“It’s fine if she’s legal.” This is so problematic.

azureangel35 · 2021-02-18T12:33:11+00:00

The counting down to when girls (read: CHILDREN) turn 18 is vomitous. They were doing that with Mary Kate and Ashley when they were like 8 years old. But scrotes will defend it to the fucking death.

howdoilogoutt · 2021-02-18T13:32:20+00:00

ALSO what I find sickening is the practice of treating little girls like they are grown-up women already, and holding them to the standards of an adult, whilst boys are let off. The amount of times I've heard staff refer to little girls as 'bitches', and 'cows' pisses me off to no end.

weekend111 · 2021-02-18T13:14:55+00:00

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glendoraza · 2021-02-18T13:21:08+00:00

Let’s not forget about my little pony. Can’t have anything nice because of Miscreants.

_differentmentality_ · 2021-02-18T13:40:18+00:00

“It’s fine if she’s legal” Is it? Is everything that is legal also moral and harmless?

Far_from_deceived · 2021-02-18T12:34:30+00:00

Since I started reading FDS I totally changed my views on this matter.

Now I absolutely think that older men that hit on teenagers ( and I am talking about the barely legal ones, like 18 also) they do have pedophile feelings. I used to think it was normal, since society MAKES us believe so, but no. It’s gross.

18yo act like TEENAGERS, it’s like dealing with a CHILD. I don’t understand how a 40yo man, would be attracted by a 18 yo CHILD who could be his DAUGHTER.

I know a 40yold man who’s been on dating apps lying his age, saying he’s 30, and he’s been planning dates with 18old girls. I am seriously worried about that. I wish he could be reported but iT iS lEgAL cAuSe sHe iS 18.

How can a 18yo girl protect herself from this guy? She has no emotional maturity for that.

That’s why I also advise girls not to use dating apps. It’s a perfect environment for pedos and predators. I have been disgusted. I trust no men.

They are all pervs predators until proven otherwise.

redwineandsolitude · 2021-02-18T14:08:14+00:00

My LVM ex was a lawyer dedicated to getting rid of an age of consent... he had “feminist” arguments for it like once we have an age, 18, men fetishize that age... there are lawyers and law professors rallying to have NO age of consent... this is a literal movement among “esteemed” academics and it might happen. I’m terrified of our pedophile culture.

16February2021 · 2021-02-18T13:44:42+00:00

My ex LVM had a ZVM friend. He told me stories how he waited for girls to turn 18 to have sex with them. He didn't see anything wrong with it.

He didn't understand why it is predatory and I just couldn't find ways to explain it to him anymore. No explanation made sense

OrangeyPanda · 2021-02-18T16:31:55+00:00

If men actually cared about not being seen as creeps around children they would be calling out men who watch teen porn or daddy doms or the men who say they're "biologically attracted to underage girls". But they won't ever do that because they want to not be called out for their creepy behaviour towards children/teens while ALSO having their "right" 🤮 to masturbate or have sex with them. The ball's in your court men, we currently have a billion valid reasons and experiences not to trust you. Change and call out men if you don't like it. Women and children's safety is more important then your feelings.

fulltwistinglayout · 2021-02-18T15:52:53+00:00

yup yup yup. i've shared this strategy of mine for weeding out pedophiles: start talking about high school so i can casually mention i cheered. if they're gross they will ask me if i kept my uniform.

do this even if you didn't cheer or go to a catholic school, etc. saves you sooo much time.

shadowwhore · 2021-02-18T15:58:59+00:00

Also can we stop acting like daddy kink is normal? I had an older man beg me to call him daddy and ask me to wear little girl skirts and call me his sweet little girl. He also talked about how young I looked and sounded.

Another guy didn’t want me to call him daddy, but he always asked my age before and after sex and when I asked him why he would have sex with me if he thought I was 15(I'm 25) he said he just didn't want to get in trouble with my country's police. So when men act like they didn't know a girl was a child, they're lying. They specifically talked to her because she looked like a child.

Diane9779 · 2021-02-18T16:41:21+00:00

And the fact that we teach children they have to let adults touch them, kiss them, pinch their cheeks, etc even when the kids don’t want it

And if children get upset or angry at getting touched too much, adults just laugh it off

19Bubbles98 · 2021-02-18T16:29:47+00:00

Imo even if a girl is 18 its still weird for men who are almost 30 and up to even be friends with them or waiting for them to turn 18. They are predators. I'm 22 and I see an 18 year old as a teenager...

missyou2017 · 2021-02-18T13:38:22+00:00

If men weren't pedos dd/lg wouldnt be that popular or would be scrutinized and not defended

GabbaG0ul · 2021-02-18T15:33:34+00:00

So many of my male peers want a woman who is super thin (not in shape/tone, actually under weight), small or no boobs, no butt, and no hair ever. You know what else looks like that? A prepubescent girl. 🤷🏻‍♀️ Sorry dude, it’s super sus.

