What do men and women genuinely get wrong about one another both here and in real life?

TheBookOfSeil · 2021-10-06T22:19:22+00:00

That they all think and want the same thing.

Mark_Freed · 2021-10-07T04:36:15+00:00

I think men call women crazy and women call men creepy too easily. It's based on intuition and discomfort which isn't deeply analysed. With the upheaval of culture we will see people interacting who aren't fully comfortable with each other.

I think people with low social intelligence is rising and more people with good intentions can get called creepy which breeds resentment and confusion.

WilliamWyattD · 2021-10-06T22:21:46+00:00

Men don't talk with their friends about their sex lives nearly as much as women think they do. It's basically never.

Boondoggie7777 · 2021-10-07T07:17:10+00:00

Most women don't understand how horny young boys are. All the time. Pretty much from pre-teen to early 20s. And that it's very difficult to control.

As a society, we need to establish safe and productive ways for boys to channel, explore, and understand these sexual feelings. This includes promoting masturbation and increasing their emotional IQ. They should be taught that their sexual urges are normal and valid, but it doesn't give them the right to have sex. They need to realize that their actions have long-term consequences on women.

chalkandapples · 2021-10-06T23:05:31+00:00

People are very different, I think you need to get to know each person individually than try to guess at what they want. People would say all kinds of things that I think is crazy and don't agree with at all, but chances are they met someone like that or had an experience that reinforced that while I did not. It's difficult to say anyone got anything wrong about either gender, because somewhere some man/woman probably did what the person said. No one only cares just about 1 thing, and toxic traits aren't very gender specific.

Cover-Pseudonym · 2021-10-06T23:25:46+00:00

Women vary in libido. Some want 3 times a day, some don't want any ever (and that varies with age). Despite what most women will tell you, yes some women play hard to get. (I am reluctant to say that because too many people on the spectrum misinterpret signs and can't read body language. If you're unsure caution on the side of she's not interested).

Men are not actually thinking about sex 24/7. They want validation, just like us women. Because of how selective women are with men, men subconsciously recognize that one of the stronger validations you can give to a man is to sleep with the man. What men desire is respect, peace, and touch (i.e. validation). Women often misunderstand men's desire for touch and think men are amoral objectifing monsters. Nothing is ever that simple.

Taipanshimshon · 2021-10-06T23:14:17+00:00

Is purge week over ? Am I on the right sub ?

The replies so far are waay too reasonable

chilikettlechips · 2021-10-07T00:49:18+00:00

If you accept 80/20 or 95/5 then it explains women's insecurities. They think men are judging them by the same rules. Couldn't be further from the truth. Notice the complete blackout on men's ratings of women, 50% or an even bell curve. You'll never see a 700 comment thread saying, "ackshually men are wrong we're ugly af"

Business-Friend947 · 2021-10-06T22:54:17+00:00

Not gonna deny men bear more than their fair share of responsibility in this space. Absolutely. Problem is, that both men and women tend to readily agree on male shortcomings with little controversy, but any light shone onto common negative female behaviour tends to either get downplayed or conflated with misogyny. And there is no shortage of data which can be presented to bolster just how common and awful some of this negative female behaviour is. Yet, all too often (especially from other women) there is conspicuous silence or little acknowledgement of it, rather it seems that all too often the focus is on either working the personal public relations angle in service of how they wish to be perceived, as well as claims of victimhood for their own questionable choices.

kcam3114 · 2021-10-06T23:02:17+00:00

No. Most of the complaints on both sides are made by people who spend too much time in their little echo chamber.

fakingandnotmakingit · 2021-10-06T23:38:38+00:00

They both project onto the opposite gender and then get mad when they realise the opposite gender doesn't think like they do.

PurpleManufacturer94 · 2021-10-07T03:34:31+00:00

Believing men think like women and women think like men. Neither gender thinks like the other and it'd be wrong to assume so.

gofigure62 · 2021-10-06T22:35:58+00:00

People are brainwashed into cultural sterotypes of each sex. They internalize the "truths" of these sterotypes and fail to be able to see or attend to the individual needs of the person that they chose.

For example a husband looks at his wife as "a woman" and treats her like "a woman". He completely ignores that his wife is a person named Jane and Jane has her own individual needs and wants as a person.

