho you might make mistakes. But the more you talk to girls, the less awkward it will feel when times go by. Lucky for you, there are millions of girls so if it doesn't work with one, it's on to the next one.

politits · 2022-07-30T18:09:46+00:00

Dude, talk to a psychiatrist about this, not a bunch of pick up “artists.” Half the replies are people who don’t believe in psychiatric meds despite their proven use, and the other half are telling you to self-medicate with alcohol which is a TERRIBLE idea. It sounds like you need to be on anti-anxiety meds. But taking them twice a week won’t work, they have to be in your system regularly. I’ve seen it work wonders for people with your kind of issues. Please look into it sincerely and stop taking medical advice from fuckboys on the internet.

anxanx6 · 2022-07-30T10:35:30+00:00

it's a fair question although i don't imagine the people on this sub will be able to relate or offer any advice other than 'just be brave' kind of stuff.

Might seem obvious, but I take it you've experimented with having a few beers? Not to get blind drunk, but it can take the edge off for some people.

Most anxiety meds takes time to build up in your system and isn't an 'as needed' thing, although things like benzos are, as well as things like lyrica etc. Are you on meds at all? (SSRI's for example)

However, in my experience, nothing is of that much use in terms of massively lowering inhibitions and social anxiety and alcohol seems to be the best of a weak bunch for me personally. People like us have problems that most on this sub don't and so they won't be able to relate at all. I've not yet found something which literally eliminates all anxiety and obliterates ibhibitions and i've experimented a fair bit with all kinds of drugs and meds

TheMailMan69 · 2022-07-30T14:47:19+00:00

I heard propranolol is great with very few side effects. If your anxiety causes you to panic/trigger your flight/flight response then propranolol prevents this by blocking the receptors that trigger this.

Bfb38 · 2022-07-30T16:59:58+00:00

Light mushroom dose

thee-mjb · 2022-07-30T12:40:01+00:00

Try kava

sharararara · 2022-07-30T18:18:04+00:00

Don't worry about "game". Just literally befriend some girls even if you're not into then like that and learn to speak with them. Then try to talk to random people while you're out, but also take the cues if they don't want to interact. It's a delicate balance, but it's one that can only really be overcome with practice and self inflection.

FiftyNereids · 2022-07-30T21:46:25+00:00

I'll leave the med recommendations to other users in the comments. What helps I find is before your date try to have a social conversation with other people in your life. A friend or even better a stranger. That is the natural social lubricant. By the time you go on your date you've already warmed-up and gotten a flow going. It's a lot easier to do this than to go on a date and not spoken to anyone in a day or two and then stumbling on your words. You don't want your date to be the warm-up, do that one someone else.

MigasEnsopado · 2022-07-30T11:59:28+00:00

I don't think such a thing exists. But therapy with a certified psychologist would probably be useful.

mmmm_frietjes · 2022-07-30T20:38:23+00:00

You don't need medication. Like some other guy said, you need exposure therapy. You lack social skills. Emphasis on the 'skills' part of social skills. It's something you can learn. But talking to girls when you have social anxiety is like wanting to deadlift 150 kg when you can't even lift one dumbbell.

You need to make this a project. Give yourself a year and start at the bottom. Forget about girls for now. You need to develop basic social skills first. So exposure therapy. A therapist can you guide you but you can also do it on your own. Start by asking old ladies the time or whatever. Do this until you're comfortable. Then push yourself by asking the time and keep the conversation going. Start by trying to have a quick chat with store clercks.

Set goals for yourself:

Ask the time to one person each day.
Ask the time to one person each day and try to comment on something you see.
..

Don't skip a day! Don't be discouraged when you fail at first. Don't be discouraged when you feel panicky and wanna run away. It's normal. But try to push through it. Tell yourself ok I'm scared, this sucks but I'm gonna try anyway.

Once you feel comfortable with basic interactions you can push yourself more by:

Take improv classes so you feel more comfortable.
Go to Toastmasters.
Get a sales job so you have no choice but to talk to people. Or as a bartender.

It's okay if you have a bad day or if you fail but above all don't quit!

user009818 · 2022-07-30T20:42:39+00:00

I don't suggest medications, I've tried ashwaganda and it's helped me be hella calm tbh..

Kingquaycool · 2022-07-30T21:23:43+00:00

Bro, medication only makes it worse. Facing your fears is better than avoiding them. Start small, and don't give up, get a positive mentality, watch yt videos about motivation and positive mindset and learn some breathing exercises. Oh and try to talk to everyone: guy, girl, average, hot just anyone. And work on your goals, workout, get hobbies, see a therapist, try to get small wins in your life to improve confidence and self esteem. Get a simple sense of fashion too and good Colognes. Take baby steps, start on one of these things, preferably the postive mindset and then move to the next one. First few months will be excruciatingly slow but eventually the rise will be exponential and you'll feel so much better. Drugs are just false crutches .

JohnnyLazer17 · 2022-07-30T22:19:27+00:00

Safe, 1-2 times a week, learn from the experience, no longer term sides, and will help you talk to girls……. Therapy.

