What’s the one quality in a woman that instantly wins you over?

Lift_and_Lurk · 2024-10-17T15:45:04+00:00

Friendliness. I always liked a girl who could laugh and have a good time.

ExternalBarracuda292 · 2024-10-17T17:17:35+00:00

Intelligence / Insight. Something I value highly in a partner is that they're interesting to talk to. If we're having a conversation and a woman says something really thought-provoking that never occurred to me before, that really gets my attention.

This is something my current partner does really well, because she's extremely smart and creative. Interestingly, she has mentioned that she values this pretty highly as well.

MC-Purp · 2024-10-17T21:28:04+00:00

Graceful movement.

StruggleMuffin75 · 2024-10-17T16:41:12+00:00

Some girls have that mix of being super, I don't know how to put it. Tomboyish and aggressive, but in a kind and sweet way.

Like, assertive, but gentle.

I'm 6'3 and big with a deep voice. Most girls who're interested in me want a guy who's all dominant and assertive, but I'm really I'm fucking soft and shy.

Ordinary-Present-204 · 2024-10-17T17:18:32+00:00

Liking and being kind to animals

Downtown_Werewolf_44 · 2024-10-18T04:31:06+00:00

When she is passionate about something.

I'm so fucking tired of dates with women who had nothing to say else than "I like travel, going out and watching netflix". You like to have fun, we get it, there is nothing interesting about it.

I once had a date with a girl who was into cars. She spend like an hour speaking about engines with such passion, it was mesmerizing. She end up asking me to stop her if I found it boring and I was like "no, please continue, I could spend the night listening to you".

EugeneCezanne · 2024-10-18T01:40:26+00:00

Charm. I love charming women. It's a rarer quality, in my experience, than physical attractiveness and intelligence combined. But when you find one, you want to be around them; you want to watch them around others; you want to see how they do everything.

OilJust4498 · 2024-10-17T17:52:30+00:00

Honestly at this point in my life (37 years old) without any romantic success just being interested in me would be a pretty big turn on

Savings-Bee-4993 · 2024-10-17T16:23:37+00:00

Genuine open-ness, which is associated often with curiosity, kindness, and humility.

Being argumentative, catty, arrogant, closed-minded, etc. is a huge turn-off.

GrandpaDallas · 2024-10-17T16:54:05+00:00

Being outdoorsy. If a woman tells me about a 2 week backpacking trip she took or says she likes seeing different national parks, I am SO in.

krackedy · 2024-10-17T17:37:37+00:00

Has hobbies/interests outside tv/movies/books/social media.

Smart, opinionated, self-assured. Doesn't need the approval of others.

Adventurous/spontaneous.

kvakerok_v2 · 2024-10-17T17:25:44+00:00

Rationality. Instant boner for women that think logically, especially ones that can do that under stress.

LowCreddit · 2024-10-17T20:16:09+00:00

Helpfulness and duty. I have dated more women because we bonded over cleaning and doing the dishes at an entirely other person's house party than anything else. It's the ultimate green flag for me.

CryptoThroway8205 · 2024-10-18T04:07:06+00:00

I put on my hinge that I like it when girls split the bill. I'm sure it lowered my match rate by at least half but I met a lot of really wealthy ladies who don't seem to mind as much paying for part of the dates. Forgot about having it on my hinge and was pleasantly surprised whenever they offered to pay for some parts of the date.

Illustrious_Wish_383 · 2024-10-18T09:03:02+00:00

Quick witted sense of humor, intelligence

fredwester · 2024-10-17T15:53:34+00:00

Willpower/strength of mind.

QuantityAcademic · 2024-10-17T18:04:20+00:00

Empathy

ShangoRaijin · 2024-10-17T19:22:50+00:00

She has a sparkling personality. Just happy and pleasant to be around. She lit up the room. Has a beautiful smile.

KentuckyCriedFlickin · 2024-10-17T20:24:05+00:00

High aura feminine behavior - confidence, energetic, playfulness/banter, expressiveness, creativity

Empathy and compassion gets a really close second, almost a tie.

Artistic_Speech_1965 · 2024-10-17T20:58:41+00:00

Well kindness, if I notice a discret act of attention comming from her to someone, my heart melt

M3taBuster · 2024-10-17T22:05:59+00:00

There is no such quality. When evaluating a woman as a potential partner, I'm more so looking for an absence of any dealbreakers than a presence of any green flag traits. It's ok to have flaws, mind you, just none that are dealbreakers.

Circle_of_Steel_ · 2024-10-17T22:11:29+00:00

Honestly, its the mutual compatibility in interests and shared sense of humor. My last ex we liked a lot of the same things and enjoyed doing them together and honestly those were some of the best moments of my life in recent memory, the memories we made. She was my best friend, not just a girlfriend. Probably why I think she might've been the only actual girl I have ever truly loved even though I had other "loves". Cuts deep when you lose that.

RepresentativeKoala3 · 2024-10-17T23:39:03+00:00

Ambition/intensity. I'm one career move away from needing a SATM if I ever want a family, so I guess I'll be giving that up.

BrainMarshal · 2024-10-17T23:48:31+00:00

A good and egalitarian moral character.

EsotericRonin · 2024-10-18T00:47:03+00:00

sweetness and femininity

ExcelsiorState718 · 2024-10-18T01:12:57+00:00

Honesty.

