ALL men who want to date should go to the gym and take care of themselves, and women are reasonable to demand that.

wtknight · 2023-04-14T00:20:25+00:00

Flaired CMV as this post is making an affirmative claim

Apprehensive_Boat_70 · 2023-04-14T00:14:44+00:00

If i do, can i date a virgin or at least a low n woman? she doesnt has to go to the gym and she can be a bit chubby, i dont mind, so if i do this, can i set that standard for my potential partners?

authroplura · 2023-04-14T02:01:51+00:00

I think everyone not just men should go to the gym because working out is insanely good for your health. Your bones need the physical stress to get and stay strong, your cardiovascular system also loves exercise. This attitude of having to go to the gym as some sort of punishment or sign a person is like a hustler Uber adult or something is so cringe. Like do people pat themselves on the back for brushing their teeth or wiping their ass? I wish more fully grown adults would just normalize doing activities their bodies need to function optimally without expecting an Oscar for it.

Teflon08191 · 2023-04-14T00:13:37+00:00

Women who do the same are reasonable to demand that.

So around ~30% of them. The rest are overweight.

odd_cloud · 2023-04-14T01:25:26+00:00

Yeah, also everyone knows men have 5-6 hours more in a week than women, so it’s so easy to go to the gym.

Why would I criticise women for demanding athleticism from men? Because women usually don’t spend as much time in the gym. Also, because many women underestimate amount of effort a man has to put into his body. It seems like many suppose that a guy can exercise 5 minutes a day and have a six pack.

The “builder” argument’s weak too. Some of my friends “build” the world by having 12-14 hour workdays and overnights. It’s not so easy to go the gym with such schedules.

Existing-Sign4804 · 2023-04-14T01:00:48+00:00

Meh. I hate the gym. Prefer to get my exercise naturally with daily walks, etc. I wouldn’t want a gym rat. Also, I liked my men a bit chubby for the cuddles. Lots of women do. Chubby dudes are usually still strong enough to move furniture etc.

99TimesAround · 2023-04-14T04:39:18+00:00

The entitlement is just oozing out of every pore of this shitpost

lolthankstinder · 2023-04-14T04:47:05+00:00

I think the gym is one of the most dull and boring hobbies in existence and appeals to two kinds of people: (A) those who have an easier time turning their brain off to pick shit up and put it back down again; (B) fucked up guys afraid to be alone with their thoughts relying on the brain-numbing monotony and endorphins.

Liftaboveall · 2023-04-14T00:12:25+00:00

Cool if we're gonna go there then women have to be chaste, stay at home, cook, clean, mind the children, and not be fat

Deal?

Deal

MxMaster9907 · 2023-04-14T03:40:07+00:00

Men strong, men protect, men attack

Loud_Definition6669 · 2023-04-14T00:23:43+00:00

Most of the hot guys I knew in my 20s just rode a bike or walked around town and played pick up basketball and shit with their friends. They had good enough genetics and didn't eat like shit.

Neither_Cricket7140 · 2023-04-14T13:00:14+00:00

Funny when half women in the West looks like whales.

jay10033 · 2023-04-14T00:24:08+00:00

Women shouldn't be fat

VehementlyDrawn · 2023-04-14T00:50:34+00:00

All women who want to date should get on the treadmill so they're not fat, and men are reasonable to demand that.

Plus-Enthusiasm2987 · 2023-04-14T01:20:27+00:00

You're skirting the real problem: women have way more demands, and in total, they aren't reasonable.

InjectAdrenochrome · 2023-04-14T02:43:58+00:00

I dont care about guys hitting the gym or not. I date unathletic and athletic guys. Face >>>> all other physical attributes including wealth. The only thing that tops face in my opinion is charisma. Charismatic people will have you eating out of the palm of their hand real fast.

I am not super active but I have accidentally become underweight before due to just forgetting to eat so I don't have any weight issues. Tendency to lose/gain weight very easily as well. A week of overeating will easily add 5 lbs, a couple weeks of not feeling like making food and all of a sudden I've lost 20 lbs (!!!)

