N-Count

DebatePony · 2017-07-03T18:36:36+00:00

30 year old woman.

One.

My husband and I were each other's first and only in everything.

Butt-Factory · 2017-07-03T18:00:33+00:00

I'm at about 30 as well, although I don't have an exact count. It's had no impact whatsoever on my relationships. Despite what trp tells me (although it has come up in conversation once or twice), no man has ever even asked me what my count is, and I've never had an issue finding high quality men eager to commit. I've never cheated or been 'pumped and dumped'. I'm neither proud nor ashamed. My sexual history is a mix of positive and negative experiences.

fetchyminx · 2017-07-03T20:51:44+00:00

It took me a long time because I had to sit down and think about every person I have ever slept with before.

Don't judge me.

It's a little embarrassing. I don't want men to think I am a whore.

ZERO.

TheChemist158 · 2017-07-03T17:44:25+00:00

IIRC from a previous thread asking the same, blues had a much smaller N count regardless of gender. Any, my count is 2, including my current SO.

LSTW1234 · 2017-07-03T18:05:08+00:00

27 year old woman and mine is between 12-15. I'm not trying to be intentionally vague - there are a couple instances in which I literally don't remember whether or not I had intercourse with someone.

LeaneGenova · 2017-07-03T20:01:12+00:00

My count is one, from my current SO. And his Ncount is one, as well. :)

Feyra · 2017-07-03T18:46:35+00:00

36 female, probably in the upper 20s if N-Count refers to unique individuals.

WTF? You don't know how many?

I don't keep a score card.

Perhaps worse, you cannot recite the names of the people you had PIV with?

Worse? Sorry, but I don't treat my vagina as some magic temple with a sign-in sheet. It's a hole made out of skin with two purposes: penis goes in, baby comes out. As long as I avoid the second purpose and the first purpose doesn't result in some annoying disease, entry is rather flexible. ;)

[deleted] · 2017-07-03T17:52:55+00:00

This just about sums up my situation

shredzro · 2017-07-03T18:02:23+00:00

I'm 22 and my N- count is like near 25. I know what I want in a woman but certain things make me regret it. It definitely takes a role in relationships and I don't even admit my number. The females I've dated just know I've been with a lot and then they become insecure and stuff. Plus one of my numbers were non consensual. She was married and I couldn't do anything because I know she would've just flipped it on me.

I have a guy friend at my age. He got a female pregnant in HS. He only has like 2-3 number count. He doesn't like it but I keep telling him it's really not a big deal.

haikufun · 2017-07-03T17:46:28+00:00

Two. Honestly. Married the second one and I haven't cheated or bought a sybian. Edit: F in 30s

Entropy-7 · 2017-07-03T17:48:36+00:00

4 including my current (who, barring unforeseen circumstances, will be my last.)

That number includes any and all sex acts.

Edit: I'm a woman.

uto-uto · 2017-07-03T17:57:06+00:00

depending on what does or doesn't count to you... 2-5.

Entropy-7 · 2017-07-03T18:01:18+00:00

PIV count is 2. Everything else is 4.

Anarchkitty · 2017-07-03T18:08:35+00:00

I've lost count, but it's probably pushing the high double-digits. Maybe half of those are people I've been with more than once.

Also, since people regularly make this mistake and some people might find it relevant to this topic, I'm a straight male.

buartha · 2017-07-03T19:23:32+00:00

1-2 depending on your metrics. I am super prudish for a homo.

Tyler_Gatsby · Mon Jul 3 19:52:22 2017 UTC

You say, "30ish" but then judge us for not being sure we remember everybody either ':/

I thought I had more, but can only count up 31 now. Only one has a ? for a name.

explicit_kraken · 2017-07-03T20:19:40+00:00

I'm a woman. I'm at about 130. My wild oats were well-sown.

trpobserver · 2017-07-03T20:33:27+00:00

God damn the people here have fucked a lot of people. I can't even imagine having been with 30-50 people by your mid 20's. Wow.

The common variable seems to be alcohol lol.

Entropy-7 · 2017-07-03T20:33:43+00:00

I'm at 23. Most of those were in the last two years. I'm a 20 year old man.

Battle-Scars · 2017-07-03T22:50:16+00:00

100+. but I owned a nightclub for 16 years so there's that....

[deleted] · 2017-07-04T00:57:47+00:00

Edit 2: WTF? You don't know how many? Perhaps worse, you cannot recite the names of the people you had PIV with?

