Perfect example of men having issues with your pets being a red flag! And this queen response!!!

Fuckdoesithurt956 · 2021-12-29T14:02:09+00:00

The fact he did a total 180 shows that he was never genuine and just saying what he thought she wanted to hear. When she refused him anyway he got angry and the mask slipped.

Cat_With_The_Fur · 2021-12-29T14:35:27+00:00

My favorite part is “I said that was concerning bc Crumb is a cat.” Men REALLY hate to be laughed at huh?

lanngloss · 2021-12-29T15:23:56+00:00

I love how he ended things like, “enjoy being alone forever”. Dude, she was almost stuck with a piece of shit like YOU. Alone forever is a vast improvement to his pathetic ass 😂

NoMoreLVM · 2021-12-29T14:06:00+00:00

This is the most pathetically fragile thing I’ve ever read

extraodi · 2021-12-29T14:52:56+00:00

Who gets jealous over a pet? That’s so weird.

Thestral-glow6 · 2021-12-29T12:35:17+00:00

He sounds like an absolute twat, I can’t stand men who behave this way around animals.. She’s well rid of him.

bleda_princezna · 2021-12-29T12:35:34+00:00

This guy is an absolute joke. 🤣 Seriously, jealous of a cat? Just because she takes care of her pet? Lol, he's got some issues.

East-Willingness513 · 2021-12-29T14:00:52+00:00

Crumb is probably more hygienic than the scrote.

ExpressionUnlikely23 · 2021-12-29T17:09:09+00:00

Pets are a great filter for men..I once briefly dated someone who was jealous of the attention and time my pet required (less attention and time for him!) and suggested I just leave the animal alone for the weekend with an automatic food dispenser so that I could stay over at his the whole weekend. He made the argument by declaring my pet wouldn’t care if I were dead, so why did I care so much about it? 🤡

Although I already had some suspicions he was a selfish jerk beneath the mask, I was still vetting him. The pet incident thankfully made his true colors clear sooner rather than later and I ended it ASAP

A guy worth dating will value the pet as his own and at a bare minimum be accommodating/understanding of its needs

Carneliancat · 2021-12-29T15:50:23+00:00

What a little, little man. She is well rid of such a pathetic, insecure, and controlling creature. Always choose your pets. Always.

the_wave5 · 2021-12-29T17:12:46+00:00

If you kiss your cat you'll kiss anyone??

Uh.. WHAT!?! What a fuckin leap. What an idiot.

sleepysiri · 2021-12-29T13:30:34+00:00

He’s jealous of a cat 💀

LittleWinn · 2021-12-29T14:24:01+00:00

Part of the reason I left my first husband, he punted my dog (toy poodle) one night while drunk. Could never stay with someone who abused animals. My dog survived thankfully, and live a long and happy life with me. RIP TRIXIE.

ferociouslycurious · 2021-12-29T15:19:25+00:00

Men will lie about it - have issues and stay silent, act like it’s OK, then get angry later.

Apprehensive_Ad_7917 · 2021-12-29T16:55:21+00:00

Don’t people with pets have better immune systems because of all the tiny exposures we have to more germs? I thought men were supposed to be more logical lmao

esthermaniii · 2021-12-29T18:15:21+00:00

He’s mad that she has boundaries and his manipulation tactics didn’t work on her. First it’s get rid of your cat, next it’s something else… she did herself a huge favor!

mothboon · 2021-12-29T17:31:53+00:00

Omg I briefly dated someone who disliked most animals, and actually insisted I washed my bedding and cleaned my house thoroughly before he came over due to his allergies.

Lol

I will always choose my kitties over any feeble scrote any day, without hesitation 😺💕

Buggy1218 · 2021-12-29T13:27:27+00:00

I remember this post. Loved her response! My cat is my baby. Anyone who suggested I compromise his quality of life for their preference would get immediately dumped.

Yes, I would 100% choose my cat over any man ever. Die mad about it lol.

BongSlurper · 2021-12-29T18:14:27+00:00

Omfg imagine being so insecure, you’re threatened by your partner being affectionate to their fucking cat 😂

HermiticalyKermit · 2021-12-29T18:26:20+00:00

That reminds me of someone I briefly talked to, who would beat their dog whenever the poor Labrador would wag its tail. I have never noped out faster than this time. I hope the family got them help and I hope the dog was taken away, after I raised the alarm.

JadeBaby2211 · 2021-12-29T13:56:39+00:00

If a man ever becomes moody between my pet and I, I will DEFINITELY covertly mock him as im breaking up with him haha. It's just too easy.

