What are your physical dealbreakers in women?

wtknight · 2021-06-22T17:17:48+00:00

Re-flaired to a discussion question for all due to the no internal questions rule.

Platinirism · 2021-06-22T16:39:45+00:00

Obese.

TheFinnishChamp · 2021-06-22T18:41:02+00:00

Nothing. No "mental" deal breakers either. I probably look at this from a different pespective than most though so I'll explain a little.

I am interested in a person as a whole and I don't think any single thing can be so bad that it would ruin the whole thing.

What I have learned from people who have been in long relationships is that you need to be a. compatible (which is a combination of a long list of things) and b. be willing to make compromises because in the long term being in a relationship and making compromises is better and more fullfilling and not being in one.

In the long term looks really don't mean much because it's such a small thing in life (at least to me, I never really care about or pay much attention to the appearance of others), everybody ages and everybody changes along the way.

PeskyHijinks · 2021-06-22T17:01:18+00:00

I really don't have any except for two. The first is morbid obesity. I don't even really mind large or "fat" women, as long as they aren't absolutely and morbidly obese. The second dealbreaker is piercings anywhere other than the ears. I find those absolutely disgusting, viscerally so if they are on or in the mouth. But that's just my personal preference and I certainly don't expect people not to get them if they want them. They just gross me out. 🤷‍♂️ There are plenty of women I wouldn't date due a variety of reasons, but only those 2 dealbreakers (line drawn in the sand I will not cross). Usually it's 4 or 5 things that add up.

throwaway3649_ · 2021-06-22T17:02:01+00:00

Unhealthy or unhygienic. Literally anything else will work if we vibe.

burnerphone5 · 2021-06-22T18:06:22+00:00

Gummy smiles

passepar2t · 2021-06-22T16:39:07+00:00

I don't have "dealbreakers," I case-by-case it based on the sum of her parts.

Goodthingstartssmall · 2021-06-22T17:08:29+00:00

Overweight or too skinny, too many big tattoos and piercings. Belly button piercings are still ok.

Estimator1313 · 2021-06-22T16:58:11+00:00

Obesity. Maybe too many tattoos (I’m not a fan of them personally, but I don’t mind one here or there). Facial/tongue piercings.

dezmyers · 2021-06-22T17:16:42+00:00

It's hard for me because it depends on what she does have lol

If u got an alright sized ass or boobs, u don't need both. U could have either or. If u got a pretty face and up-kept/healthy hair, u could be petite and have no ass or boobs.

I can do plus size but I do have a limit and once ur body isn't proportionate/curvy (waist/stomach thinner than ur upper and lower body), then I can't do it.

Same goes for very skinny women. Not model skinny like Kendall Jenner. Like unhealthy skinny.

Acne/black spots I'm cool with as long as it's not excessive. Some spots here and there when she takes her make up off is perfectly fine. Think that's bout it.

mrcs84usn · 2021-06-22T17:23:01+00:00

Being fat
excessive tattoos or piercings
her post-shower face is unappealing
snaggletooth
having no curves at all to where she looks like a 2x4

TheDevilPutD · 2021-06-22T17:57:17+00:00

Smelly pussy, looks like a boy, overweight, small ass. I am a sucker for a pretty face though.

thatguyfromrichmond · 2021-06-22T16:41:17+00:00

Fat, weird looking, very greasy women (I’m nerdy so lots of these kind in my classes). Besides that it’s kinda if you view someone you know if they are attractive or not

Simple-Craft-9577 · 2021-06-22T18:19:13+00:00

Dealbreakers:

Fat
Armsleeve/Neck tattoo
Septum piercing/Eyebrow piercing

Dealbreaker if a couple or more of these (Turn-offs):

Short hair
Dyed hair
Too tall
Tattoo anywhere--unless it's something meaningful (no not a butterfly)
Tongue piercing/Way too many ear piercings
Self-harm scars

I'm a basic bitch, what can I say?