LunacyBin · 2022-07-30T23:21:19+00:00

Ask your doctor about Gabapentin. It's primarily used for nerve pain, but some studies have found that it seems to help with social anxiety specifically. I am taking it for nerve pain, but I've found that it mildly helps with my social anxiety. There can be side effects, though, so like I said, definitely want to make sure you discuss it thoroughly with your physician if you decide to try it.

DigLucky3112 · 2022-07-30T10:47:30+00:00

Potassium in small amounts

https://www.psychologytoday.com/gb/blog/here-there-and-everywhere/201112/can-potassium-help-treat-adhd-and-sensory-overstimulation

https://medium.com/publishous/fixing-your-brain-a-guide-to-balancing-neurotransmitters-72649aab40b1

nFogg · 2022-07-30T12:17:52+00:00

Dude you’ve posted this same question multiple times across different subs, get it out of your head that taking drugs is going to help you at all.

Honestly just work on yourself, go to THERAPY! Not drugs, therapy. Then go to the gym, then pick up new hobbies that increase your self esteem.

Talk to girls at school or uni, they are practically unavoidable. Allow yourself to mess up, and over time you’ll realize that you can do it.

For the love of god do not rely on drugs to do something like this, it’s the making of a drug addiction which will make everything worse

Sleeptalker23 · 2022-07-30T12:58:57+00:00

Phenibut

MemoryHold · 2022-07-30T17:36:54+00:00

Developing a drug habit to talk to girls is the stupidest shit I've ever heard

incognito3107 · 2022-07-30T12:14:27+00:00

I believe benzos and alcohol are the most common drugs to get you more social, but overall you should built your own desire for socialization gradually from scratch, with your natural chemistry.

DonSpiro92 · 2022-07-30T12:58:13+00:00

Alcohol. Drink one beer and no more!

It will relax your nervous system. Don't over drink! Take caution, please

SociableHandshake · 2022-07-30T10:47:45+00:00

Alcohol or Benzos (don't do benzos without a doc's prescription) against social anxiety but just like TyroneStiches wrote: don't get dependet on them. Eventually you have to learn to confront your anxiety and learn that the anxiety is mostly ridiculous and unnecessary. A behavioral therapy can help you.

Soberskate9696 · 2022-07-30T11:43:45+00:00

Anytime I was prescribed zoloft and drank on it, it made me not give a flying fuckkkk, which in turn made it easy to pick up girls in bars/clubs

Definitely not the way go though, booze/drug free would be ideal

jasonboudreau46 · 2022-07-30T13:55:30+00:00

Green tea. I have bouts of anxiety and green tea helps me slow down, focus and calm the edges.

P7o7s7t7a7l · 2022-07-30T15:09:11+00:00

This is something that should be talked about more; you could probably get prescribed something that keeps you calm and able to focus. There's at least two brands that come to mind. Nothing to be ashamed of, hopefully it gets your head out of the rut. Totally what it's for.

I'm anti pill in my approach to therapy especially since you can function. Imagine people so fear struck they can't leave their house. If you can leave your house then you could go to a strip club with some friends and probably get over the hype of talking to women. It would at least instill some perspective into the unknown for you. Sometimes that's all it is, getting over the unknown.

SunHorizon9 · 2022-07-30T15:18:33+00:00

The awkwardness comes from a lack of confidence and belief in yourself. You have to work on that first. Self-improvement on all aspects is the only way.

sum_analyst · 2022-07-30T15:56:43+00:00

Little bit of CBD, leaned on it heavily when I first started. It calms the nerves enough to let me think clearly but doesn’t slow me down or sap energy like weed.

Therapy and how you see/treat/talk to yourself are the only long-term options.

shyfuncuriousboy · 2022-07-30T16:21:03+00:00

mate i know how you feel.an you should never need a reason ro take drugs 😜😜

1a1o · 2022-07-30T16:28:49+00:00

Cocaine

LongLiveDetroit · 2022-07-30T18:07:53+00:00

propranolol

antaresvile · 2022-07-30T20:55:02+00:00

https://youtube.com/shorts/q3gUhq7Zu04?feature=share

heartgmefoncrypto · 2022-07-31T08:23:39+00:00

Honestly benzos and a tad like keybump of opiates. Then when u rdy to fuck her n make her do shit she never done before take an amphetamine or fuck it might as well jus shoot some meth then whe you're at it.

hi123lol123 · 2022-07-30T10:25:17+00:00

(i am currently already microdosing on mushrooms, never tried anything other than that, I also have a script for Vyvanse but it usually makes me anti-social)

MentalCelOmega · 2022-07-30T18:07:42+00:00

Word of advice, keep your medication a secret. If a female finds out about it, they will see it as a sign of weakness or that there is something wrong with you and you will be rejected.

raatdigedi · 2022-07-30T12:33:10+00:00

Ask your local chemist for Chad otine. Take twice daily

Twix1958 · 2022-07-30T11:15:52+00:00

Fix yourself, talk to girls. In that order and no other. There is nothing such as medication and even if there was you would have to take it always which is bullshit. Unless there is of course an underlying condition such as ADHD where you could find some medication for, my advice is to find out if there is something wrong with you as in an diagnosis, and fix your trauma's by exploring them thoroughly or by talking to a therapist. Then learn that you are worthy of talking to girls and go get them.