People aren't really seeing or taking care of the people that they choose to be with. They're picking random people and acting out social scripts in their head with them. Which is why they can't understand anything that goes off "script". They can't understand why their partner is unhappy or unfulfilled because they aren't listening. They're just pretending and acting out what they think a relationship is supposed to be like, instead of actively being present in the relationship that they chose.

Most people are on autopilot and aren't capable of forming or making genuine connections with other human beings. There's also a resentment towards people who don't "follow the script". So there's an inherent refusal to treat anyone or see anyone outide of the box that they've been prescribed.

BrodieDharma · 2021-10-07T01:35:55+00:00

Women think men are worried about body count, when it is mostly not wanting to feel that a woman you are invested in was more sexual and quicker for someone who wasn’t nearly as invested in her emotionally.

Enchanting_Smith · 2021-10-07T02:24:04+00:00

I think only some people get it wrong or even think about it as much as others. Not everyone is in the gender war. I think most judgements on people come from a) the judging persons past experiences b) the actions of the person being judged. Genders are only so dramatic because of all offensive stereotypes that humans can pick up on because stereotyping is a way of classifying and categorizing for ease, sometimes its just the wrong impression we have or store for life.

A woman can call a guy a creep as much as a woman can misjudge him because of her own experiences. This example implies a stereotype unintentionally but naturally that a man would he implied a creep before a woman - this is true, and does not represent the data of women who could also be or have been a confirmed "creep".

Men get called creep as much as women get called nags. And the man is possibly just trying to help, while she is just trying to help. He just wanted to grab her things or offer a different perspective but was being toxically man, she just wanted to remind him, correct him out of love or offer her piece and its nagging. It depends on the person recieving too - are they annoyed? Triggered? Wrong with no one to enlighten them? Wrong with an enabler? We can't narrow it down much past human nature in its current relatively toxic cycle. Gender is a second consideration of impact imo.

To the last several stereotypical questions, no. No to any of them. No onlys. Its not so black and white. Toxic men and women ponder on the toxicity of each other and thrive on the information, confirmed or not, with restriction or not. I will say women are known for blaming "all men" in a negative fashion, and I would bet my life on that being a true stereotype; however, its been an unspoken truth of womens opression in the past, not focusing on economy or jobs but more so "wenches, mistresses, multiple brides, whores, money/royal marriages" which kind of keeps the "dumb hoe" stereotype alive imo. Not saying those werent personal decisions at times but for the most part history anyways paints them as pretty screwed in terms of personal value and worth.

PirateDocBrown · 2021-10-07T07:52:39+00:00

Men greatly underestimate how competitive women are.

TheBurningSoda · 2021-10-07T04:46:36+00:00

I have nothing to contribute with, OP, but I applaud you for asking a question where this sub can have some reasonable discussions.

Ian_Campbell · 2021-10-07T08:43:20+00:00

I don't know the extent women realize that many men just want a woman they can love safely and feel affection without tons of drama and pain. We wanna embrace and feel comfort and love and make the pain and anxiety of the world go away if only for some moments, and then keep doing that and get married and have kids. But when you have strong feelings for a woman it can turn into the worst nightmare so those who can work through issues respectfully without trying to emotionally manipulate or cause suffering, it is incredibly appreciated.

FabulousFuchsbau · 2021-10-07T14:03:18+00:00

The thing women get wrong is that guys would fuck anything. I've never been in a friend group where the men would fuck anything. All of my friends have rejected hookups in the past. I've only met a handful of dudes who would fuck anything and 0 were the stereotypical chads.

yuckyuck13 · 2021-10-07T01:58:00+00:00

Far too many men think women crave huge dick. The size of your member isn't that important nor do women prefer larger penis. When it comes to sex it's all about similar preferences and sex drive.

I-Fail-Forward · 2021-10-06T22:41:59+00:00

What do men and women genuinely get wrong about one another both here and in real life?

Here men seem to get basically everything wrong about women.

In real life the biggest thing seems to be women way overestimating how obvious they are being about liking guys.

And guys seem to be massively underestimating how much women enjoy sex.

Are we really that awful to one another?

Generally no

What makes someone a creep?

4 things.

1) only approaching women, and obviously only for sex

2) taking no care of themself

3) not taking no for an answer

4) approaching women for sex when they are just trying to get through their day

What makes someone a nag?

