Whats holding you back from getting a Girlfriend?

fmfhza · 2024-06-30T01:26:06+00:00

i don’t know where to meet people in my town and dating apps are a nightmare

TheRobot89 · 2024-06-30T01:45:55+00:00

Inability to socialize/form relationships with people due to very poor social skills, having insecurities and no real interests. These are of course all things in my control, so this can change. I ultimately just need to want it enough to make that happen, which is easier said than done.

TheGreatZay_ · 2024-06-30T02:17:44+00:00

Nothing, just rejections

drunkenWINO · 2024-06-30T02:18:02+00:00

My spouse

Suspicious-Nebula-22 · 2024-06-30T01:42:05+00:00

Myself basically. I'm my own worst enemy in certain cases.

TheFinalZebra · 2024-06-30T02:01:12+00:00

Probably not looks, though being average height and brown nowadays definitely excludes me from dating apps, even though Im pretty muscular.

Simple, I don't meet many women, like ever. I also don't make small talk with people I don't know, male or female, introversion moment

I lack community, a place where I can consistently meet many women AND spend time with them on a regular basis, forming bonds that may blossom into something more over time. (Im in college and people legit jsut go to class and leave, its weird, like everyone is alone but together, unless you're one of the lucky ones in a clique or something)

Im gonna loose my v ccard to a prostitute this summer then when i go to my second year of college I plan to be heavily involved in at least 3 orgs that I'd enjoy, if it happens, it happens, if not, idc anymore

PPothy · 2024-06-30T02:31:40+00:00

Overweight (I need to lose at least 50 pounds to be average)
Poor Social Skills (I suck at holding conversations with people)
Lack of Interests (I live a boring life and have basic/ boring interests)

vecter · 2024-06-30T01:54:18+00:00

OP if you want to become a successful entrepreneur, people skills are a must. I’d reflect on your behavior or seek guidance on this matter

Few-Organization8240 · 2024-06-30T03:47:45+00:00

Shot_Lawfulness1541 · 2024-06-30T05:20:27+00:00

Dense as fuck and broke

immaculate-vibe-s · 2024-06-30T02:20:36+00:00

I quickly realized that I haven’t found the ideal girl yet. Even though the girls I have met have been amazing and have taught me a lot about relationships, I don’t think I would ever settle down with them simply because they would not have the same lifestyle as me. There are certain values that I found attractive and I think I need to find someone who share those values. Maybe having abundance plays a role in bringing this side of me.

That and also I am my worst enemy. In all honestly none of my shit is sorted out for long term vibes. I want to build a stable relationship and I am far from being my ideal self to do that.

A buddy of mine shared a quote that really resonated with me “Girls look for the ideal guy. Guys look for the ideal time”. You can meet the perfect girl today or tomorrow. But if your not ready for it, then your gonna skip until you feel ready. Because you know that there will always be another.

richion07 · 2024-06-30T02:15:56+00:00

I myself have crippling approach anxiety and always expect the worst when it comes to approaching a girl whether it’s in person or on social media. It transcends beyond girls of whom are strangers towards girls of whom I have good relations with that I’ve known for years and went to high school with. For some reason I struggle so much to put myself out there cause I’ve been shamed in the past for trying and being awkward. Hence there’s this strong inner critic that’s an inhibiting force.

Plebe-Uchiha · 2024-06-30T02:41:39+00:00

Money and most importantly, time.

I’ll actually find someone who doesn’t care about my current financial situation, and stick around until they see that I also don’t have time for them. [+]

JeffeDude · 2024-06-30T07:05:33+00:00

Every girl just flakes on me.

They seem excited (eye contact, smile, etc) to see me in real life. Some will give me their number or add me on social media. I thought these were signs of interest? They will be very responsive online, that is until I express interest and ask them out.

They flat out stop responding or come up with whatever excuse. I guess they just want attention?🤷‍♂️

Prestigious_Heat4613 · 2024-06-30T03:01:00+00:00

Being ugly

Nerd726 · 2024-06-30T03:54:51+00:00

A few different reasons. I don't get out much and I'm religious. I try to balance being religious and doing what I want but it's hard. I do want meet girls and fuck. I live with my folks though. It's hard going out to bars and expensive. I have little money to spend on myself. At work there's a lot of girls but it feels hard to approach at work. I work as a maintenance man in a warehouse. A lot of cute package handlers. I've talked to a few and gotten some numbers. But it never went far. I actually hit up two single moms and got their numbers. The first one she stopped working my shift and we talked about getting into a relationship. But she struggles with two jobs and three kids plus right before we stopped talking she lost a family member and basically said she didnt have time for a relationship and I respect it. We went on one date and I made out with her at the end of it. The second one I still talk to and we're friends but it's weird. I kissed her a lot on the first date and she was into it. And I mean a lot. But soon she said let's be friends and I still flirt with her and she's into it. But anytime I try to get physical she playfully says no. I try to be persistent but not too much but she doesn't budge. I have legit slept next to her in bed in the early morning twice. I tried joining her in the shower and she playfully said no and wouldn't budge. Work is really the only place to meet girls. That's where I met both chicks. But it just feels awkward trying to approach girls especially now since it's super hot and everyone is working really hard. It feels hard to find an opener. I plan on going back to the gym but flirting at the gym just feels wrong

