Women - at what point in life did you have the most sex?

philomexa · 2021-11-05T14:51:42+00:00

Probably the beginning of my marriage (I was 20, he was 21), as we were young, drunk, high, and mostly unemployed.

I started having sex at 17 but it was very rare on account of sneaking around, curfews, nosy parents + siblings etc. My next boyfriend also lived at home (more sneaking around, etc) then he joined the army and was immediately deployed to Afghanistan. We only saw each other a handful of times over 3 years so I was celibate for most of that relationship.

Now I'm in my late 30's, working from home, husband no longer touring, and kiddo off to school so we're going at it about 3 or 4 times a week.

armance83 · 2021-11-05T22:46:25+00:00

I was faithful to my ex husband for 10 years (25-35), after the divorce (35-36) I fucked every hot guy within reach, now I'm faithful to my current partner

death_by_1000_cats · 2021-11-05T14:56:35+00:00

At what point in life did you have the most sex overall

The first year or two after moving in with my husband. We had sex every day, usually multiple times a day.

At what point in life where you having the most sex with varied partners?

There was a very brief (3 months or so) period when I was 22 wherein I hooked up with three different guys in a short time span. But two of the guys I only hooked up with once so it wasn't like a constant sex fest or anything.

Fabulous-Housing102 · 2021-11-05T15:22:01+00:00

From the point I got married to now
I have only been with my husband (before and after marriage)

Reisiluu · 2021-11-05T16:08:11+00:00

Most sex, university. Best sex, right now. I met my husband when I was in uni.

Need_wine · 2021-11-05T14:23:03+00:00

None as a teen. Some during college, A lot during my mid-twenties until 28.

Early thirties now, horniest I’ve ever been with all kinds of fantasies, it’s brutal because I’m single. If this is how young men feel I’m thankful I don’t have more testosterone. The appearance thing may be correct, a few weeks ago I realized I’m likely to never have sex again or atleast for awhile and I started channeling my energy into my looks via weight training and revamping my wardrobe.

Demasii · 2021-11-05T15:01:46+00:00

After college when I was between 24 to 27 was when I accumulated the most N. Four short relationships and one FWB until I met my future hubbie.

This was the time when men were the most interested in LTRs and confident enough to approach me. I was constantly getting asked out. The options were overwhelming.

This is why I always find it weird when TRP insist that 18 to 22 year olds have the highest SMV. I may have looked the best physically but mentally me and the men around me were too insecure to flirt. Men the same age just seem to be in disbelief of how pretty every other girl is and just couldn't decide who to approach.

stasiafl · 2021-11-05T14:19:12+00:00

In the first year of my relationship with my husband

quabbicoo · 2021-11-05T16:05:39+00:00

I’m 30, I definitely have the most sex now, as a married woman. I was in 1-2 short term, casual relationships in my teens and lost my virginity at 16. I was then in a LTR from the age of 18-25 and I would say sex was.. once every 1-2.5 weeks, the longest I went without sex (including handjobs, oral sex etc.) in that relationship was 5-6 months.

After we split up, I had casual sex/ONS semi-regularly for 1.5-2 years but now that I’m married (we’ve been together for just under 4 years), and we have sex 4-5 times a week on average. My sex drive is higher and I’m the most sexually attracted to my husband compared to previous partners.

Orange_Paisley · 2021-11-05T16:48:53+00:00

Between 40-42 were my slut years. I went through a bad breakup of a 9-year relationship and was celibate for 4 years. Once I stopped being celibate, I made up for lost time by sleeping with like 5 people in 2 years. I wouldn’t say I had more sex during those years. Just casual sex with more people.

poppy_blu · 2021-11-05T15:53:56+00:00

Statistically people have most sex when theyre in marriages and LTRs. Facts.

It’s time to stop humoring angry incels who shovel endless bullshit online about Chad harems. They do not know what average women are doing because they don’t know any average women personally because if they did they wouldn’t be incels in the first place.

Now that thats off my chest.

My sex drive was highest from I’d say 35 to 43. And that was with a toddler in the house for most of that time.

