CMV: Rejection is hot

brassbuffalo · 2026-01-30T16:26:12+00:00

"It's a hotter to see a guy face rejection"

She rejected him. Why does it matter if it's hot? It's not making a difference.

This is a marketing campaign for some speed dating event in NYC created by a sketchy AI company.

Specific-Art-8932 · 2026-01-31T04:34:27+00:00

Women : We hate gender roles

Also women: why men don't double down on gender roles

Are these b!tches okay ?

NullAnvoyd · 2026-01-30T15:30:58+00:00

Women by and large spoke their minds about random approaches being unwanted. Men listened.

mrbonee69 · 2026-01-30T17:42:10+00:00

I think it's a good thing to get men to face rejection more so that we can improve dating as a whole. The vast majority of women, when asked, prefer to meet in real life, and not on apps.

Of course a woman thinks this, she isn't the one that has to do the approaching. Women always want men to change their behavior to suit the wants of women, but will never consider doing the same thing for men (unless they are Chad).

It's hotter to see a guy face rejection IRL than to see him cower behind apps swiping safely.

More men need to realize that women do not give advice that benefits the person they are giving advice to, but to benefit themselves.

Terrible_Mixture_759 · 2026-01-30T16:30:58+00:00

Didn't we just have a post that showed the majority of women don't want to talk to men?

Fragrant-Half4762 · 2026-01-30T15:31:51+00:00

Women dont want most men to approach, men took notice, thats all.

DietTyrone · 2026-01-30T15:22:40+00:00

Naw, they just enjoy being able to reject a guy. It gives them both validation and a power trip. Obviously, it's not "hot" or enjoyable for the one being rejected. If women actually think rejection is so hot, why don't they do the approaching and enjoy those rejections they apparently love so much?

TopShelfSnipes · 2026-01-30T15:38:04+00:00

I honestly don't understand the premise of this post.

So there's an AI dating app in some form of testing stages, okay?

You say that "it's hotter to see a guy face rejection IRL than to see him cower behind apps swiping safely" (presumably this also has to do with the marketing materials of the company) then proceed to promote...an AI app?

This literally makes no sense. So dudes go to these meetups every so often and...do what exactly?

And no, rejection isn't "hot" it's just some marketing gimmick. As a guy who's been approached by women, it might be flattering when someone compliments you, or expresses interest, but rejecting them isn't "hot" and neither is the act of them approaching you if you aren't really into them.

Realistic-Ad-1023 · 2026-01-30T16:46:28+00:00

So a grifter taking advantage of the “male loneliness crisis” is who we are claiming is “what women want” now?

Earendil-Sky_Mariner · 2026-01-30T15:43:53+00:00

Women love telling other women about guys they reject.

Limp-Kaleidoscope157 · 2026-01-30T16:01:53+00:00

I don't think a normal person finds rejection "hot".

PrecisionHat · 2026-01-30T16:37:07+00:00

Rejection is hot is like saying the meal someone cooked is garbage but you respect that they tried. It's not a compliment or even an intelligent thing to tell someone.

Logos1789 · 2026-01-30T18:59:53+00:00

Rejection isn’t hot. Sorry, women, you’re going to keep sharing the same men.

Scary_Trouble_893 · 2026-01-30T15:26:21+00:00

There's this company out there trying to encourage men to approach women again. That's how bad it's gotten.

lol, at bolding "thats how bad it's gotten"

Why do they have to be encouraged to approach women, when women routinely go out of their way on social media to shame 80 percent of men and say they're not attractive? (despite most women being fat and ugly themselves)

just to stroke the ego of mediocre sociopathic narcissistic women once more?

no thanks. If i want to date, I'll settle a girl for her personality and intelligence, not looks. Which most of them seem to be lacking.

John_Oakman · 2026-01-30T15:24:44+00:00

So what's the incentive for males to partake in getting rejected in large numbers besides the suffering? People are not going to go out of their way to do things that brings no benefit to them (if not active negatives) on the individual level, even if the wider society might benefit from it.

marthasheen · 2026-01-30T16:31:56+00:00

True women love rejecting men. What do men get out of this exactly?

Grow_peace_in_Bedlam · 2026-01-30T20:59:29+00:00

InB4 "wHy dONt wOmEN apProAch tHen!?" Men don't typically care about a woman being courageous. Women do.

