Calling someone a creep if they don’t deserve it is bad all around

KayRay1994 · 2025-02-11T01:27:38+00:00

I think this is far more frequent for teens than early 20s. Of course, calling someone a creep for just being awkward is wrong, but teenagers can be unnecessarily cruel, and this is regardless of gender.

Of course, I’m not saying this doesn’t happen at all in your early 20s, cause it does, but most times unless she has a reason for thinking you’re being creepy towards her, she won’t go that direction. In other words, “eeeew what a creep” soley to get you away becomes less frequent when you hit your 20s, but if it does and if you’re not doing anything offputting - let’s be real here, blessing in disguise cause if she’s calling you creepy for no reason other than you being awkward, she’s stuck up.

Tl;dr - if you’re called a creep in your teens, its cause teenagers are cruel. If you’re called a creep in your early 20s, reevaluate your behaviour and if there is truly nothing unusual to take note of, you dodged a bullet

Kookerpea · 2025-02-11T01:53:39+00:00

Do you agree that approaching someone isn't appropriate in every situation?

MyLastBestChance · 2025-02-11T02:12:25+00:00

You know who’s creepy?

The guy who stands too close in line or at the bus stop etc.

The guy who follows you around a store.

The guy who stares at you (bonus creepy points if he starts licking his lips or touching himself).

The guy who keeps talking to you when you’re giving polite but one word answers and clearly not interested.

The guy who brings up sexual topics in conversation when you’re not in that kind of relationship with them.

The guy who asks personal questions of strangers or acquaintances.

The guy who “shows up” places that you are too often to be a coincidence.

The guy who touches you when it’s clearly inappropriate and especially when you’re obviously not reciprocating.

The guy who very obviously hangs out by himself in your general (but specific) close vicinity when there’s zero legitimate reason for him to do so.

The guy you barely know or don’t know at all who sends /gives you gifts, letters, notes, poems etc.

The guy who’s basically a stranger who somehow knows where you live / work / spend time or any other personal information about you.

Btw, women who do the same things are creepy as well, but are less harshly judged by society since women are less of a serious threat to men than men are to women.

Go ahead and downvote and vent your spleen but it’s 100% true.

Slipthe · 2025-02-11T01:52:01+00:00

It certainly isn't always fair. But people have a right to define their boundaries. Social interaction isn’t just about intent, it’s also about impact.

Maybe women's boundaries have changed. Maybe women have always thought men were creepy but would fawn instead of fight.

It just comes with the territory of basically interjecting yourself into someone else's life. You could come across as too aggressive, persistent, invasive, or entitled.

DenyDefendDepose-117 · 2025-02-11T01:05:43+00:00

Dating has become "weird" because women label everything as creepy or icky.

Asking a girl out? Icky.

Wanting to date and have a relationship? ewwwwww icky.

Ive been called creepy for reasons I cant ever comprehend, women do not and will not elaborate. They called me creepy when I didnt have any other open seats on the bus at school, and sat next to someone alone and said to them "hi! there isnt any other open seats so im gonna have to sit here. sorry."

Then she screamed at me " WHO ARE YOU TALKING TO!?" and i said "uhhhh you.... i dont have anywhere to sit...." she yelled I was a "creepy monster" and jumped over me to sit 3 people to a seat, which was against the rules, and the girls in that seat yelled at me that "nobody likes me" after i said "i didnt even do anything...."

I cried, women have 0 empathy, its best to just accept that, this is women at their default.

SayuriKitsune · 2025-02-11T09:41:17+00:00

A lot of times men don't even realize that they are being creepy. I had some experiences where I called them out and after explaining they were like ohh I see, Yeah I came across creepy.

Of course if there is no reason its bad, but most of the time that I thought someone is creepy they were genuinely acting creepy or dodgy.

y2kjanelle · 2025-02-11T02:40:01+00:00

This cancels out every time a man on this sub calls a woman a land whale. If you (gen) have no problem berating others, calling them slurs or insults, ruining their self esteem and making other people feel negatively about them,

There should be acceptance and a smile when it is your (gen) turn.

