How sympathetic are men to women’s loneliness?

ifelsedowhile · 2021-02-18T01:27:22+00:00

I'm sympathetic to women who are lonely because of mental health issues. I'm not quite as sympathetic to women who are lonely because they refuse to lower their standards and pretend to find the alpha stud of their dreams when they can't reciprocate the very same standards.

prettymuchredpilled · 2021-02-18T01:18:14+00:00

I have no sympathy for lonely women, they're supported and uplifted by our gynocentric culture from birth. It's far easier to form social connections and be accepted into social groups as a woman, literally all you have to do is exist. Whereas men first need to prove that they are valuable somehow, and also prove that they're not a weirdo.

Bandit174 · 2021-02-17T18:06:42+00:00

I think the WAATGM and IncelTears reddits that seemingly exist just to hyperanalyze and dogpile on other people's out of context comments/conversations are kinda gross.

As far as symathising with women's loneliness, I generally don't. I never go out of my way to shit talk or mock an individual woman for their complaints but I just can't bring myself to care. I have seen too many women mock and belittle or twist the words of guys in similar situations to me that I can't bring myself to care if a woman says she feels lonely. I think most women who complain about loneliness have had far more sexual and romantic experiences and opportunities than the guys who complain about loneliness. I don't think women experience the same level of loneliness we do in most cases. There might be some exceptions tho.

ViciousDextroShade · 2021-02-18T03:18:06+00:00

I have no sympathy because loneliness is almost always a choice for women.

Case in point: my mom, who's in her seventies, was recently courted by a neighbor but she rejected him saying she didn't want to have to put up with dealing with another person. She is geriatric and she still had the opportunity to get a relationship but turned it down, so all these used-up thots complaining about being alone will get no sympathy from me.

BioStu · 2021-02-17T20:19:39+00:00

Why should they be sympathetic towards women's loneliness? There are countless replies in this very sub where women state very openly that do not care about male sexlessness. Largely being seen as a self-created problem that has no bearing on society. Why shouldn't men feel the exact same way about female loneliness? They mock men all the time. That's why they love calling dudes incels. It's a reverse form of slut shaming. Women don't want to be judged by the amount of sexual partners they have, but have no problem judging men by the amount of sexual partners he doesn't have.

Reyeactable · 2021-02-17T20:22:56+00:00

If I'm starving and would do anything to have just one crumb to eat

And then I see a person that refuses to eat anything but prime steak, I'm not gonna have a shred of simpathy

Its why I have always said that my existence and femcel's is contradictory

Returnofthemack3 · 2021-02-17T17:47:03+00:00

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Laytheblameonluck · 2021-02-17T18:21:07+00:00

This forum celebrates female singleness, I read a comment that there are less eligible men to marry and the response was that only men were complaining, not women, so what gives?

John_Oakman · 2021-02-17T18:04:44+00:00

The men who matter don't have sympathy and the males who have sympathy don't matter.

That's the paradox.

(In other words, a comforting words of a thousand simps won't remove the sting of the insults of one incel, which tells you a lot of their relative values as judged by society...)

decoy88 · 2021-02-17T18:12:09+00:00

Noone cares about strangers on the internet. This goes both ways.

Best believe there are corners with toxic women doing the same exact shit.

In fact, my first exposure to it was from women irl, talking shit about men that weren’t familiar to them.

Both sides have their toxicity and projecting bitter whiners. Nothing is new

bigdaveyl · 2021-02-17T18:47:46+00:00

I’m posting this because there seems to be this narrative repeated on here that women are unsympathetic if not downright psychopaths to men’s emotions needs especially when they express frustration at being lonely or single.

WAATGM and be a bit over board in criticism, but there are plenty of subs here on Reddit that take a dim view of the male species.

It’s a sad mentality but I am starting to wonder if some men who claim women don’t care about men’s relationship pain are just projecting.

How is being skeptical qualify as projection?

I know I've talked privately (offline and online) with quite a few women over the years who made the claim that they were lonely. When pressed, nearly all of them have at least had more opportunities to not be lonely than I had.