Olympia43 · 2021-12-29T13:52:06+00:00

Men litteraly do not wash their ass, yet they lecture us about how lack of hygien when we kiss our cat's head ?

Men litteraly put their dick into butter jelly or whatever, yet they lecture us about how kissing our cat's head is the same as kissing someone ?

They are the problem. We are not.

Davina33 · 2021-12-29T19:12:06+00:00

This is so fucked up. Cats are the cleanest animals around and I have no qualms about kissing my cat's head. Also we don't kiss with our teeth so what's the brushing teeth after thing about? That man is crazy and jealous of Crumb. Glad she dumped him.

lvrcalii · 2021-12-30T00:24:47+00:00

Jealousy of pets or children is a sign of serious mental health issues. If you see this red flag, consider it an absolute and immediate no. #addittoyourlist

galian84 · 2021-12-29T22:35:17+00:00

The amount of males who get jealous over a pet, or even their own children, is seriously disturbing.

Pets > male humans any day.

West-Cook · 2021-12-29T21:58:44+00:00

Always choose your pet over a partner!!

1) your pet loves you unconditionally. A partner, even a high value partner, will love you with conditions. 2) you have a moral responsibility to care for your pet; not so with a partner. Your partner should be able to care for itself. 3) you would always resent your partner if you had to give up your pet. 4) a hvm would recognize your pet as important, and he would show it. If he’s an hvm who can’t be with someone with a pet for whatever reason, he would find someone who matches that.

Also, this post though.

Him: acts jealous. Her: are you jealous? Him: hOw dARe yOu

SupremeDearLeader · 2021-12-29T22:22:57+00:00

I dumped a guy I was engaged to because he was mean to my pet rat , lovely sweet little creature, came when called,, loved being held not a mean bone in his body who was just trying to snuggle on him. The ex went on to be very successful, won an Emmy for his work and to this day I have ZERO REGRETS . Ride or die animal lover here , my beloved pets rank so much higher than any man ever could.

FI-REfox · 2021-12-29T23:36:20+00:00

The only Crumbs we should ever accepts are cats 😆

sheokay · 2021-12-29T23:22:40+00:00

Watch him slide into her dms when she sticks to her boundaries and doesn’t call him back.

Throwaway__FDS · 2021-12-30T00:11:21+00:00

this dude is fr beefing with a damn cat 🙄😂

brylm92 · 2021-12-29T22:21:58+00:00

Briefly dated a guy who hated all pets, including my beloved rodents - the third or so time he complained about them I told him I'd rather have rats than a boyfriend and he never mentioned it again 👍🏻

DrildoBagurren · 2021-12-29T23:24:49+00:00

This response had me in tears. 😂 Congratulations to the orignal Op for seeing straight through that BS.

For me it wasn't a cat, it was a job. It was a shit job that I hated and was supposed to be temporary but it was my job He hated it and constantly accused me of "choosing work over him. " Because he couldn't get me to just quit my job, he sabotaged me in whatever way possible. He would make me late, he would start fights before and after work. He would question my schedule and accuse me of cheating either on duty or leaving early to cheat.
It was bizarre and I couldn't make sense of it. Eventually I got fired because he made me late one too many times.

This guy sounds the same. He probably would have ended up acting similarly if OP would have been like me and not shut it down. (edit:. He could have also hurt the cat or suddently the cat may have "gone missing". A good number of people are sociopaths so this is unfortunately not far-fetched. )

If you have anything, anything that a narcissistic person believes is taking your time, energy and attention away from them then they are not fully in control and it is a threat.

Even if, like me, the "threat" is something you don't actually care about that much, no one gets to decide whether you take someone/thing out of your life for their benefit.

Edit: formatting.

preppykat3 · 2021-12-29T18:36:04+00:00

They don’t dare put up with women who don’t like their pets. I’ve had a guy straight up rage at me just because I was afraid of his dog. I told him I had two dogs bite me in my childhood, so I needed time to warm up to someone’s dog and that I still enjoyed dogs but was mostly a cat person, and he started ranting about how I hate animals. Like wtf? I tried to correct him and he got even more arrogant. Granted he was 5’5 (shortest guy I’ve ever given a chance).. so I guess that would explain some things.

mashibeans · 2021-12-29T23:44:10+00:00

Him: Claims she has no boundaries

Her: literally upholds a boundary just a few moments before

Make it make sense!

Daydreamingon · 2021-12-30T03:25:05+00:00

My ex was jealous of my dog and hated him. This wasn’t the only red flag I chose to ignore. He turned out to be a psycho with a smelly floppy dick that only got hard when I cried! Thank god I came to my senses hey!

