Where to meet women if don’t drink and no online apps?

HistoricalReception7 · 2021-08-10T23:58:47+00:00

Bookstore is always a good place. I've had a hookup or two with guys that approached me in the fiction section.

Firstladytree · 2021-08-10T23:22:12+00:00

Dog park

Grocery store

whomeverIwishtobe · 2021-08-11T00:59:05+00:00

I really would reconsider not having friends as someone who also has no friends I know for a fact it is bad for my mental health. Everyone is different of course maybe you can cope better but we evolved for millions of years to be social creatures and I think for our species in particular friendship is invaluable to your quality of life.

Personally, I need to see a therapist about it because my avoidance issues with friendship have gotten pretty out of control and I’m (26) just starting to accept it’s unhealthy and that I need help.

As far as meeting women goes bars can still work for you - they serve non alcoholic beverages and almost nobody is gonna inquire about your glass of water.

I prefer busy public places with lots of tourists.

SylAbys · 2021-08-11T00:37:28+00:00

Stop!! Dude, get yourself some freinds!!!

Personally if I dated a women and found out she had no freinds, that will peak my curiosity on WHY?? You can be planting your own red flag

2021-08-11T01:47:45+00:00

Partner dancing is one of the greatest ways.

Sunlitstream264 · 2021-08-11T02:18:30+00:00

You can go to bars and not drink (like me)

DancilB · 2021-08-11T01:17:07+00:00

Wherever you go in public, take a tiny Yorkie with you in your arms. A bright bow in its hair will help. They are chick magnets.

VirusTheoryRS · 2021-08-11T03:12:23+00:00

Not having friends probably throws serious serial killer flags, ngl

TheSunshineMan · 2021-08-10T23:22:05+00:00

Anywhere in public right outside your front door:

Stores, malls, parks, beaches, on the street.

Women are everywhere.

lightmightisright · 2021-08-11T03:51:23+00:00

Lack of friends = no women. Cold approach is unnatural and hard. High rejection rate, but going to a high foot-traffic mall and doing cold approach worked for me in 2012, but expect 1 potential lay out of every 30 to 50 cold approaches depending mostly on your social skills and secondly your looks (clothes, style, vibe, overall personality, and lastly physical hard looks: height, eye color, facial symmetry, etc). Not to mention cold approach will make you “that guy who people recognize as a pickup artist,” especially if you live in a small city or town).

Get friends, volunteer or go to church even if you don’t believe in the cause. You will meet women by default. Better yet, join a organization/club/group you believe in, again you’ll meet the women you want by default. You can always leave a group as quickly as you joined.

Lounges and low key bars are not a bad option. You need to become a bit of a barfly (go every weekend or every 2 to 3 days, but once you get to know the bar staff and the regulars, you will meet women. That worked for me in my early 30s. Same thing here, you can stop going to a particular lounge or club whenever you want.

Don’t write off making friends. Everything you need comes from other people: meeting women, Camaraderie, adventure, business opportunities, the list is endless. Identify what the person is good for and figure out how you can offer them value in return. I met paying clients through social circle, as well as friends I could meet once a week to play basketball with. I met a few girls that I had spicy fun with as well.

Good luck.

Woujo · 2021-08-11T01:55:40+00:00

Go to drinking events and don't drink. Simple.

J33P88 · 2021-08-11T00:50:10+00:00

Starbucks? That's a shot in the dark though honestly and I did not read any comments before posting this btw.

termsanddisagreement · 2021-08-11T02:02:13+00:00

Take a cooking class or yoga class or dance class. I don’t drink either op and if you aren’t creepy or you don’t get into a class of women who don’t wanna talk to you there’s no competition typically with other guys cuz there aren’t any.

Chemical-Illustrious · 2021-08-11T01:22:26+00:00

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2021-08-11T04:57:18+00:00

I’m learning a lot from this comment section

Hovland767 · 2021-08-11T10:21:28+00:00

Meeting women becomes easier when you have more friends 😁. To be fair, I would be cautious with going the down the route of "I don't care for anyone, other than potential dating partners". There's more to life than money and girls. Simply focusing on finances, looks and getting sexual partners seems to be one-way ticket towards Patrick Bateman narcissism.