Women aren't often more attracted to a man because he's nice, but men are more attracted to a woman because she's nice. Based on that, would you agree that girls should be raised to be nice to men when they grow up, but that men should be raised to avoid niceness as far as possible? Wouldn't this make everyone happier and hornier? This is (semi-)facetious, to be sure.

By the way, I absolutely do care about a woman being courageous. For a very important event of hers last year, my wife wore a loose floral minidress with flats. I loved seeing her in the outfit she chose. I thought she looked so enchantingly feminine and I just couldn't take my eyes off her. Even though it conveyed a soft and sweet femininity rather than overt sex appeal (in contrast with a more overtly daring outfit she was considering that included heels and a tight, curve-hugging miniskirt), I nevertheless found her extremely sexy in that dress, in part because I know that she has always been shy about wearing outfits that show her legs, so I knew how much courage it took her to get up the confidence to wear it. When she gave her speech, she commanded the room, combining authority and femininity in a way that made me fall in love with her all over again.

P.S.: If rejection is so hot, why don't you put yourself in a position to get rejected so that you have a new experience to flick your bean to?

psych0ticmonk · 2026-01-30T15:23:49+00:00

Despite OP being OP I feel like a lot of women simply get off on rejecting men. Creating a whole business plan around this though is a strange idea.

DrunkOnRamen · 2026-01-30T15:20:54+00:00

I approached a woman in a club and got a lifetime ban as a result. My crime was trying to introduce myself.

UnstableHotspot · 2026-01-30T15:32:08+00:00

Modern marketing can be so unhinged sometimes.

Melodic_Structure928 · 2026-01-31T00:51:53+00:00

There's this company out there trying to encourage men to approach women again.

That's how bad it's gotten.

where aware.

The reason now is the the risk outweights the reward since metoo beame a thing.

InB4 "wHy dONt wOmEN apProAch tHen!?" Men don't typically care about a woman being

Blue pillers love to claim that gender roles are the thing of the past so what happened.

Unless we can address why men have stopped in the first place the situation will never improve the problem is that will require looking at women with a critical lenses and admitting that they also humans who can do wrong and be bad ppl.

Good luck with that, the libs will not allow that kind of "misogyny" to pass.

And I mean if rejection is as sexy as blue pilled women claim then ladies there's nothing stopping you.

Big-Sir7034 · 2026-01-30T15:58:55+00:00

… is rejection hot? Why would I want to spend time with some be who enjoys making me feel dejected and neglected? I’ll do what’s best for my mental health, I think.

mashedturnip · 2026-01-30T16:02:04+00:00

I’m not in favor of gaslighting and lying, sorry.

If they don’t wanna, they don’t wanna, and that’s fine

I don’t want it done to me, so I don’t want it done to them

SlickPiccolo · 2026-01-31T00:08:06+00:00

I think that the women who want to normalize men approaching again would disappointed if their wish. They’d realize it’s mostly the men they don’t want and find it annoying.

wtknight · 2026-01-30T15:52:47+00:00

Women need to be better at giving out IOI’s if they want to be approached. They can’t expect most men to want to risk embarrassment since so many women these days have expressed their desire to never be approached at all.

Of course, this doesn’t solve the problem of men being suspicious of women pretending to be interested just to film a man’s embarrassing rejection. But filming without consent will probably be illegal soon now that men are filming women with their smart glasses.

SmirchaelMiconish · 2026-01-30T15:54:50+00:00

I hope men don't give two fucks what women generally prefer and operate on what they prefer and on what works for them. In that sense I agree that for most men in person socializing is an advantage and doing that opens him to rejection and learning to deal with that is good. For him.

If women prefer this great because we're on the same page (if we are), but too many men are defining themselve and refining themselves against what they think women prefer, and this supplication is kind of sad.

belongtomee · 2026-01-30T18:52:39+00:00

Even though I’m mean, I hate rejecting men. It feels awkward.

ChewedMyWayOutOfThat · 2026-01-30T18:58:31+00:00

"Oh, women now want us to approach after telling us not to approach? Gotcha, feminazis!"

Yeah, one fucking slogan on a billboard from a fucking company trying to sell you something doesn't fucking change anything.

Men got the impression that men shouldn't approach women because women fucking told them not to approach women.

Women still don't want men to approach. Did we fucking stutter?