Goonerlouie · 2024-10-18T01:14:42+00:00

I find I am closer friends with women who are touchy. If I was single and the woman wasn’t touchy, I couldn’t shake the idea that they see me as a friend only

Hatefuleight-36 · 2024-10-18T07:42:19+00:00

Self awareness

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balhaegu · 2024-10-18T11:36:00+00:00

Humor

wtknight · 2024-10-18T13:32:35+00:00

I like women that I can have intelligent discussions with. If she is dumb or has no interesting opinions then that turns me off.

r2k398 · 2024-10-18T13:54:21+00:00

Being virtuous

TopShelfSnipes · 2024-10-18T17:39:41+00:00

Sense of humor. Legitimately funny, makes me laugh uncontrollably.

Runner up, a bit of an edge to her. Doesn't put up with BS and speaks her mind. Confident.

whaturuterusspawned · 2024-10-18T17:43:39+00:00

Dark humour

MyUpSeemsDown · 2024-10-19T05:52:25+00:00

Genuine kindness

Hachinoi · 2024-10-19T17:43:51+00:00

Obedience.

whatever8482 · 2024-10-20T00:54:35+00:00

Unaffected by the pressure of fitting in, aloof

meisterkraus · 2024-10-17T17:59:50+00:00

Goth or nerdy. Nerdy has to be real not just pop culture references.

ArtifactFan65 · 2024-10-17T21:29:09+00:00

Hypersexuality

IdiAminD · 2024-10-17T16:57:13+00:00

None - i really do not fall for personality.

Ultramega39 · 2024-10-17T17:06:09+00:00

If she is good with handling children or pets.

Bonus points if she's good with special needs kids or disabled adults.

To me, a woman being good with children is kind of a litmus test, because if she is good with children, then it's a good indicator that: 1. She has a high emotional intelligence 2. She is very patient and isn't easily angered 3. High empathy and is very kind. 4. Dependable and isn't selfish.

The kind of woman that I want as a girlfriend is the kind of woman has the qualities that I mentioned above.

untamed-italian · 2024-10-17T18:13:14+00:00

None.

"Instantly", what am I, a yellow lab puppy born yesterday?

What wins me over is consistent compassion and generous grace over the long term. There is no 'short term' timeline for winning me over, let alone "instantly". Holding standards like that is how you get a partner who pivots into abuse.

Grow_peace_in_Bedlam · 2024-10-17T18:34:08+00:00

Apart from fidelity, being sweet and affectionate to me, especially if I've had a hard day. I was lied to growing up, being told that you attract what you are, and I am naturally given to being sweet as apple pie, and I hate that I have to largely suppress this part of my person just because I was born male and sweetness isn't considered very manly. Since I can't be unrestrainedly sweet without risking provoking serious "icks," I want to receive all the sweetness that I'm expected to suppress. Sweetness makes me feel calm against all the hostility of the outside world.

one_ball_policy · 2024-10-17T18:22:55+00:00

Not having sucked a lot of dicks

stats135 · 2024-10-17T16:15:01+00:00

Traditional femininity, encompassing the things that modern feminists would consider sexist.

Barely-moral · 2024-10-17T21:26:53+00:00

Desperation. Lack of options.

Smart enough to realize that I am the best option available to her and wise enough to accept it and act accordingly.

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MikeArrow · 2024-10-17T17:43:55+00:00

I know it's become a TikTok cliche recently, but I've always been attracted to demure/graceful women. There was one at my high school, she had grey eyes and blonde hair, very refined and sleek in her presentation. She just glided through the hallways. Like she was untouchable.

Edit: I know you said 'besides looks', but it was really more of a projection of her personality than what she actually looked like.

Fun_Push7168 · 2024-10-17T21:41:16+00:00

Pragmatism.

It's rare enough to be struck by it.

crujones33 · 2024-10-17T22:08:13+00:00

Positivity. If she’s smiling and happy and positive. It helps balance my pessimism and uplifts me as well.

bloodthirsty_emu · 2024-10-17T22:12:11+00:00

Surprised I haven't seen it yet, but similar sense of humour! Finding the same little stupid things hilarious.

Other than that, as a guy who's been consistently insulted / ignored for having an illness that affects my appearance, it's basic decency and the capability for empathy. Sadly a very rare commodity.

Joe6p · 2024-10-17T22:31:30+00:00

Her being to outtalk me. God knows I'm not going to carry the conversation. My current is quiet in public but around me she just yaps yaps yaps. You'd never think she was an introvert with how much she carried on.

Sometimes it gets annoying but what can I do.

Whynotus048 · 2024-10-17T17:39:40+00:00

Being able to ease others around her.

Create a space of peace and not conflict, I'm in my early 30's I've dealt with too much drama just please bring me peace and be loyal that's all I ask.

Redpill-mind · 2024-10-17T16:17:11+00:00

Doing my laundry

breathofanarchy · 2024-10-17T17:12:19+00:00

Being a lady.

random_user00098 · 2024-10-17T20:35:00+00:00

Humble, under 30, low n count

catdog8020 · 2024-10-18T05:06:51+00:00

A woman that has a good heart and feminine. I live in America so I’m fucked lol

haaku-san · 2024-10-17T19:05:41+00:00

It's just looks for me since I only do the escort thing.

Back when I was still mentally impaired from lead poisoning(blue pills) I would've said intelligence and liking animals

Title	What’s the one quality in a woman that instantly wins you over?
Author	thnkbttr
Upvotes	18
Comments	124
Date	October 17, 2024 1:33 PM UTC (1 year ago)
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