Q4W: If you discovered a man wore a hair piece after having sex with him, how would you feel?

Kitchen_Apartment · 2022-04-16T03:19:29+00:00

I had a guy friend in college going bald that got a hair piece. Honestly, his confidence skyrocketed and I thought it looked so much better. He’s had a girlfriend since too so seems to be working out.

Women get extensions. More men should invest in their beauty too tbh

the_lazy_orange · 2022-04-16T03:43:41+00:00

Ive seen the videos of ones they “glue” or whatever onto the guys head and the transformations are amazing! Live your best happiest life. If shes upset, she’s immature.

IWillKeepYourSecret · 2022-04-16T04:05:00+00:00

I don't think I'd really care? Apparently it doesn't look fake, so it's not really an issue for me. It's not like he absolutely has to disclose something like that before we hook up; it's obviously something he's embarrassed about. I don't talk about my bacne on the first date either.

My first reaction would probably be to ask him questions, but I'd also tell him he doesn't have to talk about it if he doesn't want to.

My opinion about it is the same with plastic surgery or any other appearance altering methods. Good looks are RNG-based. Some people have the luck of being attractive, others don't. Why shit on a guy for working towards a specific appearance while applauding other men who got those traits "for free"?

We don't feel deceived when our partner's wearing contact lenses or if they had braces.

bluestjuice · 2022-04-16T02:43:15+00:00

I’ve really never seen a hairpiece in the wild. I think it’d be kind of fascinating. I feel like I’d have so many questions.

Novadina · 2022-04-16T03:15:56+00:00

I wouldn’t really care or react, like if I saw him wearing a hat or something. Hopefully it would be a sign that he wouldn’t be prejudice about my hair issues.

gagalinabee · 2022-04-16T05:29:38+00:00

I wouldn’t care lmao. If I’m fucking him i must have liked more than his hair.

Juanskengdrick99 · 2022-04-16T07:02:57+00:00

I would feel glad he wants to look good instead of giving up and be bald, which is something I don’t find attractive at all. It makes men look very old and sometimes even sick. In general I think a head piece or hair transplant are great and should be normalised.

Hrquestiob · 2022-04-16T06:09:24+00:00

If it was obvious or a bit awkward looking, I might be somewhat taken aback. But if it looked natural and I only realized once he told me, I wouldn’t really have much of a reaction at all. Feeling “betrayed” is too dramatic of a reaction to something so insignificant. I’d be glad he found something that made him feel good about himself. I’d equate this situation to a woman getting lip filler or lash extensions. If it makes you feel good about yourself, do it.

Darling_its_sick · 2022-04-16T02:41:58+00:00

My hands would be in his hair before that so I’d find out ahead of time. I would tell him it’s ok to take it off.

YoviQ · 2022-04-16T02:36:00+00:00

Why would I care about something like that?

RealNiceLady · 2022-04-16T02:42:41+00:00

Do you feel betrayed / violated / deceived or do you accept that the man is just trying to look his best?

Do you continue to date him?

I feel deceived but I would not hold it against him. I would date him still.

briiiana1122 · 2022-04-16T05:02:32+00:00

I wouldn’t feel betrayed but it would be odd. To my knowledge I’ve never known someone to wear one, i think it’s pretty standard just to shave your head if you are losing your hair, isn’t it?

gladusgates · 2022-04-16T05:42:16+00:00

I don't expect much sympathy from women in the comments, just had a look through...and hardly any sympathy spotted. As I say, men worry about yourselves.

ididntwanttoexist · 2022-04-16T04:24:20+00:00

Someone using a hairpiece wouldn't bother me in general, but I'd never realistically sleep with someone after only going on a few dates, more like several months after the relationship is established and feelings are involved. If after that long he's still not comfortable telling me, it would probably be a red flag. I wouldn't mind if someone didn't tell me until they knew me better, but if he's still sneaking around trying to fix it without me noticing at that point in the relationship, I probably would feel betrayed, and also suspicious about what other things he could be hiding that that may be more serious. I really can't stand being deceived, even if the thing doesn't actually matter in and of itself.

Remarkable_Ad_2469 · 2022-04-16T03:36:58+00:00

I'd have no problem with dating a guy who has a hair piece. As long as it's professional and realistic looking ,if not I'd help guide him in the right direction. Hair unit for men can take 10-20 years off them . It's crazy how hair makes people look so youthful. In fact I watch alot of YT videos about individuals that get their hair styled with thickening fibers , hair units and full frontal wigs. Believe these are apart of everyday society now , well they are for those in the know about newer hair products, wigs, and male units. No shame in your game trying to look good. What's good for goose is good for the gander!!!!