Emergency-Sell-6713 · 2026-01-30T19:22:08+00:00

A guy getting rejected is... hot... IRL...? Fiction sure because a ton of people loves reading/watching fiction where terrible things happen, but IRL ?

Lemon_gecko · 2026-01-30T15:54:09+00:00

As a woman I don't find men getting rejected hot.

pie-mart · 2026-01-30T15:45:54+00:00

I think that is stupid. The problem isn't men not approaching. It is less available free or cheap social areas to go as single people to mingle with each other. In places meant to socialize you know? Where buying alcohol or drinks isn't a must and the point is to be out and social. And not clubbing

Because trust me. Women don't wanna be approached by a stranger going out about on her daily routine. But we do enjoy being approached in places we go to socialize

It is just not a lot of places besides clubs

toasterchild · 2026-01-30T16:13:25+00:00

There is some logic. The men i know who get rejected most often also get laid the most often.

It's possible that many guys could benefit from exposure to reduce rejection sensitivity. However, if you are a really sensitive person or socially awkward by nature this might be a very bad idea.

The idea that it's hotter is just stupid marketing shit, i don't think that's going to sell like they hope.

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Environmental_Day558 · 2026-01-30T15:54:49+00:00

It's hotter to see a guy face rejection IRL than to see him cower behind apps swiping safely.

I got married from a dating app, and I never cold approached a woman and never will. Considering the cowardly way worked out for me, why does it even matter? You should do what gives you the most success, not what others think.

Lift_and_Lurk · 2026-01-30T15:59:11+00:00

It should be noted, that this is a promotion for a pop up dance club/speed dating event.

Debetrius180 · 2026-01-30T16:34:21+00:00

This is based, and honestly, I’ve scored some pretty unexpected shots by being graceful and chill about rejection, like rejection isn’t even absolute, I’ve had women change their minds, or maybe they were just testing me haha, nonetheless, it’s all about having fun, creating safe environments for both parties and sharing cool moments, dating shouldn’t be so stressful or “optimized” just go out there and shoot the shit with pretty girls

Chemical-Low209 · 2026-01-30T16:48:24+00:00

I think you purposely phrased this change my mind to something that sounds insane so you'd get views

Rejection is hot doesn't even make sense even by your own logic in your own post.

You could argue that woman respect men who approach and get rejected more than men who endlessly swipe online but that is not saying much.

This is a downright nothing Burger of a post

DropSlight809 · 2026-01-30T17:56:06+00:00

Do you mean to say that pushing through rejection is hot? Not that it's hot that someone is constantly rejected? lol because that's more like, resiliency is hot, not rejection is hot.

They-man69 · 2026-01-30T18:40:08+00:00

Rejection is a natural experience in life, every animal experiences it to an extent. Human relationships allow for more complex forms of rejection. Instead of the traditional rejection to mate that other animals experience in mating season, humans can be rejected participation in a platonic event, rejection a position in a job, fail a test and be rejected from a university, etc.

Modern human life is mostly a social skills game people choose to play to reduce the amount of group infighting and the likelihood of being ostracised from a tribe and being left to die.

Rejection allows us to learn what we did wrong in a situation and learn what we could do to improve ourselves when the next opportunity arrives. For relationships, it mostly comes down to physical attraction which you can’t control without breaking the law.

Livid-Log7463 · 2026-01-30T18:50:37+00:00

Rejection probably is hot…. To the woman doing it, women don’t want more men to approach them to be receptive but in order to reject them for an ego boost.

Neptune-Jnr · 2026-01-30T19:31:33+00:00

I think this doesn't matter. Why do people care whether men approach or not? At worse men approaching means some lonely people but at best women finally stop getting harassed. Let cold approaching die.

Lower-Base-2014 · 2026-01-31T16:28:04+00:00

Rejection isn't 'hot', nobody gets more attractive to the opposite sex by getting rejected. I wish we'd stop lying as a way to manipulate men to go back out there and get treated like trash from feminist women who quite literally tells us to 'not approach'.

matthedev · 2026-02-01T01:22:46+00:00

I've talked to enough women in my life that rejection doesn't phase me at all, but I don't see the connection between "get[ting] men to face rejection more" and "improv[ing] dating as a whole."

