Men have so it so easy

jazzmaster1992 · 2026-05-25T16:40:10+00:00

Ah yes, as men, our options are 1.) charismatic class clown 2.) incredibly focused and disciplined gym bro 3.) well read and high earning potential 4.) spontaneous bad boy. Such "easy" things to be, truly, that's why all of us are doing them.

According-Tea-3014 · 2026-05-25T16:26:05+00:00

Be a short, unattrsctive guy with a small dick and tell me how well you do. Lmao

TwentyX4 · 2026-05-25T16:59:46+00:00

Lol. Go make a male dating profile on any straight dating app. You'd be surprised how little attention you get and how hard your hard you have to work to keep women's attention. Women who have tried this have been really shocked at how awful it is.

I had two friends who had dated for a while. I'd put them at roughly equal physical attractiveness. The female friend could easily get tons of attention on dating apps. She told me once that she went on 50 dates in one summer. (Sounds kind of exhausting, but it shows how much attention she'd get.) The guy was having a lot of problems getting dates. He even had professional photos. The female friend asked to see his profile to see if he was doing anything wrong. Nope, she didn't see anything wrong with his profile. She was shocked that he was getting so little attention from women. She couldn't explain it.

So many women think men have it 10x easier than we actually do.

Being older isn't the problem for women that you think it is. I had a 50 year-old friend who got hundreds of likes on Bumble within the first two days that she was on the app.

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ExercisesInFutility_ · 2026-05-25T16:24:35+00:00

ragebait

Gold_Sheepherder6569 · 2026-05-25T16:33:44+00:00

This is false, looks are the most important factor for both sexes, followed by personality, then wealth. Women's looks have no effect on her chances of finding a partner, it also doesn't affect the level of educational attainment of that partner but it does affect all those things for men. If all these women did have a range of tastes then you would looks not to have an effect for men but it does.

Bitter_Emu6366 · 2026-05-25T17:58:47+00:00

Do women try other things tho?

When was the last time you heard let alone witnessed, a woman go up to a man she liked and tried to charm him with wit and intelligence?

ThrowRAGlobeVase · 2026-05-25T17:14:10+00:00

lol here’s the thing.

A lot of women want ALL of what you’re saying, not just one thing. You can’t be the funny guy who’s poor, short and ugly.
Guys don’t really need someone who looks a model. Most guys I know feel most women could easily be attractive if they just stayed somewhat in shape (not even super skinny) in a reasonable and attainable way. I think it’s the competition women have that exists along one axis (looks) that’s blown expectations out of proportion. But most men I know are attracted to very reasonable physical standards.
A lot of physical traits for men are immutable. Can’t grow taller, can’t fix hair loss with surgery for a lot of men.

Ok_Cook_3098 · 2026-05-25T16:26:03+00:00

Just go hundred of hours in a gym and have your meals and rest all time in check

Just go to university and be one of the best

Just be rich

just have many hobbys who are not expensive and woman actually like

just be the 1% of anything Bro

and now the twist

most woman where young at some time in there life

most woman where thin or did actal stuff to not be thin

most woman are pretty if they (are young and thin) and do like the most basic body care

you bring it to the point

to have the same success in dating life as a average woman you need to best one of the best men in something

Ill-Investigator9546 · 2026-05-25T17:37:42+00:00

the muscular guy who built his body in the gym

If you aren't funny then women won't like you so it doesn't matter if your muscular.

the smart guy with a great degree

WOmen aren't turned on by degrees but by charisma

Woman each have individual tastes.

No, attractive women only like extroverted, high status men who personal charisma.

Young, pretty, thin. Nothing else matters to men.

So you mean to tell me its hard to be a healthy body weight? Doesn't that mean you basically have to NOTHING as a woman to attract a man, you just exist? How is that not easy?

Also what if you as a man have a small dick. Then you can be all those things you listed about men but STILL be rejected for whats between your legs.

TKD1989 · 2026-05-25T16:41:26+00:00

Depends on the person. I definitely never had it easy as a man. Very few women have considered me attractive. I don't have an active dating life. I didn't have teenage love in high school.

Capital-Literature-9 · 2026-05-25T16:29:13+00:00

"Men have so it so easy"

Alrighty fella 👍

Local-Willingness784 · 2026-05-25T23:56:30+00:00

kind of surprised that more people, especially women here, arent upvoting or supporting this, be it for their onw egos, to stir shit up or to shit on men, i guess even they knew this bait is too unbelievable.