NockerJoe · 2021-02-17T21:30:48+00:00

You clearly miss the unspoken assumtpion of WAATGM. That is to say, its a bunch of people who had awkward and isolated childhoods and teen years laughing at people who are implicitly awkward and isolated for the first time close to 30. The only reason its amusing to them is because they were more or less forced to suffer in silence and someone who would have written them off is now in the same position and only just learning how intolerable it is.

DownVotesWrongsOnly · 2021-02-17T23:04:17+00:00

Most females will end up lonely with cats because they're Chad and bad boy chasers. They'll get pumped and dumped or used for sex in short term relationships that lead her to been 35+ post wall with a vagina that stretches like the sleeve of a wizard.

AmandaPea · 2021-02-17T23:45:02+00:00

You have your answer in these comments. Absolutely no sympathy for women.

AidsVictim · 2021-02-17T18:27:49+00:00

Women have more sexual/romantic/social power in general than men - this doubly true for the type of men who spend lots of time alone. People are mostly not going to be sympathetic to someone they believe (or actually has) much more opportunity and power than them.

WAATGM is mostly the latter. It's similar to the way poor people are generally going to be unsympathetic to and mock a rich kid whining about their life. Is it fair? Not really. But it's not surprising either.

2021-02-17T21:16:42+00:00

I mean, I’m not going to pretend that there aren’t women who don’t revel in seeing men lonely due to a combination of spite from a man/men plural having wronged them, and general human pettiness. It’s not just confined to Reddit, I’ve had female friends who straight up call men “virgin losers,” tell them to “man up,” or even homosexual slurs because he complains about being single at age ___ or isn’t getting laid to the degree he’d like. A few years ago, I pretty fondly remember spilling my dating woes to a woman friend of mine who was very successful on the Tinder market/casual sex scene to ask her where I can improve, and she straight up gave me an “entitlement” lecture that you’d get on some feminist subreddit without even listening to what I was saying. People are fucking cruel either way, it’s not restricted to one sex.

Do men in general feel bad about female loneliness? If it’s with regards to a total stranger, probably not. See aforementioned human pettiness. They probably assume there’s something wrong with her, and that she could just go out and get laid and all her problems will be solved. Most people aren’t really impressive thinkers in that regard, and don’t care about circumstances that may have led to said loneliness.

I really can’t pretend women are off the hook here though, I’ve seen them belittle men far, far too many times for being lonely, inadequate, ugly, etc. (Hell, I’ve even been a target of this myself). Subreddits like where OP is screen-grabbing from are pathological examples of men who just want to gloat and hate women, but they don’t exist in a vacuum.

Christian_Kong · 2021-02-17T22:16:20+00:00

I think your average guy is going to go through their "dating ages"(say 18-35 or so) knowing mostly women who are consistently dating(be it one, a few or non stop relationships)and knowing mostly men who are consistently single.

So you are likely to find a percentage of guys who assume that any woman in this particular womans situation was a girl who fucked around throughout her 20's, wasted her youthful beauty(got fat) and is now crying because she skipped out on "good men" that could have prevented her situation. Because of the mentality built off of my first paragraph you end up with a lack of sympathy for those truly suffering.

Kaisha001 · 2021-02-18T02:02:38+00:00

However, I have never in my life seen anything like above, a group of women mocking a man who admitted he has thought about self harm and callously imply he has it coming because of scenarios they made up in their head about how he acted in his twenties.

Have you been to /FDS? Or any feminist forum?

I’ve only seen women become unsympathetic if the guy in question is misogynistic

Women frame EVERYONE that isn't singing their praises from the high heavens, as a misogynist. They love to conjure up grievances as justification for their hatred.

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geyejoe7 · 2021-02-18T07:01:49+00:00

Because women's loneliness is often self inflicted.

No woman on earth can be alone, unless she's 1-2/10. And those are extremely rare, basically less than 1% of the population.

Majority of women have too high of standards. When a man says he can't find anyone, YOU KNOW he can't find ANYONE.

When a woman says she's "can't find anyone", it meamys anyone she'd deem good enough for her.

