The absolute audacity of some of these men. Could you imagine telling your partner that you are taking a three month break from being a spouse and a parent?

SeaNegotiation8 · 2022-01-08T18:36:22+00:00

Wait until he leaves and starts his new, higher-paying job and then sue for divorce.

She’ll be able to prove he abandoned his children AND he’ll have a higher income to garnish for alimony/child support.

LonchuraStriata · 2022-01-08T17:23:39+00:00

Tell him "me first" and vanish to a nice luxurious Greek island for 3+x months first and see what's left of him when you get back. Maybe his "health problems which are very hard to define" (aka probably nonexistent) have solved your problem by then.

whitefox00 · 2022-01-08T18:29:22+00:00

My ex-husband did this. She needs a divorce, prompt. There’s no coming back from it.

It pisses me off so much that men will have children and then abandon them when it gets difficult. Did they think it was all rainbows and butterflies all the time? Do they not care for their children at all? Can you imagine the reaction if women did that?

ShieldMaidenLagertha · 2022-01-08T17:37:43+00:00

He’s going there to cheat, period. I’d serve him with divorce papers before he left. At least when you’re divorced, you could force him to either have custody time (where you’ll get a break) or force him to pay to compensate for not taking them. Either way the court will be more just than the way he’s treating her.

bleda_princezna · 2022-01-08T18:00:18+00:00

The solution here is divorce papers. Disgusting little scrote.

oscine23 · 2022-01-08T18:35:22+00:00

He wants to go away for months to fk and drink and chill and convince himself ‘he’s still got it’. He need an ego boost. If it was really about decompressing and taking some me time, it could be anywhere and not for three whole months. He needs therapy, and probably divorce papers.

ohnomaxwellslaws · 2022-01-08T17:39:52+00:00

Ughh, of course the scrote says that she is the selfish one for not supporting his stupidity 🙄

AnniaT · 2022-01-08T19:31:56+00:00

Us women never get 3 months to focus and don't get the luxury of being able to pause our responsibilities as parents to focus on other things. The audacity. He wouldn't do the same for her if she asked him for 3 months. Also I smell cheating.

ijustcantwithit · 2022-01-09T01:58:16+00:00

All I read was “I want to cheat on you. I don’t want to be married to you or have kids but I still want the status you and the kids provide me in a social standing”

Apprehensive_Ad_7917 · 2022-01-08T19:17:01+00:00

I say let him go and then file for divorce once he’s gone. He left the country, and the family home. Neither look good for a divorce case.

Aht-Aht-Aht-Scrote · 2022-01-08T17:26:08+00:00

If my husband ever told me that he doesn’t like being a husband and father AFTER telling me that he’s going to take a 3 month sabbatical on his responsibilities that’d be the end of the conversation for me. What is she fighting for? What will couples therapy achieve? He just told her everything she needs to know about how he feels about her and their children. That’s insane. This poor woman.

wonkyeyes8877 · 2022-01-08T17:57:31+00:00

Ugh, this is heartbreaking. At least she has some form of income on her own. Hopefully she gets a lawyer and takes whatever she can from him in the divorce.

melympia · 2022-01-08T19:11:04+00:00

All his health issues are, in truth, only one: He's a hypochondriac. And he always has "issues" that are very hard, if not impossible to prove or disprove.

At least, when he has to pay all the child and spousal support after a divorce, his life won't be as easy as he thinks it is. Because his finances aren't going to be what he thinks they're going to be right now.

vaguelinen · 2022-01-08T19:57:33+00:00

I know a couple where this happened. It was when my ex left me and she told me all about how her husband left for five months (although he saw the kids on a weekend) and it was ok because he realised he loved them all and came back so maybe my husband would too.

Once I was able to compose myself I told her that not only had I hired a solicitor but I’d already been on one date.

instantsilver · 2022-01-09T02:57:24+00:00

That community is so sad and depressing. They also hate this sub, when if anything they should read it the most and drop the dead weight they call a husband.

Bubbysparks · 2022-01-09T04:18:36+00:00

Ho. Lee. Shit.