Why would you keep count? I mean, I could sit here and figure out names if you gave me a piece of paper and 20 minutes. But who has time for that?

rulenumber303 · 2017-07-04T19:34:17+00:00

I'm a 47 year old woman with a count of 2.

Lyanina · 2017-07-03T17:49:51+00:00

Pretty sure we've done this before.

I'm at 3 by my count, probably like 1 or 2 by my SO's since he and I count different things as sex. F21, all of them in relationships.

ClarityofDisaster · 2017-07-03T17:53:20+00:00

I'm a female, 32 years old. My consensual N is 1, total lifetime N is 2. Fwiw, I do want it to be higher.

RockinSocksII · 2017-07-03T18:22:50+00:00

2; I lost my virginity two months ago to whoever would have me that I was attracted to.

Edit: It's 2, not one. Reddit formatting apparently doesn't like a period after a number?

Edit 2: 23 F. Didn't see OP's first edit.

Edit 3: Removed the period to get the proper number.

DeathByBeelzie · 2017-07-03T18:25:33+00:00

27 female. 5 dudes and 2 women(not sure you care about them,but still)

[deleted] · 2017-07-03T18:32:20+00:00

20 year old guy, 0 N-count.

DLN-000 · 2017-07-03T19:02:04+00:00

2, both post transition. Not really that interesting except still kinda new to the game.

alby333 · 2017-07-03T19:52:02+00:00

40 year old man I believe my n count is 10 I'm s serial monogamist

fetchyminx · 2017-07-03T20:10:07+00:00

N count zero

[deleted] · 2017-07-03T21:08:09+00:00

Virgin, male, volcel.

philomexa · 2017-07-03T21:16:47+00:00

female, 32; including my husband, N count of 3.

lurfly · 2017-07-03T21:40:18+00:00

4 (maybe 5) including my current SO

The maybe 5 is a disappointing, awkward encounter that I'm not sure should count.

Edit: I'm 26 and female. Also 3 of my count were LTRs (3-4 year relationships). 1 was what I thought would be an LTR but things didn't go well (6 months or so). And the last of course was my one awkward thing.

Eating-mushrooms · 2017-07-04T20:11:14+00:00

37 year old male. I'm somewhere around 28-30 area. Also do BJs or hand jobs count? I don't know all the names and didn't really keep track. People you only meet for a week or a day are hard to remember spur of the moment. I don't really give a shit about anyone's n-count. Just asked my FWB who is 36 says hers is 14. Never cared, still don't.

i_have_a_semicolon · 2017-07-03T20:25:10+00:00

To me a woman's sexual past is free of judgement in the cases where she genuinely pursued lasting love and romance, meaningless or casual sex I judge without apology because by definition there's no need to value something that you yourself say is meaningless.

Approaching 20 partners it's hard for me to imagine someone having 20 deep romances by the age of 24 or something, to me it signals someone who is giving away their body for attention or power.

I hold pretty much the same standard for men except I acknowledge the fact that women are the gatekeepers and a man who can easily get a lot of sex is most likely high value

BiggerDthanYou · 2017-07-03T17:57:43+00:00

Can the women and men here be a bit honest about this?

How many people with a high n-count even keep track? I've lost track before I turned 18 because I never even bothered to keep track to begin with.

I don't even know the names of all the short term relationships I've had and probably forgot like half the women I've slept with due to all that alcohol and partying that was fueling those hookups.

But I'd say 50-70. Maybe a hundred, who knows. And that's women only. All I can do is make an educated guess, but I don't know how much I forgot because all those years are just a blur.

I would like to be honest, but all I can say is that beginning at 14 I've been drunk every weekend until I was 24. In that environment sex literally just happens, sometimes more, sometimes less, but if everyone you know loves loud music, weed and/or booze well then you also know lots of people that love casual sex.

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vitringur · 2017-07-03T18:08:46+00:00

Somewhere in the 20's.

99% of the sex I have had however has been with the same person.

jonascf · 2017-07-03T18:19:53+00:00

Male, 38. Somewhere between 15 and 20 if only intercourse is counted, somewhere above 20 but below 30 if handjobs, blowjobs etc is included.

[deleted] · 2017-07-03T18:27:07+00:00

5

Edit: male

BPremium · 2017-07-03T18:34:01+00:00

15ish, 30yr old male

kunlangeta · 2017-07-03T18:51:51+00:00

I am a guy, 27 years. N-count 57, though there was significant number of whores there.