Mustbeaight · 2021-02-17T18:43:03+00:00

Women love gaslighting lonely men so it’s really fucking hard for me to give a shit really.. I’m not even asking women to care .. just don’t try and convince me that my problems don’t exist and that if they do it’s because I’m the worst human being ever. Just admit you don’t give a shit and move.. so yeah I don’t give a shit about women’s loneliness really but I’m not gonna go and try to convince a woman that her problems shouldn’t matter to her

SeemedGood · 2021-02-17T23:42:38+00:00

I wouldn’t expect those who are struggling to put food on the table to have sympathy for me because I am “experiencing a very real human condition” of not being able to afford the vol privé or an AC75 yacht.

2021-02-18T03:49:02+00:00

>woman

>lonely

pick one

2021-02-18T11:39:10+00:00

Why would I be? A womans percieved "loneliness" would be a blissful experiance for the vast majority of men.

It'd be like listening to a billionare complaining that the chair on the private jet is squeaky.

Barely-moral · 2021-02-17T17:57:36+00:00

I don't know about men in general but I sympathize with the few women that were born in circumstances that made them live a life of loneliness. They exist, even if their numbers are small.

That being said the vast majority of the female population has more than enough opportunities to avoid loneliness and I have no sympathy for an average woman that ends up single and alone. She had her chance, she wasted it.

Most women have a period of their life in which they could have got themselves a decent partner just by existing and vetting.

Ok_Swim_2691 · 2021-02-17T20:40:44+00:00

I have never in my life seen anything like above, a group of women mocking a man who admitted he has thought about self harm and callously imply he has it coming because of scenarios they made up in their head about how he acted in his twenties.

They turn a women simply sharing her vulnerability into an opportunity to circle jerk about how the op is probably a whore who rejected a bunch of men in her twenties for chad and is getting what she deserved.

Mind you they don’t know this women but somehow see it fit to project all their bitterness and anger on her when she has likely done nothing to them personally.

Ooh girl, you haven't lurked long enough then, good for you.

There's this subreddit called FDS where the aforementioned lonely women do just that on men, for daring to approach them without a diamond ring, marriage certificate, house and car ready on the first date.

Bring popcorn, sit down and enjoy the show. Nothing's funnier than seeing four groups of broken people(FDS women, the men FDS women complain about, WWATGM men, the women WWATGM men complain about) bicker and hate each other on the internet.

Beats watching 90-day fiancé any day.

GullibleClassic1 · 2021-02-17T17:53:07+00:00

I am not sympathetic anymore. We all know that a woman can have a date, relationship at just about any time.

So she is either choosing to be single, her standards and requirements are too high, or she has major issues.

Why should anyone have sympathy when you do it to yourself?

Hoopy223 · 2021-02-17T18:32:38+00:00

I think a lot of people have so many problems of their own that they don’t have time to feel sorry for others - especially those others who are likely better off than they are.

Naus1987 · 2021-02-17T23:06:13+00:00

I dated a woman once with schizophrenia, depression, and anxiety. So I have a good understanding of those kinds of mental illness.

And I while a lot of men moan about being alone, there’s an awful lot of women with a lot of intense emotional issues that are just alone too. I honestly think any guy could get a relationship if he lowered his standards enough.

One of the big differences I’ve noticed between genders is that women will tend to gain weight when they’re depressed, and guys tend to just starve. Not always, but noticeable.

There are absolutely women out there who no one wants to date, and those women will date any guy.

I feel bad for anyone who’s lonely, but I’m not hitching my wagon to someone who’ll drag me way way down. I’ll date depression and anxiety, but I’m never doing schizophrenia again.

The problem people get hung up on is it becomes harder for folks to empathize and sympathize with people who have severe mental-illness.

Anyone would want to comfort a cute girl who is lonely, but no one is going to embrace a screaming Karen.

2021-02-19T02:34:04+00:00

The fuck. Women's loneliness is overwhelmingly self-inflicted. 100% of lonely women brutally squandered away all the suitors chasing her in the name of her overinflated standards. And if 100% of every man who approached her was a sweaty jobless waifu rancher neckbeard then the problem is clearly her because where there's swarms of flies there's only ever rotten flesh or feces to be found.

As for making fun of lonely men because of misogyny, that's Godwin's law at work, son: the longer a debate goes on between a man and a woman the closer to 100% comes the chance she will call him a woman-hater.