But sure in general, people should be nice.

Sensitive_Bluebird22 · 2025-02-11T02:26:06+00:00

I’ve been called worse by women and men. It’s all good just words don’t mean shit.

attendquoi · 2025-02-11T02:14:58+00:00

My experience is that men seem to rarely consider if a woman wants to be spoken to. I've asked guys out before, but there's no way I would do so in a majority of environments I've been asked out in, because the social cues are obvious to me. And to a certain extent, men don't really care. They'd rather shoot their shot. If they don't care how they're making me feel, I don't care how my rejection makes them feel. I'll say whatever I think will get them to go away.

Also, I don't care how you do it....if you're bothering me at work, I'm gonna think that's creepy. At least wait until I'm off the clock.

ThatBitchA · 2025-02-11T01:49:35+00:00

I've only used "creep" when someone is being creepy.

As do most people I know.

TongueTiedPDX · 2025-02-11T02:34:31+00:00

Are you referring to one of these situations, or both?

A woman directly telling a man that he is being creepy
A woman telling another person that she found a guy creepy

pentatonicartichoke · 2025-02-11T08:21:20+00:00

I've only used it a couple of times after someone refused to back off. It worked and I was able to go on my merry way.

reallinustorvalds · 2025-02-11T08:28:30+00:00

I am a creep

TermAggravating8043 · 2025-02-11T09:22:52+00:00

A sense of creepiness is part of your body response to a potential threat. I’m not going to call someone creepy, I’m just gonna avoid them like the plague.

It’s an instinct we have developed to keep us save, and yes I remember one guy at school I always thought was creepy, even after speaking with him on several occasions the feeling just wouldn’t pass. He went on to rape 3 kids, so I’m glad for that instinct.

Telling people to ignore their instincts because it hurts your feelings seems incredibly selfish, if your an awkward cunt, take some responsibility for yourself and try to make yourself more friendly

t1nyt0ad · 2025-02-11T10:00:10+00:00

It's usually applied to men who hit on women in a socially inappropriate context and/or don't respect boundaries.

Boniface222 · 2025-02-11T10:30:12+00:00

I think someone can recover from being a creep. It's not a death sentence.

Maybe someone is actually coming off as a creep. So the person calling them a creep is doing them a favor in a way. Like, drop the creepiness and you won't be perceived as a creep.

If I call someone a creep it doesn't mean "You are and forever will be a creep!" just that the current approach is not working.

I called someone a creep when a random redditor went through my entire post history searching for intimate posts where I opened up about my emotions to try to use that against me to win an argument. Yeah, that's creep behavior.

When you have the option to just talk to people like regular human beings and use weird subterfuge and stuff instead, that's creepy.

Centrista_Tecnocrata · 2025-02-11T11:40:11+00:00

Why are you defending red pillers so hard?

TinyBlonde15 · 2025-02-11T16:34:44+00:00

People can be mean. People have called me a slut, attention seeker, disgusting etc. Men and women. I either believe them or I don't. I either consider it and decide if it's true or it's not. Words can suck, avoid people who accuse you of things you're not. Look inward to make sure you aren't deserving of the title and if you believe you are and want to change behavior then do. If you don't believe you are l, then don't.

As my dad always says "consider the source before you consider the information" If it's a stranger who doesn't know you then what insight could they possibly have about who you really are?

G4M35 · 2025-02-11T03:24:03+00:00

If you analyze it objectively, the word "creep" is sexist, discriminatory, and therefore a slur.

InitialPaths989 · 2025-02-11T01:07:07+00:00

The idea of a girl being suggested me and says, “eww” based on the way I look physically is one of my biggest fears, if I heard it I would die inside. Girls call guys creeps for all sorts of reasons, sometimes it’s because she used to be attracted to you.