Diddy_1978 · 2022-04-16T04:08:11+00:00

Nah, I don't think you have to announce "I am actually bald! Alert: My hair is not real!" before you sleep with anyone.

Bitch, your lashes ain't real. Let's not tear each other down.

Everyone does what they got to to look good. Wearing fake hair is like wearing a push-up bra or a good shirt.

Whether they agree to another date is up to them. You can suggest something and leave it up to them.

They could reject you because of the hair, or it could be a million other reasons.

lotsofhubris · 2022-04-16T02:34:30+00:00

If you wake up in the morning and look at her without make up ….

Ainsleygz · 2022-04-16T03:42:08+00:00

If it makes him feel good about himself I wouldn’t care

womandatory · 2022-04-16T06:33:36+00:00

This is a great question and I’m frankly surprised at some of the answers that women are saying it wouldn’t bother them.

I’ve dated a guy who dyed his hair and I see no issue with that, but I’m probably not going to date a guy who wears a wig.

For me it’s about being with someone who has similar ideals to me. I wouldn’t wear a hair extension or fake piece, I don’t do fake eyelashes, nails, fillers or botox either. I don’t wear push I bras or shapewear. I do dye my hair and wear a little concealer and mascara and lip gloss for work or out on a date, but that’s it. I’m not into presenting more than my authentic self, even if it’s a little rough at times, because I have a reasonable degree of confidence and a level of acceptance of my reality.

That said, I’ve been blessed with pretty good genes, so I’m tall, in good physical shape for my age, and I take care of my skin (though I didn’t always).

I run and work out and sweat like a pig when I do, so fake lashes are just going to be a waste of money. I garden and do home maintenance and basic car repairs, so fake nails aren’t an option. I would rather spend the money on a nice dinner, or save for a holiday.

If a guy was attractive enough for me to date, I’d be fine with him being bald, and I’d prefer bald/shaved to a hairpiece.

So I guess if this happened to me and I wouldn’t expect it to, given I don’t hook up, I’d probably say “Come back to bed, and leave that behind”.

januaryphilosopher · 2022-04-16T08:10:13+00:00

Oh cool, that could've been a problem but he fixed it. I'd be more confused as to how we'd already had sex but I didn't know about it, although that's because I'd have sex substantially later than that.

SwimmingTheme3736 · 2022-04-16T08:21:56+00:00

I would have no issues at all why would I?

I have worn hair extensions nail extensions lash extensions in the past

Mrs_Drgree · 2022-04-16T02:39:42+00:00

I'd laugh at him about it. Might still date him if I liked him anyway.

KikiYuyu · 2022-04-16T03:07:20+00:00

I'd probably just tell him to stop wearing it. I think wearing one is silly.

2022-04-16T03:25:19+00:00

I guess similar to a guy when he discovers the boobs are silicone. No big deal.

2022-04-16T03:36:51+00:00

Idk. I wouldn't care too much beyond the fact that it's unfortunate he has such severe hair loss at a young age (assuming I'm dating someone around my age). I don't think I'd feel betrayed or anything, maybe just suprised.

hornyjailer1 · 2022-04-16T03:45:41+00:00

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Im_The_Daiquiri_Man · 2022-04-21T20:01:12+00:00

Bald is hot. Shave that shit baby.

flapperfemmefatale · 2022-04-16T02:51:38+00:00

I like pulling a guy's hair during sex. So this sounds like an unlikely scenario.

pokemin49 · 2022-04-16T16:07:42+00:00

Great Q. 😂 Men need to escalate the arms race of fraud that women started.

2022-04-16T04:19:15+00:00

I pull hair and don’t do hookups so I don’t see that happening. If it did I’d be grossed out, long hair is a big thing for me, can’t do bald.

SnooCats37 · 2022-04-16T09:05:15+00:00

Have you ever seen a guy with a hair piece? There’s no missing it. It’s incredibly obvious. Unless you get it glued to your head and then you wouldn’t be adjusting it.

In short, a hair piece is taking no one by surprise. If she is sleeping with a guy with a hair piece, she already knows

2022-04-16T04:36:12+00:00

i would feel betrayed if he hadn’t told me about it earlier. and i would no longer date him.

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Stunning-Potato-1984 · 2022-04-16T03:40:17+00:00

I'd just walk in and ask if it's uncomfortable to wear. If he was cool yeah I'd still see him. I'd just feel bad he felt the need to invest in a sex proof hair piece. But sometimes my eyelashes are fake so who am I to judge.