And that's not to say that women and sex are not important, because they are. But you have to be careful with PUA, it's one of the most common ways towards narcissism.

AskingYouShit101 · 2021-08-11T03:51:37+00:00

Maybe get some friends. I wouldn’t date a guy who had no friends that’s a huge red flag lol

ZStealthMissile · 2021-08-11T02:57:05+00:00

Try and get some friends

kanyesbathroommirror · 2021-08-11T05:58:46+00:00

I don’t have any friends(I don’t care for them)

This reeks of a codependent, jealous relationship just waiting to happen.

longlimbedalbatross · 2021-08-11T05:19:52+00:00

You're in for a world of hurt wrt women if you don't "care for" friends and don't drink on top of that. Romance isn't friendship exactly, but there's an abundance of overlap in terms of basic social skills.

spicy_simba · 2021-08-11T06:40:24+00:00

I believe friends is the answer you are not seeing or disregarding.

Friends are the most simple way to grow your social circle and social network. Which will bring you more growth opportunity, adventure and people in your life as a side effect. But Friendship in itself is intrinsically valuable, it teaches you about life, about social life, about relationships, about romantic life and it allows you to be part of society, as well as build your reputation and recommend you to opportunities.

simbuah · 2021-08-11T06:42:00+00:00

Forget about girls, get some friends

SerMyronGaines · 2021-08-11T04:30:54+00:00

I’m 25 years old and I don’t have any friends(I don’t care for them)

Is this a troll thread?

If serious, then....

OP if your social skills are poor enough that you literally have no friends then women (hell, people in general) are gonna be turned off by that. Dating women is a social skill. You seem to suggest you are socially inept. Fix the bigger problem and learn to socialise with humans as a whole, then zone in on opposite sex

frecklie · 2021-08-11T03:56:14+00:00

Can I ask you a real question? Why should a woman WANT to meet you?

No drinks, you are ‘working on’ your finances, worst of all you “don’t care for friends” - what do you bring to the table? Try and take yourself out of a selfish mindset, thinking about what YOU want, and think about what you are bringing as a prospective date or partner.

You don’t sound like you need to be working on your seduction as much as you need to work on your personality.

D_Caedus · 2021-08-11T02:13:35+00:00

Think of an activity that you can do regularly where you can meet new people, like going to the park, volunteering for something like an animal shelter, french classes, cooking classes, if it's something you enjoy regardless of if you meet someone or not that's a win, if you meet someone there who also enjoys the same stuff as you that's a double win.

TurningToPage394 · 2021-08-11T03:13:36+00:00

If you don’t like friends, why do you think you’d like a girlfriend? Not having any friends is kind of a red flag, honestly. It’s fine to be introverted and not like going out much, but not having connections with other people is a bit concerning from a potential date’s perspective.

Birch_T · 2021-08-11T00:38:21+00:00

I've seen a lot of nice young people at dog parks. If I were looking for a partner, I might consider getting a dog just for that.

plaze6288 · 2021-08-11T01:41:58+00:00

This is why I'm forever single. Embrace the bigger bank account and no sex life

Narcan9 · 2021-08-11T01:38:27+00:00

rec league volleyball

StarsnDiamonds · 2021-08-11T03:13:08+00:00

Cafe, Local Mall, Anywhere that peope go shopping, the beach... just think of anywhere you can hang out.

An added tip... you can go to nightlife places like restaurants and bars... and not drink yourself.

510Goodhands · 2021-08-11T03:47:35+00:00

Your friends introduce you to them. 😒

Quick_Letterhead_572 · 2021-08-11T04:22:21+00:00

In the wild.

Like grocery stores, book stores, wherever you typically go.

gillmanblacklagooner · 2021-08-11T04:32:14+00:00

A lot of comments here seems to be straight from guy of Wedding Crashers (2005). The one used to sneak around unusual places to get laid. Even funerals.