MyUpSeemsDown · 2025-02-11T03:34:13+00:00

I agree in that from a moral standpoint, no one deserving of bad things should get those bad things.

I disagree in realistic standpoint where unprompted criticisms and antagonizations will be hurled at one regardless of deserving or not, whether it'd be by girls they have crush on, their family, boss, or even complete stranger, so it's best to have that experience and learn how to deal with it.

Also being crushed by such is telling in itself and it indicates perfectly why such experience is needed. Because they're not suppose to sit there and wallow in it for eternity when it's going to inevitably happened to them again and again. They're suppose to figure out what went wrong, what they could've done better if at all and if not, realize that it could've just been that person.

All of it imo are important and necessary experience and lesson in life and seems more important over moral and logical speculation of whether it's right or wrong.

CrystalExarch1979 · 2025-02-11T01:06:11+00:00

Creep is basically any guy who approaches women that they don't find attractive.

rejected-again · 2025-02-11T04:19:26+00:00

You guys need to stop being such pussies. Every guy I know who does well in dating has been called a creep at one point or another. The difference is they don't cry about it.

Possible_Magician130 · 2025-02-11T05:57:14+00:00

This is just Anglo social culture. It has been going on a long way back

Yes, it is bullying. In teenage years targets are boys without social skills, who are quiet, keep to themselves, who don't have much social power or status. It's part of the mean girls repertoire. They use different labels to apply to the quiet girls they want to bully too

These women absolutely carry on the same behaviour forward in life

I'm afraid you have to build resilience and a core that does not depend on what others think of you. You have to build and practice assertion, and also measured, calculated aggression and confrontation. Not with the women per se, but usually she will do this to bait other men into attacking you. You have to deal with men. When men don't want to have beef with you, and usually being aggressive is not enough and just makes things worse, you need to learn other ways, then you've put paid to cheap forms of character assassination from women.

EsotericRonin · 2025-02-11T07:18:17+00:00

Creepiness isn't just about intent, its about impact. You can have totally normal intentions in your mind but still be perceived as creepy to someone else. Usually socially stunted or autistic guys are most likely for this to happen to.

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ChoiceTax9251 · 2025-02-11T10:54:52+00:00

I’m jacked, work in high finance, tall etc and have been called that too and have even been called an incel which is absolutely wild to me. Have to remember who it’s coming from it’s always unattractive or marginally attractive people trying to tear you down. Just be confident if you don’t deserve it but also self evaluate and see if there could be any legitimacy to the insult. I don’t have any problem calling creepy guys and gals creepy if they deserve it

WillyDonDilly69 · 2025-02-11T11:50:38+00:00

Do you realise thay every bully/bad boy is a creep, but they are witty enough to make women feel like shit and not care about what those women say. It is just literally having a thick skin because at the end of the day someone calling you creepy won't stop people from hearing you out.

Hi-Road · 2025-02-11T13:15:17+00:00

It’s just manipulation. People like to strike people where they think it’ll hurt most to exemplify some form of control- maybe control they don’t have in other areas of their life. Best best is to let it roll off like water on a duck. Probably not a good idea to let most negative things people say affect you deeply. You’ll be a sad puddle, permanently

NihilstMisanthrope · 2025-02-11T13:31:54+00:00

I think people should care less about what other people think

Fair-Bus-4017 · 2025-02-11T07:35:27+00:00

Some people are creepy, some people are assholes. What do you want anyone to say? Yes it isn't nice to call someone a creep, there are other things which are also not nice. Water is wet. You stating that it is okay when they are being a creep really makes it so there is nothing to argue about lmao.

Outside_Memory5703 · 2025-02-11T01:02:40+00:00

Who would possibly argue against this ?

Title	Calling someone a creep if they don’t deserve it is bad all around
Author	PrimateOfGod
Upvotes	66
Comments	231
Date	February 11, 2025 12:53 AM UTC (1 year ago)
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