FDS has made soooo many shows unwatchable for me

grmpygills · 2021-05-25T19:06:37+00:00

Can we talk about this fact for a second. That everything portrayed in movies and tv just inherently praises the pickme/scrote culture. In addition to music. This has really gotten to me lately. I can’t listen to a lot of music with lyrics anymore.

I feel both happy, liberated, and severely depressed.

Mcccy · 2021-05-25T19:18:14+00:00

What's more worrying is that they say "No one wants to see hairy armpits" yet they think we want to see rape?¿¿

fdssavedmylife · 2021-05-25T20:57:34+00:00

It’s to self fulfilling ego massage to men because

“ We were better than men in the past “ is what they need to pat themselves in the back for and demand prizes for being basic human beings

While our past was definitely much more brutal it wasnt also like anything goes society or something. The problem is whenever there is conflict and chaos make depravity happens and male military are trained killing and raping machines

Modern day is NO different when you observe conflict areas and war zones

lillyofthevalet · 2021-05-25T19:48:01+00:00

"bUt ThaTs HOw DaNgerOUs ThinGS WeRE BaCK ThEn"

It's a show with flippin' dragons. Sit down, Jeffrey.

orangechickengeneral · 2021-05-25T21:35:21+00:00

Oh my gosh yes. Recently I was rewatching Friends and one of the things that jumped at me was how often and how persistently Joey and Chandler sexualized Monica, Phoebe, and Rachel. In the show, it is laughed about like "har har men only see women as sex objects, har har how funny!"
How is this okay? The show is supposedly about these great friendships between guys and gals, but it is not. It is about guys pretending to be a friend until an opportune moment strikes and they can get sex from their female friend. So it is never a true friendship, the one with no hidden agenda or ulterior motive. If anyone has a better show recommendation, please do, maybe something about women being allowed to be friends with men without getting ambushed or manipulated by the men into sex or a romantic relationship.

Equal-Ear2312 · 2021-05-26T06:32:25+00:00

Historical accuracy or how the media normalizes abuse against women.

run_free_orla_kitty · 2021-05-25T22:14:22+00:00

What about Modern Family? I know the show makes the Prichard family out to be stressed and neurotic, but I feel for Claire sometimes. She's so stressed, always has to be on top of things, has to do lists, etc, and then there's Phil who gets to mostly be goofy and have fun outside of work. Also ontop of that Phil crushes on Gloria. FDS definitely made me notice all that!

ivy176 · 2021-05-26T08:00:40+00:00

Yeah and how come even in the handmaids tale, they have no body hair? Even their legs are shaved, eyebrows plucked and hair dyed auburn or blonde highlights staring at the scalp..even though that stuff is banned in their world or they've been on the run with no supplies for months at a time??

Peak_Tree · 2021-05-25T22:28:26+00:00

At this point I've watched about 30 (?) historical C-dramas ( many with fantasy, magic, dragons, all the works). You know how many of them used r*pe as a plot device? 2 . You know how many of those two showed anything remotelly related to r*pe on screen instead of just implying it happened and delving on the consecuences and their impact on the central plot? ZERO.

It can be done, It is being done in media around the world. Never let them fool you. If they wanted to treat r*pe respectufully instead of showing borderline r*pe p*rn on screen they would.

Guilty_Assignment · 2021-05-25T19:35:00+00:00

Ugh don’t even get me started on Westworld. Could only make it through part of that first season. Wish I didn’t watch it at all.

the-lonely-spirit · 2021-05-26T04:46:37+00:00

I’m so sick of these universes that depict women always being the ones to get tortured raped and humiliated. There’s never any FDS approved anime/shows where there is a horde of buff men and the female characters are wearing normal clothes and are 3 dimensional in their goals and desires. I want a show that reeks of Himbos to make the scrotes uncomfortable. Lmao.

moon-drag0n · 2021-05-25T21:57:43+00:00

One thing I really hated about GOT the tv show was how rape was a way to create character development for women. Sansa claims that the reason why she is strong was because of those terrible things that happened to her. Same with Daenarys. That is such bullshit.

Also the show turned the first time Daenarys and Drogo had sex into a rape scene. In the book it was consensual (though she never wanted to marry him and she was sold off like a horse) but the show made that scene terrible.

javagarbagecollector · 2021-05-26T08:38:51+00:00

Seriously every single movie and series is somehow about a dude cheating, being older/uglier than the woman and getting what he wants in the end because he's irresistible. Boys will be boys. The further you go back in time in movie production, the worse this gets. I can hardly watch anything at all and nobody seems to mind/notice!!

notochord · 2021-05-26T01:16:52+00:00

I discovered FDS in the beginning of 2020 and now I can no longer watch Star Wars. Used to be a big fan of it but the veil has been lifted and now I don’t bother with it.

roonil_wazlib_the2nd · 2021-05-26T04:57:20+00:00

Fuck I just want to see a tv show where a woman isn’t made stronger because she is raped or sexually assaulted.

lucidlotus · 2021-05-25T23:47:21+00:00

Yep. I refuse to watch GOT because of it, and I quit Westworld early on because of the rapey vibes.

Watzoo · 2021-05-25T22:06:45+00:00

I feel this. My watch list these days is mostly Phoebe Waller Bridge and Scandinavian tv. Miranda was pretty good. Fictional stuff worth watching is hard to come by.