2021-08-11T06:21:40+00:00

I’d start by making some friends. Every relationship I’ve had, I’ve met through my friends / social circles. Also, a boy with no friends is a bit of a red flag, and it’ll be useful for you to have some friends too so I’d start there

maplemario · 2021-08-11T06:52:52+00:00

What the fuck does I don’t care for friends mean? Actually I know what it means because I used to be that way, but I’m trying to illustrate a point, snap the hell out of that attitude. You are better with people around you than without, start treating people that way.

Rinn_Ginblossom · 2021-08-11T08:53:32+00:00

Bookstore, coffee shop, join a sport through meetup.com, take a fun class at the local library/community center/community college, try out a gym class, or art gallery. Somewhere/something that interests you even if you don’t find someone to flirt with.

Then find something to compliment her on, like if she’s wearing a nerdy shirt that makes you laugh or references a show/movie you like and have knowledge of, or maybe she’s reading a book by an author you know and can talk about. Could even be “that was a tough class tonight” after the gym class and you can ask her if this was her first time attending the class.

My advice is to use things that you have in common with her to strike up a conversation. If you have knowledge the thing you’re complimenting her on, or are talking to her about, the conversation will go further because it comes off as friendly instead of forced/creepy.

wallynext · 2021-08-11T09:23:33+00:00

hobbies my man, for me sports, I am playing padle and rock climbing and meeting a lot of people, plus dancing lessons

brosophila · 2021-08-11T13:41:08+00:00

The fact that you don’t have any friends is gonna hinder you in the long run my guy. Women are all about social proof (others validating that you are indeed worth the time and effort to be around). You’re probably gonna have to look for another loner type of chick which isn’t necessarily a bad thing but just limits your options a lot

AgrivatedLemon · 2021-08-11T19:29:51+00:00

Yoga studios, community events, volunteering, dance classes <—— 80:20 women to men, bookstores

Coconut-Lemon_Pie · 2021-08-11T20:51:11+00:00

You don’t care for friends which means you don’t want to be friends with a girl, so you’re looking for a prostitute? If you don’t know how to make friends and prefer not to have any, that’s a red flag to women that you’re not in a good head space for any kind of relationship at all.

Why do you refuse the friendship of others?

Along with working on your looks & finances, you should check your mental health & find a solid therapist. You don’t have to drink alcohol at a bar/club, tip the bartender well for a soda & just have fun. Other places to try are large outdoor shopping plazas, crafting stores, gym/fitness centers, local events/games/billiards/water parks/theme parks, museums, IKEA, animal rescue/volunteer/soup kitchens, pottery/painting class. Literally do anything or get involved with anything that is somewhat unisex ( not mostly male dominated- like I wouldn’t recommend picking up chicks at a Bass Pro lol). Find something that ‘sparks joy’ within yourself and let that fuel your passion for life. Try and experience everything you can until you find it.

And try to be more open to future friendships :)

warrior641 · 2021-08-12T01:06:25+00:00

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Alex2679 · 2021-08-13T03:16:35+00:00

Doing your hobbies?

2021-08-10T23:43:32+00:00

Church and coffee shops

whoamibutmyself · 2021-08-11T02:20:37+00:00

Join a club depending on your interests. Or a class (fitness, yoga, dance, defense). Strike up a conversation with a woman at the gym.

If you like sports, join a sport league. My good friend met her now husband at a kick ball league. It’s a numbers game so the more things you do, the more likely you’ll meet someone.

KingRat1031 · 2021-08-11T04:43:41+00:00

The shelter?

2021-08-11T00:41:30+00:00

Anywhere except the gym or airports

ShinbrigGoku · 2021-08-11T01:55:50+00:00

Gym and Barnes and Nobles isn't a bad option.

2021-08-11T00:28:50+00:00

Target

reckollection · 2021-08-11T03:43:32+00:00

I got 2 numbers at the gym last Monday. Dunn go up to any woman tho, or when they’re in the middle of a workout and not in the mood. Look for choosing signals, if she’s checking you out, if she comes up to you to ask about something, etc. You got a charming dude on the inside that can have anyone, you just gotta tap into it brother. I wish you the best

jwilhelm0618 · 2021-08-11T00:57:45+00:00

In the wild

2021-08-11T01:00:53+00:00

Everywhere.

thelogbook · 2021-08-11T02:06:07+00:00

comethrowaravewithme · 2021-08-11T06:58:17+00:00

At the bar drinking virgin drinks. Or at the club sober

CloutComputing · 2021-08-11T01:48:26+00:00

Our imaginations! Lol because it's like finding a unicorn,

All of the good women were taken before I turned 25 today.

