Women, would you be friends with an active sex worker?

learn2earn89 · 2025-09-06T02:40:48+00:00

Nope because I would actively trying to get them out of the lifestyle and many would not like that.

ThatBitchA · 2025-09-06T01:06:34+00:00

Yes. I've had several friends who were active sex workers.

Was never an issue.

No_Teacher_3313 · 2025-09-06T01:05:51+00:00

If we have similar interests and personalities and get along, that’s what creates the friendship. I don’t care if she’s a sex worker. But wanting a lot of money in order to buy expensive shit is something I don’t relate to at all, so I don’t think we’d be compatible yo begin with. I don’t have a single friend who prioritizes money to buy expensive stuff.

Temporary-Flight-192 · 2025-09-06T03:24:48+00:00

Highly unlikely. First of all, I’ve never met an active sex worker remotely similar to me. I’ve lived in places and in the same apartment buildings as sex workers. Almost all of them were drug addicts. I was “friendly” acquaintances with a trans woman in my building, pretty sure she had hooked at some point. I tended bar for a while in the French Quarter in New Orleans and two of my regulars were a lesbian couple who specialized in kink. Pooping on dudes, pegging them. Seriously damaged women who absolutely hated men. I waited on them, was a “friendly aquaintance” and their antics were actually entertaining and simultaneously very, very disturbing.

I was really good friends with a guy who was a sex worker from ages 14 to 16 out of desperation, I never held it against him in the least. I actually considered dating him, but he definitely had serious attachment problems.

People who gold dig, sugar baby or high end escort are in many ways probably closer in social class and interests, but I just can’t imagine a few hundred bucks and some luxury goods worth being penetrated by some strangers dick. I can’t relate at all. The whole thing would seem part cynical and crass, part pathetic. So no, we wouldn’t be friends.

VenusNoire_ · 2025-09-06T01:06:22+00:00

Yes. This is a non-issue. I don’t look down on full service sex workers. Your description of this hypothetical sex worker is definitely interesting and inaccurate, though. No one I know of considers it easy money.

maj_nun · 2025-09-06T01:03:41+00:00

Yes, i've actively had the thought that I want to haha. I come from a really strict and repressed religious background, and even now I have a lot of so called "religious trauma" and a conservative approach to sex. so I find it fascinating being around people who have such relaxed ideas about sex. It would be really interesting to me to hear her point of view on things.

If an escort had the same interests as me like the very specific period of French history i'm fixated on, then that would sort of blow my mind.

Although tbh it would make me sort of nervous for her and it might be sort of disturbing to me to interact with those men or hear her go into details

MiddleZealousideal89 · 2025-09-06T07:17:08+00:00

Yes, I don't see why I would cut her off.

Flimsy_Software8105 · 2025-09-06T01:03:56+00:00

One of my best friends used to be an escort and it didn’t bother me.

candiedgemstone · 2025-09-06T01:20:05+00:00

No. I think sex work is extremely dangerous and self destructive behavior.

Also, it’s illegal where I live.

And I’ll add that most women who are doing escort work ARE doing it because they don’t have a choice. Onlyfans and stuff is different, but letting the type of men who pay for escorts into your body….i can’t think of much worse than that. I can’t think of any woman seeing that as ‘fun’

baller696969balls · 2025-09-06T01:12:16+00:00

Yeah. One of my friends occasionally goes on a tangent about how she should just become a sex worker or onlyfans creator because she’d get money and get told she’s sexy. If she ends up doing that I won’t care, I’ll still be friends with her. I’d likely be a bit more concerned about her safety though; she might not wanna be friends with me if I get too antsy

AchingAmy · 2025-09-06T01:05:23+00:00

I'm already friends with someone who does occasional sex work, actually. She doesn't do it for the reason you posed though. I wouldn't be able to relate with someone who cares that much about money to get expensive things so probably wouldn't be friends with the hypothetical person you described.

MyLastBestChance · 2025-09-06T01:51:11+00:00

I wouldn’t be friends with someone because of that and I wouldn’t not be friends with someone because of that.

If we are otherwise compatible, I’m not sure why that would be an issue 🤷‍♀️

Different_Cress7369 · 2025-09-06T01:17:35+00:00

Yes. As a University student, it was relatively common as a way of paying your way. Don’t fool yourself that it’s only women, either.

2025-09-06T01:12:59+00:00

If you’re already close friends I guess the number one thing I’d be concerned about is her safety. Like how are you vetting these men? How are you ensuring that you aren’t getting physically harmed in these scenarios etc

Makuta_Servaela · 2025-09-06T01:35:18+00:00

I am currently friends with an active prostitute.

I don't see why I should stop being friends with her over it. I don't generally reject a friend over just an occupation.

