This is what pathological need for male validation looks like

The “hot guy” at work started flirting with me and my husband took me out to dinner to celebrate

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There’s a new guy at work. As soon as he walked in, all the girls (and literally some of the guys) fell head over heels for him, and admittedly he’s one of the most universally attractive people I have ever met.

I’m married. Have been for 5 months now, to a man who I’ve been with for 8 years, and he is the love of my life.

Today I was at work, and this new guy got my previous clients. He came over and asked me a bit about them, and so we got to talking and he said “I’m going to have to apologize that I’m not as pretty as their previous intern.”, winked at me, and walked away.

Like I said, I’m married and I love my husband to the ends of the earth and then some, but I still think it’s cool that the guy who everyone is flirting with, is flirting with me. It’s honestly like a confidence booster and I was so excited, I immediately texted my husband and told him.

My husband has seen this guy walking around (and even ranked him a 10/10 himself) so he knew exactly who I was talking about, and he sent back “That’s godd*** right, THAT’S MY WIFE!”

When I got home from work, he gave me a huge hug and told me he is stoked he married me and he made dinner reservations and took me out to celebrate and it was awesome.

In all my previous relationships, I never would have told them because his flirting would have been met with anger. But my husband? I tell him and he is so excited and proud that someone with this guy’s looks flirted with me, that he bought me TWO slices of cheesecake for dessert.

He keeps saying he’s so lucky he married me.

But I can’t shake the feeling that I’m luckier <3

EDIT: First of all, I feel personally offended by people telling me to “not let it go to my head” or to “make sure it doesn’t go too far” or to “make sure I know our priorities”. Some of these comments have been left here, others have been sent as PM’s. I didn’t flirt back and I immediately told my husband, and that combined with his reaction should say enough to ease your already unnecessary (not to mention unkind) concerns. Stop judging me and my marriage from a snippet of a moment that made me smile, and just accept the oddity for what it is.

Secondly, maybe it is odd. But sometimes it’s the odd moments that make you go “Wait- how lucky am I?”

I didn’t add more story to this because I wanted to not be lengthy, but the reason I wanted to post this weird celebration and get it off my chest is because before my husband, I was in an abusive relationship. Controlling and manipulative to the point that another man smiled at me, and my ex tried to beat him up before getting intervened. He had me convinced that if I left, no one else would love me and I felt so trapped. But then I left. And I found this man who loves me. And sometimes we have these weird moments where I find myself comparing where I was then to where I am now, and this was one. I never would have told my ex because it would’ve resulted in days of silence and broken objects. But here I am, giddily telling my husband because I knew he’d have an equally giddy response and it’s odd, yes, but it’s one of those moments where I realize I found the love I never thought I’d have.

EDIT 2: I will not be posting pictures of any of us, beit me, my husband, or the new guy. My husband and I are private people, and I think posting a picture of the new guy without his permission would be an invasion of privacy.

As for why I told my husband, he loves when people flirt with me. He says it gives him a “second-hand high” knowing he is with “someone so attractive”, and I feel the same way when it happens with him. I always tell him when someone flirts with me (regardless of manner or appearance) and he does the same, and I was extra excited this time because he has commented on the new guy before and would know who I was talking about.

Also, after talking with my husband casually today, I believe a large portion of him making dinner reservations was because he was genuinely craving Italian food- though he did admit he still loves that this guy flirted with me and wanted to celebrate, so that’s why he got me two cheesecakes!