TheBookOfSeil · 2021-06-22T17:25:19+00:00

Fat

Narrow hips

Stumpy legs and baby gait (think Tommy Pickles walking)

Signs of genetic (or general) diseases in face or body

STDs

Bad hygiene/skin

Hairy legs, chin/neck/mustache, armpits, and butthole

Wears too much makeup

Disproportionate features

Edit:

Ugly nipples

Plastic surgery

Spread-Em-Plz · 2021-06-22T17:23:31+00:00

I would say that besides being obese or unhygienic, the biggest for me is simply not having anything for me to be attracted to.

Just simply put, you ever looked at someone and they're not ugly but they just make you feel...meh when you look at them?

Yeah, that feeling.

Some I'll be attracted to a woman's face

Sometimes her smile might turn me on

Sometimes I'll like their lips

Sometimes it might be her natural smell.

Others times boobs and/or ass

Sometimes thighs.

Sometimes she'll just have something mysterious that makes me want to fuck her but I can't pinpoint (maybe her "aura" or whatever you call it"

(obviously it's usually more than one of these things)

But sometimes you just look at a woman and she's just lacking in every department. Literally nothing TO like about her. Just mediocrity across the board. Ok face, somewhat skinny legs, small-ish boobs, no ass- . That's the dealbreaker.

M4sterDis4ster · 2021-06-22T17:27:03+00:00

Tattooes and piercings, dyed hair in multiple colours, masculinity.

Swordfromthecement · 2021-06-22T19:11:07+00:00

Literally just fat. And I’d probably still sleep with her depending on the face

QuenchlessGato · 2021-06-22T19:59:38+00:00

Regarding weight, the woman can't be significantly fatter than me. I wouldn't mind a chubby girl that has a similar physique to mine.

Height being a dealbreaker is not due to us not being attracted to taller women, but due to knowledge that a tall woman is almost never attracted to a shorter man. So this more of a self-exclusion rather than being a dealbreaker.

jax006 · 2021-06-22T16:45:34+00:00

Any physique that can't be described as 'fit'

More than 1 inch taller than me

Bad posture

_lemazaki · 2021-06-22T17:04:15+00:00

Good deal closer = flat belly and waist

Bad deal breaker = obesity

PlayfulLawyer · 2021-06-22T17:12:04+00:00

I'll go with my relationship physical deal-breakers because when it comes to just casual hookups I'm a little more flexible

If she's not fit, both of my what I would consider serious relationships, one was a fellow athlete and my current relationship she goes hard on the aerobics, for whatever reason she loves them old cheesy ass 80s workout videos lol, whatever gets the job done. But I run everyday at least four miles, I eat healthy 4-5 days outta the week with a little diet cheating on the weekends, so I need a partner who takes her Fitness seriously, none of that extreme bodybuilder Miss Universe shit though lol
Flat chested/ no ass
Ugly/ not taken care of feet, I love women's feet, and I'm going to be spending time down there if we're together, I love massaging them, sucking on toes, tickling them, having them rubbed against my face, you name it so she's got to keep her nails and feet done
Just poor hygiene / upkeep and general
If she NEEDS a shit ton of makeup to look attractive, I don't mind if my girl gets super dolled up because I like the way her makeup smears when I cum on her face, but if she's still attractive with none or very minimal make-up, definitely a keeper

I could add more and be a little more nitpicky about things like smoking or go into extreme medical circumstances or whatever but I'll leave it at 5

manfrom-nantucket · 2021-06-22T17:20:56+00:00

Single mother - Unless your kids are 18 and out of the house not interested.
Overweight - and by this I mean landwhale status. Having a few pounds is one thing but walking around like a beach ball on legs claiming that you are a kween kind of mindset
Dishonesty - if you cannot be honest about the most basic things

geometersbane · 2021-06-22T18:23:55+00:00

Flat ass. Maybe I can overlook it if everything else is perfect but in almost all cases, that's the end of the road.

