Thinking about being married to any of my exes fuels my single hood🤢

seraphinelysion · 2021-09-21T16:37:32+00:00

No. Women usually have the "wish I had never gotten involved with / never gotten married to / never had kids with" conversations.

Catz10000 · 2021-09-21T15:03:43+00:00

Truth! I do not know one woman who regrets relationships that didn't work out. Most women have reasoned that there was a reason things don't work out. Scrotes will have entire marriages with women they're not in love with while pining for some girl who smiled at him in grade 3. Even Pickmeishas don't mourn one guy for their entire lives (at least in my experience).

thepsychopathhunter · 2021-09-21T15:50:47+00:00

I don’t think many women have “the one who got away” because men never really truly leave. 💀 They always come crawling back. Some of these scrotes even come back while they’re in another relationship or marriage. And when they do come crawling back, even the men the woman idealized reveals more of his true self and vileness. And then she realizes anything good she believed about him was an illusion she created based on the short time she knew him. As she learns his true character, she becomes relieved she never ended up with him in the first place.

Meanwhile men will always have the woman who got away because there are many empathic and beautiful high value women in the world who in a temporary fit of insanity may have given them a chance once that they will inevitably ruin. 🤷‍♀️

Jandi18 · 2021-09-21T18:07:53+00:00

The thing is men benefit more from relationship than women. And women always give and give and give. When we finally leave that relationship, we are relieved and focus on ourselves. We don’t have time for the one who got away! They all took too much from us.

Edit: Thanks for the award 🥇

musicalistic · 2021-09-21T15:24:22+00:00

I have been thinking about this, whether any of my exes is "the one who got away". I think hard but I am always back to the these conclusions "Glad. I don't end up marrying any of my exes", "Glad. I don't stay long enough in the relationship" or "Glad. I can get away from them."

DarbyGirl · 2021-09-21T17:28:30+00:00

No, we have "thank god I got away" conversations.

BarbwireBoots · 2021-09-21T15:47:11+00:00

Mine were alllllll losers. No wonder why I had a “I’m never getting married” mindset until after two years of knowing my now-husband. I was shocked when I realized I wanted to be his wife.

Jail, DV charges, other crimes, serial relationships after the fact, etc. I just pray they didn’t spawn.

throwawayaway388 · 2021-09-21T16:24:14+00:00

"the one who got away"

"The one"

There you go. If you've got multiple lovers who have "gotten away", I hope you're ✨reflecting✨

If this happens repeatedly, then the issue may lie with you - what are you permitting? Keep your standards and boundaries in force at all times.

daisies4dayz · 2021-09-21T17:23:06+00:00

There was a thread recently (ask Reddit maybe) about “the one who got away”. There were some women posting but I’d say it was overwhelming men. Usually talking about high school or college girlfriends.

pickmieshaexorcist · 2021-09-21T15:19:53+00:00

I have seen it, usually a nice college bf who it didn’t work out with due to growing up/distance/other circumstances. But I hesitate to call it “one who got away” for them because none of these women romanticize or pine for these men and let them ruin current relationships, the way men obsess over “the one who got away” (and usually she “got away” because he cheated on or mistreated her). For women it’s just a nice memory and they get on with their lives generally.

suzy_ko · 2021-09-21T16:09:10+00:00

Literally, when I think of my exes, I’m happy to be rid of EVERY SINGLE ONE OF THEM. My life is progressively becoming better and better and it wouldn’t be possible if it wasn’t for their absence.

Technusgirl · 2021-09-21T15:55:04+00:00

Lol, never

haggis_rising · 2021-09-21T20:16:42+00:00

I was "the one who got away" in the relationship. Lost my sense of self, my boundaries, my dreams.

NEVER AGAIN.

lilac-hiraeth · 2021-09-21T15:48:10+00:00

I’m thinking through all of my relationships and none of them were marriage material.

bleda_princezna · 2021-09-21T16:21:17+00:00

Lol, as if! Can't miss someone if I actually gave a fuck and tried to make it work.

quasarbar · 2021-09-21T17:01:41+00:00

To be fair, there have been a few good guys I've regretted losing. One in particular was absolutely perfect for me, but I met him on the heels of a breakup with a Cluster B disordered negative-value man (or perhaps I should say little boy) who messed me up about love and trust and relationships, so I wasn't able to make it work with the HVM during the time it took me to recover (longer than I care to admit)

mothertuna · 2021-09-21T18:29:20+00:00

I used to think an ex was the one that got away when we broke up. But he withheld things about himself from me because he didn’t want to be judged instead of being honest. We were great friends, should have never been together. And of course after he broke up with me, months later he came back.