Being a woman and wanting some input on a relationship so far as I can tell

What are traits you see as toxic in men?

https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Toxic_masculinity#:~:text=Toxic%20masculinity%20is%20thus%20defined,other%20emotions%20such%20as%20anger.

What are traits you find toxic in women?

Performative femaninity is the female version

Are men emotionless? Are women too emotional?

No

Do men only care about sex? Do women only care about status?

Only if you listen to the idiots on this sub.

cornfedduckman · 2021-10-07T06:27:05+00:00

Not all women are hypergamous, materialistic gold-diggers.........I think. 🤔

rick-dicking-morty · 2021-10-07T05:36:07+00:00

That women have high standards when it comes to looks. I’m telling you, 99% of the average and below average looking people here (both men and women) don’t have trouble getting into relationships and marriages.

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Jakes1967 · 2021-10-07T14:24:48+00:00

What do men and women genuinely get wrong about one another both here and in real life?

Just how powerful force of will really is.

PPD and so many people here seem to think men who don't want sex, can't get sex and that sex is so absolutely fundamental to men.

My one manager is retiring and he probably hasn't been laid in decades, you think he gives a shit?

He has some of the most expensive hobbies out there and only works because it funds his car addiction.

vial_of_music · 2021-10-07T16:36:52+00:00

I think men have a hard time believing a lot of individual women have individual preferences of men. For instance, you could be a buff tall blonde.. but if you don’t have brown hair or a beard or hair all over your body I WILL pass on you. And some other girl is repulsed by body hair and loves blonde hair. I just don’t think there’s this general attraction men think there is. Just my perspective.

welcometothejl · 2021-10-07T20:12:06+00:00

That men don't get joint custody of their children simply because they don't ask. There are currently only 2 or 3 states where it's even possible to simply get joint custody for asking. And not only that, even if you do get joint custody, you will still have to pay child support in many cases. Plus, states get federal money based on how much child support they collect. The deck is stacked plain and simple.

JacobMoogberg69 · 2021-10-08T03:07:51+00:00

Ask yourself who has an interest in creating a wedge between men and women? Who has an interest in keeping men insecure and creating the idea that you need an expensive car, lucious hair, a fly crib and expensive watches and clothes to attract women? If you were happy with who you are you wouldn't buy a tenth of the crap you work really hard to buy.

There are women that spend 90% of their lay checks on make up, clothes, hair, making their pussy smell nice or worse getting plastic surgery for their vaginas. They are made to feel insecure every single day and told the more hot and beautiful they are, the more worthy they are. So they start feeling a fake confidence that guys mistake for real. But they are the most insecure creatures on the planet. How can someone who needs so much attention and approval and validation from others be the prize and have power?

The answer is that companies have a vested interest in keeping you feeling bad about yourself. They create a problem and try to sell you a solution. They tell you you are not enough so you can go work harder, spend more, acquire more in vain hopes of feeling better about yourself. Happy people don't buy. They are satisfied with getting good sex and having their bellies full. They don't need Instagram followers. Only sad insecure people need that.

Take any guy who hasn't had sex in a while. Once he sleeps with a girl he stops caring about abs, his height, his car, his possessions. All he cares is putting his dick in a warm hole because it's what makes him happy. A woman who is never fucked properly snd needs constant validation, once she has an orgasm stops caring about being cool and her Insta followers. All she wants is to have a guy who cares for her, excites her and gives her orgasms.

And that's why companies want to create a rift between men and women and keep you unsatisfied and unhappy.

ilikemyface3 · 2021-10-13T15:25:54+00:00

Probably how different we are. Don't get me wrong men and women definitely have differences but I don't think it's as wide as most people think.

billsull_02842 · 2021-10-07T08:09:18+00:00

women dont understand they are as bad as men. women are no more ladies than men who live by add another notch to my crotch are gentlemen. men who sexually exploit women are evil but women are attracted to these men so in reality their sexual exploitation is directed at the everlasting Father. women are after money and property relentlessly but they deceive themselves into thinking its because they are concerned about children. it could be argued that men dont respect easy women and cheap dates so they set themselves up for spoiled women. its all about arrogant women and arrogant men feeding each others dark natures and making things worse. if a country isnt taking advantage of men its oppressing women. their doesnt seem to be equality.

Title	What do men and women genuinely get wrong about one another both here and in real life?
Author	FabulousFuchsbau
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Date	October 6, 2021 10:18 PM UTC (4 years ago)
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