gammaJinx · 2021-06-22T17:51:24+00:00

No kids. Has to be at a reasonable BMI but I’d take a fit woman any day. Cannot be taller than 5’8”. Fair skin no excessive acne without makeup. And of course gotta have a nice ass. No excessive piercings or rings. Like a small nose ring is ok but anything other than that is a deal breaker

BlackPorcelainDoll · 2021-06-22T17:42:43+00:00

For me: Fat, chubby, BBW, gross teeth/yellow, bad hair, weird bad style, large fake "fur" mink lashes, poorly done tattoos, unnatural hair colors, butch women, bull dykes, bad skin and acne, little girl frame, bad built body, sloppy looking, trashy and lazy, eyes too far apart, excessively large boobs, large fake asses, small lips, funky pussy smell, little boy body

MrNobody512 · 2021-06-22T17:29:40+00:00

Overweight
Tattoos
Piercings other than ears
long nails
Too much makeup
Dresses too revealing
Doesn't dress their age

These are just some things I learned to weed out poor behaivor in women.

Turning_blades · 2021-06-22T17:39:18+00:00

Obese. Or if she has some curves it's ok if they are in right places (hourglass).

Physical attributes however, are secondary to my non-physical deal breakers:

Must be feminine
Must be respectful (of me and herself)

Jakeybaby125 · 2021-06-22T17:54:38+00:00

Fat, too much leg or armpit hair, crazy hair, short lesbian hair, big tattoos, nose piercings

Hoopy223 · 2021-06-22T17:59:12+00:00

99% of these will say overweight/fat

If you want a more brainy answer I would say character flaws like dishonesty and ungratefulness

801735 · 2021-06-22T17:59:41+00:00

Physical?

Definitely don't be fat. A bit on the chubby side, carrying some reserves, is fine, but definitely don't be fat. I see it as laziness. Granted, it can be genetic, will want to see your parents in any case, but definitely don't be fat. Preferences. Happens.

Thicc? Nope.

Big ass? Nope. I'm slavic, my standards for what a sexy female body looks like are not exactly low.

Not healthy, starved looking. I will buy or cook you something tasty to eat and have a potentially good (few) date(s), but that's likely about it. It's not going to lead far, because it's not my job to fix you. Just like you, I deserve a well assembled whole person.

Terminator/gym rat/ultra giga into sports? Are you aspiring to one day lift the gym including the small dudes and all the feathers they call weights in it? Good for you, we're not compatible.

Not relatively fit (coordination) - if you climb stairs like Biden tries to and fails miserably, I have bad news for you.

She's not smaller than I am? Not into forklifting mass around on the dance floor.

Not beautiful (in my eyes) face. I'm slavic, my standards for what a beautiful female face looks like are not exactly low.

Short hair, ewwww, gross. Dis gusting. Ugh. Yeah, sure, ok boy, bye.

Too tall, not looking towards looking up to you, sry. What do you expect, me carrying around a ladder to come kiss you up there? Reach forward into the future for your hair to pull back during sex?

Small boobs? Not into boys, sorry, but good luck elsewhere, I'm sure you'll find your lucky one. Remember to just be yourself.

Fake boobs, that way (points away).

Porn lips? Are you kidding me? Goodbye, Felatia.

Excessive tats and piercing(s), pfff h h hh h hh h. Ok. Sure. Hhh h hh h h hh h h. Oh, man, that one was amusing.

Hoe nails - aaaaaand you're gone. If you can't type on the keyboard like a normal decent human being... well, thank you, but no, thank you.

Weird proportions (arms/torso/legs), I'm sure you'll find someone for you.

Fucked up/wicked voice, listen, Mister, not gonna happen.

These are the ones I can think of on the fly.

Definitely don't be fat.

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blue_dandelions · 2021-06-22T18:16:42+00:00

Hmmm unproportional body (thin or fat, I like them in all shapes as long as healthy)

Asymmetrical face.