I'm a single mom who moved with my very young son to a new city for a job (dad is no contact). I raised my young son alone while learning a very challenging new job.

There was a period of two months where I stayed up until midnight each night studying and trying to stay afloat. Sometimes that means cracking open a truly or making some coffee, whatever you have to do.

This experience is not unique to many single moms and I'm appalled that this entitled man thinks he can desert everyone. What a weak pathetic person.

SupremeDearLeader · 2022-01-08T18:47:21+00:00

Cheater. Serve papers.

queenofswordsxxx · 2022-01-08T20:34:49+00:00

He probably has a girl there, that’s why he wants to go back and have a fling again while he neglects all his responsibilities

Wtfpwned69 · 2022-01-08T17:21:20+00:00

Oh fuck no. I literally have no words!!!!!

Mcccy · 2022-01-08T17:56:11+00:00

I sometimes truly wonder, do some women know breaking up is..free?? Like just..do it?¿

DieMadwithScrotacity · 2022-01-08T23:22:51+00:00

We are starting to see the effects of shitty Scrotes learning "therapy language" to shift blame and keep their families focused on their bullshit. Wanting to "find yourself" on a 3 month bachelor vacation while your wife shoulders the entire household alone is selfish and abusive. It doesnt matter if you have framed it as "needing to heal" or whatever the fuck else the Scrote brain can come up with. It's the same sexist double standards and Male entitlement that has always existed. Except now, women are being bullied into "accepting his journey" and "supporting him while he heals and finds himself".

Fuck that shit. Women and children are not emotional support animals for immature, selfish, entitled men. If he leaves for his little scroteventure, she should consider herself to be separated and change the locks.

rainbowhelix · 2022-01-09T06:14:26+00:00

I suspect he wants a forever break, and this is how he plans on starting Phase One of it. He's probably hoping she'll start the proceedings so he doesn't have to. How disgusting. Doesn't even have the integrity to initiate a breakup with his own WIFE.

DarbyGirl · 2022-01-08T19:49:40+00:00

There is no coming back from this. At all. He isn't happy and he's using this as an excuse to duck his responsibilities. The bright side is she'll likely realize how happy she is without him once he's gone. Hopefully.

PaunchyPilates · 2022-01-08T20:00:41+00:00

She should tell him to enjoy. One day after he leaves, she should visit a lawyer and begin planning divorce and steel herself to never take him back.

blackmetalbetty · 2022-01-08T21:21:40+00:00

Kicker is that dude was probably the one adamant about having ~~legacies~~ kids and a wife 🙄.

souredskittles · 2022-01-09T04:25:02+00:00

Whoa this gave me flashbacks. I’ve never been married but a scrote tried this on me when we were dating. He said he was not going to see me weekends because he wanted to focus on learning about his job (manuals he was given) so they would convert him to permanent. Did he actually study those weekends? DOUBT. He also had these “mental and health problems” like not being able to sleep, depression and other bs he came up with that day. I’m laughing cause he would text me something GOD AWFUL would happen and it turns out like someone’s car got stolen into, not even his 🙄🙄🙄🙄

Long story shot it’s a way to dodge responsibilities perpetually and can’t bring it up because he’ll act like the victim that you’re being insensitive. Yeah you gotta bounce because it will never get better.

GeorgiaPeach_94 · 2022-01-08T19:34:51+00:00

I mean... There's no way she never saw red flags before this. She still married him and had three children with him.

It breaks my heart that women aren't taught anything at all about selecting a partner.