I’ve spent most of my life in LTR so it’s safe to say I’ve always been having the most frequent sex in relationships vs single but the quality of it was by far the best with my H (since I was 27) and continued to get better into my 40s.

The quality is still very good but neither of us has a huge drive anymore. A few rumbles a month for us is enough.

autumncolors816 · 2021-11-05T17:44:08+00:00

I have consistently had a huge sexual appetite so that has been consistent. Most of my relationships have been long term which includes regular sex. However my current LTR is much more than "regular" it's consistently daily on average 2-5 times per day (we live together). Anything less would be insulting!

KinnyMeister · 2021-11-05T19:13:12+00:00

Sex? Never heard of her. I probably conducted some brief business once, come to vaguely think.

Snacksbreak · 2021-11-05T21:20:43+00:00

30s which I am still in

Mimoxs · 2021-11-05T21:57:50+00:00

Isn't it proven that women have a massive sex drive spike in their 30s?

NarniaFox · 2021-11-05T14:20:36+00:00

I guess it's now. I'm in my middle 20s, my husband and I live together and both work and study from home, so we can have sex first thing in the morning, during our breaks and before bed. We usually don't have it several times a day though, as I have physical limits, but we surely have it more than we used to as teens mostly due to a) we have our own place now and b) we have a routine that works for us and leaves enough time for having fun here and there.

I've never had sex with "varied partners" though, I met my husband at 16 and have never dated anyone else.

Edit: I'm curious who I've pissed that they downvoted this comment.

chalkandapples · 2021-11-05T16:45:06+00:00

After I got into a relationship, age 28-now. I only had 1 sexual partner so the varied partner thing is n/a.

sweetestpineapple · 2021-11-05T17:18:48+00:00

23 F 1. Right now, living with my boyfriend so maybe 3-5 times a week? 2. Last year after my last breakup I slept with 6 people in a month, including my current partner.

sublimemongrel · 2021-11-05T17:22:25+00:00

College and throughout marriage until our first kid who was born in 2019. Same man who is now my husband. Gets harder to have as much time and energy after kids for sure, especially young children who need constant care and attention unless they are sleeping.

I never had “varied sex partners” as in sleeping with more than one man during the same timeframe

Sen_ri · 2021-11-05T20:32:48+00:00

I had no interest in having sex as a teen. Wanted a relationship at the end of college but dating was awkward. My first feelings of lust was at the age of 26. I was just fine with masturbation until then, but suddenly I was really fixated on this guy. In the infatuation stage with my BF we would spend weekends having sex multiple times a day.

I had the impression that the average woman reaches her sexual peak in her 30’s. Meaning more sexually satisfied. Because it seems to take time for women to be confident in their own desires and seek to satisfy that.

FabulousFuchsbau · 2021-11-05T21:08:42+00:00

College years and I’m married to the guy I started having sex with 😊

curiousincurious · 2021-11-06T12:48:06+00:00

Gotta love people asserting how great their relationship is or how well adjusted they are in PPD

LadyM2 · 2021-11-05T17:40:14+00:00

College years. I had a stunning bf at the time, and very good in bed. No one could ever trump that in my later years. Now I look at dudes around me and I just feel sad. I have stopped having sex altogether because I just don’t want to be bothered. Having sex with mediocre guys is simply pain.

kittenated · 2021-11-05T19:37:15+00:00

Now. My 30s. In a serious LTR with the same man.

I spent my teens and twenties in LDRs with incels I'd met online. There was no "riding the CC", or sleeping with "Chad".

I just wanted a sweet, socially awkward autistic guy like me who wanted to fall in love.

