Half the comments have sense, the other half are… highkey horrifying

aquietsword · 2022-03-30T09:52:36+00:00

My siblings and I used to play fight a lot, it never led to anything like this. No one EVER retaliated like this against something obviously fucking playful. It disgusts me when scrotes take their gf playing around like this and escalates to actual fucking assult.

spinsterchachkies · 2022-03-30T09:15:01+00:00

That’s scary. Men can be twice your size and intentionally use double the force and still get defended when they physically hurt you. Fuck that.

azulalalala · 2022-03-30T11:34:15+00:00

The moment trust is broken, that moment you should leave. I had something "milder" happen, but having my discomfort/unamusement being ignored just filled me with sheer terror. Because he wouldn't stop, I thought "This is how I die"

The_Cat_Empress · 2022-03-30T14:53:12+00:00

This is equivalent of a woman lightly shoving a man and him going apeshit and punching her.

What part of pinning her down did they not understand??

What the hell is wrong with the Internet that they are like “gIvE hOmIe a BrEaK!”

shelballama · 2022-03-30T12:16:40+00:00

He bit the soft part of the arm and BROKE THE SKIN. That's a serious bite, not a play bite. That sounds like a full force chomp.

He knew what he was doing. Hope she takes pics to show the lawyer

Junior-Lion7893 · 2022-03-30T11:24:45+00:00

I’m around her height and weight and I can tell you that almost all the guys I’ve met knew their boundaries with me. Yes, we have played fight and it never leads to them hurting me. When they want me to stop they usually just do nothing and tell me that they’re over it.

Granted I had one situation where I was on a date with a man child and he yelled squirrel and punch me on the arm. Yo… first and last date with that guy.

Equal-Ear2312 · 2022-03-30T14:35:44+00:00

girl no... he's abusive.

reminds me of my ex who bit my lip so hard, i was purple for a week, grabbed my leg so hard, i got bruises for another, bit me - especially when he knew I would go see my family/ go see my friend etc.

I think it was jealousy. he never apologized. never! he pretended nothing happened. this is how they start. even a pinch or a movement that is intended to cause harm should not be dismissed.

and I do not buy this bs about "men don't know their own strength"... they know. they just want to do it without repercussions.

Platipus6 · 2022-03-30T12:10:38+00:00

So is she trying to out the abuser in a safe place or

still in the stockholm and trying to work out a gotcha to get him to 'see' what he did, if he can't explain to his family..

august-27 · 2022-03-30T12:32:07+00:00

It is such a clear cut example of abuse/ overuse of force. Just impulsive, animalistic retaliation. How are people defending this rabid asshole?

Imagine if they had children, and their toddler play-bit him on the arm. Would he cannibalize his child too? Jesus.

She’s very lucky the bite wound didn’t get infected. This could have caused SERIOUS damage. Hope she’s up to date on her tetanus vaccination.

E- now it looks like all the abuse sympathizers have had their comments hidden. 95% of people are saying she's NTA and to reevaluate the relationship. GOOD.

sewingmachinesavior · 2022-03-30T11:37:19+00:00

Men know. Lundy says it over and over in his book. THEY KNOW, and they don’t f*cking care. Every man in that thread defending the actions is also an abuser, GUARANTEED.

extraodi · 2022-03-30T12:25:48+00:00

She should really get that checked out at the hospital if he bit her and broke skin. Human bites can be dangerous. The fact that he didn’t even suggest getting it treated after seeing the damage is a red flag and that he doesn’t give af. He’s not sorry. Oh, and the crocodile tears! Some men really go out of their way to put on a show.

MyLifeIsWandsXIII · 2022-03-30T16:31:33+00:00

So according to some of these people's logic if I playfully punch someone with no force whatsoever I then deserve to get my shit absolutely rocked in a rainfall of punches because "fair play"?

And the size difference between them is astronomical. Imagine if a kid playfully hit an adult and then that adult just sucker punched the kid to the ground because "he had it coming" c'mon. I wonder if those people would still stand by their skewed statements. 🙄 This dude knew exactly what he was doing.

dragon_wolf4 · 2022-03-30T15:18:51+00:00

Jeez what kind of a monster actually assualts his wife in retaliation to her being playful. What the f really?

myheartisfulloflove · 2022-03-30T16:37:16+00:00

This is how it started in my previous marriage. Those little “accidents”. She needs to get out before he murders her.

arnezuara · 2022-03-30T12:36:14+00:00

This infuriates me so much. It seems like OP is slowly waking up to the truth, good for her — hopefully, the situation escalates to her filing a divorce.

A man being intentionally rough whilst “playing around” with you should be enough reason for you to leave right away. I’ve witnessed men “playfully” punching the air next to their girlfriends — it was frightening. It was intentional. If he ever does anything that will so much as inconvenience you or alarm your intuition, he deserves to be dumped.

Zeniite · 2022-03-30T18:28:58+00:00

Even dogs don't "accidentally" bite like this. Ever seen a big dog play fight with a smaller dog or a cat? They keep their jaw open and don't bite down. They also provide us with more loyalty and affection than the men in stories like these.

all_or_nothing_bet · 2022-03-30T17:15:24+00:00

Next time he will "accidentally" break her arm then break her neck. If he can't control himself, he is a vicious animal that doesn't belong to the society and needs to be locked up.

Carneliancat · 2022-03-30T14:44:34+00:00

Yeah, this is a man who WILL end up killing her one day if she doesn't leave him now. Nothing here to salvage, he is dangerous garbage.

alpinepunch2021 · 2022-03-30T14:22:36+00:00

I'm glad she had the intuition to remain angry even when he apologized, since ultimately like most men he discounted her tears alone as evidence that she was upset/in pain. Her bf is basically the kind of guy who's like 'it's okay to beat a woman to death if she slaps you #equality'.

