I would think this is common sense, but I'm getting tired of people treating sex as the end-all-be-all of relationships. Like "Sex is a need" and "Men communicate love through sex", other BS statements like that.

"You're saying sex and passion should NEVER EVER EVER EVER be in a relationship?!"No. I'm saying if that's your only priorities, you're better off with fuckbuddies.

In case I needed to show some evidence for what I'm saying. Study found the good communication was a stronger correlation for relationship satisfaction and stability than quality of sex.

Anecdotal, but I've also seen this with couples I knew, mainly friends. The friends who had relationships based on fucking, excitement, "passion", living in the moment etc had the worst breakups, the biggest losers, and got cheated on the most. The "super boring" friends I have that had their minds more on the future and "with held sex" from their boyfriends for months had more stable relationships, more amicable breakups, and have longer lasting relationships than the former group.

This also is why I shrug off people showing me r/DeadBedrooms because a lot of the posts I see there had obvious red flags in their relationship (like the person was a massive asshole) but the situtation was only addressed as a problem once the sex stopped. Is a shitty relationship really worth a good nut? Really?

Let's not forget passion is very fleeting. I would not trust a person who makes big decisions on a whim. I'm certain that person is impulsive and that's definitely not a trait in a long term lover that you'd want.