CMV: Hooking up as a man isn’t the same as hooking up as a woman

I think it’s generally acknowledged here, that due to men’s heightened libido, that they willing to “date down” when it comes to casual sex, this means that women regularly can have access to men above their smv.

If a man on here brings up women’s dual mating strategy (that some women will hook up with their first choice, but when they are unable to get commitment from these men, will “settle” for the stable but not so attractive guy), a common response I’ve heard is “but you men also have a dual mating strategy, you fuck the slut and marry the more conservative woman?”

Here is why these strategies and behaviours aren’t the same.

Because the woman a man marries in this scenario, is his first choice, whereas the man a woman marries is by default her second choice.

A man can hook up with women he doesn’t really care about, and he puts the least amount of effort into these women. He doesn’t offer commitment, he doesn’t usually care about her pleasure, he doesn’t provide for her in anyway.

But the woman he married? That’s his first choice, he will give her the most effort, his time, his energy. By all means, the person he ends up with at the end has gotten the best deal.

It’s the COMPLETE opposite for men who are subject to women’s dual mating strategy

The woman will give her youth, her prime, her biggest effort, to men who don’t give a fuck about her. They’ll do some of the most simpiest shit when they get into a “situationship” with a man. They will have passionate sex with these men and give it their all.

And only after they realise these men won’t commit to them, they find a sucker who will provide for them. A man who they aren’t attracted to, who they’ll eventually, usually, stop having frequent sex with all together (dead bedroom). The whole time the man is really putting effort into the relationship. By all means, the man who ends up with her last is getting the worst deal imaginable, because he is her second choice.

That’s the difference, the man rewards the woman who he will end up for the rest of his life with, the woman does the opposite in each according scenario.

This is just my opinion, if anyone has anything they can say to change my mind I would appreciate it.