I think I’ve cracked the code on why a lot of guys seem to contradict themselves when they claim they want a relationship. Because it sounds nicer than admitting what they really want:

“You should fuck me because it makes me feel good.”

Because it’s too obvious that he’s a self centered prick. So he has to pretty it up by claiming “its about LOVE. Its how I feel LOVE!”. And keep in mind, to these guys, its always about how HE FEELS. It’s very interesting that guys here really don’t see how manipulative it is when it clearly is.

Similarly: “women should instantly fuck me because it helps my self-esteem” obviously sounds entitled. So lets pretty it up with “its about showing we desire each other” even though guys have constantly shown and even said fucking a woman doesnt mean he desires anything more than pussy.

Last but not least: “I want you to crave me while I dont give a fuck about you, because it stroke my ego” it’s just outright disgusting. So again, lets make it about “I feel love through sex” while being very capable of having sex with women you dont care about.

So I came to this epiphany because it makes sense as to why these types of guys keep insisting on wanting a relationship instead of t just having casual sex. Because with casual sex, it’s basically people using each other and it typically results in people goong their own way. But when its “love”, wouldnt you bend over backwards and do anything to make your lover happy? 

So yeah, I’ve come to realize that most men’s definition of love here is “do what I want because it makes me feel good and I MIGHT give a fuck about you and what you want…..but dont bet on it”.