A hierarchy in the workplace, a hierarchy in school, even a hierarchy between parents and kids everyone accepts, yet if you add in the caveat that the man needs to be the leader of the family it seems that women today start losing their minds? Hierarchy in a LTR vs the workplace, both are really comparable, even though I'd say submitting to someone who loves you and wants to care for you is more beneficial.

Both provide you resources for work and value you give them, both have measures you can take in case of abuse (family, police vs. HR, legal system), both you have freedom to leave whenever you want. Though with your man you have more input and say than you would with your boss, and he's likely to care for you more, be more understanding about your wants and needs, vs. a boss thats literally renting you and doesn't care that you're overworked or that you're sick, as long as they're within legal bounds.