Q4W: You wake up a man, how long would it take you to have casual sex and how do you go about it

Safinated · 2023-01-27T16:49:26+00:00

I offer money. Woo! Thank you internet!

hydrogen_sulfate · 2023-01-27T19:12:00+00:00

Why would I wake up a man, let the guy sleep in peace.

Birb-brained · 2023-01-27T16:04:14+00:00

I don’t want to do a cop out answer but I don’t even know how a woman would go about getting casual sex ‘right now’ so it’s hard to answer the question.

I guess the first thing I’d do is go shopping, get some nice new clothes in a slightly alternative style, go get barbered and look nice etc. Then for the evening I’d find a gig at a local music venue, get chatting to some people, form a small group of both guys and girls and see if I hit it off with anyone?

SuperSaiyanAssHair · 2023-01-27T22:22:02+00:00

Keep in mind that said woman who suddenly transformed into a man, still hasn't gone through high school ridiculed by men and women alike for not being able to attain casual sex partners.

shakeandbake8 · 2023-01-27T20:40:06+00:00

I think there are very few women who would wake up as a man and be successful romantically

EventSea8621 · 2023-01-27T17:41:47+00:00

all the top comments deflecting and trying to shame OP, woman wont answer the question because they know they would struggle if they werent chad.

Strict-Mistake-3114 · 2023-01-27T16:01:54+00:00

Have been waking up a man for 36 years and have never had casual sex. It would seem placing value on emotional intimacy before physical intimacy is not how the rest of the world actually works.

begayallday · 2023-01-27T18:34:01+00:00

Casual sex is actually harder to get with female partners than sex within a relationship. So I guess my answer is the same either way, but if it has to be “casual” I would just dump her afterwards? Ewww.

Anyway, my answer is to find a woman who is in or below my “league”, use all the best fuckboy moves I have learned firsthand from real life fuckboys, up to and including telling her I want a relationship with her, asking her to officially be my girl, etc. and keep up that façade as long as I have to.

In real life this is exactly how I met my wife and it took me about six weeks to find her and “close” the deal, so to speak. About a month before I met her online, and two more weeks before we had sex. Except it wasn’t an act that I was putting on.

But I’m a woman, and she’s a lesbian. So I’m sure somehow that doesn’t “count”. I admit it would probably take longer with straight women if I were exactly the same but had a dingle-dangle. Mostly because other men really ruin it for decent guys.

ambiverbena · 2023-01-27T21:40:15+00:00

I mean my boyfriend is bi so really easily. But you’re right, that’s a cop out answer. Honestly, I don’t think it’d take as long as men because I understand what it’s like to be a woman, and what women want. I can talk to another woman about things they don’t get to talk to men usually about. Also, I’ve slept with women before, and it’s more hard to get then men, but not terribly difficult.

BlackPorcelainDoll · 2023-01-27T17:22:54+00:00

Change nothing, I would be a metrosexual man like Jeffree Star and sleep with men and women

THHBHStT · 2023-01-27T15:47:08+00:00

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EulenWatcher · 2023-01-27T17:52:59+00:00

Considering that I’d be a completely different person - not married, male and seeking casual, I guess I’d buy some clothes and go out to a bar or club or something like that to socialize and meet new people. I have no idea how long it would take though, I think it’s generally a matter of luck.

EnvironmentalDish628 · 2023-01-28T15:18:28+00:00

Projecting a bit much about being intellectual dishonest huh haha ? Ofc the reason why europen men go to Thailand for prostitution is al of the reasons you just list above .. But the question is why European women dont go to Thailand for the men? Why do they go to Gambia instead ? Because some men also engage in pedophilia? Right but that dosent explain any etnic preferences and why women go to Gambia instead of Thailand ?

Do men engage more in sex tourism yes.. But what does that have to do with what we disccused? Women do engage in sex tourism and it usually happens in Gambia . You talk about poverty and why prostitution happens in poor countries .Again iknow al that but what does that afto do with what we disccused?

Why does europen women engage in sex tourism specifically in Gambia ? I argue its because alot of modern europen women have ethnic preferences towards western african men . How else do you explain why men go to Thailand and women go to Gambia ? You have failed to give me one single logical answers to this.

