why we don't do hookups.. straight from the horse's mouth

pinkcloudzzz · 2020-12-05T13:39:11+00:00

I stopped spending the night with this one FWB who was doing this same manipulative shit. He didn't hit me up anymore. It's not enough to have sex with us, they want us to fall in love with them and never get anything back

ninetiesbaby16 · 2020-12-05T13:20:28+00:00

I love how if you’re a woman but only repeat verbatim what men have already said, suddenly it’s misandry lol

oh-em-jizzles · 2020-12-05T13:00:28+00:00

disgusting. i hate that they feel so comfortable revealing how shitty they are publicly bc they know they won't ever face actual repercussions socially, and honestly might even get other men supporting them which ends up normalizing this sort of behavior. so gross.

shoo_coworker · 2020-12-05T13:06:41+00:00

One of the good things about the internet is that we can see exactly how men behave, straight from their own mouths, without having to figure it out the hard way.

On the other hand though, men are trying to make their depravity normalized--and it's working on some women. Hopefully more and more women will stop putting up with it!

HottPinkSlug · 2020-12-05T15:09:16+00:00

I had a FWB situation with a guy like this. So affectionate and romantic. Hold hands when falling asleep, hand and forehead kisses during breaks at stoplights. Then not call or text me after a hookup for months at a time. I remember telling my friends what an absolute emotional trainwreck I would be if I were in my twenties and didn't know any better. Fucking sicko

shakethat_milkshake · 2020-12-05T14:34:43+00:00

Most of the men I’ve been involved with were sadistic. They clearly enjoyed hurting, misleading, gaslighting, humiliating and lying to me. And by hurting, I mean every way possible, as a woman.

I mean it when I say I want nothing, NOTHING to do with them anymore.

It feels so good to not be prey to them anymore.

vmuzondi · 2020-12-05T14:45:09+00:00

Yep. It’s all about ego for them. All the women falling for it don’t realize that a majority of men don’t see us as humans deserving of pleasure. Even the dating scene shows how much straight men hate women with how much they’re willing to fight for their right not to impress us romantically. Thinking this changes in the casual sex scene because there’s “no pressure” is just delusion. Especially considering the fact that 70 percent of heterosexual women don’t orgasm on a regular basis.

IcriEveryTime2000 · 2020-12-05T15:21:41+00:00

There’s plenty of women out there who are looking for casual sex, why do they have to go for the ones who are not?? That’s so weird to me they are like sadists

PasDeTout · 2020-12-05T16:38:42+00:00

Avoid the naked torso selfie guys. The chances that they are f***bois are very high.

PM_ME_UR_PUPPY_PICS_ · 2020-12-05T15:33:28+00:00

How is what he’s saying not seen as mental illness? That you would find enjoyment from making someone feel bad about themselves.

goddessintheflesh · 2020-12-05T17:43:05+00:00

"Good sex" . I don't know any woman who's had good sex during a casual hookup 💀

localgirlcult · 2020-12-05T15:34:48+00:00

I noticed they usually don't know the difference between woman and women, can't spell barely and can't spell definitely.

But he can spell coochie and sexually disappoint women.

funky_worms · 2020-12-05T15:43:13+00:00

my dream for the world is that hookup culture dies out because this shit is not good for anyone involved

kahootofficial · 2020-12-05T17:23:03+00:00

The most annoying thing is when you DONT fall for this shit and they STILL tell everyone you’re so in love with them and obsessed. No matter what I said this mans inflated ego thought that just because I fucked and cuddled after I wanted to date him sOoOO bAd. Never doing FWB again.

SpaceC4se · 2020-12-05T15:40:44+00:00

They're allowed to acknowledge this. It's only wrong when we say it

FirePreferred · 2020-12-05T13:16:59+00:00

Deserves to be tried in female court and put in isolation indefinitely.

mscristalconnors · 2020-12-05T15:36:41+00:00

Then I get hate for snatching their wallets. 😤😤

Previous-Focus-2013 · 2020-12-05T18:49:02+00:00

THIS!! The guy I used to hookup with did this shit to me. Sex was intense and sensual. And help my hand, gave me ambiguous hints, then barely text me. When he did it felt like Groundhog Day, same topics same questions. I wasn’t looking for a relationship but started chasing him to get answers as to why he treats me like this. He answered ambiguously then started randomly texting me “when he’s lonely or misses me”. I’ve immediately moved on after I realized he’s stringin me along and started seeing other dudes. He texted once in a few months but I’ve stopped responding. It’s clear he doesn’t like me all that much. This is not FBW. He’s using me while investing the minimum effort. This is a manipulative piece of LWM that has no respect for women to tell you the truth.

Princess_kitty14 · 2020-12-05T15:30:28+00:00

i knew it! (yeah, water is wet) but if i were to do the same suddenly im a mannipulative whore who uses men to my own satisfaction without caring what they might feel

seashellseashell52 · 2020-12-05T16:58:05+00:00

What I don’t understand is WHY. or HOW. Why and how can you be so mean!

