Guys seem compelled to absolutely despise women they dont want to date.

HappyCat79 · 2024-12-03T23:28:53+00:00

A lot is immaturity. When I was younger, I felt like other people’s choices were almost invalidating of my own if they were different from mine.

farnort · 2024-12-03T23:57:02+00:00

Studies show men feel disgust when looking at women they are not attracted to. I’ve also noticed men seem upset and angry when a good looking man is with a not so good looking woman.

To men, one of (if not the most) important things for a woman to be is sexually attractive. When she isn’t that then she is pretty much valueless to him.

On the flip side, this might explain why men believe a woman is sexually interested in them if she is being nice—because men themselves are only nice to women they are sexually attracted to.

If a man doesn’t want to date a single mom or a woman with a high body count that is 100% his right. The issue is they get oddly offensive about it and want to make sure single mothers know they’re used up damaged goods and women with high body counts are disgusting cum slut bitches. To be fair though, most normal men don’t do this and the type of men who do this aren’t usually desirable and are pretty miserable.

TheNattyJew · 2024-12-03T23:17:02+00:00

they think women despise men not within her standards.

This happens all the time

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ConstantCode8637 · 2024-12-04T01:18:38+00:00

From my perspective, I've noticed dudes who think like this are immature, and do not like women. They only see women in terms of who appeals to their gaze and who is attainable to them.

I've noticed these are the groups they consider most unappealing/unattainable:

single mothers
Independent women who choose to live single
hot women, or any type who reject them
Old women
Overweight women
Below average, in appearance, women

Any sensible man who genuinely likes women understands the human form is variable, and respects their power or choice.

missmireya · 2024-12-03T23:21:42+00:00

Men on PPD get angry when us women are picky or choose to remain single.

What they don't understand is that 99% of our options would be the equivalent to an unemployed, morbidly obese, single mom with 5 kids. Men, stop being picky.

So basically we get to choose men who are beyond unattractive, have substance abuse problems, have criminal backgrounds, also have 3 or 4 kids paying thousands in child support each month, and have an angry ex wife in tow.

Hey guys, stop being picky. 😂

Maractop · 2024-12-04T07:39:15+00:00

Guys seem compelled to absolutely despise women they dont want to date.

Very ironic. Women do this just as much if not more and its exponentially more popular. Tiktok exposed this. Women hating on short men unprovoked:

https://imgur.com/a/VHRARRI

If this is rage bait so is every single thing you mention in your post.

FreitasAlan · 2024-12-04T02:16:39+00:00

What I see is the opposite. “Stop hating single moms” without the word “hate” had not been used.

OwnedIGN · 2024-12-04T09:43:51+00:00

This has never happened. What is this sub, honestly some of the worst takes on Reddit can be found here.

AestheticAxiom · 2024-12-04T15:12:58+00:00

As a man I understand the difference between hating and not wanting to date someone. There are lots of women I positively love but don't want to date.

Being a single mother can be something the woman is to blame for, but in general the father (Assuming he's around) carries more of the blame.

What you're describing seems more like backpaddling (Or a kind of "Motte an bailey") than not actually not understanding the difference..

FrameWorried8852 · 2024-12-04T16:46:30+00:00

As a man, we don't despise ugly women, we just treat them like dudes like ourselves. Being treated as man often feels like derision when it's just people don't see a need to care.

BDaily24 · 2024-12-07T05:19:12+00:00

There is a study of brain scans that measured men and women's brains and how they reacted to images of unattractive women and men.

Women's brains responded neutrally and unattractive women triggered anger in men. An ugly female reddit poster linked it on the vindicta subreddit.

mashedturnip · 2024-12-03T23:50:40+00:00

Or just women in general

That’s why being friends is a chore and unenjoyable, and our company is boring and stifling

Our interests, products and content are of little concern to them if it’s not sexual

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thegoldendragon7678 · 2024-12-03T23:27:24+00:00

I see this happening on both sides. A lot of disrespect and shame towards people who are not “good enough” coming from loud minorities on both sides, especially online.

Edit: obviously this doesn’t justify either one doing the other. I just think that there are a lot of shitty people and it’s not a gendered issue off the bat.

-Kalos · 2024-12-04T02:42:25+00:00

It’s called negging and insecure people do it. Doesn’t matter how attractive you are either, I’ve seen plenty of people neg Rihanna. Kind of unfair to say all men do this though or it’s gender specific when it’s shitty people who do it

Nihi1986 · 2024-12-04T00:19:50+00:00

It's because the market fucking sucks, simply put.

Those guys know that most fat girls would be dateable enough if they weren't so fat. They also know they wouldn't be so fat if they had a harder time in the dating market, because currently they can find a low self esteem man to date who might even be a perfectly fine and caring man, while most average guys struggle with dating.