SilentLurker666 · 2021-02-17T18:30:50+00:00

The angle from subs like WAATGM is women who've hit the wall, and/or any combination of single parents/overweight/High N-count who demands high quality men to have relationship with them. with Relationship that's often predatory to the male and demands a lot from the male side.

I’ve only seen women become unsympathetic if the guy in question is misogynistic and the op does not at anytime blame men or say anything misandrists.

The problem here is that any criticism of female's behavior can be seen as misogynistic.

It’s a sad mentality but I am starting to wonder if some men who claim women don’t care about men’s relationship pain are just projecting. Because I have never seen a group of women online mock a man for expressing self harm fantasies or sadness for being lonely

Should check on Twitter. Reddit also banned a particular sub that fits the bill.

Where does this mentality come from?

The mentality come from equality ofcourse. Everyone is now opened to be critized.

The statement written by the women is also totally benign, she simply expresses that she is feeling depressed and the pandemic has made it worse since it cause her to lose friends and wishes to have a relationship.

Without context it's hard to determine why that particular individual have no friends or relationships, but I have my friends who've reached out to me due to COVID then before. I can't fathom that the problem is only one sided thou and I'm sure the individual could do a lot at her end to remedy the situation.

2021-02-17T19:12:05+00:00

Basically when it comes to dating, it seems men in the West have it tough. Women control the sexual and dating market and exploit men a lot. The marriage and divorce laws are also in their favor. So I don't really blame men if they get bitter. Why would they care about female loneliness?? Women don't even have it 30% as bad in dating as guys do lol

passepar2t · 2021-02-17T18:02:42+00:00

WhereAreAllTheGoodMen is a revenge fantasy subreddit. It's not representative.

I'd wager that most men don't really give a shit about women's loneliness. Or other men's loneliness.

HenryHoover17 · 2021-02-17T18:13:08+00:00

So I'm a trans guy so I've seen how people treat men's emotions. No woman will to a man's face make fun of his struggles.

This isn't limited to women but I think in general mens feelings are pushed under the rug, spoken over or are told to suck it up. I think men assume it's women because most people are straight (it's basically a correlation and nothing more.

It's less to do with women acknowledging that men have feelings and more to do with the fact they can't freely express them.

Workaholiconew · 2021-02-17T21:31:38+00:00

I mean... why would you assume a man need to sympathize? Because that is supposed to be socially expected?

Be fair here. None gives 2 flying shit. People just say they do. It is not men. But other women and children too.

It is not a psychopath who does not give a shit about a strangers problem... the mentally ill person is the one who cares about some them without knowing them.

These men are probably just having fun at the expense of the women. You are the person with problems for caring.

glintglib · 2021-02-18T01:38:14+00:00

From what I've observed a big factor in this is how attractive the woman or man in the equivalent case is, as shallow as it sounds. Any combination of plain, frumpy really overweight, bossy, prudish, aloof/depressed with a woman who is struggling in the dating market will tend to not get a lot of sympathy from men. Not that they will be reveling in her loneliness or mocking her struggles but rather she just wont be part of empathy or focus. Just like the same is for struggling, nerdy, shy, unattractive men are not part of women's mental focus when it comes to men or her social life. Struggling men when they complain typically dont get sympathy from women as they then see them as losers or cant see why they just cant date any lol long-term struggling women if they were genuine about finding a girlfriend.

Typically the genuinely long term struggling women (majority being overweight) don't make much of a fuss about their poor love life. Far more the the bigger complainers are attractive women (7-8s) who have a heap of options but chase the wrong sorts of men or cant convert the hot NSA type men to LTRs men. These women because they are pretty and social will typically gets lots of sympathy from others when they complain how terrible their love life is or they have the worst luck when it comes to men.

GullibleClassic1 · 2021-02-18T12:20:11+00:00

Where does this mentality come from?

It's a most likely backlash to feminism wishing death on all men, drinking 'male tears' mugs, laughing about violence towards men, etc. Its horrible and stupid and self defeating imo.

Because I have never seen a group of women online mock a man for expressing self harm fantasies or sadness for being lonely.

