Feminine men or non-traditional men are hated due to misandry, not misogyny.

I always see feminists try to flip this into something else by saying that men are hated because they act like women, and that society hates women.

But in reality, being a woman is often treated as something special in society. So when men act feminine or step outside traditional gender roles, society reacts like they are tainting that protected image of women. If this feminist narrative were true, then women would also get hated for being feminine. Matter of fact, women barely get hate for taking on masculine roles because society often frames it as empowering.

That is why tomboys are usually accepted way more than feminine men are. A woman acting masculine is seen as strong, independent, and breaking barriers. A man acting feminine is treated like he is weak, or not a "real man" for trying tob be like a oppressed/protected class in society. There is a reason bi men are viewed as less masculine, while bi women aren't viewed as less feminine though.

People can pretend this double standard does not exist, but everybody sees it in real life. Society praises women for stepping into male spaces while mocking men for stepping into female spaces.

Even insults aimed at men prove my point. The quickest way society attacks a man is by comparing him to a being gay People say he is emotional, weak, soft, dramatic, or feminine as an insult. That alone destroys the whole “society hates femininity because it hates women” argument.

If society truly viewed women as inferior across the board, then feminine traits would not be treated like protected traits that men are shamed for touching. The reaction is more about policing masculinity than hatred toward women.

That is why male vulnerability gets mocked so hard too. Men are expected to be useful, productive, stoic, and emotionally controlled. The moment a man falls outside that role, society suddenly loses respect for him.

Meanwhile women are allowed to exist across a wider range of behaviors without losing the same level of social value. A woman can be feminine, masculine, emotional, assertive, soft, aggressive, career focused, or nurturing and still be socially accepted by most people.

And before people twist my words, I am not saying women never face sexism or criticism. I am saying the social reactions toward feminine men clearly do not come from hatred of women alone. That explanation is way too simplistic and ignores how society actually treats people.

A lot of this comes down to how society values men based on performance and status. Men are judged harder when they abandon masculine expectations because people see men as disposable unless they fulfill a role.

That is why this conversation annoys me. Feminists keep trying to force every issue into the same oppression framework even when the evidence in everyday life points to something more complicated.

You cannot explain the acceptance of tomboys, the mockery of feminine men, and the praise for women entering male spaces while pretending society simply “hates women.” The reality is way more nuanced than that.