BananaSlugGhost · 2021-02-18T15:40:27+00:00

I had a man tell me once that anyone over 18 is “age appropriate” 🤮

larvikite_ · 2021-02-18T22:44:15+00:00

Men dating 18 year olds or watching 18 year old porn basically says one thing about them... If they could go lower, they would.

howdoilogoutt · 2021-02-18T13:29:42+00:00

*gestures to everything* I believe you do

evaporative · 2021-02-18T16:48:10+00:00

The older I get the more everything I’ve experienced from my youth begins to make sense 😞 if men aren’t actively pedophilic they’re enabling their brothers who are. And don’t even get me started on the pickmes who see it too, and rather than call it out, enable it as well.

e: spelling.

anxious__potato · 2021-02-18T17:24:27+00:00

The amount of times I was approached by pedophiles asking me out on a date or catcalling me when I was a child really is alarming, and I have quite the baby face, there was no mistake that I was obviously a child. It's the reality for most women/girls, and I wish I had the courage as a kid to just scream at the TOP of my lungs "PEDOPHILE/PREDATOR!!!" to really publicly call them out on it.

Edit: Spelling

CoffeeAndCorpses · 2021-02-20T03:41:38+00:00

I encountered this shit in a Pagan community. There was an "elder" there who was notorious for his attraction to young (18-23, he was around 40) women. He had started grooming and pursuing a 16 year old and the rest of the community turned a blind eye to it...because they didn't have sex until she was 18.

Never mind that she'd never so much as had a boyfriend before and was extremely sheltered - the fact that she was legal meant there was "nothing wrong with it" and I should "mind my own business".

Which brings me to - if your community has a lot of polyamorous people in it, it's probably got a lot of predatory men.

all_or_nothing_bet · 2021-02-18T19:22:37+00:00

Am I the only one convinced that cheerleading is a perv invention?

WestAtmosphere · 2021-02-18T21:31:07+00:00

Just a reminder that barely legal teens and the like are some of the most populated nsfw subreddits. Says enough.

19Bubbles98 · 2021-02-18T16:36:02+00:00

Also I used to play games on steam and if you look at this https://steam.tools/backgrounds/#/ for backgrounds and type up "girls" or "women" you'll see how predatory half the steam community is and the pickmes who objectify women/girls themselves have interest for this type of thing too. It's completely messed up.

Far_from_deceived · 2021-02-18T18:12:22+00:00

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cherrycIouds · 2021-02-19T18:02:35+00:00

The list is way longer actually 🤢

School girl "fetish" porn and generally the sexualisation of school girl uniforms
The teen category on porn websites
Age play "fetish" where at least one person pretends to be an infant, child, teen, etc
Liking short and/or petite women
Being disgusted by periods
Wanting a woman who's less intelligent than them
The usage of "girl" for girlfriend and "man" for boyfriend
Generally just using "girls" to refer to adult women
Wanting a submissive girlfriend which often goes hand in hand with the fetishization of Asian women
Disliking body hair on women, wanting a cleanly shaven vj is especially weird imo
Disliking stretch marks
Thinking "imperfect" skin is ugly
Disliking cellulite
The myth that older men are just better both sexually and in a romantic relationship so younger women will seek them out
The fact that child marriages are not illegal everywhere, not even in the US for example (1 in 5 girls worldwide are said to be married before the age of 18)
Having an xyz thousand year old anime character that looks like a child so it's technically "okay" to sexualize her
This graph that shows that men from the ages of 20 to 50 all prefer women in their early twenties, mostly women who are 20 or 21 years old. The oldest "preference" is 24 and I'm sure if 20 wasn't the lowest option, most men would choose an age below 20. Fun fact: Women usually like men who are around their age.

Did I forget anything?

LockLimePie · 2021-02-18T17:04:55+00:00

also men: iTs BiOlOgiCaL I cAnT hElP iT

Few_Direction · 2021-02-18T19:27:10+00:00

purity culture, liking submissiveness, innocence, virginity, the list goes on and on. we’ve lived under this society as the norm for so long. now the reality of it is finally coming to light.

CoffeeAndCorpses · 2021-02-20T03:35:01+00:00

Yup.

Guys, if you knew a girl before she turned 18 (and you're long past that point) you should probably always think of her as a child.

Velveteen_Woman · 2021-02-19T00:06:57+00:00

Spot on.

Connect-Ad-9361 · 2021-02-18T17:41:57+00:00

"Disgusted by body hair, just like your average pedophile"

What?

Title	“It’s fine if she’s legal.” This is so problematic.
Author	55cherry
Upvotes	4335
Comments	175
Date	February 18, 2021 12:15 PM UTC (5 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/FemaleDatingStrategy
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