Us young women, hold the most selective power especially for accessing affluent men than any other women due to our sought after youth by men, young women are pursued by affluent, high-value men. This selectivity, rooted in youthful appeal, justifies our high financial expectations in potential partners. It's rational for us to utilize this phase (ages 18-29), deemed as the period of highest selective power, to secure a well-off partner, rather than settling for less. In fact you guys saying that women "hit the wall" post-30 amplifies the urgency to capitalize on this youthful phase we have and to be high strategically hypergamous and play the dating game and men like chess so that we can get the best man as our time is more valuable than men’s in this phase and it is scarce compared to most of our life and we won’t have this level of selective power ever again due to becoming old. I always encourage young women to be strategic and discourage them not mess around, partake in hook up culture, in this phase especially not with cheap men like you. Thus, a $20 coffee date is inadequate for us young women, the women with the most selective power just as rich men of high status markers are the men with the highest selective power of all men and can get any of the desirable individuals in the opposite gender just as us young women can. The goal is to secure a prosperous future with a financially stable partner and family, making young women's time during this period especially valuable, more valuable than men’s. The refusal to accept low-budget dates is further reinforced by the availability of affluent men willing to invest more in courtship with us young women; aligning with the principle of hypergamy and the pursuit of upward mobility. So why wouldn’t we, the women with the most selective power turn down your $20 coffee date? Are you really that disconnected with evolutionary psychology, how reality and dating works?