Who do you guys think the average woman is dating?

krackedy · 2025-09-06T15:28:56+00:00

When I go out I see average women with average men everywhere.

I went for a bike ride along the canal today, there were lots of average couples out and about.

poopoopeepeecrusader · 2025-09-06T19:00:02+00:00

As an average woman I can confirm I’m not dating a 6’3 millionaire. I am dating a man who is my best friend and that’s worth more than a six figure income

MongoBobalossus · 2025-09-06T14:38:00+00:00

Every time I go out it looks like they’re dating guys that look like me (burly, bearded, tattooed), skinny dudes with mustaches and baggy clothes, or, Edgars. Which makes sense, because that’s who lives in my area.

SexCrispies · 2025-09-06T16:32:29+00:00

Depends on what "dating" means to you. Being in a committed relationship? Then, with average guys.

VersionEins · 2025-09-06T14:38:02+00:00

with an average job

People always say that people just need a "normal" or "average" job. What even is that?

Clutterboxx · 2025-09-06T23:43:43+00:00

Women are, on average, dating men who are taller, equally or more educated, earn more and are liked by other women. In other words the average woman is dating a man who doing better than her, if she can not access a man who is doing better than her she would rather remain single, which explains the current relationship crisis facing younger generations.

IridikronsNo1Fan · 2025-09-06T14:45:32+00:00

I can only speak about my social circle but the most romantically successful guy is a typical Chad. He has a girlfriend, a side chick and several situationships. Sometimes the side chick get promoted to a girlfriend.

Other guys I know who are in stable relationships are either Chads, have very successful careers, lots of status or a combo of all three.

The rest are either in awful relationships that make them miserable, can't get a relationship at all or have given up on dating altogether.

In my experience, women have a skewed perception of what an "average guy" is because they think that the average guy is a Chad while the truly average guy is invisible to them.

IgorXY · 2025-09-06T14:45:32+00:00

Who do you guys think the average woman is dating?

They are not dating, they have situationships with hot guys.

If you are an average looking man with an average job and you take care of yourself you should be able to find a woman that is your equal.

Oh sweet summer child. Do you know that you are not entitled to find a woman even if you "are an average looking man with an average job and you take care of yourself"?

IntrusiveThot6 · 2025-09-06T20:04:44+00:00

The average man regardless of what the dudes here say lol

Dramatic_Survey_5743 · 2025-09-06T14:43:12+00:00

Ask the average guy how hard it is for them to get a girlfriend. If every women could date a top guy they would, but mathematically it's just not a reality. If woman want a relationship they are going to have to settle for men they probably aren't all that attracted to , that's reality.

I know do many women complaining on the internet about how they cant find a mind and then they magically appear pregnant. Because to a normal guy you assume she's cant find a guy, but once you know the game , she's getting her back blown out by a guy who won't commit

DGenerationMC · 2025-09-07T05:54:22+00:00

Themselves.

hostility_kitty · 2025-09-07T15:40:24+00:00

My husband is in the top 2% of guys his age now, but I definitely didn’t predict it when I got married to him. He was average before, but then he got a bunch of really good raises at work. Does this mean I’m with Chad now?

Waxico · 2025-09-07T02:34:17+00:00

Average guys, but they are settling. They want guys out of their league but know they aren’t likely to get it, so they settle for someone more their speed.

It’s more so the fact that being with someone that is your equal is seen as settling or a downgrade. Examples of this female deluluness can be seen in this very thread.

Rebexl5150 · 2025-09-07T04:27:20+00:00

Average women don't want average men. 2/3 of men are virgins or haven't had sex in the last year. Women want men 6ft+ that's only %14.5 of men. They want men who make $100k+ only %17 of men make that or more. Who do I think the average woman is dating? It's for the most part nobody or sharing the same guy that other women are dating. Now there is a 3rd option where women monkey branch from relationship to relationship. Yes women monkey branch looking for the bbd(Bigger Better Deal). Other reasons why average women don't want average men its because they think they're better than men. Lets also throw in that women do not date "down" they only date "up". Remember guys women would rather share a highly successful alpha than be straddled with a faithful beta.

Psykotyrant · 2025-09-06T14:42:35+00:00

I’ll go with increasingly no one as a response.

BaronIncognito · 2025-09-07T13:03:07+00:00

They are in situationships with guys that won't commit to them in the long term.

Soft-Neat8117 · 2025-09-06T15:39:45+00:00

Obese women with thinner, better looking men.

Obese men with no women at all.

This morning I had a patient. Fairly average looking dude, late 30s. His wife? She looks about 60 years old with dyed pink hair. I thought she was his mother at first.

shadowrangerfs · 2025-09-06T16:58:16+00:00

I think average women are dating average men. I see average looking people with other average looking people whenever I'm out in public. Those people just aren't on the internet talking about dating.