I don't feel like I'd rather have slept around, but it probably would have beaten getting abused by (what ended up being), emotionally disregulated men with no grip on reality who were addicted to porn.

comfy_sweatpants5 · 2021-11-05T15:23:49+00:00

I was promiscuous in high school but never actually had intercourse due to purity culture and the idea that I wanted to wait for someone special to have sex for the first time… instead I just gave a lot of blow jobs and hand jobs HAHA. Had sexual intercourse for the first time at 18. In college I had about 25 partners (2 longish term relationships in there), grad school only one 1 partner (2 year relationship) and have had 15 partners in the past two and a half years since moving to a new city. I’m 25. I haven’t had sex in about 6 months which is the longest I’ve ever gone, but I feel very content with that. Random hook ups don’t feel as exciting as they used to. I’m also not going out to bars as much. Don’t really want to date. I have a pretty high sex drive so I’m kind of confused why it doesn’t bother me but I really just don’t want to put in the effort right now! And I’m fine with that.

Puzzleheaded-Pie-382 · 2021-11-05T15:35:39+00:00

honestly- early college. i was dealing with the aftermath of a sexual assault and turned to being hypersexual as a way to cope. it wasn’t fun and i didn’t have a good time.

LotBuilder · 2021-11-05T17:13:33+00:00

30+ Post divorce is always the most.

AquaChip · 2021-11-05T15:19:52+00:00

College.

SaBahRub · 2021-11-05T15:55:04+00:00

Now. In a ltr

TomorrowsWar · 2021-11-05T16:06:40+00:00

Right now at almost 30
Right now because I’m single. But I prefer recurring partners, not into one night stands. I was never single till recently so I only had my one partner for a long time

Novadina · 2021-11-05T16:29:58+00:00

At what point in life did you have the most sex overall

I guess last couple years, since Covid has resulted in both my husband and I WFH, we’ve never spent this much time together before in our entire relationship. I’m 38.

It’s possible the first couple years of our relationship we had as much or more sex, we often would stay up all night doing it. I was 23 when we got together.

At what point in life where you having the most sex with varied partners?

When I had varied partners I wasn’t actually having much sex. When I was 18 I was single for awhile (less than a year, maybe 6 months), and slept with a few different people in that time. So I guess that’s the most sex with varied partners - but it was like once a month or less, and the sex lasted like 3-15 minutes. Not like with my husband, we do it for hours.

CimZim · 2021-11-05T19:44:50+00:00

Most sex was with my FWB when I was mid-late 20s. I've never had other partners.

neetykeeno · 2021-11-05T20:12:31+00:00

We were both unemployed but studying, in our mid twenties. Gen Xers who hadn't managed to catch the gravy train the Boomers caught. Feeling hella alienated. Our government elected a conservative government and life just kept getting harder. We fucked maybe an average of two hours per day but not every day...there were some six hour sessions in bed, fucking, foreplay, napping, fucking, chatting, make food, smoke a cone, drink some green ginger wine, fuck some more. Part of the joy of it was knowing how upset those in charge of the country would be at our lifestyle. It felt like a war. They wanted us to feel bad and thus we set about feeling good

I have never been one for casual sex so the varied partners does not apply to me

vial_of_music · 2021-11-05T21:08:22+00:00

Now. I’m 23 in an LTR and have sex daily.

_lexxxi_98 · 2021-11-06T02:00:50+00:00

I think In my late teens into my now early 20s. I started having sex when I was 17, and shortly after losing my virginity it really boomed. I got in to an LTR for about 4 years and stopped seeing people. Now that him and I split my body count has went from 11 to somewhere in the 20s. I was under the impression I couldn’t find anyone who’d be interested in me, and little did I know how easy it would be to find someone to have sex with no matter what I looked like. I like the thought of having sex with someone in the first couple times I hangout with them. I feel like you actually get to know someone in that sense, and how much you want to peruse with them. Attraction changes when you have sex someone. I get it doesn’t make for a good look on a female to have a high body count, but what’s it matter if you never intended on spending you’re life with them. Now that I’m really focusing on my life and the things I want I’m really considering who I want to be with.

Willow-girl · 2021-11-06T05:49:50+00:00

Probably in my teen years, because I had boundless energy and few responsibilities!

TheElusivePeacock · 2021-11-06T06:12:37+00:00

Most sex early 20s. Best sex in 30s. Oddly the early 20s was in a LTR, and the 30s have all been casual.

_HEDONISM_BOT · 2021-11-06T13:12:37+00:00

I was having the most sex in my late teens and early 20s.