hi123lol123 · 2022-07-30T11:30:47+00:00

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rewinder909 · 2022-07-30T11:34:23+00:00

Don't do it. Avoid drinking alcohol or taking any drug to talk to girls. If you do so, you'll create a bad habit and you'll tell yourself that if you want to talk to girls you need to drink or take medication. My advice to you, is to go with a wing if you are able to find one, take it slow. If you're awkward talking to people start talking with guys/old people, it will take out the stress out of it. Then talk to girls your age, as I told you, go baby steps, ask for time, directions etc untill you're comfortable. Then go for a compliment. Do it everyday, eventually the fear/anxiety will go away or at least decrease. When you're finally confortable talking to people, things should go well, just go out find some activities you enjoy and meet some girls, like dance classes or something. If you want to increase you seduction skills, find someone who is good in that and learn from him. Remember to have the good mindset, like that you're not looking for someone to fill a hole in your life, you just want someone that you can share your interesting life.

Ravensrock0420 · 2022-07-30T11:34:33+00:00

If you have anxiety problems then I suggest some full spectrum CBD no pills. The real way to get over the anxiety is to face your fears. It's imagination. It's in your head

Aregoodusernamesleft · 2022-07-30T11:42:43+00:00

Cannabis, an edible may help. If you’re really open to experimenting try a little Xanax.

beveragegod · 2022-07-30T11:52:09+00:00

3 puffs of weed & that's it

or 3 shots of vodka

baa285 · 2022-07-30T12:17:58+00:00

Alcohol

tsun_tsun_tsudio · 2022-07-30T12:33:01+00:00

I think the drug you’re looking for is called CONFIDENCE. You won’t find it here lol.

Footsoldier420 · 2022-07-30T12:33:12+00:00

Hey bro, sorry to hear your pain. I was there once, similar family background and awkwardness. This came from a place of fear, lack and feeling of not being good enough from years of abuse.

The good thing is that there is hope. It took me many years of self searching and asking questions to get to a point of self acceptance.

Today, I am able to speak to women without any alcohol, drugs or dependence on anything.

You're on the right path by asking questions. This means you want to grow. Many people ignore their internal conflicts.

What I learned over the years is to focus on your desires. If it is attracting women you want then focus on doing the things required to achieve it. To attract women one must do the hard work of selfish reflection and presentation. To name a few - improve self-esteem, image, communication, attitude, goals, hobbies, humility, etc. Alcohol and (prescription) drugs are a short cut and doesn't teach you to attract women. At best it'll numb your nerves enough to not feel the rejection/pain. But you can't cheat in this game or life without facing backlash. Once you're off it, it'll be back to the old story. And don't forget about all the side effects it comes with.

Be fearless my friend. Do the hard work your heart knows it must do. The sooner one improves themselves spiritually in this game of life, the better. The spiritual path is the real medicine to achieving your desires. Do it one step at a time, one approach at a time, one girl at a time, one day at a time. You will experience rejection and pain. It's inevitable. But trust yourself to learn from the pain and mistakes.

You can do it. We're rooting for you.

koseabjitt · 2022-07-30T12:46:20+00:00

There's no medication that gives you balls , however i take cialis & a shit ton of coffee pre-workout & my session usually begins 2-3 hour post workout , based on my experience i'm always more pumped & SLIGHTLY more horny/decisive because of those 2.

both are harmless if U don't have any illness.

LoserSimpLord69 · 2022-07-30T12:50:18+00:00

3 pegs of whiskey works fine

sadmoonbaby · 2022-07-30T12:55:16+00:00

Ya man don’t start pills. My ex used to take meds on weekends to open up and be more confident. Only thing is these drugs are SUPER addictive. He slowly started using them more and more. Then he relied on them to be able to work. You can’t stop cause when you do your world feels like it’s ending. It’s worse than before ya started. It got to a point he’d have to take so many to feel anything but would end up looking drunk or would make a fool of himself. He’d make insane purchases, hurt himself, steal.

It honestly killed him. He died alone in his apartment surrounded by pills all because he wanted to be less shy and be able to hook up with girls.

My suggestion, get a gym membership. Girls will naturally be attracted to someone that looks after themselves, maybe read up on body languages.

If any of this doesn’t deter you from pills, keep in mind most of them give you whiskey Dick.

Amalasian · 2022-07-30T12:57:53+00:00

going to be real. don't ask these people drug questions. ask drug people questions about drugs. That's like asking a drug expert about picking up girls..... your not doing that right??!

Oscarcedeno21 · 2022-07-30T13:00:29+00:00

Honestly antidepressants, specifically Sertraline 50mg, did wonders for me after I started taking them. Took about 2 months but the difference is amazing.

Jazzlike_Weakness_83 · 2022-07-30T13:01:25+00:00

Maybe talk to your doctor. A lot of people are on anxiety medication for being social anxious. This is daily though. I’m sure you’re socially anxious is other situations too, if you are this might actually improve your over all quality of life.

tnpersona · 2022-07-30T13:01:33+00:00

"Game" is only going to get you a superficial girlfriend who'll bounce the second things get tough. It's definitely not worth it. Sounds like you might need to focus on you a bit. I could recommend you some books that might help build up confidence if you'd like.