Men really don’t leave because in addition to him, had another ex of mine who for years would turn back up even when married with a child and after his divorce.

The only regrets I’ve had with men is wishing it ended sooner or never got started at all.

aquietsword · 2021-09-21T22:36:10+00:00

More like "the one that I stayed with too long" 🤡

all_or_nothing_bet · 2021-09-21T16:58:47+00:00

Nope, nope, nope! It's quite opposite. I regret getting involved with every single one of them.

I like playing with different concepts and theories of time and multiverse/parallel universes.

Sometimes I look at my old pictures and tell younger me at different stages of my life not to trust the guy I was in love with at that moment, not to get involved with him. To avoid him, he is not good, not trustworthy, and will only waste my time.

Because there's a theory that time is not linear and I Iike to pretend that younger me would perceive my message and would live her life differently somewhere in another branch of possible outcomes.

myousername · 2021-09-21T17:56:55+00:00

Because when women are done, they are DONE. That door is shut.

Whereas there aren't any men who "got away" because men are like boomerangs and keep crawling back

xfelugirlx · 2021-09-21T16:58:32+00:00

I’m glad that i don’t end up marrying any of my exs lol glad that i dumped all of then and even more glad the last one throw himself, it would ended up in a miserable life or a premature divorce

cakewalkofshame · 2021-09-21T20:43:50+00:00

Men that mourn "the one that got away"...I guarantee she thinks of it as "thank God I got away." When will they stop seeing us as objects and start seeing us as people?

Platipus6 · 2021-09-21T22:00:42+00:00

Yet another hilarious concept that is all projection - men claim we're emotionally unavailable because we're pining over "the best we ever had" and we're an Alpha Widow 😂

If he was the best, we'd have kept him. God they're so stupid.

Hikari3747 · 2021-09-21T20:28:54+00:00

No, but I always call myself "the one who got away" because I'm not putting up with shit.

Feministtiktok · 2021-09-21T19:45:05+00:00

Yeah no…. I mean there’s times when I’m freshly single where I’m like “ugh I wish my ex didn’t mistreat me or lie to me or scream at me until I was afraid for my physical safety or had to call the police. Things could have been different if he wasn’t like that but I have to accept he is like that.” but I’m pretty sure that’s not the same feeling he has lol

anotherdamnloser · 2021-09-21T20:17:00+00:00

I do not have a “one that got away” at ALL

lolmemberberries · 2021-09-21T21:32:38+00:00

I've only regretted not ending things sooner, I've never felt bad about things not working out with my exes.

apexdryad · 2021-09-21T18:34:53+00:00

"The one that got away" is always the one that was too smart to put up with your shit, dude.

shoesfromparis135 · 2021-09-21T23:47:44+00:00

I’ve been rejected by three guys in the last few years who I later saw on dates with other women. Each time it felt like I was seeing what I definitely wasn’t missing. One had the personality of paint drying on the wall. Another was straight-up shitfaced and yelling obnoxious things so everyone around could hear. The last one turned out to be diseased community dick who feared my feminist ways would land him in prison due to a “false rape accusation.” Really. I’m grateful they rejected me. I’m not missing out on anything.

slayeroftruth · 2021-09-22T04:09:31+00:00

The one who got away for men are women they don't know well but have fantasy about or women they treated like trash while in relationship. The women wised up and left him.

When women end relationship its done. Their is no reason to dwell over misery. That's setting up relationship to fail.

Parophrys · 2021-09-21T17:19:53+00:00

I was thinking about this recently too! There are only a couple of my exes that I consider to be decent humans, but even with them there were clear reasons why we would never work as a couple. As for the rest? Yep, pretty nauseating to think of what I used to put up with. I was trying to reflect on things I've "done wrong" in relationships too, and the only mistakes I've made was putting up with abusive behavior and allowing myself to be gaslit and manipulated when I knew deep down it was wrong. My exes behaviors have been criminal, deplorable, and ridiculous. Thank goodness I've learned to push back against pickme culture and not let my friends and family bully me into accepting the same abuse mediocrity that they accept.

WestAtmosphere · 2021-09-21T20:17:44+00:00

"Thank god he's finally leaving me alone"

prufeshinlAUDITwhORe · 2021-09-21T14:51:38+00:00

Absolutely...the FUCK not

Throw_Away_Students · 2021-09-21T17:06:08+00:00

Right?! Good god, looking back on my exes, what the actual fuck was I thinking????? I almost married the last one!!! I have nightmares about it sometimes!

aloevera989 · 2021-09-21T18:22:26+00:00

Literally NEVER 🤣

shljock · 2021-09-21T15:56:38+00:00

When i think abt my exes

https://2.bp.blogspot.com/-RRA3OdaC98g/V_oSvQqtmII/AAAAAAAEZIY/ex8gox5s0lstYoz9w6gXjaVfERMsYMXzwCLcB/s1600/FB_IMG_1475609843684.jpg

bonzaibuzz · 2021-09-21T16:15:07+00:00

There's been once where I thought I let a LVM "get away".... Now I have a HVM and dont miss my ex one bit!! THANK GOD HE GOT AWAY!!