Mysterious_Tour_8106 · 2024-06-30T04:47:38+00:00

Women usually ghost me even though I feel like I’ve done nothing wrong especially those pretty young seemingly stuck up women. Alot of them ask for money as well which I don’t get because I see alot of guys get women but I seemingly can’t. I guess I need a wingman to see what is wrong

dontleakmybootypics · 2024-06-30T07:19:59+00:00

Honestly for me it’s just my inability to find a good partner. I’ve been on a bunch of dates this year but hardly any have resulted in second dates. And that’s either because I’m not interested in them, or they’re not interested in me. And that’s okay. People just don’t click sometimes. I’m just not in a rush to get into a bad situation. I’m waiting for someone that will positively add to my life. Not to be someone’s whole world, or for somebody to become mine

Adventurous-Soup-646 · 2024-06-30T03:32:44+00:00

Low self-esteem, low quality women, some play mind games etc....

Krxvx-v-3070 · 2024-06-30T03:38:05+00:00

No clue where to find people.

CeeMX · 2024-06-30T08:26:46+00:00

I don’t get to meet many women in person and if I do I wait to long to approach. I’m not as shy anymore as I once was, but also still not the total extrovert.

Dating apps make one even more desperate as there are no matches, a lot of ghosting and unmatching and rejections

HarpertFredje · 2024-06-30T07:22:15+00:00

Not doing approaches or going to events to meet women.

JP32793 · 2024-06-30T02:19:32+00:00

Social anxiety

BuffaloPhill_ · 2024-06-30T05:15:09+00:00

Girls ghosting me, also blocking me when I'm being completely honest that I feel we'd be a great couple (guess she's not accepting of someone liking her), using me for a free meal and some touching. It's not me, I'm trying. I'm talking to one who has a daughter in the city I'm moving to (to be closer to work), however there's on that'll now be 2 hours away from me. So have no idea what I'm doing lol

Zorturan · 2024-06-30T10:28:24+00:00

1) Finding single women 2) Finding interested single women 3) Finding interested single women I like particularly

Only made it to step 1 so far

samk002001 · 2024-06-30T12:48:21+00:00

Divorced my wife back in 2020 after finding out her affairs! Took half of my assets and my son. Went into whore phase for about 3 years. Met and incredible woman that I thought I wanna do life together, but turned out she’s crazy, too! Now, I’m just prefer to be alone. Will be 40 by October this year. There’s not enough juice to squeeze in this new dating world. The dating market is in hyperinflation

jtrx8853x · 2024-07-01T19:23:56+00:00

Being autistic, missing the social cues, and not knowing the “hints”

wixenus · 2024-06-30T02:37:46+00:00

Probably just my morbid obesity, otherwise I think I'm all good. I got confidence, I got charisma, I improved my social skills a lot, the only thing that probably holds me back is that.

realchippy · 2024-06-30T03:58:44+00:00

Honestly me. I don’t really know how to approach a woman out in the blue. Like what do I talk about? I’m a software engineer that WFH. I go to the gym because I’m overweight and I can’t drink alcohol, also all my coworkers are remote in different states 😂 what do I do?

lameo312 · 2024-06-30T06:04:34+00:00

My introversion, social life, standards.

I could probably have a few gfs if I chose to lower my standards. And I could probably “get” what I (think that I ) deserve by being more outgoing and taking more chances.

But alas, that’s not who I am.

FormalDrinks · 2024-06-30T06:55:53+00:00

Sheer will to study for my career so I can move out rather than find anyone at a bar somewhere. when I’m at a comfortable place (moving out of current situation) I like to think I’d relax more and attempt to go out weekly and meet more people of interest.

tanmay_is_here · 2024-06-30T07:04:07+00:00

I'm lazy while texting and I'm just not willing to spend a butt load of money with no guarantee of scoring.

lolothe2nd · 2024-06-30T08:10:09+00:00

Im not social enough/good socially.. And my decent apparel attractiveness doesn't compensate for it...

J4ck1404 · 2024-06-30T08:30:21+00:00

Don’t meet people very often, the times I do and gather enough courage to ask them out I get rejected. I can’t even get a date on a dating app. The worst part is I’m a decent looking guy and have a lot of productive hobbies, so idk what to do to fix it

Henk29p · 2024-06-30T08:33:37+00:00

Having the repulsive likeness of a disfigured and deformed toad, possessing zero social skills, lacking anything remotely resembling a personality, and being completely useless in anything related to relationships and intimacy.

Niklaus9 · 2024-06-30T11:26:24+00:00

I'm broke AF

ImanShumpertplus · 2024-06-30T12:15:34+00:00

they’re all dull as hell

i can’t pretend to laugh at anymore tiktok’s or listen to the most basic music known to man

Jaysteezzyy · 2024-06-30T12:39:42+00:00

Been there done that. It's overrated. Now in 2024 it's all about situationships because I can invite them/kick them out whenever I want

DiamondEyes-976 · 2024-06-30T13:29:03+00:00

I don’t feel like I am mentally adequate enough to maintain a relationship.

Hot_Celery5657 · 2024-06-30T14:03:20+00:00

PTSD related fear of rejection.

theOGPhoenix777 · 2024-06-30T14:37:21+00:00

Not having my life together!!