I'd avoid medication at all costs though

timimax · 2022-07-30T13:05:39+00:00

If you are serious about the long term results, I would go with meditation and Yoga.

If you live in U.S., I would learn about psychedelics and probably apply for clinical trial at John Hopkins University. Highly suggest watching How to Change Your mind on Netflix.

PurpleCookie_Og · 2022-07-30T13:07:43+00:00

I’ve done cold approaches on Xanax and it’s so easy but then u forget about it the next day so I’d rather just be sober

Evil_god7 · 2022-07-30T13:08:29+00:00

I assume that you are in your clg. Try making guy friends who have female friends.like those cliques in college where there are both guys and girls ,but there's no romance drama in that group,they're just friends.

After that ,start talking to those girls in the group.The endgame is NOT TO GAME THEM .It's just to remove your social anxiety towards girls. Slowly,after 2-3 months of speaking with those girls,hanging out in groups,enjoying and building rapport,you'll notice that girls are human beings too, they're not aliens.

Then you can talk to any girl you want in ur clg campus. After talking to many girls ,and completely removing that anxiety,you can try gaming any of them .

THE PREMISE IS THAT YOU ARE STUDYING IN A COLLEGE.

Coz that's what happened with me too. I am 19 (male ,obvio). Last year ,i was exactly like you.toxic home environment.dealing with anxiety,self esteem issues n confidence too.

Now i don't have those problems.they're not completely gone,but it's under control .i can feel that i am much better than last year.

Blessedest · 2022-07-30T13:09:50+00:00

Stimulants such as Ritalin increase neuroplasticity, but also confidence. So you will be feeling yourself more and be more capable of learning from your mistakes.

spitzkopfxx · 2022-07-30T13:10:23+00:00

I don't know your condition, but I am pretty shy and introverted myself and I try to get confidence from other sources. I noticed a significant boost in confidence when I started working out and constantly see a better shape in the mirror. Same goes when I did good in work e.g. got a better job/more money. This confidence also helped me in the game. Try to find things outside of just hookups and or girls that make you alone feel good. This will also improve your game. Another example from me for that: I played habdball for a while. My best nights were the ones after we just won a great game and I did really good in there. I also like playing table soccer in bars sometimes which just makes me feel good.

InternationalAir5786 · 2022-07-30T13:16:47+00:00

join the fucking military ..spent ten years in the Army in the early 2000s , would not recommend that then. Now all MOS are intergraded, youll be forced to socialize to the point that you wont recognize yourself in 12 months. Seen kids in basic extremely shy and awkward , 13 months later during a deployment rotation meet up with a few of them literally completely different in a good way almost shocking.

Themrhalo3freak · 2022-07-30T13:24:31+00:00

I considered trying phenibut but I’ve heard it can be extremely addictive and make you dependent on it so for now I am natty, just learning to be confident on my own and get better.

Ok-Share-8775 · 2022-07-30T13:39:48+00:00

Alcohol lol

gym_brah81 · 2022-07-30T13:41:47+00:00

Some other people said, but generally SSRI's are perscribed for this situation. I'm not recommending them, of course go through a psychiatrist.

I do know of some safe OTC supplements that're pretty safe: -L-theanine, completely safe, helps with anxiety, and you can combine it with coffee/caffiene to enhance the effect the caffeine has in a good way (obv if you notice a negative side stop taking it or look into it)

-Ashwaganda: this can have some negative effects, it's also inhibitory which means you might become more anxious when you're not having it. It is kinda different from ashwaganda so it might be worth trying. (I've also heard of some people having liver issues bc of it where they might have to get it replaced). These effects might have something to do with it's potency in terms of the gabaergic effect [gaba is what we want since it helps anxienty] which is probably higher compared to the other supps since there's another supp similar to the ones listed here that also causes some liver issues. So the higher potency could be helpful [if it does have it that is, which I think so], so just make sure to stop taking it once you finish whatever container you get of it [my personal advice ofc.

-Bacoupa moneirra: similar to l-theanine

Outside of supplements there's the HubermanLab Podcast that might be helpful in understanding your anxiety as well as tools to help with it. (Personally it helped me to recognize my compulsions with the OCD episode, but I remain undiagnosed fyi)

As for resources I've found helpful in terms of being social and not turning into a wreck, there's two noteable ones: -How to become tribe leader by Hamza (I know some of y'all might think "oh hamza is cringe," I'm just putting something that actually REALLY helped me)

How to Win Friends and influence people (once again I've heard some people say this book essentially teaches the reader to be a pushover and shouldn't be taken to heart by men, but once again it helped me and just listening to it alone really helped me to calm my anxious mind around being social and ofc you can take or leave principles depending on if you see them as useful)

primo808 · 2022-07-30T13:44:29+00:00

Propranolol - "stage fright drug"

Accomplished_Fill_84 · 2022-07-30T13:47:52+00:00

Definitely don’t use pills bro you’ll become dependent - better to slowly work on your mentality and not to give a fuck. Besides some girls will like you for your awkward self then you know long term you attracted them by being yourself

1keentolearn12 · 2022-07-30T13:56:38+00:00

Cocaine (don’t get hooked on it through)

scullywolf · 2022-07-30T14:01:53+00:00

Ashwagandha might help you. It increases testosterone and helps reduce general anxiety hut you’ll have to use it for at least 2 weeks to actually see the effects. Start with one 400-600mg ashwagandha pill everyday and increase your dosage if you feel.