Cessacolypse · 2021-05-26T02:12:22+00:00

I was going to watch ‘The Nightingale’ on Hulu and looked it up first to see if there are rape scenes in it and I fell down a search hole of how the writer/director woman said that the rape scenes were necessary to show the horrible things that happened to the indigenous* peoples of Australia of that time, and that if it were a man who wrote/directed the movie, he wouldn’t have been called out so much about it by angry viewers. While I agree with that double standard, I truly don’t think it’s necessary to have 4 rape scenes in a movie where the close up is on the victims’ faces while the rape is happening. If anything, I feel like it’s worse that a woman wrote this into a movie? Is there something wrong with my thinking? As a survivor I get absolutely pissed if I see the actual rape happening on screen and I think anyone, regardless of gender or sex, who has written it into the ‘art’ is doing it more for shock effect and it does more harm than good.

There are some shows/movies where you know the rape occurs, and you can hear the struggle, but it’s not in your face the way other movies portray it. However, I feel like it makes more of a statement when it shows the survivor recovering from the attack with bruises, trying to change clothes uncomfortably, etc. The director (of the nightingale) said that some survivors said they felt understood after viewing her film but I don’t think that can be assumed as every survivor’s reaction. I don’t need to view something that shows an actual rape to get the message that rape is wrong. Why isn’t the after effects focused on like some films do (girl with the dragon tattoo, again trying to change clothes and being in pain while trying to do so).

It’s like she fell into the mindset of like...let me write in this shocking and disgusting thing for people to know/understand how women in history were treated, which is good reasoning, but, I DONT NEED TO SEE A RAPE FOUR TIMES IN A MOVIE TO UNDERSTAND THAT ITS WRONG. Does anyone know what I’m talking about? It makes me furious, even though I understand the double standard...but I still think showing the whole rape is wrong and unnecessary. Not to mention, what if there are people who watch it to get off on it? So in essence she’s just adding to the problem? Idk. Am I wrong? Or can someone give me a better perspective?

brownskinnedflower · 2021-05-26T12:28:10+00:00

Sorry I’ll never finish watching GOT. I don’t understand how as a woman you can watch another woman get raped for entertainment. I couldn’t even finish season 1, I was so uncomfortable and grossed out. I don’t care if the plot is amazing, it’s hella disturbing!!!!!

butteryrum · 2021-05-25T23:12:04+00:00

Watching Nip Tuck right now. Fucking brutal.

kerean1997 · 2021-05-26T03:59:03+00:00

Never even liked GoT anyway. I always found it obscene and full of disturbing sex scenes because it looked like there's no substance in it other than women being abused 🤷🏼‍♀️

AND THAT WAS WAY BEFORE FDS LADIES.

Nadaleenatasha · 2021-05-26T02:49:54+00:00

I hate that show

betsybasset · 2021-05-26T01:21:18+00:00

Post FDS I can only listen Muzak-type (those background instrumental music) beats.

I stopped watching TV and reading newspaper, it all so full of femicide 😶.

undertheunderbelly · 2021-05-26T22:24:41+00:00

Honestly as much as I love FDS - it's ruined fanfiction for me. Now I read the synopsis of a fic and get insta-turned off by a/b/o, bondage, and anything resembling a shitty LVM/NVM relationship. Which.... is a lot of fanfiction, unfortunately.

Other than that, it's been great.

MorthaP · 2021-05-26T11:07:18+00:00

It's not really about accuracy, but men don't want to watch something in which society is not as it is now. They can't or don't want to see a world without rape left and right because they don't see how it could ever happen. They think it's literally impossible, that's what this tells me.

CrepeCraze · 2021-05-26T04:33:05+00:00

I agree that it’s all pretty fucking awful. However, I will say the thing I like about GoT is that many of the victims fight back and become literal queens. I like seeing that turn around. I wish it didn’t have a place in the story, but I like seeing a woman overcome these awful experiences.

And the fact that it happens all over the place on the show is interesting. People react to it like ”Oh god! There’s so much rape! It’s so awful!“ and its like ”yeah you realize the real world is the same right?? Shouldn’t that bother you more??“ I feel like it makes people have to face that reality.

I think some of it can be justified artistically, and some (edit: MOST) of it is just in there for ratings (which is disgusting). That’s all I wanted to say.

I have similar feelings about Leia’s story in Star Wars episode six. I DONT like the abuse being glorified, but I REALLY like seeing the women overcome their abusers. I think that part of the story is a good thing.

Ok I’m done with my little thing. I hope I don’t sound like an asshole, or like i 100% agree with what’s happening in the game of thrones scenes. Not at all! I just wrestle with my feelings about these things a lot as someone who wants to work in the film industry.

Connect_Chipmunk_691 · 2021-05-26T04:13:38+00:00

I felt like this even before fds was ever a thing and I don't know if it's just from me being an HSP/empathic person or the trauma I went through as a kid or a combination of both. The discomfort over that stuff showing up was real! And I always felt it in a pit of my stomach.

I don't understand why they have to be so damn graphic with things anyway. You can get the gist of stuff without having to show all the graphic nastiness because I feel like that's almost as bad as p*** with rewiring people's brains. So many of the shows that are out on commercial TV look like softcore p*** or dystopian crazy stuff really depressing things horror show level whatever or nutball drama! Like nothing can just be something wholesome and good with genuinely good story lines and good characters!

Lysistrata92 · 2021-05-26T03:30:34+00:00

I made the mistake of looking up this tweet and reading the comments... good god.

infojustwannabefree · 2021-05-26T04:07:22+00:00

I was watching The Parkers with my mom one day and it just made me so mad and depressed. The "relationship" between the Professor and Nicki is just pathetic. Like, he treated you like shit for the entire show until the last season and you STILL wanna be with him? On top of he's a bordeline creep on younger women?

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