TastyOpossum09 · 2024-06-30T17:24:34+00:00

My expectations are higher than what I have to offer in return. My only expectations are be kinda cute, don’t cheat on me and don’t get the ick when I get a little depressed around Christmas time. Apparently being loyal, loving, mildly attractive, employed with a nice car and own my house is not enough to justify my expectations.

Badboybuhari · 2024-06-30T19:54:55+00:00

I want to have sustainable income and my own place first

hefledthescene · 2024-06-30T20:46:28+00:00

I got really comfortable being alone.

A few years ago I got off social media, & not a fan of dating apps. I own a coffee shop & day trade for work. I do lots of concerts & camping trips, cook, box, so I have plenty of hobbies and friends to do them with.

There's a tolerance of bs that's really low at this point. Im not interested in dating anyone who I'm not comfortable raising kids with.

The long term thinking rules out so many people instantaneously. Chronically online, no hobbies, always sucking on a vape or weed/nic pen, politicizing everything- they're just character flaws that I don't want in a partner.

I'm sure there are some great women out there, I'm jusy not going out of my way to figure out where they are at this point.

tyYdraniu · 2024-06-30T23:44:22+00:00

socialphobia, and im not the rich, car and house having person, depression killed my pace in life, ill try to get it too late..

shinn497 · 2024-07-01T00:14:00+00:00

I actually self sabotage a lot. I just have it in me that I am unattractive so I ruin any chance I have and I certainly don't put in any effort. Reje tion is just something far too painful and I don't want to experience it ever again.

DapperNurd · 2024-07-01T00:41:40+00:00

Crippling anxiety

Psykisktrakassering1 · 2024-07-01T04:21:43+00:00

There's no pussy at my job.

There's little to no pussy at my apartment complex. And if there is, they dont step out of their apartment much except to go to work or run errands.

Only-Cryptographer54 · 2024-06-30T02:10:02+00:00

Not very social, childhood trauma, average looking, and I'm too poor and still in school.

david-lee-roth- · 2024-06-30T03:52:14+00:00

I’m great at the first impression but either I or they often lose interest after 2/3 dates. I can fake it if I just wanna get laid but that gets old. I seem to attract clingy types.

j4r8h · 2024-06-30T05:41:50+00:00

I don't even want one. I just wanna fuck lol.

Dynamix86 · 2024-06-30T10:52:36+00:00

The quality of women is abysmally low

NPC1990 · 2024-06-30T03:55:35+00:00

Honestly besides sex they bring nothing to the table. Most are entertaining multiple guys even when they get into a relationship they keep the back ups around. Already looked stupid once not doing it again. Recreational use only now

krishna977 · 2024-06-30T05:00:06+00:00

It's your mindset and blockages of approaching girls. I personally feels that whenever I see a girl I think what if she slaps me ? What is everyone watches me ? What if she yell and scream at me ? What if ?

Approach it your mind that gives you hesitation.

Cloviefield · 2024-06-30T03:16:13+00:00

Shy with social anxiety and confidence issues, people are overly religious where I’m from, and almost every person I meet seems to have an entitlement problem.

Badam7276 · 2024-06-30T03:22:12+00:00

Not having money

Mixedmarilyn · 2024-06-30T03:36:03+00:00

I want a gf but I live in Utah.

MrMonkeySwag96 · 2024-06-30T03:48:23+00:00

Me being a short Asian dude

one-last-hero · 2024-06-30T04:21:00+00:00

I don’t want one…

Vergerd · 2024-06-30T09:10:59+00:00

Depression and being unattractive

givemespaceplease · 2024-06-30T09:52:51+00:00

Don’t want that shit lmao. Am I the only one? I’m only 23 and people before me proved they shouldn’t commit to each other before they can even commit to themselves lmao

apefist · 2024-06-30T11:11:42+00:00

I don’t meet very many new people anymore so there are no real possibilities.

nippslippz · 2024-06-30T11:26:36+00:00

I am skinny-fat and not in shape. I am also on Lexapro so losing any of the weight feels impossible. I hold myself to extremely high standards I can’t meet and don’t think I am a worthwhile option.

domdomdom333 · 2024-06-30T11:52:29+00:00

I'm just not enough, there's always someone better at something than I am so why choose me?

Also I'm not very charming. Despite my best effort I've never apart from one time got a 2nd date.

For there to be winners there have to be losers, I guess I know my place.

xlieliex · 2024-06-30T12:09:54+00:00

Insecurities. Recently I fell and chipped my two front teeth it's so terrible. I'm kinda afraid of the dentist so it's making it hard for me to go get the treatment I need done. Some days I'm ready to go and others I'm feeled with anxiety I know I need to face my fears and go see a dentist asap cause this is holding me back from alot . I stopped going out I feel insecure and it's constantly on my mind. I know once I accomplish making it to the dentist and start getting my dental care I need I'll feel 1.000 times better physically and mentally. Than I will be ready to date with confidence.

shabriko · 2024-06-30T12:34:37+00:00

For me it's because I'm broke

rays112 · 2024-06-30T12:36:27+00:00

Having my heart broken and not being able to move on. ❤️‍🩹

KGRIZ16 · 2024-06-30T12:40:31+00:00

I’m not prepared to settle down. I date someone and convince myself I can do better so do not commit

krunchy_BallZ · 2024-06-30T12:52:31+00:00

A source of income

WookieeCakes · 2024-06-30T13:03:47+00:00

So, so many things. I am working on myself so I can be the best version of myself for someone who will appreciate it.