EricAtSunnen · 2022-07-30T14:09:39+00:00

Weed and alcohol...

sarah420sativa · 2022-07-30T14:10:36+00:00

Adderall/Vyvanse or Ecstasy

ignaslith · 2022-07-30T14:16:49+00:00

A few beers should do the trick

Migluee · 2022-07-30T14:42:08+00:00

Sounds like maybe you should see a therapist before trying to bring someone else into your life. This advice is probably said often but it’s probably because it’s an honest solution.

Rheastar · 2022-07-30T14:42:25+00:00

Raj from Big Bang Theory used alcohol. :)

astral_navigator · 2022-07-30T14:47:31+00:00

Meditation is the drug you’re looking for (if you have any sense)

Emmagrayxoxo · 2022-07-30T14:48:42+00:00

Cocaine

PoetryComfortable467 · 2022-07-30T14:51:27+00:00

When I smoke weed and get in the zone I can talk to anyone I’m also very socially awkward

TannerPoonslayer · 2022-07-30T14:51:32+00:00

It’s called alcohol and it works. It’s also addictive, easy to over do, and bad for you.

AlphabeticalMedical · 2022-07-30T14:51:51+00:00

Find a nice sunny day where you have nothing you need to do. Get yourself 2/2.5 grams of mushrooms. Put your phone away. Walk around a little. Update us in the morning

ken6217 · 2022-07-30T14:53:31+00:00

AsK Bill Cosby. He’ll give you a few tips.

grindforthegold · 2022-07-30T15:01:31+00:00

take some cocaine to the club. open sete. do some lines with them. profit

BlackGlitterBomb_S · 2022-07-30T15:20:55+00:00

Anti-anxiety meda!

CrabOfAllTrades · 2022-07-30T15:25:45+00:00

Therapy

myloteller · 2022-07-30T15:26:23+00:00

Its call liquid courage. 1-2 shots will ease your nerves

AbbreviationsOdd1895 · 2022-07-30T15:44:22+00:00

Whisky

DanaWhite420 · 2022-07-30T15:59:34+00:00

NAD:

Beta blockers (ex. Propranolol) are often prescribed for public speaking anxiety. It’s an off label use of a medicine typically used for high blood pressure. Unlike Benzos it won’t impact you at all psychologically, but it will help to relive the physical symptoms of anxiety (ex. shaky voice).

I would speak with your doctor about exploring this option.

PhoenixMaster01 · 2022-07-30T16:04:14+00:00

This may sound blunt but if I were in your shoes I’d want someone to say this to me: go to therapy.

Prestigious-Brain450 · 2022-07-30T16:09:56+00:00

Coke and Ketamine-YeyK

Relevant-Spinach294 · 2022-07-30T16:16:22+00:00

Maca root

Ashwagandha

And don’t jerk off for a few weeks

Weary_Horse5749 · 2022-07-30T16:16:23+00:00

Alcohol buddy

sincere_blasphemy · 2022-07-30T16:18:34+00:00

Hey there! I don’t know if this is a possibility for you, but I think the best thing would be to seek out some personal therapy, or even a psychiatrist through your doctor. A psychiatrist is MD with psychological training and has the ability to prescribe medication. And also for therapy, you really don’t need to be “crazy” or doing really bad in life to seek one out. But they can really help with social anxiety and isolation. They are trained in communication and connection and can help you with techniques and also just connecting to your own life.

I would try going to the doctor and telling them about your social anxiety and ask if therapy is a possibility. They might be able to refer you for less money than if you sought one out on your own (in the USA at least).

I wouldn’t try taking drugs with a doctors or therapist approval because it’s going to be really hard to get the dosages correct and manage symptoms with your particular body. Additionally, taking drugs is often one of the later things a therapist recommends BECAUSE of the side effects.

Professional_Yard_76 · 2022-07-30T16:30:20+00:00

Yes there is but try to not do this. Look up cognitive behavioral therapy for social anxiety. Master your emotions and don’t rely on drugs. Start by asking people if they know the time - men and women - and just initiate daily small talk,

Obviously keep your phone hidden and don’t wear a watch.

Do that 10 times a day to start

DiabolousAvocado · 2022-07-30T16:50:18+00:00

Here’s the “medication” you need.

GABA Rhodelia Acetyl L Carnatine Brocco Max

None of which are actual medications. They are all vitamins.

Then, jog every chance you get, & lift weights. Martial arts help too.

Then adopt artistic hobbies like guitar & painting, & also real world hobbies like science & scripture.

Then cut out porn.

& finally, practice. The first couple are always the hardest.

DiabolousAvocado · 2022-07-30T16:50:43+00:00

Here’s the “medication” you need.

GABA Rhodelia Acetyl L Carnatine Brocco Max

None of which are actual medications. They are all vitamins.