Logical_Breadfruit49 · 2026-05-26T14:37:39+00:00

"Men have it so easy" yet only half as many men reproduced throughout history as women did. Lol.

Legions of men slaughtered in battle or suffocating in mines, dying for women who end up just remarrying another man.

But I guess since we have it so easy, why not get a sex change and turn into a man? You'd then have such an easy time with the ladies right?

Few_Chain2060 · 2026-05-25T16:34:07+00:00

Most men want a kind woman, do you know how hard it is to find one ?

theitchcockblock · 2026-05-25T16:34:11+00:00

Well true but for men it’s having all those things to be able to get a mid woman sometimes

SentinelATL · 2026-05-25T16:27:13+00:00

Is this a shitpost? Most men are sexless or haven’t had sex in the past 5 years. Women have way more selection and leverage in dating and getting utility from men than vice versa. They’re just impossible to please and mostly suck at picking good longterm partners

Zoya_The_Destroyah · 2026-05-25T16:24:40+00:00

I know plenty of women over 30 who have absolutely no trouble dating at all.

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Legal_Implement_5098 · 2026-05-25T17:09:52+00:00

"Men have it so easy"

Neptune-Jnr · 2026-05-25T17:10:04+00:00

Foolishness.

Young, pretty, thin. Nothing else matters to men. They dont care who a women is.

This is false. Your personality, how nice you are, how compatible you are and if you and him are into the same things matter. No one stay young for ever and older woman are still in relationships/married. Almost no one in America in thin and most are still dating. Don't belive red pillers when they spout dumb stuff like "The Wall"

Her achievement or passions. Pretty much all men would choose an immature bitchy 18yr old over a smart and kind women over 30.

No

So when i hear men complaining I just think how good they really have it. Because its really not hard to be attractive to women. There will never be a higher standard than that of only being attractive to the opposite sex for a handful of years.

Being attractive to women is incredibly hard work. It's definitely way harder than you make it out here. Just being a decent human being was never enough for women to like you as a man. In fact most of the time it feels like no matter what you achieve or do it will always be seen as "The bare minimum" by women today.

matthedev · 2026-05-25T21:54:01+00:00

...the smart guy with a great degree....

From my experience, a lot of women may be impressed by intelligence, but they're much less likely to be viscerally attracted to it. Working out more pays off much more directly, at least as far as that primal attraction goes.

Livid-Log7463 · 2026-05-25T22:41:43+00:00

“It’s so easy you can just be inherently desirable!”
Unfortunately most men aren’t just inherently desirable and women don’t lose access to partnering at any point, the only thing that happens is they loose access to the most desirable men who they are exclusively interested in.

Women may have more of their desirability in their looks thats true but the bar for their looks to be attractive to the majority of men is astronomically lower in comparison, only needing to be average looking to be attractive to the vast majority of men and only excluded by the best,
Even the most hideously undesirable women have all below average men as an option, but even just below average men remain excluded by them.

firemiketomlinpls68 · 2026-05-26T15:20:55+00:00

lol what? If your not handsome, have atleast a 7 inch dick and tall, you literally have no options.

Under 6’5 and you can’t even do online dating thanks to the height filter

PrecisionHat · 2026-05-26T23:08:26+00:00

I think you're way off here. The things you listed mostly arent easy. Men have to work on themselves to be most of those types of guys. You think being muscular is easy? It requires astounding discipline and sacrifice. Financially well off? Same thing. Hobbies? Big time sink. Funny? Well, if it was that easy to be funny more women would be lol.

I know that being "pretty" is hard to control; some women will always be more pretty than others. But I think you overestimate just how pretty a woman has to be. Or how thin. Lots of men like curvy women.

As a man, I'd prefer to be playing this game with the expectations placed on women. Basically I just have to not get too fat and take care of my skin and some guy will appreciate me, typically. It's easier, in my view, because most women are desired by men almost by default. Even a really handsome man won't have women flocking to him at a bar, typically, just by virtue of him being there; he will still have to be funny, charming, interesting, etc etc.

chobolicious88 · 2026-05-25T16:22:10+00:00

Yeah but the funny guy, muscular guy, smart guy, rich guy etc all involve skill of some sort.
For women its basically - look fertile and all is good, which is something you can be born with.

lesliecarbone · 2026-05-25T16:29:56+00:00

1) Life is hard, and very few people have it easy.

2) Whether it's all men or some or none, being desired by superficial creeps who don't care about me or my passions is quite possibly the thing in the universe that appeals to me the least.

midnight_blue77 · 2026-05-25T18:00:30+00:00

Young, pretty, thin. Nothing else matters to men.