2020-12-05T18:20:56+00:00

I love her response:

Thanks for confirming everything I believe about men is true

I've always known at a young age that there was something off about men, but society likes to shove that "not all men" down our throats. Plus I know men who aren't like that so I had to bite my tongue at times to not offend them, but still, when men confirm what I already knew, it always feels great.

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rideoffalone · 2020-12-05T18:32:26+00:00

They're literally sadists.

shakethat_milkshake · 2020-12-05T20:51:25+00:00

Something that men taught me during my libfem days was how to treat them like this. And none of them liked it. Weird, right? :)

saltedpretzel2 · 2020-12-05T23:20:17+00:00

Hehehe. A guy did this shit to me once, I actually had no romantic interest in him at the beginning, and just thought things would be fun. But he did all this weird stuff - gave me forehead kisses, told me he had always wanted to sleep with me, shared emotional stuff w/ me after sex however he would NEVER message me. A whole month went by and I hadn't heard from him (I never messaged him either), then it was his birthday, so I sent him a message to just say happy birthday. I thought that would surely spark a convo, but nope. All he said was thanks, basically.

I was pretty annoyed because I'm pretty sure he tried to make me think he likes me even though from his lack of communication, its clear he doesn't!

I knew blocking him wouldn't really matter, cause he doesn't talk to me anyways. But I really thought he needed to be taught how little he meant to me (he was obviously feeding on the idea of having me by a string) So I fucked his best friend

maraslove · 2020-12-05T17:46:43+00:00

The fact that his ugly ass thinks this is cute behavior 💀

devoushka · 2020-12-05T16:30:47+00:00

I had this same exact experience a couple of months ago, forehead kiss and all. Except for I wasnt at all emotionally invested in the guy, so I honestly thought the forehead kiss was overly cutesy and a bit weird. When he texted me again I said I was busy and subsequently ghosted.

LevelTurbulent · 2020-12-05T18:31:55+00:00

Yep, it's not enough to have sex with women, he needs to really hurt them too.

Ornery_Inspection · 2020-12-05T15:24:21+00:00

He calls himself the "coochie scout" and can't properly spell or use correct word usage. No woman should expect any better from him based on that alone.

fdsaltt · 2020-12-05T23:22:28+00:00

learning this broke my heart. i used to hook up with men all the time i didn’t know, hoping they’d catch feelings. a lot of them pretended they did just to ghost me or ignore me or manipulate me. never ever again!!

Optimal_Grapefruit_5 · 2020-12-05T21:00:58+00:00

This the same clown who calls women manipulative bitches

Confection_Efficient · 2020-12-05T20:39:42+00:00

I can’t get past the bad grammar.

Half_Halt · 2020-12-06T01:26:00+00:00

I like my men ripped but this dude's 6 pack is skeeving me out for some reason. And "barley"? Did he graduate from elementary school? Must've skipped Hooked on Phonics day.

blerty567 · 2020-12-06T03:06:35+00:00

A guy once faked an emergency to leave after sex and then blocked me everywhere. He could’ve just left, I wasn’t exactly begging him to stay, but I guess he wanted to fuck with my head the most??

enoughalready4me · 2020-12-05T21:31:07+00:00

I'm sorry, I couldn't read it all. The poor grammar & lack of punctuation gave me a headache.

Dude can't work a comma = my lady parts become dry as Arrakis, only without the cool spice.

2020-12-06T01:27:09+00:00

i mean..how can girls not get this?! everyone in my fam warned me.."men just want sex so stay away from them unless they court n are exclusive with u"...like it's just common sense. history proves this!!!

cherrycranberries · 2020-12-06T04:56:20+00:00

Only a sociopathic idjit man who is bored and insecure would go out of their way to play games with another woman . Like that’s a waste of my own energy to play games with a guy when I don’t even want him... I have better things to do, oh and I’m not a sociopath... that as well. I have a life.

Lavender_flow · 2020-12-06T10:10:21+00:00

He also spells like a Neanderthal so 🤷‍♀️ I think it shows clearly what his mental capabilities are like.

seekingcodingjedi · 2020-12-06T10:55:16+00:00

Men: pester you like crazy, shower you with gifts and compliments, chase you for days, get you interested, finally manage to get close, talk about commitment, promise you the moon and stars, sleep with you or whatever it is they are after and then call themselves PLAYERS, boast about their SCORE. Dude, you sweat your ass off, lied and cheated to sleep with someone - because.otherwise you would get nobody. You are a dumb liar not a player. Women can get most men to take their pants off even without so much as batting an eyelid - we don't boast about it though.

breadandbunny · 2020-12-06T08:23:00+00:00

The man can't even spell. I wouldn't be able to sleep with that.

immortallogic · 2020-12-06T09:43:46+00:00

Barley

Title	why we don't do hookups.. straight from the horse's mouth
Author	balladwilds
Upvotes	1405
Comments	147
Date	December 5, 2020 12:46 PM UTC (5 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/FemaleDatingStrategy
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