Horrible fake nails or eyelashes… or hair.

Posh dress sense (no poshos pls)

reluctantly_red · 2021-06-22T18:49:16+00:00

Bad skin and bad teeth. Pretty everything else is negotiable. However, the overall package has to be attractive (only about 20% of age appropriate women make the cut).

goblin_champ · 2021-06-22T19:06:49+00:00

Tattoos.

Too many piercings.

If they are overweight.

Also, they need to have a bigger ass and thighs than me. Im tall and lean so its actually common for most girls to have that, but if not thay eould be a dealbreaker

Classicjammer · 2021-06-22T19:11:52+00:00

1) excessive tattoos or big tattoos

2) no boobs

3) too much makeup (poorly drawn on eyebrows)

4) really bad teeth, like meth teeth (teeth don’t have to be 100% straight, mine ain’t 100%, I never had braces either)

5) I’m personally not into women taller than me. Same height is okay.

baby-puppy · 2021-06-22T19:19:42+00:00

Anyone else not like fit? Muscles on woman dont look very nice imo. something like this looks too manly

lavender-lesbian · 2021-06-22T19:59:24+00:00

misshapen obese(like potato on twig look) i’m fat but i’m still identifiable as a woman(titties and hips both bigger than my tummy) or the inverse - stupid skinny. i like average size to my size(chubby)

weird proportions. - like huge fake tits and skinny body? gross. huge fake ass/thigh? also gross. botched nose job??? gross. oh god those too big lips? gross. if it doesn’t look NATURAL i’m not into it.

greasy hair. missing teeth/rotted teeth. wrinkles at our age(21-24). smells bad. doesn’t take care of her things(as in nasty apartment/car/house) drug use? weed is fine and so is drinking(not a drug) but anything harder is a hard pass. and the weed/alcohol can’t be excessive. no drunks or constant stoners.

kids. i don’t date single moms. i love kids, but i don’t want to deal with them until i’m ready. (i included kids bc kids are physically there lmfao)

bunol · 2021-06-22T20:23:13+00:00

Extremely skinny, bad teeth hair falling out. Basically the meth head look.

Oh and she has to be somewhat near my age

BarestBranch · 2021-06-22T21:06:30+00:00

Certain levels of obesity. I’ve found women who are obese attractive but there’s a certain stage where it becomes too much of a turn off. Being extremely skinny is a turn off as well. Outside of that I don’t really have any physical dealbreakers except for obvious ones like having a swastika tattoo or something.

renfsu · 2021-06-22T21:26:33+00:00

Small boobs. I could date someone like that but I'll always be thinking about it

Adadum · 2021-06-22T21:34:07+00:00

my physical preference is plus-sized girls (I don't mind thinner but I prefer plus-sized) but where I draw the line is obesity or if the belly is bigger than the butt and boobs.

Looking anorexic. Smoker's skin. Missing teeth/meth mouth.

RRBeachFG2 · 2021-06-22T21:56:00+00:00

Flat butt is a no Bueno, I don't care how fine you are

EGOtyst · 2021-06-23T02:08:22+00:00

Canckles.

Bad face. I can get over a bad body. But face? Gotta be cute.

-Solitude-- · 2021-06-23T02:10:42+00:00

I had originally written a paragraph for each thing, but there are enough items now that I think I'll just make it a list. If you want clarification on anything, feel free to ask.

She shouldn't be overweight.
Shouldn't have a bigger build, either (yes, I prefer thin girls. Fight me).
Excessive tattoos and/or piercings are a no-go.
Her hair should be long enough that there's no confusion over her gender. Doesn't even have to be shoulder-length. If it goes down to her chin, that's fine with me.
Shouldn't be significantly taller than 6 ft or significantly shorter than 5.
No botox injections. I find them absolutely appalling.
Breasts and ass shouldn't be too big. Never found that stuff appealing, for whatever reason.

blueXcat · 2021-06-23T03:15:06+00:00

Obese or more, or skinny without curves Plain looking Needs tons of make up to look good

Lotus_82 · 2021-06-22T20:41:07+00:00

Any hair whatsoever below the eyebrows.