Really?/ I have. Daily. They call them incels, they call them neckbeards, they call them all manner of names for amusement. Look at TwoXchromosomes or any female sub at all. You will see comment after comment laughing at lonely, sad men. Telling them they have all the privilege, all the power, that their problems are their fault and theirs alone. Which is again why you see the former backlash.

Emervila · 2021-02-17T18:36:14+00:00

group of women online mock a man for expressing self harm fantasies or sadness for being lonely

This is antipathy which is not the case. I made an op about Ecpathy and that's what most women do about male emotions. That group does exist it's FDS.

You are confusing wanting a relationship (feeling alone) with not being to find/get male attention or companionship. Women have pretty easy to get attention but really hard to get commitment from the kind of men they want (alpha) the older they get.

avg men are everywhere wanting to meet women but for the woman in her 30's you're talking about avg is not enough, it's ok she's entitled to preferences whether or not those are realistic is the point. A decent looking women complaining they can't find LTR only means " I can't get Chad"

EminemLovesGrapes · 2021-02-17T18:10:06+00:00

Male stereotypes still exist. Men are still expected to be their own rock. Although bro-love is becoming more of a thing. Which is great. But they still exist.

Women don't have that problem. I have no issues being alone during corona. Because I've spent years alone. And it sucked. It sucks now, but I've had way worse.

Maybe the source is simply "Oh now during corona you have it bad? I've been alone for the last decade, why do you deserve empathy?". Not even to speak of (some) women that then say it's the men's responsibility and they only have themselves to thank for it. That surely breeds empathy across the sexes.

To oust women 'who had it easier' is still a dick move though. Women obviously have it much easier, yes. They have a social safety net and are much more open and vulnerable with each other.

But that still doesn't make it a fun experience for them to live through what we live through regularly.

Going to that subreddit to be vulnerable and expect sympathy is like going to politics and expecting a hub of political discussion instead of a left wing echo chamber.

Those men are bitter. They see it as justice. And I can understand their reasoning.

Snoo_16536 · 2021-02-17T18:29:34+00:00

I've probably slept with ~15 men because I feel bad about male loneliness.

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PickleLine · 2021-02-18T02:10:37+00:00

Women can't actually be lonely. When a woman says she is lonely, she might feel lonely but she isn't objectively lonely. So when a woman complains about being lonely, it's a joke not deserving of sympathy because she's not actually lonely and is just mildly inconvenienced.

Women exhibit the same behavior in progressive politics. They don't show any sympathy to the upper middle class person who laments about being too poor to afford a Tesla.

2021-02-17T20:37:23+00:00

I'd say not very much at all.

From a guy's perspective, we can assume that those women have more options than any random man does, but they choose to be alone when they reject those options. If their complaints sound like "boohoo, the people that I like don't like me and I'm (basically) too good for everyone else," then it becomes harder to feel any sympathy for them.

decoy88 · 2021-02-17T18:14:10+00:00

Inexperienced men who are getting no dates don’t seem to understand that getting dates won’t cure loneliness.

Carkudo · 2021-02-18T04:04:54+00:00

You people really need to learn the difference between sympathy and empathy.

throw-away-1709 · 2021-02-18T07:04:37+00:00

The comments - i also commented - are not related to THIS special woman but to the general problem women get them into by following that path.

Money and career does not give a woman true satisfaction.

At or post wall when she realizes what world she could have had with a different lifepath this sadness and fristration kicks in.

It is the chardonay/netflix/cat way their route describes at that dead end.

She is wealthy. She is educated. She can afford and boss others like workers arround.

Can she now go commiting to 'Mr. Poor Normal dadbot 5.5 guy' left over at her ages dating pool?

Whyyyyyy...... never..... i worked so hard to get there i want the doctor/lawyer 6'2 and - ok a little masson the muscle could be ok.

But those do not want females like her.

They want females dedicated 200% towards them and their life.

They can pull a 20yo beauty who admires simple things in life - like this princess did long ago.

Why should they fall for a woman knowing shakespeare in depth if being with a ex virgin discussing deadpool or doing fun sports is more fulfilling.

A commitment to such a kweeeen would immedeate rise the question of offspring (biological clock - tick..tick...) not a question to a 20yo you travel the world with.

So women with career are males with female sexual parts. Often with a high testo level.