Clean_Awareness_4233 · 2024-06-30T13:08:47+00:00

I'm scared to talk to girls I get nervous. I know everyone one does. But I'm willing to work through that. It's just hard with such little time. And feeling ugly. I'm overweight and feel like if I lose atleast 30 pounds( I need to actually lose 60 to get to a reasonable weight) I would feel more confident. Or if I had a friend there with me to help out. Idc about look maxing or anything I believe the right words mixed with confidence, will get me to where I want to go. It will always be about numbers and if some people have advantages over me thsts fine, its not like I haven't been at the bottom before eventually i have yo get to the top

MouseAware809 · 2024-06-30T13:29:46+00:00

Self image (currently reading psycho-cybernetics)

miroldinho · 2024-06-30T13:33:37+00:00

No social skills, specially when it comes to girls.

madmaxfromshottas · 2024-06-30T13:40:29+00:00

self improvement first , i have to be my best self first in order to get the best version of her.

peelinchilis · 2024-06-30T14:04:57+00:00

I have this issue where I'm really good at socializing with random strangers at work. I just wish I could translate that to my personal life. I'd be the fucking man if I could do that.

VillianOfGotham · 2024-06-30T14:04:58+00:00

My stupid face.

toiletpaperaddict · 2024-06-30T14:13:36+00:00

I really value my free time and independece and haven't found a girl yet that was worth it in my eyes to give a large chunk of that up.

SneakAtchoo · 2024-06-30T14:24:04+00:00

I haven't found the right woman yet.

TuneSoft7119 · 2024-06-30T14:31:43+00:00

single girls dont exist

joel1112 · 2024-06-30T14:42:43+00:00

I am scared to approach

stefanvape · 2024-06-30T15:01:55+00:00

Marijuana and video games

_kingslatt_ · 2024-06-30T15:11:26+00:00

broke

MentalCelOmega · 2024-06-30T15:14:34+00:00

I am autistic as shit. I do not know how to socialize.
I have a terrible stutter.
I have multiple medical conditions.
There are no opportunities to date in my area.
Dating apps ruined dating.
The government, corporations, and how they ruined the economy also ruined dating.
I am also at the point in life where if you have experience it is considered a red flag and females will not want to date you.

No_Bug_8910 · 2024-06-30T15:47:26+00:00

Getting played and cheated on

77jon · 2024-06-30T15:48:15+00:00

I don't know how to socialize, and to make it a combo I moved to Sweden.

driller20 · 2024-06-30T16:03:53+00:00

money

gcarter42 · 2024-06-30T16:04:05+00:00

Living in a rural area, everyone is either already taken or too old.

Booster93 · 2024-06-30T16:10:24+00:00

30 , bartending for a living , out of shape.

Flairtor · 2024-06-30T16:28:13+00:00

Honestly, just meeting people. You're not going to meet anyone if you don't leave the house and when you leave the house, the number of activities where you can meet your particular type are likely limited.

michaeloftroy · 2024-06-30T16:38:32+00:00

Modern women

LaughableEgo740 · 2024-06-30T16:41:56+00:00

No sex drive and picky

aidsjohnson · 2024-06-30T16:42:23+00:00

It's a variety of things: I doubt anyone wants a short guy like myself, I don't have much to offer a woman at the moment (no money to waste), I haven't met anyone worth sacrificing my long term peace and happiness for, I'm not really putting myself in situations that would involve me meeting new people regularly because I'm usually too busy taking care of other important things. My lifestyle is basically just a perfect recipe to not have a girlfriend overall lol.

MysticSpaceCroissant · 2024-06-30T16:47:53+00:00

Mental health. I don’t want to make anyone else deal with my shit

crazycoconut247 · 2024-06-30T16:48:34+00:00

Me, myself, and I. I'm focused on myself and professional advancement right now - Master's Degree, certs, etc. I had absolutely no luck on dating apps, and I don't approach women. The main place I meet new women is at the gym. Besides that I'm at work or at home. Frankly, I'm at peace after getting out of an 8 year relationship with someone with BPD 7 months ago now. I don't feel like inviting chaos into my life, I don't want to get hurt again, and I'm presently content. I've tried dating apps in the past with no success like most men. I use that time and energy for more fruitful efforts. I'm pretty damn successful and continuing to achieve my goals. I don't feel I have to prove myself to anyone nor grovel. So, multiple reasons.

RevolutionaryStar824 · 2024-06-30T16:52:42+00:00

Money

Alternative-Pay-6589 · 2024-06-30T17:10:47+00:00

I need to completely get over my ex first before I can think about dating again

ProdiLemaj · 2024-06-30T17:32:38+00:00

My extremely low level of self-esteem, confidence, and charisma.

aweirdpotatoh · 2024-06-30T17:33:23+00:00

I don't even know. It just never happened.

AimlesslWander · 2024-06-30T17:49:31+00:00

I go to work, I come back from work and see dog ahit and piss everywhere.

Brother is too lazy to clean up or do dishes or pick up cigarettes he litters outaide.

I have two baby siblings heavily dependent on me.

A womanchild mother and a stepdad that walked out after mom cheated and goes out to party every night leaving us alone.