Indis96 · 2021-06-22T20:59:00+00:00

What are your physical dealbreakers in women?

- Being overweight. I dont mind chunky girls, but theres a limit.

-Being a social media addict, I don't want to date chicks that are narcisstic on their Instagram for example, and who spend 10+ hours a day on their phone > Boring.

-Attention whores, ok most women crave attention, but wanting too much is a huge red flag for me, because they will look elsewhere.

- Having high body counts, Im not asking for an Angel Virgin, but when that body counts starts hitting 10+, I naturally get turned off.

-Not being submissive, (Dont confuse this with being a doormat either).

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- Tying in to the point above, if she doesn't respect my boundaries and tries to shame me for them, im kicking her to the curb, im not those cucks that think men and women are ''equal'' and she can definately go out everynight with her male 'friends' because she told me to ''trust me'', yeah no.

Would you park a Ferrarri with world class security in the hood knowing the intentions of people around? Why take that risk?

myerbot5000 · 2021-06-22T17:54:48+00:00

Obesity, tattoos(any tattoo which is visible when wearing any sort of clothing), piercings other than earlobes. Hair color which does not occur in nature. Rotten teeth.

I don't understand the obsession with "body modification"----especially when the woman is fat and ugly to begin with.

TimelessMystic · 2021-06-22T18:04:35+00:00

Over BMI 24 (I prefer if she's 19-22).

Over 6'2 in height.

Physical disabilities.

"Professional" dress code.

Boring, not standing out style-wise (aka. natural hair, no tattoos, no piercings - doesn't have to be all of them, but I'd very much prefer if at least some of these things were true).

ACE-JHN · 2021-06-22T18:04:39+00:00

Fat. yellow teeth, constantly wears high-waisted clothing to hide her rolls, smoker.

Khidorahian · 2021-06-22T18:09:03+00:00

body modifications and obesity are kinda the only ones i can think of rn

WomenHavItHarder · 2021-06-22T18:13:03+00:00

Obese
Ugly without makeup
Bad hygiene

DetectivePure503 · 2021-06-22T18:47:39+00:00

Overweight, poor hygiene, cartoonish hair, makeup and nails, extremely bronzed skin, ugly tattoos and piercings, gen Z style clothing.

TwoFirmFeet · 2021-06-22T18:54:17+00:00

Fat or way too much makeup

OldSimpsonsisbetter · 2021-06-22T18:55:08+00:00

Lots of tattoos, lots of piercings, very fat. Not because they're unattractive per se, but it says a lot about their character. I never came across a fat girl who didn't have some sort of attitude problem.

Tattooed and pierced women tend to be more emotional, flaky, hedonistic and just not the type of person you can trust. Piercings around the vagina and lip area are definite nos, because it makes it too difficult to do oral or kiss.

Big fake boobs look disgusting to me. Again it says a lot about their character if they get surgery and implants to change their body that much.

Smelly women, but it's rare to come across that unless they're too fat (fat women can't wash properly in all the crevasses/folds of their skin, which means bad smells and bacteria build up more easily).

Notice how all these things are self-inflicted, not genetic. I've never come across a woman who is too ugly facially, too short/too tall, too small boobs, bad bone structure etc. All physical deal breakers are things they do to themselves through laziness, insecurity or poor life choices.

Cybercunt2069 · 2021-06-22T18:57:10+00:00

Fat, too short, tattoos, piercing, thin hair and eyebrows, no ass, no tits, bulgy eyes.

ChibsFilipTelfordd · 2021-06-22T19:09:06+00:00

Physical dealbreakers?