But I was in relationship after relationship with no breaks in between.

All of the sex I had before the age of 25 was relationship sex.

I had the most partners in my 30s but I only wanted hookups and not relationships.

xQueen-Bx · 2021-11-05T14:19:37+00:00

i dont know if this answers your confusing and as usualy here mentally ill question, but ill try:

i had the "most sex" any time i was in the beginning stages of an LTR no matter what age from 14-30. even at my most promiscuous i had sex with a guy like once every 2-3 weeks, whereas in a new LTR i had sex 3-5 times a day for like months. so if i had stayed single forever at most id have probably had sex was like 25 times a years

ashpr0ulx · 2021-11-05T14:30:47+00:00

probably ages 18-20. that point in life with no responsibilities and lots of free time.

i’m 31 and in a LTR with a man i can’t keep my hands off of, but i don’t get as much sex as i want these days because we both work insane hours.

quiturbitchn · 2021-11-05T15:02:59+00:00

Since I started having sex at 18 it’s been pretty much the same level. Disregarding times of illness/health issues of either myself or my partner.

flapperfemmefatale · 2021-11-05T15:17:42+00:00

My first relationship (16-17). It was entirely based on sex and super toxic.

thetruthishere_ · 2021-11-05T15:18:59+00:00

Ive only been in long terms but better sex at 30+.

And before someone says some BS about escorting Im speaking about my personal life not work sex. I didnt even start escorting till about mid 40's.

keithcarterarkansas · 2021-11-05T19:17:31+00:00

A better question. At what point have I had the most self respect and dignity.

rosephase · 2021-11-05T14:52:21+00:00

As a teen and in my early 20s.

I was obsessed with sex. My teenage boyfriend and I had sex like 3-5 times a day. That was before I figured out how to have orgasms through sex, that didn't even matter It was just all I wanted to do.

I was having sex with the most varied partners from 17-21.

AT 21 I fell in love and found committed sex worked a lot better for me. It was also when I started doing ethical non monogamy. And while I have had four other partners since then (still in a relationship with three of them), those are the only people I have had sex with.

I'm 37 and I feel like I have lovely satisfying sex life. My sex drive fluctuates mostly around how good I am feeling in my life and in my body but I only have sex three times a day once in awhile. My sexual obsession calmed down and I'm honestly happy with that. Being obsessed with sex was super distracting and exhausting and lead to some bad and harmful choices for myself.

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spinsterchachkies · 2021-11-06T02:00:01+00:00

With my Ex
Never. But thinking about giving it a try now that I’m in my 30s. Some guys are into Cougars.

merlinscalculator · 2021-11-06T02:53:15+00:00

I’m 25 now and my sex life is patchy with some moments where I’ve had more of it and long periods without it. I started having sex at 17, it was always rare because there was no place to do it and my parents were strict. Then I moved out of home and couldn’t be fucked dating/having sex so I was celibate for 3 and a half years. I banged a couple of people at the end of that and ended up in a LTR just before covid hit and I had a lot more sex during covid than I would’ve without it because…. There was nothing else to do. I’m not usually a homebody, I don’t like Netflix and chilling constantly, staying home all day being domestic with your partner. But covid kinda brought that out and that life is so boring that you have to fuck to keep yourself from blowing your brains out from boredom.

Now I’m single again and covid is easing and I can get out of my house and do the shit I wanna do, my desire for sex has once again vanished. I still masturbate daily, I just can’t be fucked having sex.

I’m hoping my 30s are wilder, I don’t know how anyone finds the time and effort in their 20s. I’m tired and I’ve got too much to do.

CFinCanada · 2021-11-06T21:52:14+00:00

Probably the first few months of a relationship I was in at 23 with my ex, quantity-wise.

Superfluous_Toast · 2021-11-07T20:59:30+00:00

15-20 when I was in my first long term relationship. Now would probably be first runner up only because we haven't been together quite as long yet.

21-27 would be when I had the most varied partners, but the least sex over all.

Title	Women - at what point in life did you have the most sex?
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