Same for single moms, and a pletora of traumas associated with the guys dating life.

Now, I know that sounded awful and rude, I'm just explaining why this happens, not necessarily my own personal thoughts, though I definitely share the general feeling about the dating market: so easy for women that they don't even put any effort, so difficult for men that sometimes it seems impossible no matter how hard you try.

This is more complex, though, since women usually want something serious and stable and that's not so easy to find nowadays. Decent looking, empathetic and finantially stable men are scarce in many countries and cultures. So if a fat girl or a single mom gets a decent boyfriend only for a few months that only means a waste of time for her...

But yeah, overall, the reason they 'despise' those women is pure frustration with the market. A man dating a woman he likes won't complain about fat women and single moms, just like a hardcore modern feminist won't hate on the whole gender when she's dating a decent looking good man.

Aware-Resolve6740 · 2024-12-03T23:45:26+00:00

This whole gender war nonsense only exists online. Most well adjusted people don’t despise the opposite gender

Throwaway26702008 · 2024-12-03T23:20:27+00:00

Generalizition after genralization and all based off biased anecdotal evidence or just straight up social media bs.

I can refute this whole thing for myself right mow:

Im unnatractive, I have attractive female friends, I don’t want to date them, they don’t want to date me, we are very close and dont hate eachother.

The end.

kvakerok_v2 · 2024-12-04T01:43:54+00:00

The "hatred":

- Hi SingleMom, would you like to go on a date to the Cheesecake Factory?

- Boy, you better take me to a high class restaurant or the date is off.

- You're out of your mind, get out of my car.

- You hate single moms!

No accountability was found in this post.

The "hate" is typical gaslighting a woman engages in when she's put in her place by a man she thought she had by the balls.

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Schleudergang1400 · 2024-12-04T20:12:28+00:00

It's a form of gaining the perception of having power for the powerless. Have some empathy, girl. It's not rocketscience.

Grow_peace_in_Bedlam · 2024-12-05T15:54:36+00:00

It goes both ways. Just look at the animosity towards passport bros from the same women whose indifference inspired them to go where they're desired in the first place.

just_a_place · 2024-12-06T02:39:20+00:00

Silly crazy woman.

Women we don't wanna date simply don't exist! 🙂 What are you talking about? How can we hate something that doesn't exist?

Sinnestanten · 2024-12-11T08:44:42+00:00

Ugly woman here - at best I am friend zoned or invisible to guys. I am totally fine with this. Then there's a certain group of men who act both disgusted and insulted by my mere existence. If they can be cruel to me they will be. In real life most of these guys are so called Chads and this is a type of man I avoid and hate. Because I know that any interaction with him will be awful and painful. Avoid. Avoid. Avoid.

Then there's there is the Chad Adjacent Guys, Chad's entourage, his cheerleaders. They worship the ground Chad is walking on. They want to be Chad so much that they do and want everything Chad does and want. Maybe they hate us ugly women more than Chad himself. They are the ones laughing and cheering on when Chad finds an ugly woman he can be mean to. They facilitate this situation I would say. I avoid these kind of guys as much as I can as well.

And finally there's The Red Pill Guys - they seem to exist only online and they want death camps for us ugly women.

So yeah, being invisible and friend zoned is not bad at all...

flakybottom · 2024-12-03T23:28:39+00:00

Nah, you just think even the slightest bit of criticism is hate.

leosandlattes · 2024-12-03T23:37:00+00:00

They don’t despise the women they don’t want to date. Most men find their female family members and friends enjoyable. They are friendly with their female coworkers and whatnot.

For strangers, it’s either indifference or repulsion, like the women they don’t find attractive are either invisible to them or they find ugly women, well, ugly. But that is the same with women as well. Strangers who we do not want to date are either invisible to us, or we find them ugly, but that is not the same as despising them.

RushtyTinker · 2024-12-04T00:10:50+00:00

Because there's not millions of posts widely available online of women saying deranged things about short or bald men or anything

It's not hate I guess, they just don't want to date them

AntiHypergamist · 2024-12-04T00:27:32+00:00

I’m not going to white knight for single moms. There’s plenty of misandry on Reddit but you choose to focus on defending single moms, shows you care mainly about dodging responsibility

pop442 · 2024-12-04T00:07:13+00:00

I mean...isn't that true vice versa too?

How many times have we seen certain women bitching about short men and their "Napoleon complexes" constantly?

Sure-Vermicelli4369 · 2024-12-04T00:44:01+00:00

What? Plenty of women I wouldn't want to date. I don't think much about them.

ExcelsiorState718 · 2024-12-04T05:52:17+00:00

Where do you get the idea that guys despise women they don't want to date?

