i'm tired of hearing men say things like "i'm not shallow at all, I'll fuck a girl as long as shes not 300 pounds and bald. on the other hand, women are so shallow they will be a 5/10 and will only fuck guys 8+".

okay. first of all, when it comes to casual sex, women raise their standards and men lower their standards. this is due to the shortage of women (relative to men) in the casual sex market, which i explain here. but let's get something clear: just because you want to have sex so badly that you are willing to fuck any woman who can take you who isn't hideous doesn't make you less shallow. it makes you relatively more desperate. if you could get with the 10/10 (just as most average women can get with 10/10 men), you would take her over the 3/10 any day.

shallowness is actually dictated by how much appearance, as opposed to other qualities, are a determinant of your attraction. and i don't think anyone could ever make a valid argument that physical appearance is more of a determinant of attraction for women than men.

this is all you need to know. we all get ugly as we age, and for men, this is more than enough of a reason to prefer 20-year-olds until they're 50+ (and likely lower if the survey allowed for this). for men, maturity and intelligence are clearly not very important when it comes to attraction. but somehow, women are the shallow ones? women are the ones who prefer a balding fat wrinkly man her own age, while HE prefers to date a girl whose brain hasn't finished developing yet because she looks better and hasn't "hit the wall" yet as you all like to talk about. this argument is a joke.

edit: i keep having to repeat this in the comments. the fact that men find younger women the most physically attractive isn’t what makes them more shallow, everyone looks better when they’re young and there’s nothing wrong with perceiving this. women perceive this too, do you think we prefer older men visually? no. the fact that older women, despite this fact, prefer older men, shows that physical appearance isn’t as important as other non-visual traits. an older man would objectively be more personality-compatible, they are more mature and wise, etc, and women are more relatively attracted to these traits over physical appearance than are men, which is why women end up being much more attracted to older (less visually appealing) men. on the other hand, men don’t care that 20 year olds have the mental capacity/maturity level of their daughter— the attraction is almost all visual to them so personality is almost irrelevant. for most women this is a huge turn off. for men it’s not a turn off. as per the graphs. i don’t see how much further i can explain this.