Lost_Kale90 · 2022-01-08T19:29:59+00:00

She needs to leave him (or let him leave her) and move on. He clearly doesn't want to be with her and he is not willing to work on it together. And he needs to stop being a coward and take responsibility for what he created.

oddcharm · 2022-01-09T11:27:19+00:00

Too many people, men and women, need to actually THINK about whether they truly want marriage and kids instead of treating it like some default life option. Don’t get yourself into this mess and then think you can just run away from it because you don’t “feel like it”

xfelugirlx · 2022-01-09T03:15:29+00:00

Let him leave but forever

Shot_Presence_8382 · 2022-01-09T20:21:25+00:00

Typical man. They throw away their whole family for another woman or a different job...my LV ex husband did just this. He got a new job and abruptly quit a job he'd had for 5+ years. The new job interfered with my work hours and the schedule we had that worked perfectly for each of us to take care of our two small children - he worked days and I worked graves, so one of us was always home with the kids. Well, he up and moved out one day when I came home after my shift one morning. I woke up to his stuff gone and him and the kids weren't home. He was gone with the kids at his mom's, apparently. I called him and asked WTF and he said "oh, I moved out!" Ummm?!?!?! Then he had the audacity to beg me not to take him to court to get child support ????! His new job was better paying than the old, I was single and raising the kids, and OF COURSE he ran out like a week before rent was due. We also, of course, were splitting bills 50/50 and he didn't want to pay his share..men do this shit all the time. They throw their wives, children, career, etc away like trash one random day and have no qualms about it at all.

jp2117515 · 2022-01-08T20:44:47+00:00

Throw the whole man out - it’s too much. Be gone!

pinkfleurhappiness · 2022-01-09T04:30:42+00:00

She moved countries for this dude.

capresesalad1985 · 2022-01-09T05:09:09+00:00

My job just offered me a 5k stipend to go work in Rome for 5 weeks. I don’t have kids but I do have pets and my bf was like go! I’ll take care of your animals! It’s a great opportunity! I haven’t decided if I’m going to go yet but just the fact that my bf a willing to take on the responsibility so I could consider living in Italy for 5 weeks is amazing!

thicctoria · 2022-01-08T23:10:10+00:00

Men. They really think things like sore throats and sore shoulders constitute “health issues”. You’re just in your 30s, Jerry. Can’t believe women can go through things like ovarian cysts, endo, PCOS and not even be taken seriously by their doctors whilst men like this here manchild won’t stfu about their sniffles.

extragouda · 2022-01-09T00:42:09+00:00

He's cheating.

techschool_nightmare · 2022-01-08T19:19:59+00:00

I don’t understand women like this.

He didn’t magically become a deadbeat after the 1st baby. Yet she had a 2nd.

Just admit that you wanted to be a mother no matter what and you’re stuck with the consequences.

She choose to have multiple children by a douche who was all too happy to let her do the heavy lifting. Yet, she’s holding out for him to be a different person? So confuse.

The_Cat_Empress · 2022-01-08T21:57:00+00:00

Why do these men agree to have kids when they can’t even be arsed to do have the childrearing?

I know FDSers suggest she leaves because it’s better than dealing with a scrote but being a single mother to two young children? It’s too much, and I feel bad for her.

firefliesnstarlights · 2022-01-08T17:24:12+00:00

Perfect time for divorce papers. Be good riddance.

pennynotrcutt · 2022-01-08T22:00:02+00:00

I’d help him pack and have my appointment with the divorce lawyer set up for right after I took his sorry self to the airport.

preppykat3 · 2022-01-08T22:19:42+00:00

She needs to take a break from him forever.

ponybeine · 2022-01-08T22:36:01+00:00

At least it sounds like she’s on the right path… I feel like she’ll be able to accept that there’s nothing to be salvaged and she has to drop the dead weight and he can follow his heart and fuck off to that island. It’s more heartbreaking when you see a woman (or a person in general) being taken advantage of in a relationship but they can’t see it themselves.

jenneke-gotenberg · 2022-01-08T21:52:09+00:00

Ye gods

Although as the mother/ full time professional/ do it all housewife in our family I would certainly go to an Greek island for three months with no notice to anyone.

legoflowers · 2022-01-09T11:19:10+00:00

I just wanna know what island because I love Greece.

Title	The absolute audacity of some of these men. Could you imagine telling your partner that you are taking a three month break from being a spouse and a parent?
Author	Aphor1st
Upvotes	1252
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Date	January 8, 2022 5:18 PM UTC (4 years ago)
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