Most of what I see is men responding to those women making dillusional ridiculous post like the 300lb woman crying about get left on a date,where she clearly catfished the guy.

Calling things out doesn't mean men despise all women they don't want to date its generally reserved for specific women because of their specific actions.

LoudPiece6914 · 2024-12-04T09:06:35+00:00

You don’t understand how men’s minds work. We are annoyed with how much we have to constantly coddle women’s feelings or pretend like you are actually making a good point and when it’s with someone, we don’t want to have sex with we don’t need to hide it. No one gets mad that guys have sex with fat girls. A lot of them are better people, wife quality personality, will give you a lot less of a headache than attractive women because they know they can’t get away with the same crap that hot girls can or they actually have to develop their personalities. We find it annoying when we encounter a few who think because an attractive guy just wanted to use her to cum now she’s deserving of that standard of man when he would never commit to her and we know it. We know when other guys are using you for sex and it’s annoying to us when a woman thinks she’s deserving of higher standards than she is because she doesn’t realize she’s being lied to and we know it. If you’re someone who men don’t view as wife material, you’re probably constantly being lied to because men just want you to shut up and have sex so it’s easier to tell you what you want to hear so you feel in the mood.

DumbWordsmith · 2024-12-04T00:00:32+00:00

The problem is you tend to perceive it as "hateful" when a man respectfully expresses that he's not attracted to those women (on a sub centered on dating, no less).

You tell men to just turn off their desires (which is laughable) and go do something else with their lives, but you choose to spend your time whining about the way that certain men express their opinions. You can just turn off the phone and go on with your day too.

And women are often just as blunt about a man's looks, height, earnings, and more. It's not a big deal IMO.

rustlerhuskyjeans · 2024-12-04T00:11:29+00:00

RedPill is information for guys on how to deal with the ridiculously slanted towards women market for dating. It’s not about hating fat chicks and single moms it’s about knowing your worth as man.

I was out at this speakeasy with my girlfriend and saw this guy who was fit, handsome, and muscular clearly on a first date with a fat, ugly, woman with bad skin. I wanted to tell the guy tf are you doing, let a fat or ugly guy have a chance with her, we know you aren’t serious here.

For single moms I have a friend who met one, and because he’s been iced out from female affection for years now I think. He married her in 2 months of meeting her. I wouldn’t say don’t date a single mom to him, but why marry one right away. He’s blue pilled as hell and despite everything that has happened to him he needs to believe that a woman has to love him.

The imbalance in the dating market is causing guys to do stupid things for women, so red pill tells guys the situation so they don’t do dumb things.

Ziogatto · 2024-12-04T06:22:04+00:00

“But women-“ If you have proof women of straight up dehumanizing men, being called out, and saying “We just dont want to date him!” present it. Keep in mind, the guy(s) can’t be a pile of shit.

You're so out of touch with reality... Women will admit the truth of this all the f***ing time:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-TZ9nB_evDA

Please explain how a perfect stranger that says "Hi!" is a complete pile of shit, and if you want to argue it isn't real it would be more productive for you to argue about how santa clause is real.

Thank-You-rand-pct-d · 2024-12-04T01:33:38+00:00

I feel you've seen a few unlucky examples

fleshcrayon · 2024-12-06T12:28:00+00:00

Pretty much. The sad truth is us men have no use for women we aren’t attracted to.

Master-Watercress567 · 2024-12-03T23:41:35+00:00

I do not despise my friends and family, no

Equal_Connect · 2024-12-03T23:42:17+00:00

I mean i dont hate any woman in particular except the hags on the view. I personally love fat girls but ive gotten ridiculed for “objectifying” them. I dont hate stacys but i cannot ever get along with them because they think they live a harder life than the average man which is just a bad take and they seem to have superiority complex over men. The only women i ever talk to irl are ugly or fat women because they look like me.

SteveSan82 · 2024-12-03T23:45:37+00:00

No. They just don't exist to us.

catdog8020 · 2024-12-04T01:39:51+00:00

Just curious, it’s interesting i never hear republican woman in these debates as they are under-represented.

Men are simple and we understand that not dating is hating for many democrat woman because they are either gay or decentering from men. It’s not really hate but dislike is synonymous with hate, contempt, etc.

Most democrat woman that are 4B and/or decentering from men do not understand what this means to men. It means we don’t care if you exist and we are a reality view of the open contemptuous feeling we really have for you - you don’t count and you should not be seen, heard or accepted/acknowledged.

As a past democratic i encourage other democrat men to vote republican because if this 4B feminist movement continues we will have to go other countries where woman actually like men.

Title	Guys seem compelled to absolutely despise women they dont want to date.
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