Stepdad takes kids when he can, and they love him for it but I am left to clean the shit and to take care of the house or baby sit because my brother(25) yells st the kids constantly

Avrage_Human · 2024-06-30T17:59:29+00:00

Small town and small social circle

nightimelurker · 2024-06-30T18:02:30+00:00

I'm a cigarette smoker and enjoy getting drunk all the time. So I don't even bother. Also. Too many other problems to worry about outside of that

slicedude2004 · 2024-06-30T18:43:13+00:00

Shyness and pickiness

V-Future · 2024-06-30T19:03:06+00:00

I don't wanna waste money on a brat that will give me nothing on exchange of my time and energy.

JB_NSA · 2024-06-30T19:11:12+00:00

Trust after being abused and discarded by a narcissist

artownz · 2024-06-30T19:59:38+00:00

Their common sense 🙁

Lion_100 · 2024-06-30T20:08:28+00:00

Emotional intimacy

T1kiTiki · 2024-06-30T20:30:27+00:00

I don’t know how to flirt / be playful. I’m too platonic and too friendly

ghandisflippityflop · 2024-06-30T21:24:12+00:00

I can’t drive. It’s typically a turn off

444lived · 2024-06-30T22:28:19+00:00

finances… that is all

redditman7777 · 2024-06-30T22:41:23+00:00

My face

xkingmgx · 2024-06-30T23:11:55+00:00

I don't want one. I want to give a better quality of life to the person im seeing and I dont believe I can do that right now because I have other priorities and limited energy.

GEEZUS_956 · 2024-06-30T23:14:20+00:00

Not a single clue on how to begin. Covered in vitiligo (my resting bitch face certainly doesn’t help) so I’m used to people too scared to look at me. Even then, still no idea how to start. Can’t pop up a random question (I think) and it feels strange to suddenly greet someone. Even if the greeting is a normal thing that I’m just too afraid to do, don’t know how to continue.

whateverbro3425 · 2024-07-01T00:20:10+00:00

Don't know where to meet people.

GoldMcduck · 2024-07-01T00:21:43+00:00

Only child pretty much a lone wolf 🐺 every social connection is broken at this point since I’m past college have little too no family and work like crazy. I also have no interest in bars or clubs never did and church feels like being out of place. Most women I would be interested in are taken or have children at this point idc it reaffirms my selfish tendencies.

gigi2020201 · 2024-07-01T00:36:12+00:00

Money

psy_cho_path · 2024-07-01T00:38:15+00:00

Lack of time and interest

skm_45 · 2024-07-01T01:08:39+00:00

You know, the usual traumatic demons from my upbringing, poor social skills, baggage from my previous relationship, me being more reserved than vocal.

solosscents · 2024-07-01T01:09:36+00:00

I don’t know honestly. Maybe I rush things and aren’t as direct when I need to be. I have my standards also so girls that aren’t at my level are not who I go with.

Haunting-Power8239 · 2024-07-01T01:27:03+00:00

I don't go out to bars as I don't drink often and I work too much because I have to.

jjboy91 · 2024-07-01T01:45:40+00:00

I don't meet people I'm attracted to and the people I met aren't attracted to me

MrOrbitalRadius · 2024-07-01T02:07:38+00:00

Shyness and not being 100% certain that I’m over my ex.

Eren_Yeager70 · 2024-07-01T03:00:45+00:00

I guess me being an Indian guy in US is holding me back! I guess i will get auto rejected for approaching girls

olliedathird · 2024-07-01T03:14:09+00:00

Rejection. Blanket comment, I know. But it's the only answer. I'm 0 for 8 (soon to be 11) this year so far. I managed to get a date with an old coworker of mine with the help of an acquaintance of mine, but she took it as a 'friends having an outing'.

Frustration and depression are an understatement when considered I'm handsome, have a good amount of money + savings (I live at home), dress nicely, workout a lot, smell good, and have a great personality. You know, all the qualities every YouTuber and Twitter comment tells you to have? All of which make older and married women attracted to me, and have gotten me countless compliments and long conversations when at bars. And yet, you couldn't pay another 20-something year old to look at me at those same bars. I may as well be talking to a rock. This also leaves everyone surprised when they learn I'm single and don't have a body count.

I've even tried changing my personality so I could start having ONS with women from my job (I work at an Amazon warehouse where almost all women are EXTREMELY loose), only to fall flat on my face because I either rush and say things that give them the creeps, or my real personality shows and I get rejected for being "too nice."

I'm thinking about quitting altogether tbh.

KumaFGC · 2024-07-01T06:40:17+00:00

Because I don’t know how to take care of them and how often to feed them

NZThisGuy · 2024-07-01T09:39:16+00:00

I want to lose some weight and get healthier, which is going to take a while because I drink too much, which I'm also working on. Outside of these things, I think I'm not a bad catch. Steady job, car, house, no debt (although not enough savings lol), sense of humor. I just got to do some self work to get my confidence up

Costafarian · 2024-07-01T11:39:50+00:00

It’s a complete fucking waste of time chasing skirt these days. I’d rather spend time doing things I actually enjoy than sucking up to the annoying fickle sex.

ncrawler2002 · 2024-07-01T13:49:25+00:00

Mommy issues. Plus I'm not interested in one at the moment.