SpartacusLaw · 2021-08-11T02:07:27+00:00

How about the gym bodybuilder. My favorite relationships stemmed from the gym, because we had that commonality.

Dakessian · 2021-08-11T01:28:48+00:00

Same boat as you.

Birddmann457 · 2021-08-11T02:39:44+00:00

Coffee shops, smoothie places, yoga classes, social sports leagues...

StrikingWin4906 · 2021-08-11T02:51:46+00:00

I’ve been on dating apps, met friends friends been to bars/ clubs and all that. I have been able to meet ladies I actually like and vibe with(cause when a friend links you up with someone you got not embarrass your friend even if you don’t vibe with them) at coffee shops and bookstores.(I read books now and then) The beach is nice too. Oh btw I go to these places alone mostly to enjoy and treat myself. Ladies love that, seeing a guy alone minding his own business and not trying to eye fuck every single lady they see like the chads out there. Makes you standout against chads who have other chads around them and just blabbering here and there like babies. The ladies you wanna be with they’ll see you and usually try to make you see them.(usually by looking at you every now and then and smile) The others, don’t even bother. If you have a pet then you’re quiet honestly set, they’ll approach your pet to tell you and your lovely pet how cute and beautiful he/she is. Strike up a conversation from there.

2021-08-11T03:26:37+00:00

Join clubs and network. You don't necessarily NEED friends, but aquatences are important at the very least to introduce you to people

Mister_Squarepants · 2021-08-11T03:32:39+00:00

Mocktail bars. They serve non alcoholic drinks. My buddy was telling me they are getting popular in the cities.

sagebutter · 2021-08-11T03:58:20+00:00

As a girl who doesn’t drink & has a small circle, these are places I frequent: beach, bookstore, gym, cafés, the mall, park/dog park, church sometimes, yoga, museums, volunteer work, spa/nail salon, thrift store, concerts

Kodamik · 2021-08-11T05:34:47+00:00

Sports Club like Rowing

2021-08-11T06:14:18+00:00

Actually its better to game sober. You can try day game, social circle game, clubs, events, stores, etc. You need to try meeting women on the street once because its unforgettable.

theseoulplayer · 2021-08-11T06:28:49+00:00

Honestly, most anywhere. If you're working on bodybuilding, meet them at the gym. If you're a swimmer, meet them at the pool. If you're a Trekkie, meet them at conventions. Use your hobbies as a springboard to start off conversations, but you can strike up a conversation with people anywhere you go at all. Don't view any place or situation off-limits, except really obvious exceptions, like funerals I guess.

Lust9897 · 2021-08-11T06:36:38+00:00

Literally anywhere. Go to a book store. Go to a record store. A restaurant and she’s eating alone. Ask if you can sit with her.

Agitated_Character41 · 2021-08-11T06:39:53+00:00

If you don't mind sugar, you can still goto bars. Just order virgin drinks and be extra mindful of everyone else's sobriety.

RedFalcon_1235 · 2021-08-11T06:45:55+00:00

You can always try couch surfing events. Typically speaking I myself don’t drink alcohol but you can still go to couch surfing events at bars and not have to drink anything and still meet new guys and girls

PECOSbravo · 2021-08-11T06:48:29+00:00

Church

Hotdiggitydaffodill · 2021-08-11T06:49:55+00:00

I dunno man, I feel like the whole “I don’t care for friends” thing needs to be addressed first.

You have no friends, that is gonna raise some red flags ma dude

kaisoren · 2021-08-11T06:50:11+00:00

Dance classes is an idea I just had

burncushlikewood · 2021-08-11T07:18:04+00:00

Do you like music? Music festivals are a great place to meet women and make friends, even though you don't like them you should learn to, women like men who have male friends

mindsanitizer · 2021-08-11T07:38:04+00:00

Stop being a weirdo and drink socially. Unless you have an allergy or other specific health issue there's no reason to limit yourself like this.