EnvironmentalDish628 · 2023-01-28T17:37:12+00:00

Well in my country of Sweden the feminist used men going to Thailand as a way to describe the evil patriarchal sexual egotistical mind. Then 10 years later they decide to do exactly the same with men from western Africa. Well we afto disagree then , the doc that was made in my country also disagreed with that.

I have worked in different kindergarten in an area filled with swedish feminist and I have never seen a women with an half asian child but constantly half black. It's the perfect proof you modern woke white women cant accept some realities like etnic preferences because you have this supperior idea of urself like this spychology and moral ubermensh so you cant accept some realities and that includes some aspects some women have regarding the dating market.

Well okey we can forget it , relax play some sims.

januaryphilosopher · 2023-01-27T16:15:18+00:00

I can't see my values changing from having a dick (and saying "you must have casual sex right now no matter if you like it" just ends up with mentioning any man has the option of matching with bad-looking old people on dating apps and it'll take you all of five minutes, so let's go with how we get things we actually want), so I wouldn't have casual sex but would go and look for a relationship. I'd imagine it'd take longer than to have casual sex. I'd use the same strategy of meeting people through different social activities and asking out those I like that i use as a woman. How long that would take would depend on my luck.

Wonderful_Layer_8901 · 2023-01-27T20:23:37+00:00

I'd go to a nightclub or bar

waffleznstuff30 · 2023-01-27T17:45:25+00:00

Probably not long.

I'd go out to the goth haunts that I go to and make myself look like a bad ass gothly man. Vibe with the music maybe dance with some of the girls respectfully and not in a creepy way like having fun because it's my hobby and I am there for that. Chat them up talk music with them scene stuff. Exchange socials. If I get it cool if not cool. Chat them up after and PLAN a date meet up see if we are still cool. Maintain effort and exercise proper boundaries. If something happens it happens if not that's cool too.

Though emotionally I can't really be casual. So I don't think I could as a dude either. 😅 Something about reducing people to just an act makes me sad. Since I really enjoy the company and the intricate details and quirks of people.

Former-Strategy-8213 · 2023-01-27T18:54:48+00:00

Probably pretty fast. I’m extroverted and my family has great genes for men.

Financial_Leave4411 · 2023-01-27T16:08:42+00:00

So another attempt by men on PPD to get women to provide them a step by step guide on how to get laid…. I’ll pass.

BayleShira · 2023-01-27T20:27:46+00:00

I'm trans-masc, so I have been waking up as a man every day of my life. I would thoroughly enjoy waking up in the correct body for once. I'd enjoy an increased calorie burn and more efficient muscle building biology. I don't do casual sex - I never have. Sorry if those of us on the asexual spectrum don't exist in your eyes, but that's the truth. I imagine if my confidence and masculinity that I already have were matched by being in an actual male's body, straight women would be all over me.

RocinanteCoffee · 2023-01-27T19:22:50+00:00

I'm spending all my dating time with just one guy so I'd probably see if he was comfortable fooling around with my new body, but if not then I would just wait it out.

HolyPipidastra · 2023-01-27T19:05:53+00:00

"If you woke up a man how exactly would you go about making a million dollars considering that it's the quickest an easier way to make you not an incel?"

Watch the hands! OP casually slides in the idea that:

a. Casual sex is the quickest way to solve the problem of being an incel, which is untrue, because casual sex would be harder to obtain than sex in a relationship

b. Casual sex is the easiest way to solve the problem, which is untrue... Because it's harder to obtain.

Statistically speaking, most of us would not be very successful at obtaining casual sex, if it answers your question.

But guess what? That's fine. Men are not "supposed to" get casual sex - it's a luxury reserved for a minority of guys that minority of women are willing to provide. I also would not drive a lambo. I also would not dick around on Epstein's island. How about we, in our male form, collectively look in the mirror and at our bank accounts and stop asking stupid fucking questions such as "how can an average looking man with average income fuck women with no strings attached?"

caption291 · 2023-01-27T18:11:39+00:00

why would i want to have casual sex? ew

learn2earn89 · 2023-01-27T17:53:09+00:00

Idk, I’m a woman and I’ve never had casual sex so it’s difficult to gauge how much I would even want casual as a man.

obviousredflag · 2023-01-27T17:30:58+00:00

Isn't that a question you should ask transmen?