The only value online dating apps have is convenience; you can swipe when you have a few minutes of downtime or the weather is sub-zero temperatures and you're snowed in. Of course, that convenience is a mirage. You do realize going out doesn't even guarantee there will be single women around to talk to, right?

midnight_blue77 · 2026-02-01T22:55:51+00:00

I think it's a good thing to get men to face rejection more so that we can improve dating as a whole.

Yeah except that when men expect rejection when acceptance comes it's always unexpected, creepy, and even repulsive. It warps women into these manipulative, cunning, sneaky creatures that always want something and are too chicken shit to ask for it up front so they scheme and conspire behind our backs using our attraction for them as a lure and a fog to always get one over on us.

- speaking from experience.

I am slowly figuring out why I get angry whenever women approach me.

I think women are creating a fucking monster that they have absolutely no clue about and when it becomes big enough to sounds some alarms it's going to be way too fucking late to put that beast back in the bottle, if it isn't already so.

Proper_Revenue3803 · 2026-02-02T15:56:24+00:00

Women don't want men to approach at all, it's been a very strong and recurrent message since at least the late 2000's.

Why wouldn't men staying away be a good thing?

aslfingerspell · 2026-02-03T13:04:25+00:00

It just seems like a viral marketing stunt to me for an in person dating event.

I don't think it's literally trying to convince anyone to think turning down or being turned down is arousing.

Crampler · 2026-01-30T15:29:53+00:00

I don’t approach American women anymore, I’m waiting until I relocate to Thailand— bc the people over there are better humans in general. American women require a lot of work, if you’re not willing to manipulate an abuse them bc they usually lack self respect and want to be treated that way, while also not being worth the effort they require because they tend to be horrible people in general. Egotistical, entitled, hostile, worthless, prejudiced, not very bright, etc.

Ignore the American propaganda; Americans suck and their opinions shouldn’t be heeded until they prove they possess at least some level of competency, they are conditioned by their society to be stupid and awful (I’m American).

*I just realized a woman posted this advocating for men to continue to benefit her. Prime example, ignore her opinion— she’s only out to benefit herself regardless of the expense to others (men especially).

Wide-Illustrator2906 · 2026-01-30T15:44:56+00:00

It's absolutely pointless to approach random women you don't know, in any setting. Men should look for women that show interest in them first or are giving choosing signals that they want to be approached by you.

the-kay-o-matic · 2026-01-30T16:34:14+00:00

It's not that rejection is hotter. It's that the apps allow men to "approach" with absolutely zero intention. Blind swiping makes the apps miserable for women because far too many men are running optimization plays and they don't even bother to read the three sentences on a bio.

I say this as a woman who absolutely does not like getting approached in public and would much rather meet someone on the app. The problem is that it's just far too difficult to figure out who actually looked at my profile and was curious to get to know me and who was just spamming women with likes. And getting into a relationship with a man who simply likes the way I look and wants any woman who will have him is a recipe for misery.

The sheer number of likes I receive on the apps is detached from reality and it doesn't make me feel good - it simply makes it more challenging for me to meet someone I want to date.

So yeah, women are looking for men to put a little bit more effort into the initial approach when dating. Whether that is in person or on the apps.

bondepart · 2026-01-30T17:13:28+00:00

Where in this advert does it say that only men should be approaching? The advert just says “people”.

SpicyTigerPrawn · 2026-01-30T17:00:46+00:00

The few times I've had to actually reject a woman (much older, much heavier, or intoxicated) I actually felt bad about it despite trying my best to be calm and discreet about it. When I see women relish the opportunity to aggressively reject men and laugh about it with her girlfriends and followers it makes me realize just how different we are.

leefjk · 2026-01-30T19:20:45+00:00

Yeah so hot to get rejected by 100s of women in a row and then want to kill yourself.

AlarmingArm9919 · 2026-01-31T00:35:38+00:00

This shit just embitters me towards women.

When do we ever get asked out?

proposed to?

have somebody working on a tough physical job for us?

get lady billionaire fantasy books?

ever so much as have a car door opened for us?

Many men feel like you took the "equality" parts you wanted and left us holding the bag.

Reasonable_Mouse789 · 2026-01-30T15:28:18+00:00

Do people struggle with approaching? It’s the same concept as a dating app, except just straight up easier and quicker a lot of the time for the same thing

Title	CMV: Rejection is hot
Author	Windmill_flowers
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Date	January 30, 2026 3:17 PM UTC (6 months ago)
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