I was once fooling around with a guy and he made a comment about how thick my hair was, not that it was all over the place, but how thick it was. I thought that was a weird comment and thought if he made it, there has to be a reason. So I looked at the top of his head discreetly and sure enough it was thinning. He wore it in a way you couldn't tell unless you were looking closely.

I made a mental note that was an insecurity from him and we kept making out.

I don't know why this is such a thing for guys.

groovygirl858 · 2022-04-16T03:46:51+00:00

I might be surprised if I didn't have a clue he wore a hair piece, but I wouldn't feel betrayed or deceived. I wouldn't think anything of it and would still date him.

2022-04-16T04:17:53+00:00

It would depend on how I already felt about him. If I already didn’t care for him or was on the fenced I would like him less. If I liked him or leaned toward liking him, it would make no difference.

Kalvaire · 2022-04-16T05:01:27+00:00

I'd give him tips on how to keep it and buy him new pieces :)

Particular-Rabbit539 · 2022-04-16T05:18:42+00:00

People have partial dental, crowning, hair extensions, and possible other cosmetic enhancement surgery to look and feel better. Hairpiece falls in that category. Not everyone is eligible or can afford a hair transplant. It's a weird starter conversation to have to reveal what you have on is fake.

I still date.

You'll look past their hairline and they might be open to being vulnerable with their insecurities.

mandoa_sky · 2022-04-16T05:33:52+00:00

i think honesty is the policy re most things so i'd assume i'd know ahead of sexy times what I'm getting myself into.

ChicNoir · 2022-04-16T06:23:51+00:00

Not a big deal as far as I’m concerned. As women, we make a number of alterations to our bodies.

robot_bones · 2022-04-16T06:40:30+00:00

I find it funny that betrayed or violated is an option but lol they are in fact common reactions.

DanielleK95 · 2022-04-16T08:18:30+00:00

I don't care, I mean you can get a lot worse issues that could come out after sex. Like STDs 😂

My boyfriend had a hair system because he started to lose his hair at 15. Now he's confident enough to not need it and it suits him so much better clean-shaven. Girls have extentions, nothing wrong with a guy caring about his appearance.

HungryPomegranate420 · 2022-04-16T08:27:09+00:00

I think I would be surprised at first but then again I honestly wouldn't care, since I wear fake lashes and that's pretty much the same thing.

2022-04-16T09:28:16+00:00

Wouldn’t care.

Texan2116 · 2022-04-16T10:56:41+00:00

Is a hair piece the male equivalent of fake tits?

2022-04-16T10:58:32+00:00

I'm really I to hair and like running my fingers through it and holding on to it during sex. So this scenario would never come up.

Karaokoki · 2022-04-16T12:14:30+00:00

There's absolutely nothing wrong with doing something that increases your confidence. So my immediate internal reaction would be, "Good for him!"

Cupcakelover1985 · 2022-04-16T12:20:45+00:00

I wouldn’t see a problem with it. It’s the same as women getting hair extensions.

hhhhhhikkmvjjhj · 2022-04-16T12:24:56+00:00

I’m bald and I’ve been thinking about it. However my skin is a bit sensitive, so i would most likely get an allergic reaction to the glue. Also the glue smells from what I’ve heard.

1-800-wandsthetic · 2022-04-16T13:24:58+00:00

It is just a hair piece, not like he is secretly a serial killer. Just ask him about it and then fire a few questions

dysonRing · 2022-04-16T14:09:31+00:00

It would go just like this

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=L37Rckt5WFA

GlowingAsItDazzles · 2022-04-16T14:14:08+00:00

i pretty much only liked men with long hair (or shaved heads), do they make long hair hairpieces? i wouldnt feel "deceived" but i cant imagine liking a man with a hairpiece because he would already probably have a style thats not my niche. i would encourage him to shave his head and grow a beard, but if he was my type of guy hed already be doing that

poppy_blu · 2022-04-16T16:34:31+00:00

Wouldn’t care. If he looked good without I’d recommend he shave it all off and go bald because I love me a sexy bald man.

Katatonicsnake · 2022-04-16T16:38:05+00:00

Unless I was super into him, I would probably end it. I don’t wear makeup, heels, push-up bra, or anything like that, so I expect the same honesty back.

wineandchillax · 2022-04-16T18:47:23+00:00

I watched some YouTube videos of men getting hair weave installed. Some of them went from looking like a typical middle aged guy to a trendy 30 year old guy. I wouldn’t mind it as long as it looks good. Everyone wants to be confident in their appearance and as much as folks want to deny it looks matter.

DivineDaedra · 2022-04-16T18:49:15+00:00

I’d be surprised but the only thing that would bother me would be knowing he slept with it on to keep it hidden. It would make me sad to know that he’s insecure about it but that’s it.