They would have to go for submisse potentially bisexual males. Those are most time broke or in the gay work area (models, actors and such). If they are successful they can have young beauties too.

So this strategy is bs for a woman. It is thecore of all what feminists tell. This is what leads women into that loneliness and sadness.

abaxeron · 2021-02-18T13:38:44+00:00

I have never in my life seen anything like above, a group of women mocking a man who admitted he has thought about self harm and callously imply he has it coming because of scenarios they made up in their head about how he acted in his twenties.

Me neither, but I've seen my fair share of groups of women calling anyone with a penis "rapist" to their fucking face (including guys who are minors); but I guess all those men had it coming and it's totally their own fault for being assholes/s

The statement written by the women

I'll assume you meant womAn, not "women"

They turn a women

Okay, are you mocking us?

Mind you they don’t know this women

Okay, you are mocking us

I’ve only seen women become unsympathetic if the guy in question is misogynistic

Which means literally anything including the very words "I don't have a girlfriend"

project all their bitterness and anger

Being nice to discussed women on WAATGM is literally against the rules:

Rules of conduct:

Relax guys! This is an amusement sub, so grab some popcorn and enjoy the whining. If the NiceGuys™ can be mocked for complaining about being rejected for jerks, then it's only fair that the women who rejected them be mocked for the outcome of their shitty choices.

1. No shaming men for any reason.

2. No white-knighting or NAWALT. This is not a debate sub.

3. No comments such as "Her profile looks decent", "She's not asking for much", "At least she's honest". This isn't a Choosing Beggars sub.

2021-02-19T02:39:11+00:00

Because I have never seen a group of women online mock a man for expressing self harm fantasies or sadness for being lonely.

Lolwut? "Man up" is the most tame of the shit I used to hear when I was a teen.

They turn a women simply sharing her vulnerability into an opportunity to circle jerk about how the op is probably a whore who rejected a bunch of men in her twenties for chad and is getting what she deserved.

I don't like the sub, but when you get galaxy brain takes like this one or some whine from career driven women that they are single, can't date up, and are pissy that men that they consider to be good pair, straight up ignore them in favour of younger ones, the answers like in that sub are expected.

Also, most of the guys there are in the same position and don't cut themselves, and, to be honest, nobody gives two fucks about them or their loneliness, so no wonder they parrot the same reaction they had been dealing with.

Where does this mentality come from?

People that are considered expendable get bitter with time. In some situations, like mine, it just results in stopping giving a fuck about anything and being in denial of life going down the shitter (at least until it fucking blows up like a shitty-made dam, in which case we will just fill the numbers on suicides if we're not lucky). In situations like hers, it results in self harm. In situation like commenters', it results in throwing a temper tantrum against the whole world and bitching endlessly. Some people turn to alcohol and drugs to get away from it. Some to other escapist hobbies.

Some shitpost about "muh whamen this and that" in MGTOW or incel forums. Go guess.

purplepilldthrowaway · 2021-02-17T18:01:44+00:00

People aren't a monolith in things like empathy.

Personally I do feel bad for women who are lonely. However I also happen to be in a similar boat: I could have many dates with women I deem below my league, but my sexual preferences wouldn't allow me to enjoy being with those women; thus my results with women I'm properly into are, while existent, much more scarce than my total options with women, and I do go through dry spells / unsuccessful relationships / loneliness as well.

Incels / MGTOWs / unsuccessful TRPers / etc often lack sympathy for women who are lonely because they say there's no such thing as a femcel; that if you have any options, then it's your choice to be lonely. They fail to realize that in practice it's the same thing: if nobody you're into is reciprocating your interest, you don't really have any options. (That said, I feel much worse for incels than for women who temporarily feel lonely, or for guys in my position.)

Meanwhile, I definitely have seen women on the internet be brutally unsympathetic to incels' situations. But as I say, people aren't a monolith and there are undoubtedly many women who would/do have sympathy for incels / men / etc.

flapperfemmefatale · 2021-02-17T18:35:25+00:00

Most men here seem apathetic, but that hasn't been my experience offline.

And to be fair, I'm not sympathetic to men's loneliness.

