Modern dating and finding a relationship is frustrating for many guys, I think that much is obvious.

There is an argument that this is an online-phenomenon and that if you go out IRL you see plenty of people coupled up. I think this is misleading and does not tell the whole story. You are looking at surface level and not seeing the whole picture. They guy in the couple likely had a much longer and harder time dating in most cases.

There is also that recent study which predicts that by 2030, 45% of women will be single and much of it voluntary because they are not happy with the choices in single men. We could make the argument that this is a direct result of our culture's war on boys and masculinity with newer generations adopting this mindset and becoming more feminine and hence less attractive to women. It's like the recent post about the Tik Tok video with the liberal women lamenting their are no more masculine men who are not conservative. Feminism and liberal society created this situation and now they wonder why there aren't enough men they are attracted to.

So the study said that by 2030, 45% percent of women will be single, often by choice. I don't think most men signed up for that or want that but the simple fact is there will be less available women and the situation will continue to deteriorate. So, they try to look for solutions to improve their odds.

It seems that no matter what they do to improve their situation, it is met with criticism from women or the blue pilled.

I understand the criticism against red pill because much of it is toxic but it also teaches men to become better versions of themselves and it doesn't gaslight them into thinking women should be worshipped and that women prefer feminine men. It has a very realistic, practical and evidence based approach that often goes too far and ends up being manipulative and looks down on women. It's an imperfect solution without any discernible alternatives. You have to be willing to take from it what you think can help and avoid what is toxic.

Other guys become attracted to the notion of the Passport Bros and finding women overseas from older cultures who appreciate and are attracted to them as they are. Think about that recent study and how by 2030, 45% of women will be single and probably voluntarily so. The only logical solution if you want to find someone is to look elsewhere. Yet these men are ridiculed as losers who can't attract western women (when that has become nearly impossible) or they are seen as taking advantage of people in poorer countries.

Some guys chase younger women and age gap relationships and they are ridiculed as creeps and losers who should date their own age. Yet many older women who are single are single for a reason and they can be jaded, have lots of baggage, kids from other relationships and less joy for life that a young woman has. That's to say nothing of the fact that if you want children, the best option is a younger mother.

Some guys check out and decide the juice isn't worth the squeeze so they do their own thing. They spend time with their friends, hobbies, travel, etc. Unlike women who are voluntarily single who are called empowered for doing this, they are called losers who won't step up and put themselves out there.

I have a sneaking suspicion that the reason why men are met with resistance for trying to improve their situation is that it upsets the apple cart!

Women and I suppose the bluepilled, have a rather vested interest in things staying the same as they are because things are overwhelmingly in their favor. So any attempt at change from men is met with shaming language and resistance while not offering any solutions themselves other than to gaslight and pretend there is no problem.

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