You are as clueless about men as you are about women. Yes, being young pretty and thin do carry most of the weight when it comes to attracting men but attracting a man is not the same as locking one down.

Women know they can attract men, any men. That is not their end goal. Their goal (in theory) is to attract a man that they actually find attractive. A man attractive to women is a man who provides for all her needs up to and including social status, wealth, security, and an environment in which to have kids and build something for themselves. They want security first and foremost, but a lot of them get hooked on the thrill that Chad provides so they delay finding a secure man up until they can't attract one anymore. But that's another topic.

They dont care who a women is.

We sure a fuck do! I broke up with "the perfect woman" because I do not compromise my masculinity nor my dignity for anyone, not even for a woman who is understanding and loving. So saying that nothing else matters it only shows me you have never actually been with a woman because the human element and interaction is just absent in your experience.

JustSomeRandomGuy36 · 2026-05-25T16:29:37+00:00

nice bait

megamorphg · 2026-05-25T16:51:37+00:00

Men have to be young pretty and thin AND all those other things. Women just have to not be fat and have men swarming to them like shit on flies, even if they are in their 40s.

GyrosEnjoyer · 2026-05-25T16:20:33+00:00

You could be the funny guy who makes women laugh, the muscular guy who built his body in the gym, the smart guy with a great degree, the guy who's financially skilled, the fun guy who has a range of hobbies, the tattooed guy etc etc etc.

All of them still have comphet make up at least 90% of all attention (from women, that is)

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RelevantJackWhite · 2026-05-25T17:03:46+00:00

"They dont care who a women is."

I'm sorry but why the fuck is everyone using the plural word for women in the singular?? it maddens me. it's a recent trend. it doesn't happen with the word "men" either.

RelevantJackWhite · 2026-05-25T17:05:04+00:00

Is being smart a choice? I'm not so sure it is.

Additional_Nobody_40 · 2026-05-25T21:52:12+00:00

I can't agree with your views on what makes men and women successfull in dating. Having a great physique and financial situation is not that easy. And it is not true that men won't chose women over 30 at all. There is a fair amount of truth in your words, but the reality is probably not that hyperbolized.

What makes you think that men don't care about women's passions or achievents because they care about age or appearance? Why can't they care about everything and then chpse women according to their needs?

InitialNo3061 · 2026-05-26T13:27:45+00:00

This is the most detached from reality takes I've ever seen. Notice how all the things you've listed for men take an enormous amount of skill, money or time? Women just have to.....stop stuffing their face with junk food lmao

wew_lad- · 2026-05-26T19:31:18+00:00

I'm 5'3 and with a small dick

Afraid-Efficiency-51 · 2026-06-04T03:29:41+00:00

I see what you mean, but I wouldn't make such a sweeping statement like "Young, pretty, thin. Nothing else matters to men. They dont care who a women is. Her achievement or passions. Pretty much all men would choose an immature bitchy 18yr old over a smart and kind women over 30."

We're not all like that. I would NEVER go for the immature, bitchy 18yo. I have a requirement of at least 30yo. For me I want something that lasts, like personality, intelligence, sense of humor, etc, not looks, though looks are nice but are very temporary except in rare cases.

I know you said "pretty much all men" but it comes off as if you said "all men." Are the vast majority of men like you said? Yeah, sadly... But my friends I've known for 20+ years and myself, we're not like that.

ZzOoRrGg · 2026-06-29T16:49:21+00:00

Yeah, I have it so easy that my lonely, overworked ass could just die at any moment lol

This-Register · 2026-05-25T16:20:26+00:00

Its true, women will put up with alot more from men than vice versa.

Edit: downvote me idc, I dont live on reddit like the lot of you and Ive seen it play out that way.

Terrible_Mixture_759 · 2026-05-25T16:33:32+00:00

You actually have to be all of those things as a dude

tres_ecstuffuan · 2026-05-25T16:53:22+00:00

Thin? My lady you need to come to the south? We like them rubenesque down here.

Anyway, my point is men have highly variable taste and women of all types have found men that would die about them.

Ok_Manufacturer2956 · 2026-05-25T21:59:33+00:00

Because its really not hard to be attractive to women

Totally agree with this part, don't care about the whole relationship thing that many are so obsessed with. But most women really have very basic to low standards when it comes to being impressed by men.

If a man flatters them and showes them with enough attention, women will cling because many are so desperate to manifest this childish Romance Fairtale that Disney fed them since childhood.

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