Then, jog every chance you get, & lift weights. Martial arts help too.

Then adopt artistic hobbies like guitar & painting, & also real world hobbies like science & scripture.

Then cut out porn.

& finally, practice. The first couple are always the hardest.

ElegantGary · 2022-07-30T16:52:03+00:00

I think what you’re thinking about is called alcohol. Or maybe cocaine.

iliketreesndcats · 2022-07-30T16:55:22+00:00

Meditation and reading will do you wonders on developing yourself out of social anxiety

When you read, you learn interesting things and sharing interesting things is a fundamental of socialising

The meditation introduces your mind to a baseline calm awareness and puts you in the right headspace to navigate the world. It will be uncomfortable at first, but 2 minutes intentionally breathing with your eyes closed thinking about nothing else is the perfect way to start

Try to read some content on a branch of philosophy you like. It'll be different for everybody. Personally, a brief study into nihilism and existentialism helped me to gain new perspective on my anxieties and I love sharing that stuff with others. I find people are receptive. Stoic philosophy like the works of Marcus Aurelius also helped a lot with navigating the world and dealing with bullshit

Finally, finding a kind of science that I'm interested in (mycology), gives me loads of interesting content to entertain myself with and as a bonus, I have lots of interesting things to share about a topic that most people dig.

Other types of science might be the science of distillation - making alcohol, learning how the fuck my car works, climate science, ecology etc. Find something that interests you

If you really want to incorporate drugs into your journey of self-actualisation, eat some psychedelics and spend some time with yourself. Think, write, draw. Develop develop develop. You'll get there, my man. Just remember that cooperation is key and approach everything with an open and full heart. You catch more bees with honey than you do with malice; and ignorance never made anybody any friends. Ask people about their bullshit and learn to ask good questions in a way that makes them think.

Everything gets easier as you become a more well-rounded, experienced human and that takes time and effort. There's no wonder pill, but I mean light doses of benzos are made to control anxiety - the catch is that they slow your brain down and can make you feel a bit cloudy. Meditation does a similar thing without the fog, and it won't ever do you any harm either

Good luck :)

DontTakePeopleSrsly · 2022-07-30T17:03:04+00:00

There’s only two things you need;

Social experience. Go out to a bar or restaurant bar. First observe people and how they interact. Then start interacting and conversing with guys, then work on talking with women that you don’t find attractive, this will calibrate you for the women you do find attractive.
Rejection: There’s no way to avoid it. What a lot of people don’t get is it’s like the fear of diving head first into a pool for the first time. At first it’s terrifying, but the more you do it the less scary it becomes.

CmdrTombes · 2022-07-30T17:03:40+00:00

Anxiety and other mental conditions can be treated with medications but all they do is take the edge off and let you begin the work to get through your condition(s). You could definitely ask a doctor for meds if it affects your life but you have to know that you have to put in the work to get through the rest of the condition(s). There is no magic pill that takes away 100% of anxiety, depression or whatever you are facing. The more you push through it, the easier it can become. Everyone stumbles and has bad days but you gotta put in effort or even the meds won't be enough to get you through what you are facing.

As for the mental abuse, I would see out help from a counsellor or psychologist. They can help you come to terms with what is and isn't normal. I had to deprogram myself from some things my parents either taught me or displayed towards the world. I love them to death but some of their views were really skewed and made life hard for a while for me.

UnknownWolf719 · 2022-07-30T17:11:31+00:00

You got this bro, fuck the haters! This sub is toxic asf

roaphaen · 2022-07-30T17:14:24+00:00

Try some 30 minute cardio before you go out to burn off that nervous energy. I tried this before dates and other far more nerve wracking things (getting on stage in a comedy theater - no script). I would also tell you to stay the FUCK away from caffeine. It's very subtle, but I always have FAR more anxiety (50-100%) and stage fright when hopped up on coffee or diet dew and that shit stays in your system for 4-6 HOURS.

I also think cardio pumps you full of endorphins and blood to your brain, making you less reactive, needy and wittier. So win-win. Also even if you bomb out that night you will look and feel better going forward in the future.

Or you could take a pill or some liquor to cope, good luck with that - generally a pretty shitty strategy for life in general. If you can do one shot and go, more power to you, but don't start walking down the path of a destructive feedback loop - it's foolish.

Basic85 · 2022-07-30T17:15:11+00:00

Medication is never the answer, if you're talking antidepressants for social anxiety. How do I know? I've been on these nasty medications and they do not help but makes things worse.

If you want to take something try vitamins such as fish oil, b complex, magnesium, etc. These vitamins barely have any side effects at least not nasty ones like antidepressants like sexual dynsfuction. Only take them for a short period of time like a few months.

mmmast · 2022-07-30T17:26:45+00:00

Cognitive behavioural therapy is a common treatment for anxiety. I’d talk to a professional about pursuing some options.

mariokart890 · 2022-07-30T17:36:19+00:00

Eat vitamin b6, vitamin d3, and vitamin C. They won’t help you with girls but will help your mood and this creates a domino effect.

cheddarbob01 · 2022-07-30T17:43:05+00:00

Tequila shots. Not too many but enough to feel a little warm.