She doesn't quite fit your model of "she only does it to afford expensive shit", but then, I have never heard of a real prostitute who does.

This idea that prostitution is "just easy money" is pretty much just a fantasy made by Johns and Pimps, which is made obvious by the fact that those Johns and Pimps are magically never willing to prostitute themselves out to men for the same "easy money". Prostitutes aren't attracted to their clients, so the "I'm not gay" excuse doesn't cut it: A prostitute knows she is just a hole to her client. These are women who are risking pregnancy and STDs (the latter is higher risk as a receiver), and physical vulnerability, just to get by. They are alone with these Johns who could easily beat or kill them.

Those who "just want a rich life" are often forced into said rich life: pimps buy expensive gifts for them, and then force them to repay the gifts. They are tricked into plastic surgery to stay "attractive", and then have to pay back that surgery, etc.

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-NeonLux- · 2025-09-06T11:30:04+00:00

I like friends that are interesting and unique people, and who can make me laugh. I'd rather be friends with a sex worker than a christian or one of those "live, laugh, love" types.

SeveralSadEvenings · 2025-09-06T12:45:37+00:00

Yes? This is a weird question.

In my life I've known and befriended various kinds of sex workers, and I'm just an average wife + mom living in Americana.

Hell, my last neighbor was a 60+ year old escort that got into the business cause she was bored with retirement. She looked good for her age and had a small roster of elderly gentlemen she was servicing.

WebBorn2622 · 2025-09-06T13:10:36+00:00

I would think she was being exploited and was lying to herself about the impact the industry had on her.

But I wouldn’t stop being her friend. If anything someone in such a vulnerable position could really use a friend and safe person in their life.

-Shes-A-Carnival · 2025-09-06T13:37:30+00:00

my first housemate wa sa stripper/escort and for a while another escort lived there. when was a meth addict the other a heroin addict. it was charming. why wouldnt i be? like the othe rposter said though, id never be friends with a woman who did stuff to "buy expensive shit" like youre picturing, in that instagram way. lol thats the part that we wouldnt be friends over, we wouldnt have similar personalities, wouldnt relate to each other and would have nothing in common

Superb-Foundations · 2025-09-06T14:18:35+00:00

I already am. It's not as uncommon as men think. I have 2 friends who escort/do porn and 2 friends who are OF workers. None of them do it because its easy money, btw.

Friend A does it because she loves sex and is a single mom. She also has a full time job, and escorting is her side hustle that brings in more than her regular job. Through her regular job, though, she has healthcare for her kids and other perks since she has worked at the same company for 5 years.

Friend B loves sex, is polyamorous, writes explicit books about her life, and mainly does porn and is booked solid, but she is also a sugar baby so instead of sex for cash she has one "daddy" that pays for her apartment, one that pays for her car, one that gave her a credit card for groceries, on that takes her on vacation, etc

Friend C does only fans with her husband and started because she needed money to feed her kids. Since she has started, she was able to put not only herself through college but also her husband and save enough for all 3 kids to go to college.

Friend D is single and childless and does OF and porn and is what I would call a wild child lol she likes partying, drinking, and traveling. She is 28 but can pass as young, so she is often booked because she looks maybe 18 or 19. She actually works with a porn agency in California. She did escorting for a year in Vegas and loved it, but she didn't like that the legal brothel takes almost 60% of what she earned. She said she was recruited in college to a porn agency through her social media.

All 4 women are happy, healthy, and never invite a man to their apartment. 1 likes sex, 1 does it for her kids, 1 did it to put her whole family (including her spouse) through college, 1 does it for money, They all 4 have hung out with me and my husband before because they are just normal women living life and their job doesnt affect me or our friendship. 🤷

S0yslut · 2025-09-06T19:00:30+00:00

I am friends with an ex-dominatrix I treated her like I treat anyone else. However when she told me stories of what she had the men do I pointed out that those men suffered from mental illness or childhood trauma. We talked about it and her perspective changed. She quit sex work that same day. She works with kids now. She was financially stressed before she entered prostitution. She lived in poverty her whole life but inherited a beautiful home that a man burned down because she rejected him. She lost everything in the fire and chose sex work as a side hustle because it paid well. Even if I don’t agree with someone I at least listen and try to understand them.

attendquoi · 2025-09-06T20:13:18+00:00

Absolutely. I'm not currently, but I used to be.

operation-spot · 2025-09-06T21:20:46+00:00

I just can’t imagine that someone with my background choosing to do sex work and I am mostly friends with people who are similar to me. I get along best with people who are strivers in their professional life and not people who take the easy way out. Regardless, the people I know can afford expensive shit so there’s no reason to resort to sex work to afford it.