Noidearealy · 2023-01-27T19:09:46+00:00

I'm not a cis man and also not a binary transman, I suppose I fall in the "woman" category although quite masc

I've already hooked up with plenty straight women lol. If I was a cis man I'd just be myself.

AcanthocephalaNew947 · 2023-01-27T22:33:50+00:00

It’s not a copout.

This concept of casual sex being the goal of life is a very obscure idea of a specific subset of emotionally stunted men for reasons.

The idea of consistently going out to attempt to fuck someone is foreign to me. I don’t get the drive or desire. It doesn’t make sense to me.

Feeling_Mousse_2191 · 2023-01-28T08:54:32+00:00

I would be my extroverted, flirty self and hang around in niche circles. I know exactly what women like so I would be the best flirt ;)

Ok_Bus1797 · 2023-01-29T10:22:55+00:00

I’d have plenty of casual sex with condoms. Explore all sorts of sexual acts. Attempt to pick women up on tinder and bars and libraries and wherever. And ask them if they want to go my place (this is how the guys I know do it, right)?

Men are less at risk of STIs. Women have a 4% chance of getting chlamydia while it’s 1% for men. (My stats may be wrong, I’ve forgotten).

I worry my body count might be in the thousands. But anyhow, I’d be a decent man and not lead women on thinking it’s romance. Id be clear with then on the premise and nature of the sex. I’d not ghost nor block women after fucking them.

I’d offer my dick pics and send them freely if receptive.

I feel good just by writing these!

I assume I wake up as a tall handsome charming man please.

cowfishAreReal · 2023-01-27T16:15:50+00:00

You know men can not be bitter incels and not have casual sex right? There's nothing wrong with having casual sex if everyone involved has agreed to it but some people just don't make that the goal of their existence. If I was a man I wouldn't want casual sex (something I've never done as a woman)

InfamousBake1859 · 2023-01-27T19:39:25+00:00

I’ll hope on Tinder or some other online dating site and say I’m a doctor, boom

But honestly, i don’t understand the point of this question. Why would i want casual sex? I’d rather find a gf and wife

PartTimeDummy · 2023-01-27T22:40:16+00:00

If I wanted to speedrun probably a week.

There are a lot of easy women out there.

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bluestjuice · 2023-01-27T19:58:55+00:00

I’m into men and my partner’s a bi man so I don’t think it’d take too long or be very difficult.

CommieRedEyes · 2023-01-27T21:22:29+00:00

My fiancé is bi so I’d just fuck him. Easy peasy

KikiYuyu · 2023-01-27T23:26:23+00:00

I wouldn't. I'd just jerk off since it's so much easier to do now.

ohdiddly · 2023-01-28T02:00:49+00:00

A few hours at most. I’d just hop on tinder and grindr and if that somehow fails I’d just pay for sex. Gotta take advantage of my new penis 😎

punapearebane · 2023-01-28T10:09:54+00:00

We want the hookup culture to end but then again want casual sex.

But i think women would do better cause they know how women think. And where girls go who want for casual sex.

Personally i wouldnt feel comfortable having casual sex. Id rather go full masc and be the best bf anyone has ever seen. Since I know women look for I think I could pull a pretty nice gf.

Im a very confident person so I think that would also be my plus.

nocturnalswan · 2023-01-28T11:38:08+00:00

Dowload Grindr.

EnvironmentalDish628 · 2023-01-28T11:40:24+00:00

Hmm I would do as I did in asia . Use fwb and ons as something to look forward to every weekend. Now I did get laid in my own country in weekends but it was so uncertain and such a hard process with alot of failure haha.

Maybe I would get tired of this after a while but still i really enjoyed it, I think it was great for my mental health also.

Now the more interesting question is if a women changed to a man and hade to do everything the avarage looking man as to do to get date/gf/sex I think alot of women would simply give up

DiamondLilyD · 2023-01-28T18:09:27+00:00

I wouldn't because casual sex is vile.

Severe_Can8432 · 2023-01-30T14:04:42+00:00

get tinder, make a profile with my intentions, swipe on some baddies, slide in with joke or a stimulating question, talk for a bit get comfy, ask her out (again my intentions are obvious), go from there.

that or go to a club. tbh though i already have success with women as a woman, i would just tread more carefully as a man.

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