Gaydame · 2021-08-11T07:50:57+00:00

Pretty much anywhere, if you want hookups.

Also, you don't need to drink too go to bars.

If you want something more than a hookup, go somewhere you're likely to find women you like - mutual interests etc.

celpri · 2021-08-11T08:25:31+00:00

Cafes

g0juice · 2021-08-11T10:12:06+00:00

Social sporting events like intramural clubs.

Gym, pool, you still use apps but just maybe put in you’re not drinking.

Paltenburg · 2021-08-11T10:13:45+00:00

Personally, I'm super happy that I live in the time of Tinder and Bumble, etc.. I remember the time before, and it was super miserable here on the countryside. Tinder is really a great system if you think about it: It's simple and free and you meet people who you know are single.

You might need work on your profile, I've always checked my photos with female friends, (or even let them pick them) and ask feedback on your profile text and such. But in the end, it always works well for me (again, seeing as I live on the countryside with not much options otherwise).

But! Still, I can only speak for myself! Apparently others are having the worst time.. I don't know why, different ages or locations maybe, so I can't speak for that.

Paltenburg · 2021-08-11T10:15:47+00:00

Yeah I know someone who had a drinking problem, and quit. Still, he goes out to bars and what not, and has a great time with women.

arminlcb · 2021-08-11T11:27:34+00:00

Under a rock / in a cave

Secure_Dragonfruit69 · 2021-08-11T11:46:43+00:00

You don’t care for friends but want a woman? If I met someone who didn’t care to have any friends I would see that as a huge red flag sorry

JMichelleK · 2021-08-11T13:21:07+00:00

I’m a female who met my husband while I was going to school through a young adult church group

Versatile50 · 2021-08-11T13:39:22+00:00

Don’t go out looking for women, living in a social life of abundance. Do your hobbies, get a friend a two so you don’t look weird just being alone. Be genuine and if a girl giving you an eye, just strike up a convo and say hello and go from there

frangry1 · 2021-08-11T13:55:47+00:00

Bookstore Grocery store Dog park Farmers markets Gym (tread carefully with that though)

I'm sure all of these have been said. I'm a little late to the party.

IkoIkonoclast · 2021-08-11T14:22:15+00:00

Dance lessons. It's a skill women adore and men fear. In dance, knowing how to lead will demonstrate confidence and poise. Most dance studios will have inexpensive group lessons where you switch partners and you get to dance with everyone. You are guaranteed to have a woman in your arms. You can do the traditional ballroom dances (waltz, foxtrot, rhumba), or salsa, swing ( east coast swing, left coast swing, lindy hop).

2021-08-11T14:58:22+00:00

Join some co-ed excursion groups. They're active, sober and real people.

Good luck.

SnowWeasel12 · 2021-08-11T14:59:22+00:00

Family reunion

lildudefromXdastreet · 2021-08-11T15:09:47+00:00

Women don’t like men without friends. Get a social life first before worrying about women.

Useful_Necessary · 2021-08-11T15:29:09+00:00

I think it's a good idea to also focus on getting friends because usually they will cover emotional needs and make you less needy for a girlfriend to fulfill them. Besides, you can find a girlfriend through your friends. For instance, maybe they have interesting friends and can present you to them or invite you to their parties where you could meet girls they know. Good luck!

2021-08-11T16:16:46+00:00

Have you seen those YouTube videos where comedians are doing pranks on cute girls and half the time the girl is so shocked someone is just talking to her that she seems interested? How many times can you try before it works? you should find out. I once had two girls on me in canada. They thought I was boss cause I walked up, told them Justin Bieber is gay, and that they needed drinks, and i bought them some fancy coffees. Thug life

miss_gonzalez · 2021-08-11T16:20:23+00:00

If you’re into bodybuilding, maybe go to a co-op exercise class from time to time. As a woman who is introverted, I made friends in Zumba, but I also made friends in co-op cross fit the few times I tried. A group of people with the same goal in mind is a great way to encourage others and strike up conversation.