Charming_Coffee_2166 · 2025-09-06T16:48:58+00:00

The truth is simple: we don’t want you as bad as you want us. If we don’t really want a man we can wait and choose the best option we can. Why settle for less if we don’t really want you this bad?

Just think about it: you get to choose something fancy, the fancy thing is risky and a huge hassle like a boat for example. You don’t need that much so you go for the best option you can get because why not? You can wait, the boat is not necessary for survival, it’s just a want, not a need. Just like men nowadays.

We don’t want man in our lives because it’s not necessary anymore. We make our own money and as long as you don’t bring any value to the table we can wait. For a better boat.

throwaway73737828 · 2025-09-06T15:45:24+00:00

They are fucking multiple hot men, and its mostly short flings. And then they have a soft bf who make them feel good in long term. And when 29-30 hits they stop it all together and find a stable, good income guy, get married have kids (it may be not his kids btw) and either they divorce later or they stay like that for a while.

Btw, some women dont have that soft bf, they stay single and just fuck hot guys. It depends on the women but yeah thats the dating market rn.

Jetpine9 · 2025-09-06T17:26:05+00:00

They aren't that average. I've known a surprising number of women who have dated rich guys just to see what it was like. And I don't blame them, because it was good, at least for a while. The rich are different from us. Women I know typically have dated exceptionally popular guys (best tip I can give average men; live with an above average man if you must have roommates), at least at some point. Generally these guys are popular because they have some niche subculture skills or a position like business owner or educator. They rarely are going all head over heals for schlubby average dudes, despite the narcissistic claim that there are schlubby couples everywhere

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Alwaysnthered · 2025-09-06T16:08:41+00:00

yeah, if we talk about like...the 50% of women in the average-ish range...I'd say for the most part they are dating average men as well.

Former_Range_1730 · 2025-09-06T19:11:12+00:00

Depends on the sexuality of the woman.

If she's on the non hetero spectrum, she's dating or in situationships with at least one female friend, and at least one guy.

If she's 100% hetero, she's dating a guy who is either slightly above average, or in situationships with a top tier guy.

AlmostKindaGreat · 2025-09-06T21:49:22+00:00

Roughly looks match and similar "level" guys as themselves. Unless it's casual (whether they know it or not) in which case they can shoot significantly higher, maybe even get these "top men" you mention.

I think a lot of women are put off by the modern man who is addicted to porn, puts no effort into sex / romance, and expects women to do most of the domestic labor. I think a lot of women are traumatized by modern dating and creeps and are fine with being alone.

I don't think so. Guys who are struggling can't get the first date. They're not getting dumped because they're not good enough at sex or aren't doing enough chores when they move in with their girlfriend.

Getting the first date is all about attraction, attraction, attraction. Many guys are being delusional about how important that is, what it takes to be attractive to women, and their current attractiveness level according to that standard.

Real-Celebration4506 · 2025-09-07T00:49:04+00:00

They are dating average men. Yeah ok they would rather but with be with some hot millionaire. But the men all complain that they can't get dates so I guess it's true? Maybe everyone needs to just get off apps and meet people in real life.

TopShelfSnipes · 2025-09-08T15:03:53+00:00

You have to adjust this for age, though. IMO the average person is pretty bleak. But that's because you have to remember not everyone is college educated, poor immigrants exist, the hood and the trailer park are still part of this country, etc.

At 25, the average woman is going out with the average guy.

Her: Probably about 5'3" or 5'4" with a BMI approaching, but not obese. Has a core friend group, is social, goes to parties, has been to bars, probably doesn't really like clubbing or only does it occasionally. Has a few insecurities and traumas. Makes under $70,000/year in a HCOL area, or under $55,000/year in an average cost of living area. If she's truly average, in the face she's either a below average college educated woman or she's an average to slightly above average high school graduate. She appreciates humor. She has one core hobby outside of work or screen-based hobbies, and that's about it. But she's open minded.

Him: Probably about 5'8" or 5'9". Slightly leaner than she is, but starting to form a belly. Not particularly strong or fit. Has a few close friends, but isn't as social as her, but he does get out of the house with his friends, goes to parties, has been to bars, hates clubbing and only does it if a woman or his buddies wants to. Has a few insecurities and traumas. Makes a hair more than she does, but still under $70,000/year in a HCOL area, or under $55,000/year in an average cost of living area. If he's truly average, in the face he's either a below average college educated man or he's an average to slightly above average high school graduate. Has a bit of a sense of humor, but isn't the life of the party. He has one core hobby outside of work or screen-based hobbies, and that's about it. He's generally open minded, but has several things he absolutely will not want to do with her because he doesn't like them.

