I always thought that seeing actual numbers might help. And being the software developer I am, I programed a bot matching all guys, then scanning their messages and profiles for codewords.

Disclaimer: Some criteria overlap, so sums will not equate to the total amount of guys.

Enjoy!

Profile (9870):

7896 (80%): Empty or one or two worded bio

4098 (42%): No picture

2279 (23%): Picture with cropped-out ex?

2126 (22%): Naked mirror selfie

9200 (93%): Do showers, razors, decent clothes exist for you?

2225 (22%): "Polyamorous" / "Open relationship"

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Initial message (5876):

4800 (82%): "Hey"

3612 (62%): Eggplant emojis, "hey sexy", kink lists or something otherwise inappropriate.

1980 (34%): Something with the sole purpose of humiliation, like "you look cute, for a gamer", "bots usually use prettier women", "Do you think anyone reads that?" etc.

5426 (92%): Did you ever learn proper writing in school?

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Conversation (119):

105 (89%): No follow-up or return questions at all as a response to my questions. Only reactive.

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Further conversation (11)

7 (64%): Was actually in a committed relationship but said he was single.

2 (18%): Asked me on a date.

1 Didn't show up. The other ghosted beforehand

And, let's say, this person messages you, and doesn't seem to bad in the beginning. But then they just do some weird shit. You ask for their name, they refuse to tell it. You ask to send you a picture, they will say Discord. You say use imgur, they will send you a Discord tag regardless. Or they just outright send you disrespectful shit in their message. And you wonder: Why are they actively ruining their chances with you with dumb shit?

Because to them, finding someone is not important. Inf act, they don't give a shit about that. They love wasting your time and making you mad. And the more they can provoke you, the more they will get off on it. In their twisted brains, this is about power. Wasting your time with nonsense = they have power.