2021-08-11T16:25:02+00:00

Usually where you find people? You know, I wouldn’t go to a desert if I wanted to find a woman 🤣

2021-08-11T17:47:51+00:00

Shopping mall, sign up for a new hobby, library, park, college campus.

Dhooy77 · 2021-08-11T18:11:31+00:00

Joining people from meetup groups in your area. If you enjoy personal finance or bodybuilding there might be one in yiur area.

Head-Shape-8197 · 2021-08-11T18:51:17+00:00

Church if you go. Meetup, volunteering, doing things that interest you and make you happy (the best option, because they will have some similar interest.) Maybe a grocery store, but I figure most people don't want to be bothered there.

etherealromance · 2021-08-11T19:11:26+00:00

Farmers markets are an amazing place to meet woman. Quality ones, Also the beach is a fantastic place, because they are typically not busy. In fact a lot of girls at the beach are bored. Just enjoying the waves

2DD4eva · 2021-08-11T19:33:42+00:00

Meetups

2021-08-11T21:33:02+00:00

Malls, Music stores, Video Game stores, the fair, Cowboy Stadium. Fighting Stadium after the fight in the audience, on the stage with looks and movements toward the person or in your audience after you sing.

NoticeAnxiety · 2021-08-11T22:14:01+00:00

People are saying you need a social circle which is probably true, but what if you’re just alone just never had the proper chance or didn’t even get too experience any of that?. Suree you can improve yourself all you want and do all that, but that’s just the cliche bs response you get. I know this isn’t the subreddit called “lonely” or “forever alone” but all those 200k people in them I guess is outcasted and will be alone with no friends> no women. a lot of people already experienced what they considered normal and the people that haven’t are the weird red flag ones which of course is true or ain’t idk however you decided it.

From, a Lonely Person.

the_littlestdragon · 2021-08-11T23:16:01+00:00

Craft stores and target 😂😂😂

EU-Howdie · 2021-08-12T10:29:58+00:00

No drinking is never a problemm. Most women do not specially care, but even many will be happy to see that when you do not drink. I do not drink alcohol anymore for over 40 years, since age 24,and it was never a problemm. At the contrary, most women were positive about that. (Btw, too I do not use some kind of drugs. And I do not smoke) I like ... coffee with chocolat and pralines. Good Arabica coffee with in Belgium, Netherlands, German, Switzerland, and too American and Phillipine made chocolat and pralines.

Good looks are very important, having money and or a good income is always a plus. You are an over average intersting man. Your problemm is, indeed, where to find them.

In drinking places ofcourse women come who hope to find a not drinking or only few drinking guy. Too I would think about volunteeswork, about bookclubs and hobby's and events like dancing, singing, culture, nature, clima, children, social work, everywhere were you can expect women nd where you will not expect alcohol use / abuse.

In Asia I was rare, a western man not drinking (and not smoking). Only that not drinking brought me already a lot of interested women (please fall in line to make my aquintance LOL)

recyclablebanthas · 2021-08-26T08:51:43+00:00

1

I’m 25 years old and I don’t have any friends (I don’t care for them)

This is a bit impractical. Friendships are a vital way of developing and honing our social skills. Without those, you're handicapping yourself.

2

but I’m working on my looks(bodybuilding) and finances

Seduction is a form of social interaction. Social interactions revolve around social skills, which are necessary to navigate an interaction.

Finances aren't a social skill. Neither is fitness.

If you neglect social skills and focus on money and fitness as your assets, you're risking accidentally screening out everyone except for people who only care about those things.

3

but I want to know where to meet women besides drinking events and online dating?

Go on FB.

Do a search.

There are groups on there which post publicly viewable events. Plenty of groups organized around a variety of different interests and hobbies.

You just have to try out some keywords.

Zangief89 · 2022-05-03T16:52:57+00:00

Beach. Checkout a game called Chickenshit on Amazon. Go to the beach and play that with a buddy and you’ll meet a bunch of girls

Title	Where to meet women if don’t drink and no online apps?
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