CuriousBetsy69 · 2024-07-01T19:10:14+00:00

they aren’t attracted to my weirdness and i get way to invested

miyam0t0musashi · 2024-07-01T20:05:56+00:00

The fact that I don't have my finances in order or a stable career (I'm a freelance musician but I'm working on getting a full time job to set myself up better).

Alucard1331 · 2024-06-30T01:23:07+00:00

The fact that I live at home with my parents to save money while attending law school. Being 5’8” doesn’t help.

Jehshehabah · 2024-06-30T02:01:12+00:00

Black
Insane body but below avg face
Financially well off and educated (can’t advertise any of this shit)
I can make girls laugh and chat them up no problem, the pull / flirty part I am complete shit at.

Background-Pen2556 · 2024-06-30T10:44:01+00:00

It's a REAL weird and obvious-to-answer question, but I'll give you mine:

Not having the desired physics: I'm 5'7 and almost ALL girls get turned off when the first digit is not 6. I DO go to gym regularly and have a bit of muscle under the hood.
Not being the top 1% of all men financially :)) yeah funny but who's gonna date with a guy who isn't gonna take her to cozy restaurants and always grab a coffee to go? And subsequently:
Dressing normal (not top fashion), having hygiene, wearing not so luxury parfums.
Not owing a car or a house ( I do have a renting house in a shared flat)

So yeah. Whose gonna date this kinda guy?

Tasty-Window · 2024-06-30T02:50:16+00:00

My giant cock

lifelog_ · 2024-06-30T08:20:32+00:00

Post last relationship, I just wanna focus on work and getting shit done. Girls are a huge distraction rn. Never had a problem with pickup, or girls overall. But imagine if all you guys took all this energy and put it into making yourself wealthier, happier and healthier! Musk wouldn’t be the wealthiest person anymore 😂😅 But seriously.

Miserable_Mud_4354 · 2024-06-30T08:40:41+00:00

I’ve only been single 6 months in total since October of 2019. I’ve had multiple relationships, and after my last relationship ended 2 months ago, I realised I’m not ready for a relationship.

I kept getting into relationships because I thought I was a loser if I didn’t have one. I wanted intimacy and love, but I’ve realised that I need to learn to love myself before I can commit to someone.

I realised that I’m far too behind in life to have a proper relationship. It will take me 3 or 4 years to be where I want to be before I can seriously consider getting into a proper relationship. I just want a life partner, someone to cuddle every night and who I can shower with love.

I’m holding myself back, because I don’t want to be selfish or hold anyone else back.

papa-murphy · 2024-06-30T14:37:52+00:00

I become too attached and the illusion of the ‘cool guy’ they think I am is destroyed

Bandaka · 2024-06-30T02:13:55+00:00

At the moment, having a hard time finding a woman. I was dating a 10, then she dumped me and I am stuck wondering what to do.

Guys, never commit or settle when you get a girlfriend, try and keep looking for a backup.

IGetBoredSometimes23 · 2024-06-30T02:20:27+00:00

I have a wife, a girlfriend, and a fuck buddy.

I'd say I'm good on this, lol.

sammistyles412 · 2024-06-30T18:28:02+00:00

Well being gay is a big part of it that's holding me back . Once I learned how to get past that then I should be okay..

Feeling-Aspect916 · 2024-07-02T12:32:17+00:00

Women who are my type for a relationship never like me back

peteau89 · 2024-07-02T14:24:02+00:00

Severe depression and PTSD. Often feel like withdrawing from most people and society. Often go out into nature alone and feel more at peace there. Been doing this for a while now but only now is the 'loneliness' of it starting to effect me
Longterm unemployment mainly because of #1
Living at home due to lack of money. Hard to invite girls around. Rent in my city is 2k+ a month and 1k+ even with roommates
Average height and the insecurity that comes with it. Brown eyes also
Slightly less insecure about the asymmetrical gynecomastia, hair loss and double chin, especially because a lot of it is fixable but still an issue and costs thousands through surgeries. Used to be obese but no longer even overweight at all

Data_Max23 · 2024-07-02T14:52:01+00:00

I’m a machine learning graduate student. This holds me back.

Longjumping_File8566 · 2024-07-02T18:11:37+00:00

Myself honestly, women do seem to like me, the Starbucks barista this morning was openly being flirty with me, there’s gym girl who I’ve talked to a bit but never taken anything further, she seems to like me. Before anyone says anything I’m 5’9 and she’s like exactly 6ft, so idk we just workout at the same times from 5-7am and it’s just us in there. I just don’t feel like I can invest the time, between work and college to pursue a girlfriend.

TNB2842 · 2024-07-03T00:35:00+00:00

I attract Avoidants that find my bids for connection or accountability as controlling.

Large-East-8294 · 2024-07-03T21:11:53+00:00

In first place, i'm ugly and a bit fat. Also, I work alone from home so i don't get to known many people. And finally, I don't really known how to talk to a girl

Ronnyvar · 2024-06-30T02:36:49+00:00

Risk of them just saying grape if I don’t do an amazing job

Shoeboxscotty · 2024-06-30T02:50:46+00:00

The one girl I think would work for me literally makes like half a million and went to the most elite college in the country… in comparison I barely make 100k and went to public college

N0rthofnoth1ng · 2024-06-30T03:31:17+00:00

mental cognitive dissonance and ptsd

ayesee345 · 2024-06-30T04:50:35+00:00

Full time job and premature ejac

Kofuku- · 2024-06-30T04:56:48+00:00

I showed some of my texts with girls over dating apps. I was “critiqued” by a few female friends…. All telling me I need more confidence and swag. More teasing required.

