There is a lot of talk I see from women about why men find it so hard to believe women have it as bad dating as men do. I would say this is because of the adage "Learn from people's actions, not their words". Let me explain.

When men are doing bad dating wise, they tend to try if not every woman, nearly every woman who will date them to see how it goes. Whereas even women complaining about their lack of success in dating tend to keep the same filters they would otherwise have had even if they were doing better dating recently. Red Pill would say the height and money stuff but it's not even always that. Personality quirks, sense of spark, etc. All these are things that will make women filter out a man instantly even when doing badly with relationships.

I really think for a sizable portion of men, this is the hardest part to wrap their head around and makes it hard to empathize with women's dating struggles. The definition of insanity is doing the same thing and expecting a different result. But women tend to make snap judgments about attraction and filter majority of potential suitors right off the bat.

This is pretty different than things were even a few decades ago (and no I don't mean 1950s, this goes up to like the 1980s at least). Women used to have the pool of men in their community, often a smallish town at least or a neighborhood in a city they spent almost all their time in. They would then get to know all the men in that community in terms of personality through community events then decide on the one that was best. Some would make good decisions and some would make bad decisions but it was still an informed decision at least. But now women filter out through either dating apps or other metrics most potential suitors before knowing much about them at all.

Meanwhile men tend to do things the old fashioned way in getting to know a wide variety of women way more often. A lot of women's subs, including those that complain about how shitty the current dating market is for women still look down on men for things like trying to match with every women in their area that comes up on dating apps to try to maximize potential options. But again, this is basically a modernized version of how it always used to be for both genders. The app matching gets you to the "talking phase". Community used to naturally mean everyone was basically in the pre sex talking phase with anyone else. That's how courtship used to work.

Modern women tend to make a snap judgment based on a short bio and a few photos before even meeting a guy which is a total change from how dating worked for decades if not centuries. Even women who don't use apps still basically do the same but in other ways.

TLDR: I think a lot of men would understand and empathize with women who cast a wide net dating wise but keep having it end up with shitty men. They less understand being upset by continually ending up with shitty men when you filter out the majority of suitors off the bat in a way no gender ever did majority of the time in the not so distant past.