Kenan_benan · 2022-07-30T17:49:52+00:00

Brother , I’ve been in your situation before. I used to have extreme social anxiety, you need to go out and do shit tht makes you uncomfortable. Once you do that for 6 months and your social anxiety starts going down, then you can talk about meds if you need them. Everyone’s different ofc, for me I did things that made me uncomfortable, I “beat” social anxiety. But there was still a little bit of anxiety in me I would need to ignore, I went on 10mg of prozac and I was finally anxiety free (I would still need to do things that made me uncomfortable or else the anxiety would come back).

Kenan_benan · 2022-07-30T17:50:24+00:00

What do you think is going happen if you talk to the girl when you’re not on the meds?

THAT_LMAO_GUY · 2022-07-30T17:57:34+00:00

Propranolol for anxiety

The nootropic piracetam have me crazy good game but made me a little manic and reduced work performance

Meditation is very legit but tales lots of upfront work. For instant meditation results wim hof method is fast

Dancing completely changes my mental state and improves my game. Dance to music in venues

llluminate · 2022-07-30T18:00:18+00:00

I think you should look into mindfulness meditation

j1passion · 2022-07-30T18:02:05+00:00

try kratom

EvadingTaxes · 2022-07-30T18:03:28+00:00

Phenibut or Amphetamine

radi8life · 2022-07-30T18:16:33+00:00

Practice

joeviper25 · 2022-07-30T18:21:12+00:00

Phenibut

hi123lol123 · 2022-07-30T18:28:50+00:00

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Iamamindfullsoul · 2022-07-30T18:37:49+00:00

Be yourself. The problem is that we don’t even know who we are under the layers of personalities and societal conditioning we think we need but we just need to be ourselves.

Meditation is the most balanced way and it takes time and patience. Good luck. Visit my website HarnoorMinhas.com and follow my TikTok

Awarrapan · 2022-07-30T18:50:26+00:00

Nicotine+caffeine+modafinil

CompleteRetard69 · 2022-07-30T18:52:52+00:00

Weed.

AtDaLastMinute · 2022-07-30T18:55:08+00:00

First... You have to seek a therapist that you feel comfortable with. Shop around. Then when you know how you feel about things, take some shrooms. Microdose first. Test the waters. Then go full dose. Ego death will help you loose a lot of anxiety.

MeWuzBornIn1990 · 2022-07-30T19:05:32+00:00

Propranolol

No-Yogurtcloset-715 · 2022-07-30T19:06:48+00:00

paxil helped my social anxiety SO much. i swear it felt like i actually found the “magic pill.” but that’s just MY experience. see a psychiatrist.

Reasonable_Ad9646 · 2022-07-30T19:36:54+00:00

Try Viagra.... all the girls will talk to you then just wait and see.

4951studios · 2022-07-30T19:45:32+00:00

Practice will take the edge off

miyagikai91 · 2022-07-30T19:50:14+00:00

You can’t and shouldn’t hide behind things to talk to women.

It may be you already are good somehow but YOU can’t see it. Do you see yourself as worthy in any sense?

DudeWithAHighKD · 2022-07-30T20:05:47+00:00

There actually are. My best friend was a very socially anxious person. After highschool he saw a doctor who gave him some anxiety pills. He started taking those and next thing I know this guy is a ladies man. He would be flirting it up at parties when before he wouldn't even try to talk to a girl. He got a girl at one of the parties, and now 8 years later they are married and have a kid.

He doesn't take the pills anymore as he has matured a lot but I think he still has the prescription and takes them if he needs to. They were legit like magic.

FluidMathematician42 · 2022-07-30T20:06:10+00:00

Maybe it would be a good idea to talk with a therapist?

Did you fix basic things like your wardrobe, haircut, bodyweight? It can massively improve your confidence and lower your anxiety, because you'll know that you look great.

JaySmo16 · 2022-07-30T20:06:34+00:00

Alcohol

FightForDemocracyNow · 2022-07-30T20:08:28+00:00

Drugs are not the answer. You never want to rely on a substance, you can easily fall into a nasty habbit.

huge_langsta · 2022-07-30T20:14:33+00:00

Get yourself a job in customer service

SpecialistLess1045 · 2022-07-30T20:14:42+00:00

CBT therapy.

Anime_Life · 2022-07-30T20:18:34+00:00

deep down do you feel unlovable? I struggle through it. I have had lot of suppressed abuses, bullying, scapegoating in social places - home and school... working on them slowly is helping me build myself up. its a very difficult process but I would recommend, because even if you get good love, there will be some triggers that will connect you to unhealed past and you will be in same unlovable zone mentally and will create life difficult for you and your family. Find your worth and lovability from bottom up, and no illusion no trigger will be able to shake it. This is the point, that your 'game' will also be drastically changed.

markoid · 2022-07-30T20:40:28+00:00

Definitely alcohol, makes you not worry about shit and it's a widelyspread social drug.

Ancient_Educator_76 · 2022-07-30T21:48:46+00:00

Tequila shots, 1-3.