I’m still trying to figure out how to do that. 🤷. What I took from the criticism is, I’m pretty boring of a guy. Or very platonic/reserved. My confidence needs to come out stronger in text/talk.

And THAT, along with not finding the ideal girl yet, is why I do not have a girlfriend.

FanAccomplished7407 · 2024-06-30T06:49:45+00:00

I can’t talk to girls that I really like or that I’m attracted to I get so fucking nervous

A5760P · 2024-06-30T07:11:43+00:00

Starting talking to this girl in a different city and I really want to but long distance is fucking stupid so idrk what to do

bonjarno65 · 2024-06-30T08:40:20+00:00

I have a wife

nighthunterrrr · 2024-06-30T09:44:19+00:00

my biggest "issue" is kino. Im just "afraid" to do this properly...

Available_Bass9725 · 2024-06-30T10:45:54+00:00

my looks (i have a lazy eye and big forehead) and my reputation (girls in my city think I am a coward due to gossip about the August 2021 incident). This is why dear men,

tenheo · 2024-06-30T10:53:37+00:00

I am struggling with approaching. I don't know how to escalate things.

CauseRelative1425 · 2024-07-01T01:26:38+00:00

Porn addiction

ProgramEyePuppers · 2024-07-01T03:46:52+00:00

guys being broke, fat, or ugly doesn’t make girls not want to date you, arguably there are plenty of girls that date guys that are broke fat and/or ugly.

my i met my gf when i was broke and over the years i’ve gain afew pounds. lowkey i think i’ve gotten alittle ugly but i think she still loves me for who i am.

Gunnilingus · 2024-06-30T16:50:15+00:00

My wife

killallindians368 · 2024-06-30T19:42:18+00:00

Being 5’9” and indian and indian passing (used to get female attention beofre puberty made me indian)z

olliedathird · 2024-07-01T03:07:18+00:00

Rejection. Blanket comment, I know. But it's the only answer. I'm 0 for 8 this year so far. I managed to get a date with an old coworker of mine with the help of an acquaintance (arms-length friend) of mine, but she took it as a 'friends having an outing'.

I'm thinking about quitting altogether

peteau89 · 2024-07-02T14:18:27+00:00

Severe depression and PTSD. Often feel like withdrawing from most people and society. Often go out into nature alone and feel more at peace there. Been doing this for a while now but only now is the 'loneliness' of it starting to effect me
Longterm unemployment mainly because of #1
Living at home due to lack of money. Hard to invite girls around. Rent in my city is 2k+ a month and 1k+ even with roommates
Average height and the insecurity that comes with it. Brown eyes also
Slightly less insecure about the asymmetrical gynecomastia hair loss and double chin, especially because a lot of it is fixable but still an issue and costs thousands through surgeries. Used to be obese but no longer even overweight at all

red_face01 · 2024-07-04T16:30:53+00:00

I guess I've been too tired from even trying to get one so hard and the drama from it in the past. Now I'm in my early 20s building a life somewhere between wanting someone, not wanting anyone at all at this point because I wanna be focused on myself as well. For that I feel like women can and will trick and betray me anytime but money won't. I guess it's also kind of I don't want it enough at the moment.

zirticario · 2024-07-21T04:40:12+00:00

Initially, approach anxiety. I would be weirded out if I were approached, so I assume vice versa is true too though I know it isn’t. Got out of a long relationship which ripped my heart out. Oneitis maybe, but there was a lot that was great about it, even though it wasn’t perfect. Scarcity mindset too. It’s late for me but I still want to get to a place of abundance and choice rather than accepting what comes my way and settling for something I don’t want.

HyperByte1990 · 2024-06-30T01:59:29+00:00

Now that I got my shit together and "looksmaxxed" and got social again... I have too many options. I don't want a girlfriend. I just started seeing a girl recently who's gorgeous and a decade younger than me who would be my gf in a second if I asked her to be... but I don't want that. It wouldn't be fair to the other 2 million women in my city

100oclockDrunk · 2024-06-30T02:00:26+00:00

I'm a pegan, where i live is mostly dominated by Christans

mabden · 2024-06-30T02:02:41+00:00

Check out Bill Maher's 'New Rules' from 6/28 on G.A.M.E.

GantMan · 2024-06-30T03:54:27+00:00

My wife

IntelligentOutcome83 · 2024-06-30T10:03:15+00:00

My Wife, she no share. I treat her as the woman that I fell in love with. I'm a 50 yo highschool kids around her.

DemondWolf · 2024-06-30T14:04:18+00:00

Myself

leo_here86 · 2024-06-30T14:10:44+00:00

I am able to speak to women, hell one woman just added me to Snapchat this morning but unfortunately I am not interested in them. I am from India, so unless I have some basic relationship like a classmate or a colleague, women avoid talking to me(I am not handsome too, man boobs are a disadvantage). So I am trying to connect with some of the women in my class but the one I like is absent and I have no interest in others, dating apps are a scam cause I have not received one match even after paying for hinge x.