Also, the fact that OOP was clinically underweight seems like a relevant background detail. Was she always underweight? Why is she now? Why does he have no problem with it (or with attacking her especially in light of that fact)?

I've been in a relationship with someone who so far still seems HV and if I'm ever upset (or even trying to hold back tears and doing a terrible job) he'll point it out, get super concerned, be extremely consoling (I've never seen anything like it - not from my parents, any shitty ex etc.) and refuse to gloss over it. It's amazing and such a relief and makes you feel so much closer. I swear it's only after having dated someone who's actually emotionally intelligent (way more so than I am) that I firmly believe that it's entirely justified to dump a guy and keep shopping around if he tries to minimize or ignore your feelings because seeing you cry makes him uncomfortable.

mothboon · 2022-03-30T16:57:20+00:00

So f*cking stupid.

I'm a strong woman, and I've learned to dial it back so I don't hurt people. It's called being responsible for yourself. Something I guess is lost on a large portion of men. FFS it's so maddening.

Biracial_tooth_fairy · 2022-03-30T16:41:27+00:00

Let's all say it together now:

Divorce his ass!

queen_azulaa · 2022-03-30T14:40:26+00:00

Do you know that you can get a serious infection even a bone infection, necrosis, and systemic infection from human bites? Infection requiring IV antibiotics which means you'll need to be hospitalized.

Oh also dont stick your hand in someone's mouth when theyre seizing. Same concept 😊

queeninprogress · 2022-03-30T18:29:03+00:00

Anyway she is the victim and this sounds like the beginning of abuse. It's HARD to bite forcefully enough to break human skin, that's not something that happens by accident.

idiosyncraticg1 · 2022-03-30T16:17:44+00:00

I’m also tiny and I’ve play fought with 6’ tall ex’s and they all knew about their strength and how far to take things. Either this guy is a complete knucklehead or this was on purpose.

KitKat1705 · 2022-03-30T19:19:45+00:00

The word accident has never been so misused. He put his whole weight on that bite and sis is gaslighting herself and letting people gaslit her. He has showed his true self.

bookworm1896 · 2022-03-30T18:17:22+00:00

When my playful little kitten is capable of understanding not to really scratch or bite me, you should think thst a grown up man might be able to know not to bite someone that hard?!

_cnz_ · 2022-03-30T18:28:18+00:00

If the roles were reversed and she caused that amount of damage to him, everyone would be calling her a sadistic abusive b*tch and she’s TA. Comments would be littered with profanities against OP and that her husband should divorce her expeditiously, taking all her money in the divorce

ScrappleSandwiches · 2022-03-30T16:06:50+00:00

I’m with lavender commenter on the last page, just call a divorce lawyer. This was no playful accident, he was gnawing on her like some kind of animal! This guy has some kind of serious issues, and she needs to not stick around to find out exactly what they are.

There’s no way this guy is going to let her go to that dinner and expose him in front of his family like that. Hundred percent guaranteed he’ll pick a fight and make an excuse to leave her home.

(Though she says it’s 6 cm which is tiny, maybe she means 6 in?)

4E4ME · 2022-03-31T00:57:13+00:00

If she truly believed that it was an accident she would wear the outfit and put a bandaid on her arm.

She's crying out for help.

kinnsao · 2022-03-31T13:06:34+00:00

My ex was just like this -- he would leave bruises all over me from "roughhousing". Bit me so painfully and left deep purple marks many times. Would pull my hair, pinch, "accidently" hurt me so much. That psycho hated women, and hated me, and this guy does too. Ya CANCELLED ❌

4E4ME · 2022-03-31T00:40:15+00:00

Pls pm her and invite her here.

Colour_riot · 2022-03-31T01:52:48+00:00

bites that break skin can cause life threatening infections, not sure why these bozos don't get that

Erocitnam · 2022-04-02T01:59:44+00:00

"He had no clue how hard he bit you until he saw the mark"

What, he can't feel his own jaw clamp down? He did know how hard he was biting, obviously.

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fuckbeingautobanned · 2022-03-31T04:39:31+00:00

From personal experience: it's really easy to overdo biting. I once left a blue mark on a guy's tit while playfighting back in the day. Accidental fight or flight response. It was pretty bad.

BUT HERE COMES THE TWISTER: I was immature as fuck back then and now know better than to playfight with someone, let alone a guy. Guys can pin you down really easily and accidents happen due to that.

But that's not what happened here. ~~The bloke was too rough with his girlfriend. What concerns me is the whole behaviour of: it can't be that bad. Imo it's likely not abuse, but surely an immature relationship.~~ LOLYIKES they're married. Nevermind haha! That makes things so much worse. AND IT BLED? Christ. Yeah okay, together with his behaviour that makes for abuse.

Hikari3747 · 2022-04-06T01:04:56+00:00

The only bruise I hide is from when my recuse dog was resource guarding and learning how to play nice to other dogs.

He did bite me a few times and I did struggle to control him when he tried to fight another dog; but I accept those bruises as "He's an animal who clearly has trauma and can't be reasoned with".

I can forgive a Dog who was recused from a bad situation. (BTW he is doing so much better and is such a good boy now) but a person who's an adult? No excuse and the marks are on full display and I'll tell everyone where they came from. I'm pale so, it's not hard to see any strange marks. There's no reason to hide them.

Title	Half the comments have sense, the other half are… highkey horrifying
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Date	March 30, 2022 8:36 AM UTC (4 years ago)
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