Never do it guys.

Ex wife and I have been divorced one year. I thought she would believe she made a mistake or that she still felt something.

I know I brought this on myself but we had a calm but tough conversation that I instigated. The pain I feel now is shock,hurt,guilt,like I’m a monster. Rock bottom.

She said how I was emotionally abusive, that I didn’t support her enough with the children. That she’s happier now. She said in the two years we have been apart she has never had a wobble or questioned her decision. She met someone in January of this year and has now said she is in love with someone else. She says I’m a great dad and can see all of my big changes and that I’m a completely different person now.

I asked why that wouldn’t be enough and she said it just came to late.. The regret and pain I feel is just overwhelming. I don’t know how to even process this. I have worked so hard to fix faults and really better myself. She admitted she wasn’t perfect but she just felt so alone and had to leave. I said I didn’t too and that I felt discarded. I have never cheated,physically abused,drank,drugs or anything of that nature.

Guys I just feel like I had it and threw it away.

2022 the last year of the marriage She wasn’t open to counselling but told me I should go.

I feel like a terrible terrible person and I miss my family so much.

I see my boys nearly 50/50 but I miss that unit. So lost right now.