DarbyGirl · 2021-12-29T21:03:30+00:00

Glad she dumped him. Imagine being insecure over a PET.

My ex was constantly trying to get me to give up my animals, or promise I wouldn't have more. Why? Because he was jealous of the attention I gave them and that they gave me. He hated my cats, but I had them when we met and he thought I'd "grow out of them". He was jealous of my rescue pup, I put a lot of effort into building her confidence and training her. He was jealous that she didn't just warm up to him and come to greet him at the door like she did me. Even that she would get up and move away from him and to me when he invaded her space. Anytime I'd complain I was tired or whatnot (because I got no help at all unless I asked) he'd be like "well I know lots of people who would take her". Chrissakes fucknut that is not the point. Occasionally he'd give me the "you seem like you'd be happy living on your own with just your pets and not me".

Well. He was right. I am.

AutoModerator · 2021-12-29T12:28:18+00:00

[1] - We Just Launched a Website: wwww.TheFemaleDatingStrategy.com. Click here for registration information. Please also join our Twitter and Instagram Pages for updates!
[2] - Listen to The Female Dating Strategy Podcast
[3] - Please read the FDS Handbook and Wiki before commenting. Repeated comments demonstrating lack of basic sub knowledge will result in a temporary or permanent ban.
[4] - Please REPORT any comments that do not follow the sub rules. If you do not report it, the mods will not see it.
[5] - PLEASE REMOVE ALL PERSONAL IDENTIFIABLE INFORMATION from images (Name, Location, Job description, education, phone number, etc). Failure to remove ID info will result in a 1-2 day ban. Repeated failures will result in a permanent ban.
[6] - This sub is FEMALE ONLY. All comments from men will be removed and you will be banned. DO NOT REPLY TO MALE TROLLS!! Please DOWNVOTE and REPORT immediately.

I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please contact the moderators of this subreddit if you have any questions or concerns.

CrazyPaine · 2021-12-30T08:11:25+00:00

I have 2 dogs and 2 cats. I'll choose them any day tbh. I'll be a lonely dog and cat lady. If he can't respect pets or even do things for my pets then I really don't need them in my life. Besides they can sense things that sometimes you can't sense and they're in tune with their instincts.

TriggeredQuilt · 2021-12-30T09:44:55+00:00

Compared kissing animals to cheating…did I get that right? 🤡

Patsy_Stone_darling · 2021-12-29T13:28:00+00:00

Literally the minute my ex was out the door, he typed up a HUGE message of scrote yapping to my best friend.

The part that stuck out to both of us the most was that he admitted to being jealous of my elderly pets and how much time and attention I give them. Apparently food twice a day, daily walks, medications, brushing as needed etc really ate into watching the scrote play video games, ignore me, and scratch his balls?

These are pets I've had for 10+ years, long before the scrote came into my life. Pets that my ex claimed to love, but could never get off his ass to let them outside or refill the water bowl.

I'll never date a man who doesn't have a pet that he takes immaculate care of (my standards are very high in this regard, I spent $2200 last month when my cat got a kidney infection, rather than euthanizing her for a quarter of the cost).

If a man can't handle caring for a cat or dog, he can't handle caring for a partner. I have met too many people who think you can leave a dog home alone all weekend and crap like that, and they always end up being a NV as you can get

AphoticEnigma_ · 2021-12-30T01:14:22+00:00

Question does the same apply if I don’t like a guys pets

It’s not personal I just don’t like animals that shed hair/fur, so I wouldn’t want to date someone with pets,

NotYourBizThrowAway · 2022-01-04T03:39:36+00:00

Pets are such a huge deal! I dated two men who were very bad dog dads 🚩The first one would never take his dog on walks and I was always the one to initiate taking her out or doing stuff with her.

My other exes dog was a super reactive-fearful aggressive 70lb female German shepherd, who desperately needed REAL professional training with mental stimulation. When I brought this up he did not believe me. I was not able to trust his dog with my cat because of how he viewed her behavior as a non issue. I could never see us living together. He was even going to introduce them without me present while I was away on vacation!

All of my friends have agreed, pets are a huge factor to consider while dating.

Title	Perfect example of men having issues with your pets being a red flag! And this queen response!!!
Author	capresesalad1985
Upvotes	530
Comments	85
Date	December 29, 2021 12:28 PM UTC (4 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/FemaleDatingStrategy
Original Link	https://old.reddit.com/r/FemaleDatingStrategy/comments/rr73ig/perfect_example_of_men_having_issues_with_your/
Archive Link	https://theredarchive.com/r/FemaleDatingStrategy/perfect-example-of-men-having-issues-with-your.1090104 https://theredarchive.com/post/1090104

Comments