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superlurkage · 2021-02-17T19:01:14+00:00

Why would they be sympathetic to someone who would probably turn down their dicks?

GullibleClassic1 · 2021-02-17T17:54:37+00:00

It’s a sad mentality but I am starting to wonder if some men who claim women don’t care about men’s relationship pain are just projecting.

Alternatives include but are not limited to:

returning the favor
doing like we've been told
doing like we've been shown
not trespassing ourselves
not interested
interested in general, but "just haven't found the right one yet"

Where does this mentality come from?

You.

How come you aren't asking where SHE failed?

2021-02-17T21:33:44+00:00

I’m sympathetic. It must suck to not be able to lock down a guy three points higher than you on the dating scale. Plain, flabby chicks deserve 9s too.

Special-Armadillo-99 · 2021-02-17T17:47:03+00:00

Men are way more vindictive and actively wish that the women who commit the horrible "crime" of rejecting them become unhappy. Women don't wish for men's unhappiness, they just don't care.

DP8414 · 2021-02-17T18:49:25+00:00

I’m not sympathetic to women OR men’s loneliness. More often then not, the loneliness is their own fault, whether that’s women refusing to settle for anything less than the top 20% of good looking men, or men refusing to improve themselves and instead bullying people on the internet.

Neither gender gives a shit about the loneliness of the other, which means no one is interested in being altruistic or helping each other. Therefore, I don’t want to help them and in fact want them to continue to suffer inside until they figure out what the right thing is, and do it.

boomcheese44 · 2021-02-17T18:31:48+00:00

That sub is where bitter men with revenge fantasies go.

As a group, men don't care about women unless they are hot and attractive to them. So yes, you can say that they don't care. In fact, most will openly mock women that they don't view as attractive or they view as inferior in some way. Women don't mock, they just ignore what they dont want.

2021-02-17T20:18:53+00:00

ZERO..NONE..ZILCH... I pity the felines that have to put up with them though.

Flightlessbirbz · 2021-02-17T22:39:55+00:00

Men generally have lower empathy than women. Especially toward women and other men who aren’t like them. Part of it is probably biological and part social. Don’t get me wrong, women can lack empathy too. But men just overall do not empathize with women.

Jakes1967 · 2021-02-17T20:07:14+00:00

How sympathetic are men to women’s loneliness?

Modern women? About the same as porpoise shit, so below sea-level.

2021-02-18T00:12:13+00:00

Wow that link is so sad and toxic. Those are some bitter people right there. If you replace all the feminine pronouns with male ones, suddenly those comments are “cruelty and violence”.

Literally stop seeing women as a conglomerate. It’s not impossible to be a woman and lonely, even if you can’t comprehend that. Cry all you want that it’s easier for women to hook up with crack addicts, serial killers, and shitheads but um...wow that’s not actually what we want.

dejour · 2021-02-18T00:06:12+00:00

Well, that group is not very kind or empathetic. That said it seems like it is a subreddit designed for mocking women with relationship issues. So you're going to get a very particular group commenting.

So where does it come from? My guess is that some people are just sociopaths. Others have been hurt badly and build up walls and mock others to help themselves feel better. It's not very convincing logic, but some people think there is poetic justice in the idea that a picky woman who rejects countless average men in her early 20s deserves to be lonely and single when she is older.

I don't think this is unique to men. There are women-dominated subreddits that will post the laments of a lonely self-proclaimed nice guy and will mock him/say he deserves it.

BrtVrgen · 2021-02-18T01:12:22+00:00

I am very sympathetic for women who are lonely in the sense that they can't get a true relationship or people who like them for who they are.

I don't like when women act as if getting a relationship or sex is as difficult for them if they were to just go for a casual thing. Obviously this wouldn't apply to women seeking a real connection because she wouldn't want a guy just using her for sex.

2021-02-17T19:15:50+00:00

I have empathy but no sympathy.

And women tend to ask for censorship when it comes to those affairs as opposed to debate, criticism or mockery,

So empathy yes. Sympathy no.

Title	How sympathetic are men to women’s loneliness?
Author	GullibleClassic1
Upvotes	79
Comments	484
Date	February 17, 2021 5:16 PM UTC (5 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/PurplePillDebate
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