I’m here by lightly popular demand, lol.

My name is tallwomen (actually sounds very close to my real name) and I’ve worked in family violence and various family law for the past several years as an attorney and advocate for women and children. As a result, I’ve seen a lot of things and have many many opinions on men in marriage and familial relationships. I’d like to share a few reproductive truths that may be repetitive, depending on if you have seen my posts here or not.

1) Men use children as a tool to control women. Period. Men view women who have children as being devalued by the world. And that’s because that is how society treats women with children. Men know that they can treat you any kind of way because most women will feel like failures if they leave after getting pregnant/having children with a man and the world at large will quickly ratify his behavior.

2) Men don’t care about their children. Most don’t want to actively abuse them but they plain don’t care. They ask for kids to anchor themselves to you and to anchor you down. The only time the do care is during a divorce. And that’s as a tool to hurt and/or control you. See point 1 again.

3) Don’t tell men about your reproductive choices and don’t let them have a say in yours. I don’t care if you have an IUD and a doctor told you that you were barren at four and a half years old. Tell that dude that you’re au naturel and he needs to wear a condom every. single. time. This is for a couple reasons. One, to establish a boundary that the majority of scrotes will try to break which will help you vet and delete IMMEDIATELY. And two, because men would fuck a lukewarm McChicken; you don’t know where that dirty thing has been and you don’t want to catch something a lil penicillin can’t fix.

3) Don’t ever bring up to men that you want kids and/or how many kids you want. See point 1.

4) If you get pregnant, don’t tell anyone until you are 100% sure that you’re keeping the baby and you only depend on yourself. Don’t tell your mama or your daddy or that one aunt that’s basically like a sister. It’s a safety issue. And even if nobody else out there in the real world says it, I want you to know that I love each and every woman out there and I want y’all to be safe first and foremost.

5) Use a form of birth control IN ADDITION to condoms that he has no clue about. See all of my above points.

6) KEEP PLAN B UNDER YOUR MATTRESS. It keeps for ~4 years in ideal conditions. If feasible, force him to give you cash to buy it, as in don’t let him know you have a stash, and replace as necessary. Nuff said.

Feel free to add any points that you think I’ve left out!

Also, feel free ask me any family law/family violence/divorce questions you may have and I’ll do my best to respond to the best of my ability without getting my license revoked, lol!