WhiskersNT · 2017-07-03T18:59:56+00:00

Male , early 30s , n is somewhere around 30 as well

No I can't "recite the names," some of these were women who I spent one night with years ago. They don't mean enough to me to remember them

zerobones · 2017-07-03T19:41:08+00:00

Ima just out myself as ignorant here. But i don't know what ''N-Count'' actually means.

Like i get its something to do with the amount of sex you've had. But like, what does the N stand for? is it how many people or how many times? Does sex i didnt enjoy or regretted afterwards count? what about times i turned down sex? do i get half a point?

DocNMarty · 2017-07-03T19:49:10+00:00

PIV would be 2, both were casual or ONS. I'm 30M, and I guess I could be described as an incel, but nowhere near the misogynous stereotype.

Hairbrainer · 2017-07-03T19:55:43+00:00

40ish. Stopped counting around 30

dicklord_airplane · 2017-07-03T21:15:47+00:00

i'm a 29 year old dude and my number is 22 or 23. (i'm not sure if one of them counts. i was HAMMERED on halloween last year and i honestly can't remember what happened with that ninja turtle MILF who ended up in my bed.)

i wish my number was higher. i know that ive missed out on so many opportunities in the past due to totally unreasonable depression and anxiety, and it bothers me a bit.

about half of my notches occurred in the last few years because i've finally figured out how to be confident and love myself. and its all thank to mindfulness/cognitive behavioral therapy and PUA/red pill advice. i just wish that i could have started that training when i was 16.

[deleted] · 2017-07-03T21:48:16+00:00

Female. Counting my current partner, it's 5.

quotient_is · 2017-07-03T22:03:11+00:00

25 year old woman and I'm at 17. Of those, 3 were women. Does that matter? I dunno. I'm decently involved in some kink circles and several of my lovers, or whatever, came from there.

Mr_Smoogs · 2017-07-03T22:23:34+00:00

I don't think I'm above 20

The-Prim-Reaper · 2017-07-03T23:08:09+00:00

(I'm a woman)

I'm not going to count people I've just made out with.

I have been, in any sort of sexual context, with 5 people.

One guy I only went as far as oral with, and then my first and second husband, PIV as you would expect.

And then otherwise, I've had reciprocal oral with two women (in the context of threesomes/group stuff with my current husband).

Obviously this is not a crazy extensive sexual history, so I've no problems remembering all the people's names. :P

So to simplify: 5 total N-Count. Oral with all 5, PIV with only 2/5.

Entropy-7 · 2017-07-04T00:37:38+00:00

what's an n-count?

Drippyskippy · 2017-07-04T01:30:08+00:00

I give zero fucks. In true MGTOW style, zero PIV encounters. I'm not getting any bitches preggers.

HitchensTwoPointOh · 2017-07-04T01:37:56+00:00

Man, 23, around 80-90 if only counting PIV

victxriarose · 2017-07-04T02:47:21+00:00

I honestly don't even take the word 'slut' as an insult anymore, I take it as a compliment. -high N count female here

Hairbrainer · 2017-07-04T03:05:40+00:00

I'm a late 20s male. I'm 22-25. I can name (almost) every woman I've had sex with, save for the one who wanted to keep it discrete.

I honestly have never regretted the number or wanted any more. Sex is great, sure, but I hardly consider it contributing to my overall status or happiness.

rpwthrowaway2016 · 2017-07-04T08:50:25+00:00

6, 5 LTRs and 1 ONS (but no PIV)

Eastuss · 2017-07-04T10:42:28+00:00

RP Man, 30 years old, N count is 4, wish I had more experience before settling down.

Though, I had sex more than two thousand times or something in that order. Know some men with N count higher than 20 that couldn't claim being higher than a hundred times.

Shipcake · 2017-07-04T15:18:45+00:00

I don't ask because I assume they'll lie anyways.

Offhisgame · 2017-07-04T19:59:40+00:00

Start with your age and gender... 28m here at 13. I also dont give any fucks about a womans. Other signs that show lack of quality could dealbreak but not that. My first gf was a virgin and my most recent probably had a count in the teens or 20s. Dont care

mistresswhat · 2017-07-07T19:53:16+00:00

Female, 27, somewhere around 100.

Title	N-Count
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