I am also at fault as I am not fit and I don't go out. I am hoping to change it by the time I leave for my MBA, hopefully I get to lose my virginity there.

FreeTheMarket · 2024-06-30T14:25:49+00:00

Because I dont want one. Having a GF changes you life in many ways. As a man, having a good friend group and casually dating / hooking up with women is the way to go.

Jah_Boii · 2024-06-30T15:24:11+00:00

Commitement

TheNakedOracle · 2024-06-30T15:51:49+00:00

I’m disabled and have to live with my parents because of it.

driucorado · 2024-06-30T15:53:06+00:00

I guess I don’t know anymore we’re to begin what girl do I want but more important i don’t see my own value I ma thinking I am good looking but at the moment of speaking or writing I don’t have any clue and actually I would like more a permanent relationship but is hard for me to open myself really hard. Also I discovered I have a disease that could stop me to do what I love that is dancing so it feels … yeah anyway working on it not quitting

MediumAffectionate93 · 2024-06-30T18:14:36+00:00

Read later when have more time

Bulky-Ant-4954 · 2024-06-30T18:32:45+00:00

I don’t know how to talk to women I’m interested in. I assume most of them are taken so I don’t bother. I’m also overweight and an unattractive brown guy. So many other issues.

crondawg101 · 2024-06-30T18:35:25+00:00

My wife

ComedianSquare2839 · 2024-06-30T19:19:35+00:00

My wife 🤐

TheSkyLax · 2024-06-30T19:21:41+00:00

I honestly don't know. I look decent enough, I'm not insecure, I've got at least somewhat interesting interests, and I do speak to women regularly. Just never seem to be interested in me.

AstronautOver3697 · 2024-06-30T19:59:31+00:00

Laziness. I realized I'm actually ok looking but don't like putting in effort to hang out. Possibly an adhd thing. I was briefly with a girl I matched with on bumble and we dated slept together etc for a couple months. The only thing I did differently was I asked her out and we went out the same day we matched. Also followed up and had a gym date as a 2nd date.

mjornir · 2024-06-30T20:18:44+00:00

I don’t even know anymore. I meet people fine and can have a healthy dating life when I apply myself, but some kind of obstacle always comes up on their end, always. I’m taking a long break

PacBoiLar · 2024-06-30T20:57:13+00:00

I feel like my current girlfriend wouldn't be thrilled about it

scarcestraw1598 · 2024-06-30T21:03:14+00:00

Honestly? I get bored or feel like I can find someone better every time. Or I’m just horny idk

Funk_Apus · 2024-06-30T21:29:10+00:00

Chicks on Bumble have a list of requirements a mile long, and they usually aren’t even as good as the girls I meet IRL. It’s so ridiculous.

Going to stick with IRL connections. When I think of the four bumble face plants in a row. I just laugh. Especially the first one, don’t know a nice way to say this but it would definitely not have been something I would consider long term.

Upside is, I think my text game is improving. Hence the dates.

Longjumping_Act9758 · 2024-06-30T22:16:13+00:00

Nothing

H8beingmale · 2024-06-30T22:54:03+00:00

in my case, normal true girlfriend, the only woman i feel that was a true girlfriend for me, a situationship from 2017, even though we were not exclusive, she was the closest thing to a girlfriend i ever had, the previous one, however, i kinda refuse to call her that since it was a mostly sexless relationship.

As for what i feel will prevent me, is autism.

Dismal-Revolution941 · 2024-06-30T23:08:26+00:00

That I just got out of a relationship so I'm not looking for anything right now, you have to process a relationship ending before starting a new one

Shelflinz · 2024-06-30T23:10:04+00:00

bro def goto the club and bars any place with a good night life and scoring is easy asf

MOordty · 2024-06-30T23:56:40+00:00

Her boyfriend.

Swamp_Fox_III · 2024-07-01T00:48:01+00:00

My wife.

UnidentifiedTomato · 2024-07-01T00:52:03+00:00

My wife

Majestic_Bet6187 · 2024-07-01T02:24:16+00:00

I already have one. Lmaoooooooooo

SURVIVORofGYNOCRACY · 2024-07-01T02:44:14+00:00

Just myself, I need to prioritize getting a job, car, better physique, and move out my parents house at 24…. I live in Miami too but I don’t like the hookup culture, and since I lack money and a car I barely ever go out. So I can’t even pursue women at the moment. Just gonna focus on me until I make it this year things will change because I’m making an effort to change now.

GawdIsAbullet · 2024-07-01T05:23:17+00:00

My girlfriend

throwawayLIguy · 2024-07-01T06:12:23+00:00

My wife 🥁😉

throwawayLIguy · 2024-07-01T06:12:34+00:00

My wife 🥁

HowToStud · 2024-07-02T01:10:43+00:00

Other girls

femoidhater683 · 2024-06-30T01:01:11+00:00

The fact that i’m 5’9” and indian with straight hair black eyes and a deviated septum.

roakmamba · 2024-06-30T04:11:10+00:00

Me, I got a girl Im dating she wants to be serious since the first month and I kinda don't want to.

Title	Whats holding you back from getting a Girlfriend?
Author	_notaxation
Upvotes	194
Comments	383
Date	June 30, 2024 12:53 AM UTC (2 years ago)
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