At 40:

Her: Same height, BMI is now obese. Still has a core friend group, but works a lot. Occasional bars, less parties, doesn't really club anymore. Has worked through some of the insecurities and traumas. Makes under $80,000/year in a HCOL area, or under $70,000/year in an average cost of living area. Her education is now irrelevant. She still appreciates humor, but laughs less. She's still got the one core non-screen hobby, but does it less. She's less open minded.

Him: Same height. Much higher BMI and definitely has a belly. High likelihood he's balding/greying. No longer fit. Has 1-2 close friends, doesn't see them often, and most of his social circle is derived from work. Only goes to bars if he's a drinker, doesn't really do parties anymore, won't club. Still has the same insecurities and traumas. Make more than she does, but still under $85,000/year in a HCOL area, or under $75,000/year in an average cost of living area. His education is now irrelevant. He's lost his sense of humor, and is very serious/analytical. He may or may not have the one core non-screen hobby - if he has kids he doesn't do it, if he doesn't, he still does it. He's less open minded, but if the relationship is good he's very willing to do things he's told to do for the betterment of the household, he just won't intuit them in most cases.

IMO that's "average."

lightshiner145 · 2025-09-07T10:18:09+00:00

So false. Average men do not get their equal in this day and age

Aromatic-Following98 · 2025-09-06T21:15:14+00:00

I think women are dating 5'10-6' former college athletes in non prestigious sports, and 6'2-6'7" broad frame losers with no future trying to be entrepreneurs or just in jobs that have no real long term earning potential.

And in cities probably a third group of slightly above average thin white men with top 8% earning potential that are good at projecting high socioeconomic status

Each one of those groups would be roughly 5% of the population

And there aren't a lot of mismatched couples in public because these couples don't come out they come over because the man doesn't want to be publicly associated with the woman

Inevitable-Bite8660 · 2025-09-07T04:25:52+00:00

PPD men: “Women are only attracted to the top 20% of men!”

Meanwhile, the actual fun couples you see around you: https://np.reddit.com/r/imagesave288/comments/1najulq/an_ordinary_couple/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=mweb3x&utm_name=mweb3xcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button

Prior-Impression-871 · 2025-09-06T16:45:00+00:00

Feels like men on here just cannot comprehend the dating experience of average women. We date average men and get treated pretty averagely in return, no matter how much effort we put in. It doesn't register to men though for some reason

That's the difference between average men and women dating - an average man, once in a relationship, usually gets pretty good treatment

Average women will always get that average treatment though

ThatBitchA · 2025-09-06T16:35:28+00:00

Average women are dating average men.

Ego73 · 2025-09-06T18:33:41+00:00

Some normie guy with no self respect who simps for her. Many such cases.

Youcbah · 2025-09-06T16:22:40+00:00

Depends on what you find average

midnight_blue77 · 2025-09-08T04:28:38+00:00

Who do you guys think the average woman is dating?

The same small group of guys.

The average looking girl working at the bank isn’t going out with a hot guy who makes 6 figures a year. She’s going out with the average looking blue collar boy and probably loves him a lot.

No, I can tell you from experience she is going to be eyeing the Branch Manager who earns close to 6 figures. That's just reality.

If you are an average looking man with an average job and you take care of yourself you should be able to find a woman that is your equal.

No, because women who are our equals believe they are our superiors and are therefore thirsting for men who are far up higher in the social rungs of society. This is called Hypergamy. Women are not attracted to men who are on the same league as them, they are attracted to men who are higher up the social, economic, and biological ladders.

it’s more so that the labor of being in a relationship, marriage, ~~motherhood~~ fatherhood is just not worth it... they’re not dating because it’s just not worth it to them.

You must have been living under a rock not to realize that this sentiment has been with men for far longer and women are late to this realization. (MGTOW).

Average men are not attractive to 80% of women. Women are only attracted to the top 20%.

This is the 20/40/20 divide.

Since men populate the extremes, women are only attracted to 20% of men at most. The average 40% in the middle are just not attractive to women. At best, these are the men that women "settle" for and whom they resent which is why divorce is sky high and relationships are always hell here. Then there's the bottom 20% who are undesirable both physically and mental/emotionally, this is incel territory.

Barely-moral · 2025-09-06T14:52:58+00:00

The average woman is dating a man that was selected based on how attractive she finds him first and his moral character/behavior was secondary if it even make the list of analysed traits.

Superb-Foundations · 2025-09-07T01:31:14+00:00

I had this same question, and often, the men in here say they dont want someone in their league. They will admit that they aren't attractive or have a good body, but they won't date a woman unless she is a 9-10. The average man in here doesn't want an average woman. 🤷

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