DrTheeporiThirumugam · 2023-04-14T03:20:29+00:00

Men HAVE TO be strong because they are meant to be.

We live in a society where brain creates more resources than brute strength. Personally, I make a ton of money which I'll never make if I'm not sitting behind a desk most days.

I agree that everyone in general should be fit but expecting all men to be built like cbum is unrealistic. Some of us have careers and poor genetics restricting us.

96tillinfinity_ · 2023-04-14T00:29:51+00:00

Being fit is not hard. It is mind blowing to me that men cant put down McDonalds and Chipotle for a damn month

Shit you do not even need to completely eliminate them from your diet

Steakman1 · 2023-04-14T02:54:36+00:00

Going to the gym is one thing. Looking like the fitness influencers who are very likely on steroids or at least have a super strict diet is another thing. Respect to those that are able to maintain a strict diet. But unless women are going to at least assist their men in maintaining those strict diets, then I don’t think they’re in as strong of a position to demand it.

ComfortableOk5003 · 2023-04-14T03:01:41+00:00

I honestly feel everyone should go to the gym and take care of themselves

WowYouMustBeJoking · 2023-04-14T13:27:35+00:00

Strength is something men are supposed to have traditionally. So, it is reasonable for women to demand that if those women are traditional themselves.

TurtleDickSlap · 2023-04-14T16:44:49+00:00

Why should I give a shit about what women want?

We live in an era where women proudly flaunt obesity as a badge of honor and then, if a man dares to have standards, he is shamed as "fAtPhObIc" for it. What's the point of getting into shape and taking care of ourselves for women when they can't be bothered to do the same.

Hell, you can't even get them to smile without it being seen as "mYsOgYNy"

BioNipple · 2023-04-14T23:40:12+00:00

Tried. Got friend zoned 17 times. Next question.

KirthWGersen · 2023-04-14T06:12:08+00:00

That is all well and good, BUT: the guys I know who are most attractive to women, in terms of how easily and often they have sex with them, do not go to the gym and build their muscles. Nor are they taller than average. One thing they do all have in common is that they are not overweight and are extroverted around women.

What they don't have is the lack of self-esteem that drives them to get big to get sex.

What they do have is a great ability to connect with a woman's emotions and lead the interaction towards sex. They are fun and interesting to be around, and appear to be non-judgemental.

In other words game beats muscles almost every time.

Mobrowncheeks · 2023-04-14T00:14:36+00:00

Idk about you guys but I work in a office.

Anyway you not gonna get to far fitness wise if you do it cause you want some coochie. The kind of man who maintains his body because it’s important to him and his lifestyle is much more attractive then the guy doing curls for the girls.

GoneHippocamping_ · 2023-04-14T00:33:18+00:00

Well some people don't like going to the gym and prefer working out at home or running or swimming you know

YakubTheAlmighty · 2023-04-14T00:47:15+00:00

You shouldn’t have to go to the gym to get a 4/10 woman. Women only care about face. If you’re ugly, you’re ugly. Plus, I don’t want to age faster & get a heart attack in my 40s so no gym for me

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jimmiefan48forever · 2023-04-14T00:13:39+00:00

This is a fair expectation, however you can’t expect a strong man if you’re also not willing to keep up with your appearance. Women are supposed to be the one that attracts the man, therefore you gotta look good too.

Rumin8ting_ · 2023-04-14T00:25:20+00:00

What. Everyone should be taking care of themselves to some degree (hygiene, general appearance meaning simple grooming like a hair cut, and not eating themselves to death) because it’s good for your health and also generally basic human decency (the hygiene part). But no one should be obligated to go to the gym, that’s kind of weird of you bro. I like chubbier guys to begin with anyway so i wouldn’t even be into a ripped dude

AlmostKindaGreat · 2023-04-14T01:26:46+00:00

Personally, my problem has never been that women have demands or their own idea of a man's attractiveness. It's that it is misrepresented by conventional wisdom and almost invariably by women themselves.