Must be shorter than me (not hard; fewer than 1 out of 10,000 women aren't)

Must be fit, i prefer muscular woman to thin but no muscle women. Ideal range is like 21-28% body fat and 22-25 BMI, anything higher than that body fat or BMI verges on fat

Must have pretty face, but that's quite subjective

Must have good teeth. This is a new one. My gf has a thing about teeth and now i notice teeth everywhere. It's weird but... I saw a super hot girl at the mall one day and she started laughing and her teeth... Jesus. Yeah. New standard for me. Lmao. Get braces or something, idk.

Must not be disfigured in any way (again like height, not a high likelihood of failing this)

Dont really care that much about tits or ass, my thing is wide hips combined with abs or a fit waist lol

E: after reading the thread lots are saying no tattoos or piercings which is odd. I think they're kinda hot

psypD · 2021-06-22T20:47:14+00:00

Must not be overweight.

Must not have weirdly dyed hair.

Must not have excessive shitty tattoos or piercings. Preferably none .

Must shave armpits.

Must be at least 5'4'' and at most 6'1''.

Must have good hygiene overall.

Must not smoke or do any drugs. Zero tolerance.

-Azwel- · 2021-06-22T20:51:55+00:00

For long term stuff:

Being Overweight
Being too short
Flat ass
Ugly face
Ugly voice

AreJewOkay · 2021-06-22T21:00:38+00:00

-Fat -Too short -Bad teeth -Bad smell/hygiene -Too many tattoos or piercings -Looks completely different without makeup -Short hair -Flat/no curves/boyish physique -Massive nose

7-11-21-Luck · 2021-06-22T21:22:51+00:00

Overweight. Instant turn off. I personally know a lot of women who is completely lazy as hell when it comes to exercising. They will see themselves gaining weight, say they need to do something about it and the only things they do about it is complain and add on more weight.

I have sympathy for the women when it's out of their control. Medical reasons, genetics and parents who enabled bad habits. But for the rest of them, especially the ones who use pregnancy from 5 years ago as an excuse, no sympathy at all.

Inevitable_Gain_7456 · 2021-06-22T21:40:17+00:00

Stretch marks seem a iffy one. Cause it implies flabbiness in the nether right?

Danielcraigboston1 · 2021-06-22T21:44:30+00:00

Overweight, not valuing their appearance, dressing weird, tattoos, oddly colored hair, bad hygiene, and looking like a McDonalds or retail employee.

Knight_of_Inari · 2021-06-22T22:01:32+00:00

Obesity, muscle, I don't want an obese wife, but I don't want a ripped one either (because it's like a man with the face of a woman, ew), I'm fine with a normal looking one.

Christian_Kong · 2021-06-22T22:32:34+00:00

Weight(certain women wear it better than others) typically obesity or extreme skinniness. Tattoos typically are a big ugly turn off, but most every girl has one so you got to roll with it. Too many piercings. Usually short or "boy" haircuts can do a lot to hurt a women's attractiveness so they can be a dealbreaker even though I would have the hots for a similar girl with a different hairstyle. Unhygienic but I can't say I really ever see that in the younger dating aged crowd.

UpperRedSide · 2021-06-22T22:36:35+00:00

Out of shape. Poor health. Poor skin. Missing teeth.

timissick · 2021-06-22T22:47:46+00:00

Fat
Fake boobs.

S0mnariumx · 2021-06-22T23:34:40+00:00

Overweight

Extremely bad teeth (meth bad)

Bad hygiene

That's about it

Red-Chad · 2021-06-22T23:49:37+00:00

ugly face
body with weird proportions
unhygienic
bad skin
bad teeth, bad breath
hairy armpits, legs or pussy
long nails
fat or anorexic
significantly taller than me
excessive (and stupid) tattoos or piercings
thin hair, male haircut
annoying voice
too much makeup

Title	What are your physical dealbreakers in women?
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Date	June 22, 2021 4:21 PM UTC (5 years ago)
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