I’ll readily admit that hair is a big deal for me aesthetically and I know that if I lost some or all of my hair for any reason I would feel the need to wear a wig. I’d gladly support any partner of mine in making similar choices.

WarezMyDinrBitc · 2022-04-16T21:08:45+00:00

How is this any different from a woman wearing makeup or spanks or any other body shaping attire? How often has a woman ever been just what you expected her to be when she took her clothes off?

baby-in-dacorner · 2022-04-16T21:21:53+00:00

So if a man gets a hairpiece, doesn’t tell a woman, and she finds out about it…it’s admirable and no big deal.

But if a man gets lifts and doesn’t disclose his height and a woman finds out about it….it’s coercive or sexual deception.

How does this make sense?

pearllovespink · 2022-04-16T22:36:13+00:00

I would be disappointed that he’s not comfortable in his own skin but I wouldn’t leave him. If he’s more comfortable with hair who cares. Women wear extensions all the time.

Im_The_Daiquiri_Man · 2022-04-16T22:59:01+00:00

If you met a woman who had a nice rack and was cute and friendly, but during sex you learned one of breasts had been subject to a mastectomy and she wears a special bra.

Good reason to stop dating her?

doggiedoc2004 · 2022-04-16T23:38:42+00:00

Good hair piece or shaved head is totally acceptable especially if all other metrics are good. Even if I found out about it after sex. Shitty hair piece or weird shaped head would probably not fly. I’ve dated a guy who shaved his head periodically and I found it very attractive especially with his dress style and persona (drove a Harley, lots of tats, high level mechanic at an industrial plant)

g0juice · 2022-04-17T00:06:30+00:00

Imagine a girl then one day you see her after she washes her face. Mind blown.

IcarusKiki · 2022-04-17T02:26:17+00:00

i wouldnt care

RinoaRita · 2022-04-17T04:11:28+00:00

I wouldn’t be mad. If it look good enough for me to be attracted to him I would chalk it up to exactly the same as women using make up for the first few dates but when they get comfortable and weekend long sleep overs start being a thing you keep your natural self around.

If the guy usually wears it to work/social outing etc but just takes a break from it at night/after showering etc I wouldn’t care. If the guy stops it all together I might be a little miffed and be mad because I want his hair piece to be a normal part of his daily grooming routine.

houstongradengineer · 2022-04-17T10:42:28+00:00

Hairpiece? Like... a wig? Is that what you mean? I just want to be clear.

I would be disappointed that he wore something so restrictive while getting intimate with me. You take off stuff like that for sex. Everyone should be comfortable at an intimate time like that, which is why it can't happen within the first few months of knowing someone.

SudaneseCharm · 2022-04-17T20:49:39+00:00

"You collect your straggling hairs on each side, Marinus, endeavouring to conceal the vast expanse of your shining bald pate by the locks which still grow on your temples. But the hairs disperse, and return to their own place with every gust of wind; flanking your bare pole on either side with crude tufts. We might imagine we saw Hermeros of Cydas standing between Spendophorus and Telesphorus. Why not confess yourself an old man? Be content to seem what you really are, and let the barber shave off the rest of your hair. There is nothing more contemptible than a bald man who pretends to have hair." - Martial

Why lie about yourself? More honor in not practicing deception, a beautiful quote by Martial, let’s us know that the ancients were not so stupid after all.

Reisiluu · 2022-04-17T23:33:53+00:00

I'd prefer an all natural man but if it looked so realistic I couldn't tell then I guess it doesn't really matter. It's pretty common to have fake hair these days.

LittleDragonMaiden · 2022-04-17T23:38:23+00:00

It’s not a big deal to me. A natural head of hair is attractive but I’m not going to knock a man down for doing what he can to fit in beauty standards. Women wear hair extensions, men can too.

penguintransformer · 2022-04-18T16:39:26+00:00

I wouldn't care. I wear a wig once in a while. It's not a big deal.

2022-04-18T22:20:10+00:00

I wouldn’t care, although if I was in an LTR that’s something to disclose early on because I think keeping big secrets like that is wrong, being bald is genetic so like many conditions it should be known

nemma88 · 2022-04-19T01:04:50+00:00

Dude, get the hair piece it will be fine.

2022-04-19T02:16:33+00:00

I have thick hair ...I can offer him few one

2022-04-19T02:47:58+00:00

flapperfemmefatale · 2022-04-22T14:29:16+00:00

I usually try to announce my intention

Q4W: If you discovered a man wore a hair piece after having sex with him, how would you feel?

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