I just wanted to know from the beginning what I actually had to do to be attractive to women. I could have saved myself a lot of pain, rejection, and embarrassment if this were the case.

SkookumTree · 2023-04-14T02:51:08+00:00

First of all: I hope you are doing okay and I love your username. Bitch is Beautiful.

2023-04-14T04:42:50+00:00

Deathmaxxing in the gym to get a 4/10 girl that’ll cheat on you for a skinny pretty boy with no muscle. Yes, sounds amazing 😍

januaryphilosopher · 2023-04-14T09:13:33+00:00

You really don't need to be that physically strong to be useful enough for basic household tasks. Maybe it'd be a problem if you were disabled or obese or something, but otherwise, I don't know what would need to be done that one or both of you can't handle even without going to the gym. You're strong enough already to perform any responsibilities you might have and you don't need to get stronger. Preferences for muscles, for those who even have them, are mainly aesthetic, and that's fine.

gate18 · 2023-04-14T10:57:49+00:00

Have you not seen fat men in relationships? If you have why do you sound as if all women demand that?

One of the men's responsibilities in life is strength. Men have to be strong, because women are the weaker sex, at least physically.

Why do they have to be strong? (especially if they have stronger naturally).

When was the last time your life was saved by your muscles that a non-gym-going person would fail? When was elon musk, Decaprio (the most un-fit popular people) in need of muscle?

So, why some men here criticize women for having "physical" standards?

They like criticising people (especially women) but it doesn't mean their preferences are anything other than preference.

What if she wants to carry some furniture from one place to the other?

You call a few of your fat friends. Have you never seen men will a belly move furniture? Really?

Though even if you live in a gym, you still aren't a cartoon character that can move furniture as if it's nothing.

If her man can't do it, who will?

There are people you can call.

Men HAVE TO be strong because they are meant to be

Which god said that?

They have more testosterone and they have more muscles, so why shame women for demanding that?

So what the fuck are you talking about? If they "have more testosterone and they have more muscles" why go to the gym? They "have more testosterone and they have more muscles" right? Let women that "have [less] testosterone and they have [less] muscles" get some.

Still, women that prefer gym goers should not be made to feel ashamed. But if they act as if their preference is superior, they are absolutely wrong.

No-You7911 · 2023-04-14T13:51:46+00:00

Reverse that,

All women who want relationships should go to the gym and take care of themselves and men are reasonable to demand that.

This argument can be said for nearly every preference and or attribute anyone prefers in a spouse. From income level, weight, looks, behaviors and mannerisms.

abaxeron · 2023-04-14T15:09:52+00:00

so why shame women for demanding that?

Because what women demand - blue eyes, intact hairline, 6+ft height, - very often has nothing to do with being strong and/or going to the gym and/or being a good builder or protector.

Anxious-Tailor-7182 · 2023-04-14T17:04:09+00:00

I didn't go to the gym and I dated women. So it isn't needed.

TheS3KT · 2023-04-14T18:58:45+00:00

Wow the levels of misandry. Rivals some misogynists.

Reasonable_Volume_96 · 2023-04-14T21:08:52+00:00

I guess I agree that it's reasonable that women are interested in men they find attractive rather than giving people a chance when they have no interest - buuuuuut I don't think anyone should demand that.

Plenty of dudes who don't go to the gym still take care of themselves without being jacked and that is fine. No one should have to demand what they want - if someone lacks something you desire, the easiest thing to do is not date them and look for someone who already has a similar mindset to your own about personal health and beauty.

zedaoisok · 2023-04-17T00:58:26+00:00

Separate-Ground3196 · 2023-04-17T06:11:18+00:00

I don’t have time for that and I don’t care what women think.

Title	ALL men who want to date should go to the gym and take care of themselves, and women are reasonable to demand that.
Author	sadbitch55
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Date	April 14, 2023 12:07 AM UTC (3 years ago)
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