AnonPinkLady · 2025-09-07T03:47:05+00:00

Sure, if it didn’t otherwise affect our friendship

Morgoth_Worshipper · 2025-09-07T22:20:23+00:00

Why should I stop being friends with her?

NoDanaOnlyZuuI · 2025-09-07T23:46:00+00:00

Yes. Her job doesn’t affect me and if she’s doing it completely consensually, who am I to judge?

toasterchild · 2025-09-06T01:23:35+00:00

It's not the exact same but i know some strippers through classes. Most are totally normal and Id consider them friends, but one is sorta sketchy and i definitely wouldnt hang out with her outside of class. If i like them otherwise i don't care at all.

The creep factor they deal with seems to get old really fast, none of the ones i knew well did it very long. They always ended up with stalkers and found better paying jobs elsewhere.

TheSkyIsData · 2025-09-06T01:17:00+00:00

I mean assuming the first paragraph is actually true then yeah I don't see what the problem is. But to be real, I'm extremely tomboyish and could not find common ground with a vast majority of women. Like going out shopping or to a coffee shop with the girls does not sound like a fun time to me. I don't see a reality where an escort has much in common with me, unless she was a butch lesbian escort or something.

_Coincidence1 · 2025-09-06T01:20:53+00:00

Yes. Jesus.

Inevitable-Bite8660 · 2025-09-06T03:25:17+00:00

As long as the personalities click, I don’t think there’d be much of a problem.

Lysa_Bell · 2025-09-06T05:16:18+00:00

I was friends with a sex worker. But we lost contact when she got picked up by a rich guy. Now I mostly just see her post IG stories where she travels the world with him. The hotels look very nice.

My_House_on_Mars · 2025-09-06T05:29:20+00:00

This happened to me twice. Never had a problem with it. Why do you ask?

Excellent_Badger123 · 2025-09-06T06:23:45+00:00

Yes, why not? I used to have sex worker friends when I worked is a sex worker rich environment years ago. They were no different than my friends who did other kinds of work

Avast_Lion · 2025-09-06T01:44:39+00:00

Yes? Why is this a question. Anyone who would say otherwise is an asshole IMO

kayceeplusplus · 2025-09-06T01:36:21+00:00

Yeah, I was.

SandBrilliant2675 · 2025-09-06T01:44:59+00:00

Why not, as long as she's not imposing her business on me why would I care what she does to pay her bills.

Meallaire · 2025-09-06T01:57:19+00:00

Assuming that whatever she's doing is legal in my area, yes, I would keep being friends with her. Her job does not affect me whatsoever.

In the interest of being completely transparent, though, I would not try to hook her up with my other friends. The element of risk involved when sexually engaging with someone who is very promiscuous would result in me not feeling comfortable presenting her as a potential partner for a close friend. I wouldn't try to dissuade other friends who decided on their own from dating her, though.

ResponsibilityAny217 · 2025-09-06T03:45:34+00:00

Yes but I've have sex workers in my family before who I've loved so I would be able to be friends with her and love her.

How do you react? Probably shocked at first but after making sure she's alright then it's alright. Might ask her some prying questions if she'll allow it.

Do you stop being friends with her? No. Do you continue being friends with her? No Do you look down on her? I think I might consider her a bit gross for a bit but I think I'd get over it bc 'You hit it off and become close friends, she’s the same age range as you, similar personality and you have similar interests. You get along great, go out shopping or for coffee together' would be more important to me + I'm not having sex with her + try to understand her pov

Flightlessbirbz · 2025-09-06T04:03:46+00:00

Sure. I have a lot of mixed feelings about sex work and really do not view it as “empowering” or something to be encouraged, however, I don’t think less of people who do it. There are all sorts of choices people make that might not be the healthiest or most beneficial, for example, drinking excessively, or staying in a bad relationship. I’m not going to lie to them that I think they’re making great choices, but that does not mean I can’t still respect them and be their friend. Being cut off from friends and family is one of the potential dangers of sex work, so why would I make that worse?

SwimmingTheme3736 · 2025-09-06T05:32:17+00:00

Yes I have been.

If I liked her and got I. With her why would I not want to be friends?

JadeGrapes · 2025-09-06T06:10:55+00:00

"Yeah, your Mom and I already hang out a ton!"

Slipthe · 2025-09-06T01:28:33+00:00

Eh.

I probably wouldn't bring her around my friends and family. If she's extremely open about what she does, I wouldn't want to deal with my dad trying to find my friends OnlyFans or some shit.

But if she had a 'cover' job that she tells people it would be fine.

Title	Women, would you be friends with an active sex worker?
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Date	September 6, 2025 12:58 AM UTC (10 months ago)
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