Beginning-Ad-8041 · 2022-07-30T23:01:21+00:00

If it’s social anxiety try bupropion, its an anxiety medication that dosent mess with your libido like SSRI’s do, you will have a few weeks of side effects but if you get through it helped me a lot

spacewatcher95 · 2022-07-30T23:05:48+00:00

I think if you push yourself to talk to a girl everyday it will get easier. Like even if it’s just random small talk it will help you get comfortable. You don’t want to be reliant on drugs and alcohol just to talk to girls

watskii · 2022-07-30T23:12:30+00:00

psilocybin mushrooms

dub_side · 2022-07-30T23:33:43+00:00

a low dose of xanax would be what you are looking for but do your research about the dangers of using that.

zaxruss22 · 2022-07-31T02:04:35+00:00

The answer is alcohol, come on man

Vladimir_Poontang24 · 2022-07-31T02:12:18+00:00

If you want to try a method that can help now cbd is a good way to go, just find the dosage that works best for you. For a longer term solution and if you feel ready to do so, I would suggest seeking help/therapy. I dealt with emotional and sexual abuse as a child and there's no way in hell I could develop relationships really in any real capacity without working on myself first. It's one of the toughest things I've done but also the most gratifying and fulfilling. I'm not going to be able to attract the person I want to be with until I work on myself enough to have those qualities as well. Good luck to you, I hope you find what you're looking for

nicolenyan · 2022-07-31T02:24:22+00:00

Read this as “mediation” at first. You could harness the power of visualization by spending some time mentally walking through confidently walking up to a woman and speaking to her.

cruz_93-j · 2022-07-31T02:35:01+00:00

I used to take Xanax recreationally that shit made me feel like Superman.

Kingquaycool · 2022-07-31T02:37:28+00:00

2 shots a hour in my opinion.

iderzer · 2022-07-31T02:38:56+00:00

A little booger sugar will do it,

hermitnerd1 · 2022-07-31T02:50:07+00:00

Kratom

TheColorAndThe · 2022-07-31T03:06:26+00:00

Whiskey.

d4rkprodigy · 2022-07-31T03:21:49+00:00

Microdosing shrooms helps with anxiety and mood elevation

TanishPlayz · 2022-07-31T03:40:25+00:00

I have a similar story, but instead of parents abuse, I was abused in school as I was bad at talking to people as I had ADHD which I didn't know back then, there goes my social skills, overall my personality came out to be shit after

ReorgAtty · 2022-07-31T04:25:47+00:00

Adderall.

YaadmonGyalis · 2022-07-31T05:09:05+00:00

Experience… You have to save yourself, stop looking for something to save you. You can start by changing your self-image.

isaacnewtonx40 · 2022-07-31T05:45:02+00:00

I love your mentality bro. You’re fully aware of the fact that you will have to go through the journey of talking to many women before you settle down. There’s so many people that don’t understand that.

Pod_people · 2022-07-31T06:28:13+00:00

Propranolol. Musicians use it for stage fright.

Kexchexx · 2022-07-31T06:40:41+00:00

I'd say alcohol but what do I know.. Don't drink too much tho

rienjabura · 2022-07-31T08:31:40+00:00

-Drake meme- "Medication to talk to girls" = 🚫 "Meditation to talk to girls" = ✅

Self awareness and considering the reason why you want to talk to a girl, and what you would find interesting about other women, is key.

kunnizaro · 2022-07-31T08:36:42+00:00

Leave the internet and stay out. Talk to the stangers first.

Unreasonableguy · 2022-07-31T09:29:18+00:00

There is a pill that works kinda like alcohol. But without the being drunk part, just the boost in confidence. Side effects are though: death when combined with alcohol, addiction. So you should only use it a few times a week. Never daily.

Aggressive_Soil_5134 · 2022-07-31T10:15:53+00:00

Well the first thing is obviosuly to jut work on your social anxiety by putting yourself in more situtions.

But if it's terrible then Xanax a few times a week isnt going to cause your a lot of damage as long as you don't get addicted to it.

GuidanceWitty8643 · 2022-07-31T10:23:32+00:00

Stop watching porn.

HisBaeBee · 2022-07-31T17:25:57+00:00

Um, anxiety medications. Alcohol. I know, it’s not the best advice… but I am bisexual and I have a hard time talking to women. A drink or two usually helps loosen me up. Plus, if you go to the bar and just practice talking to people, it might help you find your confidence.

PTDG310 · 2022-07-31T18:49:40+00:00

Micro dose mushrooms. It completely kills your ego and let’s go mojo flow. Don’t take too much though or else you’ll be a giggling fool 😂

Amikatey · 2022-07-31T19:37:40+00:00

Everyone started nervous @F so just approach.

Sweaty_Literature_69 · 2022-07-31T19:59:41+00:00

Figure out the reason of your anxiety. look within yourself and see why you feel afraid to approach, ashamed of expressing yourself, and why you fear rejection.

Sort yourself out from within everything else will fall into place. In your case, therapy could be the way. Trust me this is how you change everything, the rest is just cover ups.

jaypb182 · 2022-08-01T22:08:00+00:00

Psilocybin msuhrooms

Specific-Coconut-689 · 2022-08-04T06:09:09+00:00

Cocaine and xanax

Title	medication to help talk to girls?
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Date	July 30, 2022 10:24 AM UTC (4 years ago)
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