1abagoodone2 · 2021-09-21T17:18:25+00:00

two sides of the same coin

Tharwaum · 2021-09-21T17:52:23+00:00

Beyoncé had a song about this feeling before I had any idea what it meant. And it’s a decent one that holds up even today :) (best thing I never had, is the title I think.)

torik97 · 2021-09-21T17:57:24+00:00

Does anyone actually have any regrets about guys? I have never met one….

FURYOFCAPSLOCK · 2021-09-22T01:03:01+00:00

There's literally not a single one that I miss. Men and women live in different worlds.

CrazyPaine · 2021-09-22T03:15:22+00:00

What is the one that got away? It's the one that I left and I now have a peace of mind now. It's fucking great. I'll be alone, single with my cats and dogs with a compTIA certs very soon.

One_Bat_2525 · 2021-09-22T03:15:54+00:00

I’ve never pined over any of my exes. If I ever bump into any of them, I cringe and say to myself, “Guuuurl, what were you thinking?” 😂

Optimal_Grapefruit_5 · 2021-09-22T00:27:45+00:00

Men don't have "the one that got away" either; they have the one they actively drove away.

Darkmatter_777 · 2021-09-21T22:01:50+00:00

100000000000000000000% yes

butteryrum · 2021-09-22T01:59:11+00:00

When you put it that way now I want to stay single even longer. The "some girl right now is with your ex and thinks he's perfect" tiktok has me cracking up too. Better single than stressed.

Practical_Appearance · 2021-09-21T16:25:49+00:00

I might be the odd one out here... When I was 15, my best friend of the time was dating a guy 2 years older than us. He also had an identical twin brother. While they were dating I became friends with the brothers because of my friend. Their relationship only lasted a month. After they broke up we all still hang out as friends. Me and her ex became closer but nothing ever happened. She noticed and gave us her blessing if we ever wanted to date because she moved on. But I moved to another city a few months later when my parents got divorced. I kept contact with everyone but eventually contact faded away with everyone except this guy. He phoned me every week. When I was in the area we saw each other every time. When he moved to my city after high school to study at university he used to come pick me up often to take me out for movies/dinner. Still nothing happened. Once we discussed the potential between us and he said he wants me to finish school first. But before I did, he met something else, got engaged and married to her, and ghosted me. It hurt so much. He was always "the one that got away" for me. But now I've grown. If he comes crawling back now I would kick him in his face and break his nose. I'm not the second choice.

Lost_Kale90 · 2021-09-21T19:40:08+00:00

This is so true. Most of the time for me it’s why did I waste so much time staying

Psych012521 · 2021-09-21T19:02:06+00:00

My “one who got away” is a trumper…I dodged a bullet! Life is good.

cle039 · 2021-09-21T16:12:22+00:00

I thought it wasn't like real exes but more like potential Partners?

rideoffalone · 2021-09-22T09:00:31+00:00

My "one that got away" was a crush that never led to anything, so it's easy for me to idealize him when I have no idea what he'd actually be like in a real relationship. I know deep down that he wouldn't be as perfect as the person I have built up in my mind over the years. (Also, FDS has taught me that if he were actually into me, he would've asked me on a date, so yeah, bullet dodged!)

Peak_Tree · 2021-09-22T16:25:33+00:00

I don't have many exes ( basically two) and same. I'm even glad it didn't last too long with any of them, I could feel in my gut they were not the one.

Ok_Passenger_5717 · 2021-09-24T00:51:05+00:00

Totally. I have noticed that it is always men who get nostalgic about former partners and realise they want them back, women on the other hand (might take some time after the breakup) always have the same story about their exes, that they didn't treat them right but they were too blinded and attached to see it.

dancedancedance7 · 2021-09-22T08:45:59+00:00

Yeah there are deffo some guys I dated of whom I had fond memories, but if they were husband material, it wouldn't have ended. No, I don't pine.

DivineGoddess1111111 · 2021-09-22T10:21:24+00:00

I did have a one who got away but now he's more of a "thank God he got away" due to the LV scrote he's grown up to be ( we met as teenagers.)

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Title	Thinking about being married to any of my exes fuels my single hood🤢
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